₦airaland Forum

ala2222:
The boy is from umunya in Oyi local government area anambra state ,his Snr brother name is ala nwa otu

What does that mean? I hope his name has spread wide and far, so any silly girls thinking of getting a boyfriend would know to avoid him, please.

Weknowbetter:
Apprentice? He is already a master

An obvious fool is a master to you? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

CHAQUR:
➜Right or wrong...! Good or bad...! The young man has just proved to the feminists that, there is nothing like gender equality. May be still when I will see a female human species that will carry the pregnancy of at least 3 guys in a year.
➜Girls are gullible... Forget about their sharp fake artificial make up looks.

Why do you people reason worse than Tambolo? This boy basically ruined his life by having 10 babies in less than a year with 10 different gals, babies he will have to either spend most of his young years —at least paying half for each of them— or spend it running away, satisfying himself a deadbeat — his parents will, of course, have to bear the consequences. Each of the girls involved will only have to bear a tiny fraction of what he has to deal with, probably for the rest of his life, even in all of this. So, what do you claim he has proved, and to whom? Gosh! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Girls are gullible, and this total eediot of a boy is proof of that? Are you people alright at all? Who do una this wicked thing for, Pete's sake? 😩😩😩😩😩😩

shinaola21:
➜🌺 Life is not hard man,I'll also call someone and talk to her romantically... Do me I do you..

You will ever be doing yourself in this.

Rhymesy:
➜How do you feel when a woman you love and cherish most constantly picks romantic calla in your presence?

It means she is not into you, and your so-called love is meaningless to her. If you have yet to realize that, for the blatant red flag it is, then I expect you are well on your way to ending up as one of the many bitter, rejected male specimens that litter Nairaland today.

My advice to you is that you run away from her and don't ever look back.

Toymax88:
➜Update. I received another call today from NSCDC Agodi that they would come to my place of work to arrest me if I failed to come to IBADAN on Monday 12th May, 2025.
➜But the KWARA STATE command of the NSCDC (gender unit and tracking unit) were fully aware of the matter right from the beginning. I even paid #20k for tracking her when their whereabouts was not known. After 5 weeks of unsuccessful tracking, my money was refunded. I would find time to visit the KWARA STATE Command of the NSCDC

1. Why would they want to arrest you? For the assault charge your baby mama filed against you?

2. Isn't this a different situation entirely from the case filed against you by your babymama in Ibadan? Are you confusing both things as the one and the same or something?

Fraudsters! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

altteemy:
➜In his furst post, he mentioned sending money for school fees, school bag and shoes. He also mentioned that he would prefer making future payments directly to the school. With this alone, he has a good stand with the welfare department. Even if he is not given the kids, the fact that the welfare could compel his wife to register the kids in school would be a great step.
➜ If he leaves them now to chase more money, the harm of a spoilt basic education would have been done to the innocent kids.

You are right that he is the more competent parent in all of this but let's revisit the facts here, shall we?

⚉ OP himself chose this uneducated, unskilled woman as the mother of his kids. If he had chosen an educated woman who valued education, maybe this problem would have been halved right from before the children were even born
⚉ The uneducated, unskilled woman also has a mother who values the education of her own grandkids less than she does, having apprentices to work with her in her ogogoro store
⚉ Nigeria is a place where commonsense is rare to find - he could demand they be sent to school and even pay for it but in the end, we all know that the chances are higher that his request will be ignored at the end by the welfare department in question and the mother of the kids given what he has relayed so far.

I say all of this to posit that I have no trust in the Welfare department that exists in Nigeria today; that is why I feel OP should stick to the courts in trying to fight for custody first.

2. The children are always the victims in all of this.

MufasaLion:
➜Stop this blackmail. He was showing care and he was denied the audience with his child. He stopped the financial aid just for a while just to show he is not a fool! You can't keep collecting money from someone and still be denying him the right to his "flesh and blood!" Stop talking with both sides of your mouth.

"Showing care" and this to his own flesh and blood? Why you folks bother with having children, whom you only offer these limited "showing care" exercises to... I don't understand😩😩😩😩😩

Sunmars:
➜While I went want to agree with you, these are his kids we are talking about right here. Children are like buildings. If the foundation is not well laid, there might be problems in future and then the opportunity is lost to correct it. All he wants is just to for his kids to be attending school. What kind of evil mother will resist this?
➜ My brother op, just do your best as God has enabled you. I wish you luck. Dont relent

. Most of you act like you don't understand the minds of the average Nigerian out there. OP had a child with a woman who herself was barely educated, if at all. The woman's mother is probably a stack illiterate herself who never saw value in the education system before and even now. How is she evil for resisting what she does not see as beneficial for her grandchildren, particularly given the reality of life in that country today?

