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jaszplus12:
➜Everything said here just tailor fits one guy i connected to one of my sisters...I regret that move till tomorrow!! Matchmaking is not what I'm going to do again ever!!

So, you took a severally flawed guy expecting that by giving him your sister, somehow her presence would magically change him into a better individual?

SeeWahala:
➜Okay. I agree it is to prevent pregnancies (let me not dig into pregnancy removal/abortion pills and their own dictionary definitions)
Why did you opine that the man was trying to destroy the health of his wife by letting her have those pills? Or isn't taking those type of pills a verified means of family planning?

Do some reading up on the medication and how it is meant to be used to see why it is suggested that it be handled with the advice of medical staff?

SeeWahala:
➜It's for pregnancy/birth control in families to practice child spacing techniques.
Why then do you blame the husband for giving his wife such medication?

Here is instead the meaning of the term.

con·tra·cep·tive
/ˌkäntrəˈseptiv/
1. (of a method or device) serving to prevent pregnancy.
2. (noun: contraceptive; plural noun: contraceptives) a device or drug serving to prevent pregnancy.

SeeWahala:
✓ It's obvious you're not married or have no family planning education because if you actually did you'd have realize that taking contraceptives is one of the methods of doing such....-\

You obviously don't know what a contraceptive is or what it is in fact used for, do you?

Flipmac:
✓ My wife noticed that she was pregnant last week. She did a pregnancy test using a test strip. We estimate it to be less than a month old.
So we decided to abort the baby since we aren't ready for another child yet (we have a 1 year old right now).
She took pills to remove the pregnancy (Miso-Fem Misoprostol tablet) on Monday morning. She experienced a heavy period for a whole day and by the next day it stopped.
She decided to do a pregnancy test again this morning to confirm if it worked.
Unfortunately, the pregnancy still showed 2 lines (meaning it's positive), but the second line is faint.
My question is: is she still pregnant? If yes, what can we do to remove it safely? Is there a better medication to buy?.
Please help. I'll send a N5k reward to the best response.

Why do women treat their lives so cheaply all in for the sake of men? OP, call that woman and tell her to match herself to the nearest hospital immediately to ensure that the drug she took did not damage her innards. 😩😩😩

Why are women still so gullible in the year 2025? If it turns out she has incurred damage to her insides because of this nonsense, you, OP, would not think twice to blame her and abandon her for your next victim.

RevenuesBoost:
✓ Thanks for this comment.
They feel attacked because they can’t handle being corrected — they believe they’re always right and that their wives are always to blame.

The fact that you separated your response to the man and the woman in marriage screams problems ahead in your reasoning. Both males and females are humans made up of moods and emotions indicators that are on all throughout the moments of their existence. The fact that you do not realize that both need the exact same set of suggestions in order to ensure success in life including marriage already reveals a major problem in your perception of things.🥱🥱🥱

Omowale2023:
✓What threat?

Do you not know what a threat is or something?

engrchykae:
➜you can understand why the man had a side chick.
➜ The woman is already telling people that she and the kids are suffering.
➜ Some women are plain evil

1. I do not understand why a man who swore to an exclusive contract with his wife has a side chick. Do you equally understand why a woman sworn to her husband would have a side dick?

2. She and the kids are suffering because with the man's attention no longer only on his marriage commitment, those left behind are bound to suffer.

3. The woman is evil for calling out her husband's blatant violation of a vow he made to her in marriage?

Metrofox:
➜Stop protecting your values on us here, Nigerian women are not victims of GBV ,
➜ and they enjoy some of the best male privileges compared to any other women in the world. Your sisters can attest to what Nigerian women enjoy. We don't rape and kill women like SA or India

1. Stop lying! Gender-based violence is commonplace in Nigeria, where in parts of the country, the rape of women is considered an acceptable punishment and not necessarily a crime.

2. Nigerian women enjoy some of the best male privileges? Is it not even a female privilege but a male privilege? Do you even know what a privilege is?

hahn:
Another angle. What's up? Long time

I dey o!

SAMBARRY:
that is not being real. That is being animalistic, controlling and narcissistic. I can never support any bad behaviour from any gender. but I know pickmeshas wey no get sense full nigeria. Them go wan chook head thinking that they can change him until them collect hot breakfast and join the baby mama que. Infact na woman wey them don swear for go gree live with am

. In a sense, these women were raised by society at large to become robots for these narcissistic individuals to prey on. I kind of don't blame them at all; I do blame their parents, particularly the mothers who keep throwing them out there as fodder for these predators.

olabrad:
✓ You can't compare yourself to a man. A man is superior to a woman, no matter what you say.

