₦airaland Forum

Adewale1603:
Why do these U.S people usually divorce. They always divorce. Same with the American actors and actresses

. Divorce is also rampant in Nigeria. The official divorce rate in Northern Nigeria, including their Nikah(false/unofficial marriages) practices among muslims, compares to that in Western countries, maybe even higher. It is only that in southern Nigeria, traditional marriage proponents pretend that spousal abandonment isn't a form of divorce when it is literally the same thing without the formalities. The rate of divorce in even southern Nigeria is no different from the divorce rate in the U.S. or anywhere else in the world. 🥱🥱🥱

Offpoint1:
➜There's absolutely nothing you can do about it sweetheart. You divorce him, your lost....

She gained nothing from the marriage but abuse, so what did she lose after divorcing his cheating arse? Even after attempting a meaningless sunk cost fallacy debate, the fact is that she lost nothing since she gained nothing from all of that time she was in the marriage to an adulterous man. 🥱🥱

For the umpteenth time, women lose nothing when they abandon or divorce abusive men; instead, these women gain their valuable freedom to make better decisions and spend their time on more productive relationships. 🥱

Chilipepper:
Man criticizes his late former boss's wife for getting married to another man months after his burial

. If it had been the other way around, I bet this same gumba would have had only praises for his boss for quickly finding his feet after the demise of his wife.🥱🥱🥱

babz11:
Marriage isn’t old-fashioned, the system that supported it is gone, love now meets harsh reality; bills are louder than romance, roles are unclear, pressure is high, and going in unprepared breaks people; marriage still works, but only with readiness and wisdom, anything else is gambling.

What was love? The suffering of a woman in marriage? 🥱🥱🥱

oyeb15:
✓Observe your girlfriend mother very well. Study how she control her husband and what she turned d man to.
If u don't like her, you will regret d marriage cos d girl will grow up to be like her mother.

Sadly, a great number of women who do not want marriage happen to be women who were themselves raised by abusive/violent/present-but-absent fathers, the kind many of you prefer to become. 🥱🥱

DeltaBachelor:
I think so. Baby mama springing up everywhere

Even that is going to begin dying off soon as more and more women realize that children are a burden and not a handbag.

kolafolabi:
✓ Other reasons include fear of failed marriages due to rising divorce rates, financial pressures, lack of trust, unrealistic expectations shaped by social media, and poor communication between partners. Some people also see marriage as stressful or limiting, while others believe love and companionship can exist without formal marriage.
✓ All these factors together are making marriage seem less attractive to many people today, even though it still holds value for those who truly understand and are ready for its responsibilities.

1. Marriage failure has always been a core part of society from the beginning. More women are now realizing that women have never been to blame for it and that the truth has simply been hidden for the most part by sections of society, so that it continues selling marriage as an ultimate dream to women. The marriage abandonment/divorce rate of today is no different from that which existed during the time of our ancestors.

2. Increased visibility into the reality of things in our society, thanks in part to the internet, is what we see happening today.

orikoku:
Who marriage help. Baby mama's is the way to go.

Even that will change soon as more and more women begin to realize the true cost of their dalliances with men. 🥱🥱🥱

israelmao:
Marriage in line with God's word is never an old fashion God's word is always current.Forever Oh LORD thy word is settled in heaven.Heaven and earth shall pass away not one of your word shall go unfulfilled.

This is a bloody lie that has got many, most especially women, deceived and deluded even to this day. 🥱🥱🥱

muyico:
no still alot of women dreams

That is primarily because women are still being brainwashed from a young age into believing they have no real life without a Mrs. badge.🥱

You will find a woman who has achieved much more than her male peers, thinking that because she has yet to acquire a Mrs. badge under one of those men who don't have any achievements to measure up to the level that she has, she is not worth celebrating. That is the most stewpid nonsense I have ever had to witness, and I have witnessed it so many times over. It is ridunculous. 🥱🥱

themanderon:
✓ Trash trash trash as usual. I am still trying to imagine the kind of person you will be in real life. Certainly not a pleasant person.

