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McDonaldfished:
➜So… Everybody hate me at work…They say I have bad character

. Self-assessment and self-reflection. Locate the supposed bad character they claim is in you and consider seriously whether they are right or wrong in their assessment.

Some of the best soft skills you can develop to help you develop self-love are emotional and social intelligence. When you have these, you cease to seek external validation from others.

Ibtxxo:
➜Wetin I no go see for igbo land. My girl mum , him husband no pay her pride price and now the ndi inchie told me I must pay her mum own before I pay my girl. Who does that?

You see scam, you no run?

SpreshMan:
➜I didn’t stop, reading stories online, I saw there were people who lost their networth and somehow made it back… so I kept trying and trying and failing and failing. Guess what it’s the end of the year and I have found I couldn’t make it back… I couldn’t go past 30 million again. People yap about how a man can fall 7 times and rise back 7 times but in reality it’s very hard. In the last two months, I have been trying some physical hustles and I can tell you for free that’ it’s hard to come about and hold 10 million naira together.
➜I wasted the year 2025 and I am scared if God/universe is gonna give me another opportunity to come up again.

Every success is born of numerous failures. Try to learn from all of your failures continually....that is how you can eventually succeed, and do so well.

2. There are numerous opportunities out there for everyone, yet only a few people succeed at any of them. Why? Most people never take the time to learn from their many failures. Failure is part and parcel of life and living. In fact, it is through the many failures that you can guarantee your success. So, don't look down on failure in life. Consider seeing them as the opportunities you seek to rise one more level above towards success.

This is pure evil, yet in the 21st century, Nigeria, and much of Africa at that, has yet to get its legal system intact enough to ensure punishment for all cruelty of this nature. Why?

Sophier:
✓ I’m honestly considering calling everything off. I know it would disappoint a lot of people, but at this point, I don’t even seem to care. I’m worried about committing to something I may regret later.
I really need sincere, brotherly or fatherly advice right now. If I were your brother or your son, what would you advise me to do?
P.S. Please, if you don’t have anything meaningful to contribute and only intend to insult or mock, kindly don’t comment. That’s the last thing I need at this moment.

Go ahead and call it off since you are already considering doing it again. You already said you had to break up because of the issue and now you are considering doing it again meaning this issue is a real red flag for you. 🥱🥱

It doesn't mean the girl is a bad person but that you both are probably not good for each other at this point and that is OK.

Hypnotise:
No, the ones who helped you for traditional engagement ceremony, or in the village square.

Are you sure you are OK?🧐🥱

Hypnotise:
Go and say this before the elders and let’s see if you would last three market days.

You mean your ignorant elders who's combined wisdom is what you have today as Nigeria? 🥱🥱🥱

Wealthyonos:
The topic is misleading and does not go inline with the idea of the piece. Back to your write-up, a married man will have more sex than a single guy anytime any day except when there are marital issues. As for the pregnancy part, when you marry, you will understand that pregnant women need more sex than anything. She will have intercourse even till the ninth month. From how you explained everything, I knew right away that you're a single guy without experience in the game.

This isn't necessarily true as it depends on who one is married to and also the dynamics that exist in the marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

Also, their seems to be some evidence to support the idea that a women loose sexual interest in their husbands the more they have to engage in man-keeping him in the marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

Lizzyangel31:
✓ Based on the write up, she truly hugged the guest which is a turn off....the guy might be her crush or ex....she really bleeped up on her big day and went viral for the wrong thing.
✓ She should put herself in the groom's shoe, how would she have felt should the table turned? Will she just sit calmly?

There are those who see nothing of hugging others out there. I am the total opposite. But I respect those who greet others with a hug. It's not Bleep-up on their end.

Even if the guy was an ex, there is nothing wrong with greeting him with a hug.🥱🥱

2. Those are two incompatible people there.🥱🥱

lilsmart:
Wait to be spoon 🥄 feed.