Yet another brain dead submission. Are you sure you are OK up there?

sorosoke101:
➜I had the worst nagging experience of my life today. chai how can someone complain from 9:45 pm to 3:00 am. What started this argument I don't even know I kept quite for 2 hrs only for me to burst out in anger because I was constantly reminded how I was a failure, how I stole my sister's 5k fifteen years ago, how I spent my own bursary allowance at the university 10 yrs ago, infact all sort of irrelevant accusations where being dug up, it was like a blast from the past and I almost ran mad, not because of the accusations but because of the way those words kept disturbing my peace. This same nagging experience from the past made me buy earphones all the time, but today I couldn't find any. My ears heard a lot and I bursted out in anger and Spit out painful words, cos I was frustrated by the noise. Now am regretting my actions, I should have kept my cool. The regret plus the nagging is suicidal. I just had to play a verse of the Quran (yasin) on my playlist even though am not a Muslim (found that quranic verse on my song list). Have you experienced such before? Whether from family or friends or total strangers

. Have you ever considered going back to apologize for the hurt this person may have felt so long ago, which caused a crack in their psyche and made it difficult for them to process or remove the past from the present? Go back and apologize sincerely for all these past faults or failures of yours, and who knows... You may end up saving her from a heartache or something.

We4all:
✓You need to keep tabs on your enemy na. It is easy to ask her to move on because you are not in her place.

He is not an enemy, though. He is her ex-husband and father of her kid. She does not need to stalk his life at all. She, however, should focus on getting her own life and situation together for her child's future.

TheOldGods:
there is a clear difference between being abusive and being strict
The man only shows he is strict period. There is nothing abusing in what he said. His principles. Either you choose or leave. Go and learn the term abusive my dear and stop using it carelessly

This from someone who clearly does not realize the very meaning of the term abusive?

dominique:
➜I want to believe you saw my last sentence

The first statement contradicts your last is what.

Threedoorsdown:
➜This is how you ladies throw false accusations on men when you don't have your way. Tell me how on earth what he said translated to him being physically abusive or abusive in any sense. If you don't accuse him of being a narcissist it's domestic violence or aggression or even rape. The list goes on It is well with you people

. The list is blatantly narcissistic, and it will, in turn, appeal to individuals(women included) who favor their narcissistic personality. That there is not a list made up for someone looking for a loving, romantic relationship, but clearly an individual seeking (near absolute)control over the other individual(slave) in the relationship.

BuddhaPalm:
➜The guy stated things that will make him WALK AWAY from a relationship. Which part is abusive again?

Does walking away from a relationship after emotionally, verbally, physically, or financially abusing the other partner mean there was literally no abuse involved?

The list literally suggests that any woman in a relationship is stripped of her individuality, a violation of her basic human right...much of what he terms boundaries is literally a stamping out of what are his partner's rights/freedoms.... but you all conveniently turn a blind eye to it to claim absolutely that there is no abuse contained. How?

Your criminal code in Nigeria literally indicates that no human has the right to impede or violate another person's rights as a human. How does the violation of this basic not constitute abuse?

Hypnotise:
His own 19 Commandments of dating, reasonable but e 4 2 add thou shall always be loyal and obedient to complete twenty.

Reasonable in what sense?

If your daughter or sister were to bring home such a man as a suitor, would you consider these ideas reasonable then?

dominique:
People like these are lions on social media and kittens in real life. Na his type dey wash pants behind closed doors. Seriously women need to stay as far away as possible from walking red flags even if they're not as menacing as they appear

This here is the reason why so many women continue to fall prey to toxic men.

A man literally promised to be abusive to any woman he ever gets into a relationship with, but here you are playing down his threats. For what? So you can see women damaged and possibly unalived by him later on, only for you to then switch up and state that he did warn them beforehand?

hahn:
Social media is not real life. Take x influencers seriously at your own peril

Really? But when the police come to investigate these same people, na their social media dem been dey get evidence or clues of their potential crimes from?

Bloomsvilledgit:
Jesus has fulfilled 4 of the 7 feast in Israel. The Feast of trumpet is the next to be fulfilled come September 23rd and 24th 2025. Repent so you can be saved

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Bloomsvilledgit:
Peradventure the rapture happens and you missed it, don't stay in the city. Look for a forest or cave where you can hide and produce your own food. Without the mark you cannot buy or sell. Life will be very difficult. Most importantly don't get caught by the authority. After the rapture there will be one world government, one world police, one world currency. The Nephilims alias Aliens will live among people. The world will experience chaos like never before.