You might give yourself a brain hemorrhage trying to consider that which is beyond its capacity. 🥱🥱

YeyeGbami:
✓ Dakpada!

It is ok to date your fellow men and hold your head up high with respect which you can't afford women.

Lovit:
...The lawyer is speaking from a moral point of view, if you as a woman left because you hate cheating, why become a side chick to a married man after divorce
✓ for your information, all side chicks enables cheating!

Lawyers are not trained to speak from your so-called moral point of view as the very first thing any lawyer learns is that societal standards of morality are bullsheet as far as standards do. 🥱🥱

2. The law does not recognize side chicks as enablers of cheating; rather, it holds the married individual culpable.

If, for instance, a married woman wishes to sue her husband and probably his mistress for adulterous acts, she first has to enter into a divorce -- penalizing her married husband -- before she is then able to proceed. That is the law.

NiRfreak:
✓ It's very true for most men. I hope you are man anyway.
✓ The first heart break of a man is usually the most painful, most men get callous and become a player who see fine girls as game and trophy for sex..... That life makes them feel confused when it's time to marry that they just pick one gamble

1. Wrong! When it comes to relationships there are no separate truths! 🥱🥱

2. Wrong! There are men who have gone on to experience worse heartbreaks even after the first, some eventually killing themselves. Again, there are no separate truths for men and for women when it comes to matters of the heart. 🥱🥱

zoedew:
It all depends on whether the parties wholly subscribe to the Biblical doctrine of Marriage. It guarantees the well being of marriage.

Wrong! Divorce is just as common among your religious crowd as it is with those outside of the circle. 🥱🥱🥱

Codes151:
Continue retorting. Since bad character the trigger your retort Dundee

Dundee na you, though! 🥱🥱🥱

YeyeGbami:
✓ You dey shalaye too much, e b lyke you like men wey dey do men. Ire o, my hand no dey

All is to make it clear to you that you are better off with a man than a woman. 🥱🥱🥱

NiRfreak:
✓ My question is: if I give girl Belle without marrying her legally and I assume responsibility of the kids and Lady, will that Lady be entitled to my wealth.
I don't see why a sensible guy to get married in US/UK

1. So you no go at least pay her for the surrogacy fee or even the cost of putting her life on the line to have a baby for you? Such a girl should at least collect money to remove the baby so she shouldn't have to waste 42 weeks out of her life carrying it for nothing. 🥱🥱

jUeLiZ:
✓ you may be right. But why are they always giving the houses to the women?

One of the major reasons for such are the prenuptial/post nuptial agreements some couples sign requiring the woman be paid a specified amount for each year of month of the marriage for her contributions to the family (company) -- he is generally the Chairman while she is the CEO managing things behind the scenes during the union. 🥱🥱🥱

You need to investigate each contract to determine these things. 🥱🥱🥱

NiRfreak:
✓ There's nothing like loving relationship after your first heart break, ... other relationship after your first breakfast is mere games and role playing.
2. Then deciding to settle with a gal afterwards is just a matter of chance or gamble

1. This is untrue for all. 🥱🥱

2. Also untrue! The moment you settle, you have lost the gamble.

YeyeGbami:
✓ I love women paaaaa, God no go let me hate woman
✓ But you sef know say una no even know wetin una want gan gan.

You clearly see women as holes for you to put your pickle into and I am explaining that men also have a hole you can dip your pickle into while still valuing them as more than just a hole. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Women know what they want in man and that includes respect. Clearly you are the one who don't know this and this is the reason I continue to insist you date men instead. 🥱🥱

jUeLiZ:
If this news true, then I'm scared of marriage....I have never seen anything like this, this is wickedness at its highest .

Now let's have all the poor men take it on themselves to decide, without investigating the facts, the value marriage must instead have. Not realizing that the more they do so, the more value in marriage remains out of their reach.

YeyeGbami:
➜Hehe greater value to married men you mean, she will passed around warming bed here and there till she receives sense.

Wrong! She will date only whom she wants to date when she wants to date.

If you hate women so much that you see them as only kpekus being passed around, why not date your fellow men instead and love them as your equals?

