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happykidArotiba:
I think I agree wf u!!

Thank you.

sosiqdude:
You wey dey talk...if dey bring beyonce or rihanna with nicki minaj come keep dem for ur room with there naked bodies... If dey seduce u, u no go ffuck.?

Temptations are better avoided.

Olayinka8793:
Thanks so much bro,I am a strong headed person and could be stubborn but I know a good advice when i see one.I appreciate,thanks and God bless.

You are welcome.

xpac01:
Thumbs up bro.

Thank you.

Cotton:
Yes, both state legislature and judiciary will receive their funding directly from the federation account. It weakens the powers of the governor to an extent.

It is a good thing. What is the worse that could happen after implementation? Even if current legislators may show indifference or feigned loyalty, going forward legislators can be more effective in passing laws that would benefit their constituencies rather than those that benefit the governor.

Thanks a lot.

Congratulations. Thanks for not giving up.

Never give out your banking details on the phone to anyone you don't know or trust.

X0012:
Blame it on fakes apps and loan apps who fail to protect their user's information.

Thumbs up for this answer.

Do you believe in God? If no, I would want invite you to have a personal relationship with God by asking you to give your life to Christ.

Once you believe in Jesus, you can use His name to rebuke every appearance of ghost in your house.

I'm just wondering how this financial autonomy will play out. Any ideas?

Please don't do it. It is infidelity on your part as you rightly pointed out. Or do you want to destroy your own marriage?

The answer is that our sense of morality has been decaying over the years. But anyone who is born again knows that premarital sex is not normal; it is a sin against God.

For those who say that premarital sex is okay because of civilization, my answer to them is that civilization is not the same thing as promiscuity.

You sounded like a nice guy and I hope you are. I wanted to offer some pieces of advice. But once I read your update stating that you have filed for divorce already, I decided to reserve my comments. I wish you all the best.

Anyone that says Abacha never stole from Nigeria is either a liar, an ignoramus or a direct/indirect beneficiary of the looting that took place at the time.

Essenza01:
Jobless husband diaries!!

Here are some guidelines for unemployed husbands with working wives., when you read through with an open mind, you would see it's not she looking down on you, it's just you being smart to be able to have your sanity and getting some advantages while praying for a change.. Hang in there guys, you are not alone, tables turn... you would be fine.

1 - Never discuss your predicament beyond the normal and never show weakness in front of your wife.. "she dont want to see hopelessness"..

2 - buy a lot of noodles, you would be needing it a lot, especially during your strong head periods, you dont win most fights, most fights end with "Oya buy it naa" that's usually when you add the convo to your lost battles ..

3 - your meals majorly come in two options if any
Rice or noodles?
Beans or noodles?
Eba or noodles?

Semo or pounds is too stressful, dont opt to make ... stress was only the surface reason given to you..

4 - sex is usually delayed, when ever you see one just accept and be ready for maybe max two position change, some styles may be banned..

5 - dont come home drunk, I repeat.. dont come home drunk..you remember the pictures of samloco playing "jobless old drunk" in movie scenes... you look exactly like them to her..

6 - some eatable and chewy chewy groceries stops being in the fridge because you are home most-times and eats to chase boredom.. there is always a secret stash in her room for groundnuts, sharp biscuits, cashew nuts, sweets, etc.. she knows you know, take reasonably

7 - you are at your lowest, dont bring friends doing well too close home, otherwise you might get depressed from comparison

8 - in your many many ideas, you know broke guys reason business ideas like Warren buffet , always sieve out the good ones, because telling her some kind stupid stupid ideas would make you look jobless and stupid also.

9 - the best way to dodge Bill's is to watch your words, avoid some topics, you need to be one step or two ahead everytime.. e.g TV shows, movies, food, clubs etc...
- TV shows - dstv bill comes up
- Movies - cinema bill comes up
- Food - restaurant and taking out comes up..

10 - Do house chores, pick mopping... it's easier, you only start when she is done sweeping and dusting, she goes to bath, you zig-zag and get back to watching (how do they do it) ... use water, avoid bubbles on tiles.. you would redo that work even if its next week..

11 - dont leave the sink messy, especially on work days when you are home job hunting and she is out hustling, bro it's an important rule from a man to a man..

12 - with your many insecurities and the devil trying to use you to bring out your alpha Male, pick your fights... yes they would come, but there is an extent to which a broke man fights and argues..

13 - you would owe her cash a lot, she knows deep down that money is not coming back, but be ready to be dragged about it to pay for essentials you cant do without.. she would pay eventually when you have curled away asking God why.. allow her have it, it's one of her high moments.

14 - in your midnight cries, yes "midnight cries" is most times once a week or twice sha, depending on the days activities... dont disturb her sleep...

15 - be transparent, remove password from your phone, laptops etc... if she is being faithful, infidelity is not something you want attached to "cheating jobless old man"... you cant be broke and cheating, they dont work together..

16 - read, read, read... you have to pass her in something, current affairs, global happenings, worlds economy etc... it is an edge when you throw small small insults inside conversations "so you dont know kyari is dead" those are one of your few high moments..

17 - early morning gisting with her while she baths and makes up, makes her happy.. you can lend some money during those hours.. those are your bankable hours, if you want some extra cash, offer to drop her at work, that's if it's not your duty already oo..

18 - at all, at all, try to provide for fuel for generator, darkness and a man being in the house dont usually go together.. you might start having complex..

19 - always use your car weekends, thats if you have not sold hers and she is using yours. When you use your car weekends for functions not personal waka, she chips or outrightly buys fuel that you can manage during the week for your job hunting activities..