...Again, are you willing to commit to seeing a psychiatrist if this idea fails to come through on those days that you indicated?

budaatum:
➜I wish she would too, but she hasn't. She's however stopped treating him like her 4th child to concentrate on the 3 she has, so he's now surplus to requirements.
Basically, he's lost any relevance and power he once had. Unfortunately, his daughter is seeing him for the pig he is and has lost respect for him too. And while I agree with the daughter, I've ordered her to stop defying her father. Hopefully, she'd heed my encouragement to go uni in China and get away from him.

It is always the children who suffer the most in these ridiculous arrangements.

Procashtips:
➜Whatever burden being carried is not the question here. The question is at what cost?

Maybe you should go back and reread the comment you responded to, as that is what it was about.

ajalawole:
➜it really matter. Who not teach her sibling how to fish rather then giving them fish. When i lost my dad my eldest sister ask us to learn skills and refuse to sponsor our education, I ignore her and went on to sponsor myself and our last born twins in school and it make use distance ourself from her. Here we are now all grown up, she is doing well and own a catarijg school in Lagos. We dey here dey hustle for midnight. Well we are back together now and she has also notice and learn from her mistake even though she is married now..

Well, this is all good for you, but we are not all built the same and do not all mature at the same rate as you, so you should learn not to set yourself as the standard as far as maturity for others. At 21, many of us were still incapable of reasoning life in the way you claim in your comment above.

Nwaikpe:
➜It matters. It very much matters. We have overlooked these for so long that our society has normalized some vices.

Overlooked what exactly?

Procashtips:
➜Even if she's a member of an armed robbery gang, child traffickers, kidnappers or even drug carrier?

Does someone who is a member of any of what you listed there deserve to be made to carry a burden that belongs to their parents or something? 🥱🥱🥱

budaatum:
➜He's a bully. And her religion was, "obey your husband". Then they arrived in UK and her eyes have opened.

I hope she has dumped the unnecessary & toxic, extra baggage since then?

MsJackson:
Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

You don't need to worry about him and his new wife. Focus your energy on the divorce and making sure your child will be taken care of. His other children are his problem.

JoeRizzla:
What does she do for a living ? ...

Does it matter what she does for a living when she is not the parent to those kids and is herself a child in need of parents to care for her?

Bloomsvilledgit:
✓ The Rapture of the church will happen on the 23rd and 24th of September 2025. Yes, you read that correctly.
The Rapture will occur on the Feast of Trumpets, which falls on September 23rd or 24th, 2025.
I know some of you will quote Matthew 24:36: "No one knows the day or hour." And that is true—within those two days, we cannot know the exact moment. Remember, when Jesus said that, He was still on earth in His earthly ministry, so it was natural for Him to say only the Father knew. Now, He is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, seated at the right hand of the Father. Jesus knows the day and the hour. It will happen on either the 23rd or 24th of September 2025. This is why He has revealed the date to our brother Joshua in South Africa.

Be aware that there may also be three days of thick darkness that will cover the whole earth. So, be prepared.

Mark your calendars for September 23rd and 24th, 2025.

Accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior today to be saved and ready for the Rapture.
If you wish to accept Jesus and be born again, pray this prayer:
"Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe that You are the Son of God, that You died on the cross for my sins and rose again. I turn away from my sins and invite You into my life. Be my Lord and Savior. Thank You for saving me. Amen."
Hallelujah!
If you have rapture dreams, pls feel free to share them here.

Op, let's make a bet. If this rapture does not happen on any of the days you insist, will you be willing to make an appointment to seek professional mental health therapy the same week, and then commit yourself to recommended treatment?

MistyDense:
➜But since three days now, I've being asking her to tell me when she began dating that other guy. How long they have being dating and what the current status of their relationship is. She's refused to tell me. She said If she tells me, it will break my heart even more and that she has cut ties with the said guy. I keep insisting on knowing everything but she is not willing to tell me. She said it was during the period I wasn't keeping in touch with her that she gave someone else my position to occupy, but now she realized I'm the best for her. Her roommate is also her tribe and friend. We are all from same tribe. Though, the roommate told me that the guy doesn't live in same town with my girl. I pressed further to know how often they see each other, but the roommate said she doesn't know and that she hasn't even seen the guy before, that they only spoke on the phone just once. They only greeted.
I'm trying not to destroy the relationship between my girl and her roommate so they don't start fighting each other that's why I'm unable to disclose all these details to my girl because if I did, she will know it was her roommate that informed me. I'm only acting on her attitude towards me which led to my suspicion of her cheating on me, and Also acting on her text message telling me that she actually cheated.
➜Ma, what do I do?

OP, both of these people are two immature beings who don't need to be in relationships at this point. There are red flags spread all over this story that these two should not be dating until after they have each come to understand what they are each looking for in a relationship.

2. Break up with the gal and try to do some self-reflecting. That could help him better understand a lot about himself in the meantime.