2. Why use the mention of this deity of yours to excuse what is nonchalance?

😩😩😩

MufasaLion:
➜He did what he had to do. Stop rushing to comment under people's post without a logical thought.

Abandoning his children — his DNA i.e., flesh and blood—to the whims of others is of logical thought is yours, right? You people never cease to amaze with the sort of conclusions you come up with.

funmibi29:
✓ Good afternoon Nairalanders,
I had an encounter like this at the same office. I went to their office to make a former report and to invite my wife and mother in law. I paid the same amount you paid. They even directed me to a man like that at the government house to give the money to buy The following week my wife responded to the invitation and came. I met with the officer a woman named Mrs Adenrele at the welfare office. To cut the long story short , what we concluded there with in the presence of my wife was that I will be paying money for the upkeep of my daughter and she will be coming to their office to collect it every 2 months because she stays at Ijebu Igbo and whenever she is coming she will come with my child for me to see . I did it for sometimes but I couldn't see my child and the welfare continue giving her the money contrary to our agreement not knowing that the welfare officer name Aderenle Mrs has collaborated with my wife and mother in law. I stopped sending money once I noticed and the woman started calling me that I have not send the previous month. I told her straight that am not sending since am not seeing my child. She is so callous, it's an office that should be eradicated since is not giving results. All what they know is money,and money. I will advice you not to waste your precious time and money. Just say a prayer for your child.

This is a very cold response from a human being who wants us to believe he is a caring father. I don talk am say Nigeria, as a majority, do not understand what love is or how the love their own flesh and blood. 😩😩😩😩😩

abc115:
He should be arrested and prosecuted

Fined, not arrested.

Teymanhenry:
✓ Sex shamming?? Nah it is what it is and I know a gender which most of them hate the truth. Kiss the truth or keep on living the lie

Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

Babangidapikin:
Technology should make things easy, wonder why we are not practicing egoverment .. just yesterday I saw a dead body on Ibadan express way between a church and an industry with head and hand chopped off, drying in the sun of a lady with stripes cloth ... At least in Lagos you have a short code number to call, I don't know who to call in Ibadan .. no day I pass that express way towards that direction I don't see dead body.

And this is 2025 we live in. You can just imagine where Nigeria will still be in 2030. 😩😩😩😩

altteemy:
..., what he is chasing now is that his kids be sent to school instead of being used by the grandmother to hawk ogogoro.

Ever heard the saying, "Action speaks louder than words?" OP says that is what he says wants; it is up to him to ensure his actions are equally guided in the direction of that which he says he desires. 🤔

Loseyii:
The joy of a father is to be alive to witness growth like this

You said it, Joy! Many deadbeat dads and moms look forward to the chance to cash in on the marrying off of children they had no hand in raising or grooming.

ogbonti:
Na all the money him spend on the daughter dey pain am --- after all the Daddy buy me this buy me that - all the love and care
now you are faced with the reality that she is gong away to another family - bearing another name
probably IF she has to save one of her drowning dad or husband - she will rather save her husband
all those sacrifices for years - school fees - buy books - birthday parties - christmas gifts - sick days - stress and all that - she will even drop your
name and answer a name you do not know where it is coming from - and before she gives you her opinion now on anything
she must first consult her husband -- look as a father of a female child - me too i taya no be small

Storyland! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Teymanhenry:
✓ Her cup of tea and probably yours too. You can defend every ills you do. But as long as it pleases you, keep on doing it. It'll generate some funds and grow you a fortune outta it.

You mean like your previous comment sex shaming her does for you?

spayor:
➜So why put the blame on the man?
➜Thats my disappointment...abi u no read ahm well...they're both to blame.
➜Why making it seem as though, only the man hurt her...

1. The relationship— the one she is wailing about — contract was with the man and not her sister.

2. Not necessarily! She can castigate her sister for not caring about her at all, but the one who broke off her marriage was really the man and not the sister.

3. The man used his sister to hurt her. I didn't imply that he alone hurt her, but this post is regarding her marriage, and that contract was explicitly with the man and not with the sister.

Teymanhenry:
✓ Her cup of tea. It's noteworthy that she'll keep on jumping from one dick to the other and most probably end up a 45 year old sadistic and frustrated retired olosho

Aren't you folks tired of sex shaming women while you conveniently ignore the fact that men have equally been vagina-surfing all this while? Are all the sadistic, frustrated, some retired, people on Nairaland who go from thread to thread wailing over females also women? 🙄🙄

It's 2025.... Get over yourselves already!

