₦airaland Forum

emirate9:
➜Every body cant do chores, by logical reasoning
➜ A woman that does house chores, cook n clean na wife material, virtuous wife
➜ But a Man that do same chors naa mumu, simp, gbewu da nii even the eye of his own mother
➜ i can imagine my mom walk into my compound see me sweeping .. the 1st question is where is your wife

1. This here is illogical reasoning on your part.

2. A woman in a traditional marriage setting is typically assigned the role of doing chores and taking care of house-related issues while the man sits as the sole provider in the marriage. Outside of the traditional marriage settings, these gender assigned roles disappear completely.

3. When the same man was single and did all the same chores all by himself, was a mumu then too?

4. Your mum may have lived as a glorified housekeeper in marriage; that doesn't mean all women or wives want to take after your mother.

alklas:
It solemly simple. D man provides the basic family needs. While d woman take care of the home
➜But is gud wen d man support her consigning d house chores

Almost 50% of homes in Nigeria have the woman both as provider and homemaker. And these are typically women who married under a traditional umbrella.

2. A man doing chores IS NOT supporting the woman. Rather, he is doing his part in keeping the home and family that belongs to him, too. Thinking that doing chores amounts to supporting the woman amounts to arrogance and irresponsibility.

ukaface:
Don’t equate income to chores Biko aunty. It doesn’t make sense Everybody should do chores whether you bring or not.

Technically, no! The traditional getup of marriage assumes there are set roles for the woman, and those roles include doing of chores. Women in those commitments are more or less glorified housemaids. It is the non-traditional marriages that reject the idea of gender roles, insisting instead on shared responsibilities between the man and woman.

MartinCorridon:
I agree wholeheartedly.
But if I contribute 100% to household expenses.... I wouldn't pay for housemaid or caterer or drycleaner or even washing machine.
This generation of women especially Nigerians are very lazy. I am not misogynistic and don't support women bashing but it is the harsh reality.
Whites, whoever decides to stay at home, male or female does the chores. They don't turn relatives to maids. And that's why the courts support her to clean you out during divorce. You can't make her sacrifice her career and then dump her when she reaches Best Before Date

How many of you can afford housemaids though?

chiagozien:
Oya provide for the family and pay all the bills and I will be doing all the house chores.

In Nigeria, almost 50% of households hand woan are breadwinners, yet you will rarely find the men in this relationships doing chores or handling any of the other responsibilities in the home.

bionixs:
dowry

Wrong! 🥱🥱

Any man who pays dowry does so in order to obtain for himself right to be both sole head of household and provider. A woman risks everything , many a times for nothing , in contributing to the finances of the family in that case as tangkble returns on her investment tends to diminish as the marriage(or she ages). 🫤🫤

jaxxy:
➜All?? I don't know about that cos I don't generalise but I question and conclude after getting my facts right. However alot are fake if not false.

Name one among dem you are certain ain't fake and tell us why you believe that.

Paramount01:
➜But Nigerians said they are hungry ,or are they no hungry again ,food is ready ,let eats

Stop being ridiculous... she tell you say no one wan eat her rice? dem tell you say hungry people no dey abi hungry people no wan chop her food? 🙄🙄🙄

Person go cook rice for a venue where the public dey excluded —gate fee na Naira 15,000 per head— meaning the hungry people were initially not invited or allowed. Na now she wan finally throw the gates open to everyone.

ufotunang:
..she is a child of God

You mean child of APC god, abi?

PricelessGem1:
They should take the rice to motherless babies homes, feed countless children that lack food to eat please.

Schools, prisons, homeless people in the area.... the options are endless, so I don't understand why dem go plan to cook without plan on how and whom to distribute to.

IbnB:
➜Alaaru t'on je buredi/awo ori re l'onje ti ko mo🎶🎵🎼
This entire carnival cost nothing less that N200 million, funded by some priapic politico somewhere...and Nigerians love awoof so much they can't understand they are eating their own future (without meat)

All the more reason why they should not allow it go to waste abeg!

