₦airaland Forum

lordm:
✓ My brother, you no lie.
Men are going through a lot.
Pressure for rent/building a house
Feeding
School fees
Clothes
Jobs
Finance

Baba head full o.
Pressure plenty and expectations high.
A colleague of mine died of HBP yesterday just because of all these

Many women--- from the single to the single mothers -- are dealing with all of the exact same so why do men need to be specially pitied in this case?

Tokotaya:
✓ Sacked lady takes to TikTok to expose romantic affairs with married CEO, HR Director (Videos).....Employment-rights advocates in Nairobi are urging regulators to step in, noting that if true, the claims point to serious breaches of workplace ethics, sexual-harassment laws, and corporate-governance standards.
The story continues to unfold online, with Wangui promising to release more evidence while stating she is considering legal action.
Human-rights groups have advised her to file an official complaint with Kenya’s Directorate of Criminal Investigations (DCI) or the National Gender and Equality Commission (NGEC).

I hope she files formal complaints and finds other women who may have been burned by the same men or, in a similar fashion, to follow suit so something can come of all of this.

sacajawea:
Very good person, A-plus high level human.
"White graduated from the University of Melbourne in 2010 with a first-class honours degree in gender studies. There she researched women's experiences in the Australian pornography industry. White's honours thesis, "The Porn Performer: The Radical Potential of Pleasure in Pornography", was published in The Routledge Companion to Media, Sex and Sexuality in 2017
Very good human.
Most Pornstars are very good humans. Very very good people. High quality humans.

Whatever got you believing that pornstars can't be good people? 🥱🥱🥱

Coooloooo:
✓ Relationship is not for me—-
Even though I am kind of always lonely.
I think I love it that way. Tho people around me think i not normal.
I have actually tried the relationship thingy but I get turned off by slight things(which I later regret )
I think i am ok but people around keep saying things

Stop listening to people and learn to live for you and by what you believe is best for you. Man-woman relationships are indeed not meant for everyone, so feel free to live your life without them.

AOresources:
You are an irresponsible man in view!

He is actually more responsible than you in that his decision to remain single is by his choice and not because of society or some other lie many others like to spout.

QuinQ:
✓ Ever heard of oedipus' complex? It is a complex, a subconscious desire that most healthy bridesmaids would have - doesn't mean they'd actually do it. It is female/human nature

What you posted there about Oedipus complex is bullsheet! Oedipus complex only plays out in children towards their mothers or fathers. Since when did the relationship between a bride and her bridesmaids become that of mother and parent? 🥱

2. Something tells me you go around thinking everyone you meet is as gullible as you are in real life of that they are too stewpid to figure out your bullsheet! 🥱

Negroid001:
You see how men absorb abuse with no fuss. It's inbuilt. But if na the other gender ehn

To this day, Ned Nwoko is still celebrated as a senator and a role model for many Nigerian men out there.🥱🥱🥱

jiggyman:
✓ No body in the world can explain love! They just ramble like broken radio

And it is usually people looking to take advantage of.ohers that will throw that word around without giving it a definite contextual meaning too.

dannyodia101:
On the main portion of the show (46:55), we discuss the chances of marrying a partner who is not the love of your life as drawn from the conversation (48:31) on The Receipts Podcast. Trust us, this conversation is about to shake tables. Strap on! Enjoy the show.

There is no such thing as being married to the love of your life. What exists is finding yourself and marrying a partner who better helps you fulfill your dreams and goals in life than you would have been able to if you had had to do it all for yourself. 🥱🥱

One side of this is that just because you consider yourself married to the love of your life does not equate to your partner feels the same way. If your partner does not feel fulfilled in the relationship, that relationship might end. 🥱🥱

Another side to this is that for both of you to continually benefit from each other throughout the length of the relationship, you both need to work constantly on your social and emotional skills as you continue to ensure benefits continue to come in from your being in the relationship.