20 - look good, work out and have your CV handy. you need to look the role she currently tells people you are doing.." Frank is okay, he is inbetween jobs, but trying out some ideas with friends".. if the friends ask for your CV, always have it handy, delay is dangerous...

21 - dont be gluttonous, eat moderately like a normal human being, if you finish your meals for the week by wednesday, be ready to fall back to your noodles (refer to rule 2) and yes you would come up with different flavours of home made seasonings only you can eat..

22 - try to curtail your mood swings, she is the only one entitled to it, you need to be happy with smiles when she is making conversations..

23 - make business calls or pretend to make business call.. it's important, it gives her hope you are connecting.. "my brother me and you know say na 10k you dey shout like that for"

24 - go grocery shopping with her, you get to use the opportunity to throw drinks into the cart and remove face immediately, if your eyes jam.. you would return that drink ooo..

25 - if she sends you a link from work, read, watch or chat her to discuss with her, otherwise "what are you doing, that you didn't reply my message follows" , what you were doing must have financial gains ooo never use "I was sleeping" as excuse... dont even try it..

26 - dont call her family, send text message if you can.. dont let them remember you ooo..

27 - during your few chances of sex, dont shoot in, "I repeat", dont shoot in... you may find yourself outside by 1am looking for postinol 2
. the stress in looking for the drug would surpass whatever you managed to enjoy.

28 - be ready for "mistakes" of giving you cash in front of people , it's not everytime she remembers to call you to the corner or give you her card.. it's one of those moments you want the ground to swallow you up.. but my brother "dem no dey use shame swallow spit".. it wont last forever.

Let's me rest here first and continue later... but in all, I love my wife... she is that woman that has your back 100%..

The table has turned for me and am back to my responsibilities, it was a tough period, I learnt a lot, from Anger management to laws of power, it's not a fun place to reside in for a long time....

Most especially:
Marry your friend,
marry your partner in crime,
Marry your day1 niga,
your Gee... when you do, no matter the circumstance, you have some level of peace, some room to pickup and some encouragement to guide you through.

Serious advice laced with humour.thanks for the awesome tips. But sincerely, I don't wish to be in such position.

Have you tried reporting him to his parents? Try that first, they may be able to call him to order.

Obierika:
As a single guy in Nigeria who is about to select a wife the biggest mistake you could possibly make right now is to marry a lady who is either not working or is not earning any sort of income.

Do not ignore this warning if you plan to get married soon!

Somebody who is not working now can get a good paying job later. And some body who is not earning any income now can begin to earn a sizeable income tomorrow.

Personally, without undermining the spirit of your post, I think the greatest mistake a guy (or a lady) can make in marriage is to marry the wrong person.

My idea of marrying the wrong person is to marry someone who you know is not the will of God for you.

This morning I stumbled on my matriculation picture that was taken when I was 20 years old. I wasn't so sure what my height measurement was then. But looking at my height presently, I definitely appear taller than I was back then.

So to answer your question directly, it's possible to still grow after 20, but only a few inches might be added. You may want to take a look at your parents to have an idea about how tall you might expect to be.

In any case, whether tall or short, you are uniquely made by God for a purpose. Let not your height be a source of sorrow for you.

Sounds like a good arrangement, but how trustworthy is middletrust itself?

maajimk:
Good day sir, please like easybuy that deduct their money automatically from my account using just my bvn and account number; how do they do it and is it exclusively safe? I have just been having awkward thoughts lately. Thank you!

I'm not very familiar with the platform you mentioned. But if all it requires for your account to be debited is your account number and your BVN, it means it's possible for unauthorised persons to carry out transactions on your account. And that does not seem very safe.

I will recommend that you upgrade the security settings on your account such that any online debits would require your authorization via password, PIN, or tokens or other forms of authentication.

TheGoodJoe:
You do not get it. These guys have the details. Your name, account number, BVN number, email address.

When I got a similar call from a so called access bank staff, I knew it was a scam and played along. Men, this guy was just dropping my details like he was my account manager.

I played along until someone at the background said cut call, that guy is playing with you.

Good to know you didn't fall a victim of the scam call. Those information you mentioned that the guy have are not so sensitive.

Your name, account number, BVN number, email address. These are information you might have shared with someone, one way or another.

Real sensitive infos are your PIN, ATM debit PAN (especially the 6 middle numbers), Security no, internet banking token (from hardware or software). Those are really the sensitive details, never share them with anyone you don't trust

I'm not a teacher but I know a small size private school that paid full salary till April.

This is good news for my country. I hope it reaches the $50 mark soonest.

Thumbs up to the governor and the people of Akwa Ibom.

This is good development. There must be a away to ease the burden of rice eaters in Lagos.

This is Nigeria; anything can go. Sad.

If only girls will close their legs, some guys will have more sense.

Righteousness89:
I Just Love and Admire the Guts of President Donald Trump!

Despite the Whole Media Hoax and Hatred, this Man stands Strong..

A whole lot of Crazy things would have happened if Someone like Trump was not president!

GOD ALMIGHTY Specifically fixed him there for Times as these..

I agree with you on this.

Never release your sensitive banking details over the phone or email. Banks don't ask for such. So if you ever get the request to so do, know that you are dealing with a fraudster. So be guided.

Vyolet:
Those six Police men would swear for this IG, I mean, how does he expect them to get extra tips?

Your post makes alot of sense. Beautiful contribution.

Interesting.

I felt like posting my own before and after pictures too.

That's great. Refinery is a good project in the east.