SmartyPants:
✓ Even when the write-up clearly says she was arrested? Softly softly ma/sir.

The OP has been updated since I entered my comment which I have now updated. :🙄🙄🙄🙄

GoodSpirit:
➜You just showed how d u m b you you are, check the bolded you highlighted, isn't it both the girlfriends and him that will foot the bills of the unborn children? U just want shalaye but turned out to be d u m b,. Make una dey use una frontal lobe correctly during communication, q simple reading and comprehension would have taken you out of this dilemma. You dey talk about maths to someone you can't even lace his shoes with regards to the subject matter .
Once evening paper hear both of you (father and mothers) will take charge of the well-being of the child, you started shouting deadbeat , person wey never born dey shout deadbeat dad? Una no dey ever get deadbeat mother for una dictionary? Abeg shift

I see say language comprehension don fail this one tay tay...!!

Kobojunkie:
You know maths at all? The boy will be paying about half of the cost for each of the 10 babies, while each girl will only be paying half of the cost for just one child. Slowly reason that for a minute before you respond, so you understand how he may have fast-tracked his life status to deadbeat dad by this.

Axis313:
➜I feel for the woman,at least if the husband is cheating with women,she knows how to compete with her fellow gender but how can she compete with men for her husband's love.

Why should she compete for nonsense?

jocelynor:
➜21 Year Old Gulshana Riaz Khan Accused of Marrying 12 Men and Disappearing After Each Wedding
Gulshana Riaz Khan, a 21-year-old girl has allegedly married at least 12 men, only to vanish within hours, taking away jewellery, cash and other valuables she received in the multiple marriages.
Each incident follows a near-identical script. The wedding takes place, the groom and his family are full of hope, and before the celebrations can settle, the bride is "abducted" where she disappears with the loot.
In real life, Gulshana is married to Riyaz Khan, a tailor from Jaunpur, Uttar Pradesh, who reportedly receives a 5 per cent share of her gang’s earnings. On Thursday, her run came to an end when Ambedkar Nagar police arrested her along with eight members of the syndicate near Kasadaha village. Gulshana and her gang confessed to defrauding at least 12 families. Their strategy included fake identities, fake documents and emotional manipulation of families struggling to find matches for their sons.
Once the “settlement amount” was received, the bride vanished. Police have filed cases under multiple sections of the Bharatiya Nyaya Sanhita related to cheating, criminal conspiracy and forgery

Her husband is probably the one pimping and using her to rip other men off. We are still talking of a woman in India, after all.

femi4:
You have Internet, use Google

Again, What you have today is the exact same traditional marriage system you had back in the 50s and 60s. The system hasn't change much at all in all of that time.

femi4:
Can we really go back to what tradition really demanded in the 50s n 60s and compare to what's obtainable today

. What you have today is the exact same traditional marriage system you had back in the 50s and 60s.

IbeOkehie:
➜I get it. You're just catching cruze...provocative for the heck of it. Thanks all the same. Good Luck to Nigerians.

That would best describe you given you keep insisting on ideas that have been tried and seen to be of no real value in almost all 774 LGAs in Nigeria.

IbeOkehie:
1. I'm Igbo. When I was a teen and young adult, even well into the early 2010's, it was anathema to have a child outside marriage. The social opprobium of an unwanted pregnancy discouraged most persons, especially women, from indulging. Even TODAY birthing children outside marriage is NOT a serious problem in Igboland, but it is an increasing trend.
2. Morality is natural. Most human beings instinctively know that MURDER is immoral and wrong. Nowhere among humans is THEFT considered normal behavior. Most people know right from wrong. Premarital sex is a poses high risks to both individuals and society.
3. Premarital chastity makes sense for the common good. It's not fashionable for some complex reasons that would take too much space to explore.
➜ The Negro communities of the US & UK are good examples of the likely outcomes if Nigerians don't wake up to the danger. Good Luck to Nigeria.

1. Early 2010s, right? Google the teenage pregnancy rate in the South East before 2000 and around that same 2010 to see what the numbers say, despite the general idea you had of it at that time.

2. Well, morality is fluid since, in some cases, most humans would consider murder a justifiable act, so don't even start a discussion you are not ready for.

3. Again, premarital chastity has been recorded even before the 2000s in Nigeria, yet during all of that time, the teenage pregnancy rate in that same country has not decreased for a moment. Clearly, it does not work to argue for pre-marital chastity. Abi, how else person explain this one to you to make you understand?

4. Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

femi4:
gold digger

They are sanctioned by the traditional marriage system, which is considered the norm and most honorable by many a Nigerian man.