Nigerians and organizing events are very terrible. This na something dem for carry in different loads go feed children in the surrounding schools dem wan waste like so. 🙄🙄🙄

press9jatv:
➜“Please come and get the food, it’s a lot and I can’t waste it” - Hilda Baci pleads with fans to eat her Jollof Rice

Is the location too far away for people to walk with their pots to abi wetin? Make dem make sure water dey.... people go come.

afangsoup:
➜Your choice of words are bad and insulting to say the least.

The truth is bitter! Also, there is nothing bad or insulting about mental illness... we all run up against it at some point or another in life. Knowing to properly address it is one of the major keys to healthy living.

obojememe:
i do that alot also…it’s all about love and affection

Anxiety— or maybe panic disorder— no be love and affection. Na mental illness e be!

Ganjafama:
Don't worry, you'd outgrow it. I had this habit, though I only checked my kids only.

Don't lie to him about such things. Many people don't outgrow but eventually die from complications caused by such anxieties. Heart attack/stroke no be anybody mate.

Meedon:
Stop being afraid of death. I would enjoy solitude if you are not afraid to die

. There is nothing better than peace and joy in solitude, indeed.

Chilipepper:
➜If income comes from both husband and wife, chores must come from both of them too" — Journalist Eloho sparks debate.

Even when both couples share provider responsibility, there is still a lot that needs to be shared beyond just the chores.

samwash:
➜What is making these young ladies single mothers? Iam not understanding, how can a lady below 30yrs be a single mother of four children with four different fathers? Something is wrong somewhere. Samething applies to the guys, dumping from one lady to the other but the society sees nothing wrong with it.

The men who themselves become single fathers in the process have an equal hand— note the women share a part in the blame— in making the single mothers. Let's not keep pretending that it isn't many of the same men demonizing these women who are behind it all.

TouchNfollow:
➜Single women were asked to wear wedding gowns and act like brides at this program so that God can provide them with husbands!
The X post describes a church program where single women are encouraged to wear wedding gowns and act as brides, presumably to manifest or pray for finding a husband, reflecting a blend of cultural and religious practices aimed at addressing marital status through symbolic actions.
This practice can be seen as part of broader trends in some religious communities where symbolic acts, such as wearing wedding attire, are believed to align with spiritual interventions or manifestations, though it lacks empirical support from peer-reviewed studies on the efficacy of such methods in finding a spouse.
The event, likely influenced by cultural norms around marriage and societal pressure on single women, highlights a intersection of faith, tradition, and personal desire, but it also raises questions about the psychological impact and the reinforcement of gender roles within such contexts.

Mothers should stop raising their daughters to become wives but to become more excellent human beings, which the world(particularly Africa) remains starved of. This is the result of training your daughters to believe their existence should revolve around men (and the acquisition of a man as husband). I mean, just look at how these living beings are easily manipulated and brainwashed by lies, all because they were not trained to know better.

madridguy:
Polygamy is the solution to all this comedy display. ➜God supported Polygamy with proof in the Holy Quran and the ... Bible.

There are most likely more men than women even in Nigeria. Polygamy is not a solution, in the same way polyandry cannot be prescribed as a solution based on the actual stats.

EmperorIsaac:
Have good character, be resourceful, and be disciplined...and all these rituals may not be necessary.

Nonsense! Your great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and mothers who were all eventually abandoned either for that newer-smelling chassis...what did they gain from all of their good character, resourcefulness, and discipline obedience in marriage? Nothing at the end of the day. So, why continue to shove the same poison against women?

Maobichek:
➜Humans are bound to argue, more especially husband and wife.
Bishop Oyedpo said that his wife complained on seeing blood while pregnant but he told her: "go and get my food." In Living Faith Church, it's faith in action but the day my wife saw "blood" we ran straight to the hospital, thank God for Doctor Kolowale oh!
➜ I personally believe in God but i must take action because faith without work is dead.