EvaWriter:
Lowkey… I get what she’s trying to say, but this mindset is tired. A woman looking good shouldn’t be proof of a man’s bank account. Let love reflect, not his wallet sha

What is this love and how does love reflect? 🥱🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
➜Toxic relationship, toxic marriage is not good. Your brother can file for divorce

. We don't know for a fact that the situation is toxic, except that OP is attempting to paint it such without revealing enough detail at that. 🥱🥱🥱

Mystery2020:
They are both in the UK with their daughter. She is from Kogi state, read medicine in a private university.
My brother who was a doctor, bore all the cost of their relocation but made himself the dependant. He is still repaying the debt after two years. The wife has completed her studies. She works but keeps all of her own money and left my brother to be slaving for her. She threatens him with police at the slightest misunderstanding. She shouts at him, and insults his family. She even said she thought my brother had money, that she would not have married him if she knew he was "struggling".
I had a conversation with my brother last month. He told me she spends most of her time watching toxic feminists content on tiktok about how terrible men are, and how women should not give them any chance. All that stuff.
We read these things on the internet about how Nigerian wives misbehave when they go abroad. I never knew it will happen to someone close to me.

So, are you here trying to take over your brother's marriage on his behalf or something?

Your brother chose this woman for a wife. paid for all he did, without a gun to his head. So, why are you trying to insert yourself into a situation that your brother clearly does not wish to remove himself from? Are you completely done dealing with the problems in your own life that you now feel you need to carry your brother's marriage for head as if you get power to do anything about it than your brother wey dey inside am?

As for money matters, did your brother explain to his wife that they need to redo their marriage contract, so she can begin spending some of her earnings on the marriage, too? Or is your brother like the many other Nigerians out there who feel that once the wife begins earning money, they are entitled to her contributing some of her money to the household, despite her being solely responsible for housewife-related duties?

Wizardslayer:
You're a priest and your biological sister got married and happily wedded. After three months of marriage her husband was killed in armed robbery heist.
After all said and done it was learnt that your is one month pregnant for her armed robber husband that was killed.
As a priest what'll you do, will support your sister to terminate the one month pregnancy??

Na the priest marry the armed robber abi na him sister marry the robber? How did it become his decision to make as to whether the sister should terminate the baby or not? That decision is for the pregnant woman to make. Priest needs support her whichever decision she makes... her body, her choice!

DyshApp:
....The woman, preciousonyegu1 took to her TikTok page to share this.
In the clip, she tearfully expressed her frustration and heartbreak, questioning what she described as growing competition between Zimbabwean and Nigerian women over relationships with Nigerian men abroad.
She said she could not understand why a Zimbabwean woman would take interest in her partner when, according to her, there are men from her own country to date.....

Nonsense and eegridient!🥱🥱🥱

BondRiv:
✓ You will leave your field and start arguing with someone trained in the profession. I have told you the position of the law in Nigeria. It has nothing to do with Sharia.

Again,Stop lying! 🥱🥱

It is only under Sharia law that it is explicitly stated that a man who rapes his wife cannot be prosecuted or punished by law for the act. Process the implications of Sharia having that exemption only for Muslims living under its law before you continue.

Are you telling us that you are a Muslim married under Sharia law?

BondRiv:
✓ A man cannot rape his wife in Nigeria. That is the position of the law.

Stop lying! 🥱🥱

It is only under Sharia law that it is explicitly stated that a man who rapes his wife cannot be prosecuted or punished by law for the act. Process the implications of Sharia having that exemption only for Muslims living under its law before you continue.

Are you telling us that you are a Muslim married under Sharia law?

MikeofKd:
Yes a man can rape his wife. Now outside the confinement of marriage it is a serious and punishable offense by law , within the confinement of marriage ( well I don't think there's a law for that here in Nigeria , except other countries , so it may or may not be punishable by law in Nigeria )

If a woman says no ,it's best to respect her decision and move on as a man , forcing her to copulate with you because you married her is morally wrong and can lead to further problems within the marriage. So yes a man can rape his wife.