You mean as opposed to making stuff up as I go? I will wait.🥱🥱🥱

Savageman247:
✓ What was meant to be a joyful wedding reception reportedly turned tense after a disagreement broke out between a newly married couple over the presence of an unexpected guest.
According to eyewitness accounts, the incident occurred during the dance session at the reception when a young man from the couple’s neighbourhood joined the celebration. The bride was said to have immediately stood up to hug the guest, a move that reportedly unsettled her husband, who had previously expressed discomfort over her association with the man.
Moments later, after the guest presented a wedding gift and left the venue, the groom confronted his wife in the presence of guests, questioning who invited the man and insisting that the gift should not be taken to their home. This reportedly sparked a heated argument between the couple.
Witnesses claim the bride reacted angrily, asserting her independence and stating that she could not be controlled regarding whom she associates with. The situation quickly escalated, leading to a brief physical altercation between the couple before the groom regained his composure.
Shortly after the incident, the groom was said to have left the reception angrily and did not return until the event came to an end, leaving guests shocked and concerned.
The incident has since generated conversations among attendees and online observers, with many expressing worries about conflict resolution, communication, and mutual respect in marriages, especially at such an early stage.
As discussions continue, the situation has reignited debates on boundaries, trust, and emotional control within relationships, particularly in public settings meant for celebration.

I hope that the bride seeks immediate annulment of that marriage. I know it is heartbreaking, but there is absolutely no reason why one should have to settle for less than one wants in marriage or think one can force another to change. There are more than enough examples of how this never works in Nigeria alone for anyone with a brain and eyes to see and note. 🥱🥱

WantsandMore:
Are there empirical evidence to support your assertion or this is just an opinion you're expressing as facts?

Make Google your friend.

Diamond098454:
smile smile smile there are still good ones (few)

There is no such thing since all of your pastors are nothing but snake oil sales men-- scammers. Unless you are trying to insinuate that there is such a thing as a good scammer.🥱🥱

lilsmart:
✓ Ask the other man Accused of being the one cheating with the wife.
That's his picture there.
Use. Reverse image search
Try dey do research. And if you know you can't.
Before you drop your opinion. Make sure to state that this is your pass opinion and it is not base in any research or feedings. #re-education

No thank you! People can make allegations. I will wait until at least one provides substance to claims made.🥱🥱🥱🥱

SpiritualWealth:
✓ You Haven't Answered My Question!

Your question makes no sense given what is contained in my comment.

Talkisneeded:
✓ So you want the lifespan of men that has chosen to embrace monogamy to your fathers who were deep necked in polygamy…

Again, at this time, there exists no definitive evidence to suggest that men in polygamous marriages live longer than their counterparts in monogamous marriages.🥱🥱🥱🥱

HeatSeeker:
✓ It's a simple question. No reason to be irked about it . Unless, it is going to blow your cover.

That there is the reason behind the comment I made. 🥱🥱

Stop repeating this lie... No matter how
Many times you do, it will never become true..

Talkisneeded:
✓ Very true,and one of the reasons your fathers embraced polygamy…
Polygamy lengthens life and your enjoyment as a man

There isn't evidence that polygamy lengthens the lifespan of men. Rather it is marriage that has been found to do so as married men are sid to live longer than their single counterparts.

HeatSeeker:
✓ I am asking this question in relation to your earlier comment on this thread. I am wondering what informed your perspective.

How about the fact that I am a human being who respects the rights of all men to freely pursue their happiness as they see fit within the confined of the law without societal bullying?

Sadly, all of these allegations and not one person willing to back up . Even the transfer images look like they were generated for the wake of this. Even pregnancy, no sonogram but just claims made. Na wa oo!

DeltaBachelor:
Oga/madam, Dey your lane na. Na by force to quote you ? I intentionally ignored you and replied others. Na normal humans I wan Dey follow chat abeg, Stay your line. Na early morning be this. I don’t have time for your controversial sh*t. Take care

Stop spitting bullsheet,abeg!

omo17:
Wow, u have booster my moral I have to act fast Thanks so much for your contributions.