Treasure17:
➜Does this make sense to you?

What doesn't make sense to you, assuming sense for you is not as pulled from your traditional/religion dung pile.

GenFunction:
That word is alien to that moniker ...

It is not me that the word is alien to but to the one who invokes it without knowing either its correct meaning or correct application. Please, endeavor to take the correct meaning and application of terms before you use them.

Accountability is the obligation to take responsibility for your actions, decisions, and outcomes, requiring you to explain, justify, and answer for them, fostering trust and order in personal, professional, and governmental contexts by promoting ownership and honest conduct. It's more than just blame; it involves being dependable, addressing problems proactively, and facing consequences, with issues arising from lack of it leading to low morale and unmet goals, while systems like tracking and clear communication help control it.

No one is blaming anyone here for the divorced woman's decision, which is really well within her rights. She dependably addressed the one problem before her, which was her husband's cheating by exiting the marriage altogether, so that rather than remain bound to an adulterous man, she could pursue her own freedom and happiness away from him. That she is dating a married man is not her problem to deal with same way her former husband's sidechick was not her problem to deal with; Rather, it is a problem for the married woman married to the adulterous married man.

RillJ:
➜Sometime ago my neighbors wife divorced him after 2 kids because she concluded beyond all reasonable placations that he was cheating.
Her 'evidence' - my G always get home late from work (10-11pm)
After 4 years in the open market with relationship with some married men, she wanted to return only to see my guy with a new wife pregnant for the ex.
I do not support cheating but I would advice the women to reason carefully before taking the decision that would turn their lives drastically.

Storyland! The ex-wife will be fine. If it took her 4 years to consider returning to him, then that means she probably had options but has yet to realize the advantage that gives her. Men literally do the same thing she did... return after someone outside has burnt them... to women they formerly abandoned. It does not necessarily mean they want those women back to treat them better, but rather that those women were the cheapest option they thought available to them at that point. So, don't be shocked that women can think the same of men, too.

The ex-wife did the right thing by leaving her cheating ex-husband.

djukum1:
Hmmmm! What a shame

. It is indeed a shame that a lawyer thinks a woman should forgo her rights and remain in an adulterous marriage rather than obtain her freedom from it entirely so she can freely go out and explore better options than that of life as a slave to an adulterous man in marriage.

Offpoint1:
➜Why are ranting about? Your husband will cheat and there's nothing you'll do it sweetheart.

Well, the same way a man can divorce a cheating wife is the way this woman chose to divorce her cheating husband. And on top of that, she can herself go on to date other men as she sees fit; same thing a man can do. So, what do you mean that a woman cannot do anything when her husband cheats on her?

oalandAgents2:
A divorced woman over age 30 is cooked. If she initiated the divorce for only the minor reason that her husband is non monogamous, then she cooked herself.

I hope when your wife also reveals she is non-monogamous, you will, in good faith, not follow the same route as this woman did.

Tenrack:
She go listen? Don't waste your breath on an already confused gender. They can blame everyone but themselves. People wey dey allergic to accountability

Please, endeavor to take the correct meaning and application of terms before you use them.

Accountability is the obligation to take responsibility for your actions, decisions, and outcomes, requiring you to explain, justify, and answer for them, fostering trust and order in personal, professional, and governmental contexts by promoting ownership and honest conduct. It's more than just blame; it involves being dependable, addressing problems proactively, and facing consequences, with issues arising from lack of it leading to low morale and unmet goals, while systems like tracking and clear communication help control it.

No one is blaming anyone here for the divorced woman's decision, which is really well within her right.

Amumaigwe:
➜Please, whatever is the lady's identity? Once a lady is held accountable for her terrible life choices, all frustrated woman will want rally to her suppose.

She made no terrible life decision. Accountability is the reason why she chose to first divorce her adulterous husband before then venturing out to exercise her freedom to date as she sees fit. Unlike her scumbag of an ex-husband, she chose to wait until after the divorce to pursue other partners. (That is what people who take accountability do.)

If you do not understand the meaning and correct application of terms, I suggest you make Google your friend.