Within marriage, as long as your marriage is not covered under Sharia law's exemption, a husband can and should be prosecuted for rape of his wife. 🥱🥱

BondRiv:
Common sense says otherwise, but it is a matter of law and jurisdiction. In Nigeria, legally speaking, a man cannot rape his wife.

In Nigeria, only those under Sharia law, which explicitly states that a man is exempt for punishment on the case that he raped his wife, are excluded from the rape laws in Nigeria. Everyone else is subject to the same ordinances which state that forcible nonconsensual sex is punishable by law. 🥱🥱

stainzville:
In marriage, no such thing as rape

What marriage law tells you this? Sharia law? Where is the detail of this law? 🥱🥱

Mrschiago:
Yes, for temporary overdraft

. Overdraft? On a loan? 🤔

immortalcrown:
Point out where the universal human rights law says that a man can rape his wife or that she must be in the mood for sex before her husband can have sex with her.
Until you do it, you have no fact against my comment.

I see that basic language comprehension is still not strong with you. You can continue arguing with yourself abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

Akinpedia:
✓ The statement that “most men die young because they live unhealthily and refuse to take responsibility for their own health” is an oversimplification and does not fully reflect the broader realities.
✓ Poor health habits can affect anyone, regardless of gender. Both men and women face lifestyle-related risks, and both are responsible for taking charge of their physical and mental well-being.
✓ What is true is that some men may delay seeking medical help, ignore symptoms, or prioritize work over health, which can contribute to poorer outcomes.

However, this is not a justification for shifting the responsibility for their well-being to others—especially not to women. Every adult is fundamentally responsible for managing their own health unless they are genuinely unable to do so due to a severe disability or cognitive impairment.
✓ Ultimately, health responsibility is personal. Support from loved ones is valuable, but it should never replace individual accountability.

1. It actually does given that studies have shown that married men live relatively longer than men unmarried men or men not in relationships. Why is that? The simple reason is that men in relationships have women helping them better manage their health on the most while men outside of relationships with women do not have similar help available to them.

2. Correction, because poor health can affect anyone does not then mean that everyone approaches issues pertaining to their health --- both mental and physical -- in the same manner that a majority of men have been observed to. 🤔

3. This is the major issue as these delays, in many cases, spell the difference between life and death for both men and women alike.

4. Personal issues should not be made a burden for others, including loved ones to have to bear. Each adult is fully equipped with ability and responsibility to ensure his life and health does not become a burden for others to have to be saddled with.

Again, women are not caregivers to be saddled with issue that men create for themselves due to their personal negligence. Focus your energy on as advising me to seek help the moment they observe issues same as women are known for. 🤔🤔

Mrschiago:
✓ No, I was the staff that disbursed the loan to the customer

So, a staff that disburses a loan to a customer is made personally responsible for whether the customer pays for it or not?

Expanse2020:
✓ Let see how Islam detest woman table it here and let me show should how Christianity gave freedom to women and we can conclude which one is slowpoke if not your religion

All religions are scams, however, the worst of them happens to be islam which also presents itself as a scourge to humanity. If you cannot understand this simple fact, then I am afraid you continue to waste my time with your responses. 🤔

Mrschiago:
✓ Before confirmation at BANK B, they will run background checks with BANK A to confirm employment status, credit status, employer history etc
If they find out that there is a bad loan tied to my name, it might lead to outright dismissal

Did you take out the loan yourself -- serve as a guarantor the loan, maybe-- that the bank would see fit to count it against you personally? 🤔

Goo0dHardDick:
Your sacrifices means nothing to them. It's literally useless. They're completely loyal to their feelings and emotions.

Women are men in all wise except for their reproductive plumbing; men's plumbing is outie-focused while women have a more innie-focused reproductive plumbing

immortalcrown:
✓ I never said anything that opposes universal human rights. So, this your response is baseless.