1. That ain't faith in action but a cold-blooded sort of disregard for his wife's emotions and health. There there is a not a woman that is loved but one that is used. 😩😩😩😩

2. I don't know what you religious/traditional folks mean by faith, but I know that religious/traditional folks experience confusion, trauma(emotional kind included), pain, and death at pretty much the same rate as those who don't belong to the same circles. Suggesting that your faith then makes it OK to neglect the emotional and traumatic suffering of your own screams psychopathic to me.

Walai:
If you are eating any processed food then you are a victim . If you taking GMO products, otilor. You go turn to Funke in man skin

. The delusion is indeed strong with this one. 🙄🙄🙄

Walai:
✓ I don't know your ancestors but my own ancestors protected their household every night and there was no single day women and children were killed all through our thousands years old history aside men who died in wars.
FYI, these men never slept like cowards yet none of them died below the age of 90.
Like I said, I don't know who your ancestors are but my own ancestors were brave men

Africans and story/fabu-telling are indeed inseparable! 🙄🙄🙄

Walai:
✓ This one na normal instinct for men nah. Too many oestrogens in our foods that reduced manliness is what made this look strange.
✓ Our ancestors protected their many wives and children by going round the compound with machete in hand in the night while the women and children slept to defend against invaders.

It is not a normal instinct for either the men or women who do it. It is linked to fear and lack of control. That could all lead to serious medical problems if left untreated.

2. Your ancestors protected their many wives and children yet records have it that killing of wives and children were common place during the time of these same ancestors? Come on naw! Make una dey lie small small...😩😩😩

afangsoup:
✓ Hello guys,
I don't know if anybody does this. Since I started a family a little over 5 years ago, subconsciously, I wake up almost every hour to go round and check my wife and son. I observe them sleeping, I listen and observe for breathing, most times I give them a nudge (subconsciously) to check if they're still breathing, if they do not respond, my heart start racing in panic mode, I nudge them slightly harder or push or pat them till they move, then my mind settles down again.
I am starting to get worried about this subconscious act, and I don't know how to stop it 😢😢 Does anyone else do this? Am I doing the right thing or I'm just worried over something that shouldn't be?🤔🤔

The act is fueled by anxiety. And if you feel it is subconscious, that implies the anxiety may have gone untreated for a long time now. I suggest you make an appointment with a professional mental health therapist asap. And get on track to treating that behavior before it balloons to something else.

Blitzking:
✓ The only reason why your wife would never argue with you is if
1) she has a quiet spirit
2) she has a low self esteem
3) she is afraid of loosing you cos of the numerous female protocol around you
4) you attend to all her needs
5)you guys surrendered your home to Jesus Christ.
But my own human guess is that you avoid confrontation... when she wan change am for you..you go dey run.

The only reason a human being would not argue with another human is if said person is a slave in the contract that binds the two. It is simple as that. Even your very own children would argue with you, talk less of a complete blood stranger

Natbrowny:
Define Argument?

Notice how you religious/traditional folks are ever seeking ways to redefine words to suit your particular narrative. Na so Christianity come get over 46000 different denominations, each boasting of a different narrative about the same entity --- all of them in direct conflict with the original story contained in the book called the Bible. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

ledaman:
✓ Mr Man, it has to do with choice which I knew.But can you show me one African man that would allow such.
✓ How are they plague to Africa? Don't generalised your ascertion without fact and figures. Cest fini

In Africa, it is the empty barrels that speak the loudest, which is why you rarely hear those who make such choices speaking of them.

2. There are many intelligent voices in Africa. Unfortunately, their voices are drowned out regularly by the voices of the numerous plagues -- empty barrels -- the continent boasts of.

Tareq1105:
✓ The main reason for constant arguments is Finance and he doesn't have problems with that so every other issue are minor.

Nonsense! Claim!😩😩

tanigororo:
Where were you loving while growing up?
I am very sure it's in a house rented by your father.
If your father is dead, you can't appreciate him anymore. But if he is alive, you will understand what he has done for you. His presence, his surname, those are provisions you can never get elsewhere

These things are obviously of no true value when it comes to nurturing and raising a human being is what the other poster clearly meant. Did you really need for him to have spell this detail out for you? 🥱🥱🥱🥱