₦airaland Forum

Lukuluku69:
See her mouth like age aluwala.

Show us your mouth, let us see if you were born with anything better than what she was? 🙄🙄

Nonsense... you dey body shame her because she talk true... typically Nigerian .....🙄🙄

kunlesufyan:
➜imagine teaching people who to keep their marriage and your husband marries another woman behind your back.
➜ If you never hear the man’s side of story, don’t judge.

And worse, she may even be the breadwinner in her own marriage.

2. Will his story change the claim that he married another wife?

AImatter:
➜The father should have the children we all know in any culture any nation the father has the children as the kids that is it especially when they have grown but it in case of younger ones can stay with their mother pending when they grow

Nonsense! 😏

In sane countries, fathers are equally responsible for raising their own children from the day they are born.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZAICOT6NMwo?si=L-pSdL-ResmTGbvx

Nairalander248:
✓ What if she's the one ?

The one for what? 😏

Karemarealty288:
Jamb quenchon....

Better than the silly question that is your OP for sure.

Karemarealty288:
What can put a lady in this position?🤔
Zzzzzzsssssss

Did you get her permission before putting her picture online at least(assuming she is someone you know or live with)?

Jennyclay:
✓ Honestly, Men are really confuse, they don't even know what they want
You have a good lady and you're worried about how she pronounce mere words. . This is so ridiculous
Hope the man is not a “P” factor, meaning “poverty factor “ else I will also advise the lady dump his broke and poverty-stricken life.

I completely disagree with you on this as well. He having a problem with her pronunciation is opportunity for her to find herself a man who would be better able to love her, accent and all. All red flags to an individual are valid red flags!

tfelicityk:
✓ Congratulations to both of them. God bless their union...
Hope she will not be clamouring for registering soon?

She is expected to give up her life and dreams for marriage but not allowed to seek full benefits in marriage? What is wrong with you all? Would you say the same if she were your daughter?!

Jasonxxx:
That's if the mother isn't encouraging the man to move

That is the man's business. Somebody's daughter should not need to be burdened in any way with such immature being.

Jasonxxx:
9 childresn.. A man is a baby and this man i am looking at woud be a big child

if a man is a babu then he should remain with his mother and father until the man turns into an adult.

GorillaApp:
✓ How are you sure she is saying the truth? Why jump into conclusion? Where you there to ascertain and verify all of these? What if the said evidence were doctored?
You think say na only you sabi attack people post

What if...what if... that is why you ask questioned which is what i was doing there before your blindly jumped in. 😩😩😩

Chilipepper:
I want to marry my girlfriend but she has H factor, I'm scared! Man seeks help

Which one be H-factor and what does it have to do with speaking in public?

Anyways, regardless of what it is, clearly his worries and fears ultimately mean he probably should not be thinking of marrying this gal for any reason. He can't stand it now, what makes him think that when he has to live 24-7 with it, he would be able to?

rolams:
✓ Majority of them are not financial.

Why do they need to be in the majority for them to matter? The point is that if a woman is not able to turn breadwinner(take on responsibility of providing for the family) when her husband enters the deadbeat stage, the woman is likely to be abandoned too.

Almost half of woman in marriages in Nigeria are just that, breadwinners, delusionally taking care of and providing for the very man who was supposed to provide for them in marriage. Most do it out of fear of abandonment and of what society would say if they were to no longer have that Mrs. title tacked to their names.

rolams:
✓ We hardly see men chase their wives away when things become hard. I need not to drag this issue with you again.

So, the high rates of marriage abandonment(pseudo-divorce) in southern Nigeria, you choose to remain particularly blind to?

saintopus:
✓ As a married man, I don't doubt this statistic. There is a shift of consciousness among our youths and even those within the 40years bracket. The trend will continue.
For instance most young men now desire to get a girl pregnant and moved on. They are not desirous of getting someone cling to them anymore just as our parents did. This perhaps could be as a result of economic downturn. But it's more of change in understanding of the necessity of the marriage life.

Economic downturn ke? Does the raising of a child cost less outside of marriage than in a marriage?

sorosoke101:
School fees palava wan kill this man. E go beta nah poor man prayer

The man no know say him go pay school fees before him go born pikin?

omooba969:
✓ I thought mothers love their children more...loool

That's only in manufactured/African tales. Human behavior works entirely different from all those delusions you were fed growing up by a society that sort to keep women tied down to children.

Anyways, my hope is all of those children are social media aware. So they do not sit back and do nothing if the situation were to ever turn abusive.

ednut1:
✓ he is rich. A celebrity carpenter with lots of well paying contracts. Her case may be different lol

Her case may be different between abusers suddenly stop being abusers, abi? If say na woman abuse the man, you go vomit this same nonsense?

omoredia:
Na only dem fit do am. The woman sef fit get 5 from 3 different fathers

Where can one get the real backstory from, abeg? How many baby mamas supposedly gave him 8 children? Was he ever married to any of his baby mamas?

ednut1:
T✓ he first wife is on tiktok exposing how he was abusive with evidence. Another woman don go chook head

So, this new women signed up to enter into all of that for what then? To become the new punching bag? .