For the best experience:
➜ You need a good doctor(don't be afraid to find a new one if you meet an arsehole.
➜ You also need to be willing to do extensive research on your mental illness and medications for yourself, so you have full insight into decisions that are being made as far as your treatment.
➜ You also need to keep a daily journal so you can monitor your own progress, know what medications are working, when, and at what dosage you noticed the best effects
➜ You also should keep track of goals you are working on at any given time and track progress so you can discuss with your doctor if there is help to be had from tweaking your meds
➜ Consider eating better. I would recommend increasing your daily protein, fruit, and vegetable intake while cutting back a bit on the carbs.
➜ Another thing is to keep a sleep journal and also exercise at least 3 days a week to help build better stress management

While I was on my meds, I commuted on a bicycle, and that helped me a great deal in the area of exercise and stress management. I was never a runner or a gymer, but biking was a great way for me to relieve stress in the morning and after work. It helped a whole lot. 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
are you trying to tell me she seduce the pastor and the pastor gives in? After having his way, he moved in to the next available woman This is a pastor a man of God not just some random guy out there.

Your pastors are all predators... wolves.

LeeSmart:
➜Once u remove the word "junkie" from ur name, then i go begin take u serious.

Your personal thoughts and opinions amount to no value here.

DeltaBachelor:
Maybe you should ask Jesus who was from the lineage of the tribe of Judah, or wait first, ask David and co. Wetin you nor know pass you. Take care

The same Jesus Christ of Israel who himself did not obsess about birthing babies to prolong his lineage? Wetin dey do una for head, abeg?

Greattha:
➜Ok o...because google, chatgpt or a number of research papers/YouTube videos say so mean its correct and applies to all....especially today where numerous so called "facts" are being disputed. Mo ti gbo🤣

You equate scientific research and studies done by experts in the field with your random YouTube videos and ChatGPT queries?

HeatSeeker:
➜Please answer this question honestly... Are you a man?

Of what real measurable value would that information be to you personally and the current topic of discussion? Let's start there. 🥱🥱🥱

Greattha:
Because she married a non-entity who hasn't done her well does not mean her opinion or whatever research you're talking about is correct.
There are tools to make your life easy....Hoovers, dishwashers, washing machines, microwave/airfryers, wireless scrubbers, solar systems instead of hand-pulled generators, etc and even domestic staff (drivers, cleaners, private security, janitors, gatemen, personal chefs etc) to operate all these...so its you and your husband's choice.
Dem force her marry She should go and cry to hrt mother who pressed her into marriage.
You don't want him to own your body but the moment he looks at another woman who's ready, you'll develop an aneurism.
I pity that kid near her and her husband.
Ir's a fact that child-bearing favours women more in most cases even though the initial pain is unbearable.
Men (not all tho) do everything to ensure the home front is safe and secure...just like women (not all too).
We all have parts to play in the dynamics of marriage.
Men do all these cooking and cleaning before and after marriage where the sitch calls for it and the union is blissful.
As a bachelor/spinster, It's easy to get anybody to come do these chores as long as you're economically fit...so what's all the noise about?
Women & men alike are a valuable part of marriage and they both benefit
People often come online and talk nonsense based on their personal f-ed up situations.

As we are going into 2026, learn to make Google your friend. 🥱🥱

What she stated is not an opinion but a fact, as numerous research and studies have been done to prove that to be the case. The findings have been widely discussed, and so many books have been written on it, too. 🥱🥱🥱
Watch from 7:00 to 7:36

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NX-9563ylWI?si=XpjQ-wLErzPk6Leu

SpiritualWealth:
➜So, You Mean That "The Insecurity Problems Of Nigeria Is Unsolvable At This Point Right ?"

How in the world did you get that from the example that I gave? You would have to start by explaining that to me. 🥱🥱

Hypnotise:
➜In Africa, husbands can legitimately find solace from more than one place, but wives can’t. ➜Those are the rules and I didn’t make them. And you know, rules broken come with severe punishments.

There is no truth to this claim of yours.

2. Again, there are no such rules; the problem in Africa is a result of women doing a terribly bad job at asserting their boundaries as far as marriage is concerned. Back in the 70s/80s, this nonsense you have today was frowned upon by the majority in society.