You did exactly that when you proclaimed.that similar to those subscribed to Sharia law which explicitly exempts Sharia men from punishment for rape of their wives, that your laws also provide you with the same exemption. Sharia law as we all know it directly opposes the Universal Human Rights of every human being. Mohammedians, by their Sharia laws, oppose Human Rights, and they boast openly about this too. And so far, you are the one here that has been insisting that the laws which you adhere to also run in the same direction as the Mohammedians. 🥱🥱🥱


So, please provide us with the details of where your marriage laws state your own exemption, also in opposition to Universal Human Rights. 😕😕

immortalcrown:
✓ Point out where the universal human rights law says that a man can rape his wife or that she must be in the mood for sex before her husband can have sex with her.

Arguing backwards still, I see!

First of all, show us where in your marriage laws you get this idea that the Universal Human Rights your wife had before she became your wife, ceased the moment she got married to you. Where does your notion that your wife lost her right to giving consent the moment she married you? 🥱🥱

Sharia Law adherents can claim that their marriage law clearly exempts them from punishment for rape in marriage -- an information that you can read in their laws. So, tells us where your idea that you are made exempt from rape in marriage comes from? Or are you also married under Sharia?

Akinpedia:
✓ It’s a hard truth that men, in many parts of the world, tend to live shorter lives than women. But have you ever paused to ask why this happens? The answer is not just biological — it’s woven into the fabric of the pressures they face every single day.
Men carry invisible burdens . From the moment they wake up, they wrestle with expectations at work, pressures to provide, and societal demands to be strong, stoic, and unbreakable. These roles come with silent battles — deep feelings of stress, anxiety, and exhaustion that many men never voice out loud.
Family responsibilities can be heavy on their shoulders too. They often feel the weight of keeping the family secure and thriving. Yet, many men hide their struggles because showing vulnerability is seen as weakness. This culture of silence traps them in emotional isolation, which can deteriorate both their mental and physical health.
As a partner, friend, or family member, you play a vital role in breaking this cycle. If you are a wife, girlfriend, brother, or friend, your words and actions can either lift him up or add to his invisible load.

Nonsense talk! 🥱🥱🥱
The major reason why most men die young happens to be the result of unhealthy living and refusal to take responsibility for their own health and needs.

All that you describe above applies to both men and women alike. I see no reason why it should then be suggested that it be the responsibility of others, particularly women, should be burdened with the responsibility that is a grown human being unless it is the case that such a human is completely retarded or something,🥱🥱

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OpFHhOG3pao?si=ReH2gBfQuUBUnM3k

Women were not out on this earth to be caregivers to men or serve as their nurses or something. It is up to each man to take full care of himself, same as the women in his life or outside of it would. 🥱🥱

immortalcrown:
✓ Can you quote any law that says that consent to sex in marriage is not one-time and given at the beginning of the marriage?
Also, show me where the constitution says that a man can do to his wife something that can be legally or religiously interpreted as rape.
Answer these questions or remain a liar.

Nothing in the details of the marriage laws in Nigeria strips a human being of his UN Universal Right to bodily autonomy. Instead of looking for a law that suggests that consent to sex in marriage is not one-time and given at the beginning of marriage, you should be looking to finding where in your marriage laws that it is stated that consent to sex is automatically granted in marriage or that bodily autonomy is lost in the event of marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

What you describe as sex being automatically granted in marriage is actually parcelled as part of the marriage culture of the Northern sharia laws where explicitly stated that a husband cannot found guilty of raping his wife. 🥱🥱

Forgive me for not realizing before now that you are also a muslim bound to sharia law which actually approves of Muslim men raping their wives without consequence. 🤐🤐🤐🤐

It does? Yet, every Christian out there is either trying to please their pastor, other Christians, or put up a facade that projects this image of having attained the success expected of a Christian. Abegi! 🥱🥱🥱