BodyCount:
Wishing the step mother Goodluck
She won't have much problem if girls no many for the children

A woman literally signed up to be a bangmaid, nanny, housekeeper for man who was a single father and you already turned prophet to further deceive her? We all know the reason the man picked her is because he needs someone who can take care of his kids, and also take care of him and his needs. If say na your daughter she be, you go gree her enter this situation? 🥱🥱🥱

Getbetter:
Iya awon omo i da??.

Awon omo wa lo do baba won. Isn't that enough for you?

Firstcitizen:
✓ 8 children? How the previous wife no go kpai. Now guy man don move on. That is if no be divorce make am single which I doubt.

It said he was a single father, not a divorcee, implying there may have been at least one baby mama(their could be more).

alphonsoolajide:
https://eyesoflagos.com/single-father-of-eight-finds-love-again-introduces-new-wife/

His former wif, abi na baby mamas, did well to leave the children with him(or share custody at least).

oyeb15:
✓ Most time, that 'ego better' always come d moment she walks away.
✓ Then accepting her back become a problem.
The illiterate guy should go and ask OBJ, Tinubu, Buhari and many prominent men today that has more than one wife.

That one mostly happens in fairy tales, not in real life. Go out there to find the many men who were abandoned in marriage who are still poverty-stricken and still unable to pull themselves out of it. If Nigeria were a serious country and such men were forced to pay child support for the many children they had in poverty, the situation would be even worse for them. 🥱🥱🥱

2. A woman will only try to come back if she is unable to make a better life for herself outside of her former shackles. The problem is that a lot of them also make the mistake of taking the kids with them out of a marriage when they know they have nothing to help those children with. If women were to normalize leaving children with their fathers to fend for themselves until at least they get back on their feet, most of the useless fairy tales folks love to tell will disappear and be replaced with more realistic conclusions.

Mrexcell:
✓ Or you can just use the money u would have used to travel out to build a reasonable nigerian lady that's willing, ambitious and humble to learn.

A woman you can train to do what? Live her life and energy for you like your mothers and grandmothers did without gaining anything equivalent for their time and efforts?

ufotunang:
.✓ I know the rich do not have poverty, and do not lack..but with all the money and wealth they have let the money make them to love each other and truly love each other..why do they still quarell, fight, insult each other, separate, divorce each other upon all the money they have..
✓ sometimes they even kill each other by stabbing the other partner with knife..so money is not everything in love relationship ..it's true love that makes a love relationship to be strong and blissful..I know that money is very important in a love relationship but not what makes a love relationship to be blissful and everlasting

1. So, what you are trying to have use believe is that all only those who marry in poverty know love? Some of you are just complete lost caused abeg! How can a whole adult human being say such a thing? 😩😩😩

2. So, killings only happen between rich couples; poor people no dey kill each other at all? 😩😩😩😩😩

donmik:
✓ Good, you use the word 'may'
An idiot from hell deceiving and destroying families in the name of false teaching.
Show us how you have built an exemplary family and we can learn from you
I pity people who don't censor what they hear

How have the 10s of millions of men building poverty riddled families that are set for generations built these exemplary families that you speak of?🥱🥱🥱

rolams:
✓ Hmmm! You mean women should be jumping from one man to another when things change negatively for men? ✓ Remember, no condition is permanent either rich or poor.

It isn't when things change negatively for men but when things change negatively for women and their children. I know many of you don't consider women the same way you consider yourselves. Many of you are quick to advise a man to send a woman back to her father's house when things change negatively for him in marriage, but tell a woman to endure otherwise, completely ignoring the fact that that woman is also a human being who deserves better too.

2. No condition is permanent yet a man can easily switch out partners in marriage but a woman should not do so? Nonsense! A woman should make herself the center of her marriage like the man, abeg! Once the man is unable to meet up with his promises/obligations , woman should jump ship to ensure her happiness and peace is maintained no matter the condition. 🥱🥱🥱

rolams:
Has he forgotten that change is constant? If you date a man for who he is today and things later change and flip the other way tomorrow, what will happen to the relationship?

Nonsense! 🙄🙄

When a man is unable to provide for a woman he promised to provide for, he should have no qualms with the woman leaving him to find herself a different man who is better able to keep his promise to provide.

Oisagbai78:
The Love I had for my Ex wife died immediately my mind was made up! Like I would always say here, the Last time I saw her was June 2018. Even if our paths cross now, the Love would never resonerate! E don die tey tey. My love and affection is now for my new wife!

Stotyland!🙄🙄