₦airaland Forum

IbeOkehie:
➜Prevention is better than cure. In the UK, over 33% of children born to Black African immigrants and their descendants are born to single, unwed mothers.
➜ It's time for Nigerian parents and communities in general to take serious steps to clamp down on pre-marital sexual promiscuity. By whatever method....strong moral instruction, physical measures or whatever. Something has to be done. Nigeria is becoming an AMORAL society, a nayou. It's a serious matter.
➜ Truth is, Nigeria, family & extended family ties are the only threads holding Nigeria together. Weakening those ties will lead to a disaster. Good Luck to Nigerians.

1. The very same problems exist in Nigeria; this is just a picture of it. So, why point to the UK example? Also, you want to prevent it by insisting we continue to pay money for the same stewpid idea that has so far failed Nigerians to this day, why?

2. Strong moral instruction? Whose idea of moral will this be? Yours? Mine? The one from this boy's village, or where?

3. That statement makes no sense to me, abeg! 😂😂😂😂

kushme:
➜If the man buys the woman with his money, he bought her loyalty as well. Don't you think so?
But i like singing this line. "Money can't buy me loveeee".

I think subscribe is more appropriate term to use, not buy, since the term buy suggests he can own her—loyalty included—for life with just a one-time payment. He has to keep bringing money to the table to keep the woman's loyalty, along with her submission, as his own. That is the traditional relationship/marriage system in Nigeria. The man is the provider while the woman submits wholly to him during this time.

But what happens when the man is no longer able to provide? What happens when the traditional marriage/relationship system requirement can no longer be met by the man, when he becomes unemployed or incapacitated? Well, once the money runs out, the system subscription is over, leaving the woman with the option to move on to other subscribers or renegotiate the contract that initially existed with her and the man. Either choice is reasonable.

IbeOkehie:
➜The new reality SHOULD BE that everyone must be ready the shoulder the results of their sexual activity, whether the sexual partner is ready or not. Everyone knows that sexual activity can result in pregnancy, birth of a child, incurable sexual disease, heart ache and depression and more, most especially outside marriage. The PEOPLE of Nigeria should pursue the restoration of sexual rectitude, chastity until marriage and respect for the natural instincts of the opposite gender.
➜ Nothing owned or controlled by government brings positive long term outcomes. The kind of action you're recommending has DESTROYED the nuclear family in other countries where it has become the norm.
➜ Nothing about public policy bothers Nigerians, but reasonable people need to spread the world and prevent the societal dislocation that will result from overbearing government involvement in sexual and family relations. Good Luck to Nigerians.

1. I disagree! Sexual rectitude and chastity until marriage have never been done away with in Nigeria. And it has never stopped the population increase at any point in time, meaning it was never an effective approach.

2. Nuclear family destroyed by the government? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This boy here impregnated 10 different girls. Does it seem to you that the nuclear family model has anything to do with what he was going for or aiming for? Na government carry him prick dey run upandan? 😂😂😂😂

3. So, you would rather, Nigerians continue to abandon their children and responsibilities on the streets, and crime continue to thrive and flourish as a result?

Habib101:
➜This girls must have an empty head to fall into his trap and having an intercourse with him, he must have put his mother into different kinds of blood pressure, it even by God grace of she is still alive sef

The boy's head is emptier than that of the girls in this; he is literally a first-class slowpoke. He now has 10 children to potentially care for for the rest of his life; each of the girls has only one child to worry about. In addition to this, he has literally propelled his own mother(and possibly father) into a situation more difficult than probably that which they had to deal with while raising him.😑😑😑😑

GoodSpirit:
➜Himself and his girlfriends will cater for the babies not just him....

You know maths at all? The boy will be paying about half of the cost for each of the 10 babies, while each girl will only be paying half of the cost for just one child. Slowly reason that for a minute before you respond, so you understand how he may have fast-tracked his life status to deadbeat dad by this.

Belurved1:
➜Just try to think deep next time with your common sense, I understand it hasn't be easy for you.

Stop rambling for the sake of it... It is noise that you produce and nothing but!

Belurved1:
➜Oga, even if you're been raised by single mother and your own story is different, just thank God.
Don't ever underrate father's influence on child upbringing.

Stop ranting! Nothing in that story hints at the boy having been raised by a single mother nor any of what you claim. 🙄🙄🙄

Tzar:
➜I don't blame the females , It is the male weaklings that nauseate me. I only call the females out because i know both genders will NEVER win with the current dynamics. It only builds a critical but dangerous mass af angry , logical and determined males that don't mind wiping out a large population of degenerate males. That will be a very dangerous situation for humanity in general. There will be so many collateral damage that more female and children will be wiped out than the degenerate males.

Dangerous mass my arse... why have we never ever seen them before? All these cases of maladaptive daydreaming wey full Africa so... na wa!

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
➜Of course. Ten girls are currently inconvenienced by pregnancy. Boy still has his life intact and can go ahead to impregnate more girls if opportunity presents itself. The girls should have known better. I call it their fault.

He has his life in tact where? In the same village that now knows he has 10 girls pregnant for him abi na for where his oga shop dey wey him don impregnate oga daughter put? You people like to refuse reality any chance you get. His case is with the authorities, meaning that unless he runs away completely from all of those places, he will be saddled with the responsibility of not one but 10 kids for at least the rest of his young years.

Honestey:
Starboy, instead of learning, he was actually teaching. Now the girls will have full motherhood experience in next one year

All this while he is saddled with being the father of over 10 children for the rest of his life. I don't think his life will ever be the same in that village or his, and he is probably cursed himself with extreme poverty until his very death by this.

abobote:
➜Same situation I'm facing right now, my apprentice impregnated my neighbour's daughter.
Though he is 30yrs and due for settlement this year and the is 22yrs

Tell your neighbor he should get that case reported so he ensures his daughter gets child support since the couple aren't married. No, let that man run away, leaving the girl to shoulder all of the responsibility of raising that child. The new reality in Nigeria should be one where every pregnant woman ensures a case is filed in the courts to mandate the father of the child to pay child support every month until the child grows to age 16.

It costs nothing to get a woman pregnant, but it costs 10s of millions of naira to raise the consequence — the child—into a decent enough citizen of Nigeria. No, let that man run o!

Hotcomedynews:
➜Get NAPTIP involved, that boy at 18 must have pregnanted underaged girls among those 10 of his victims.
He needs to be properly oriented.

His case is done with since the authorities already have his name and information, as well as that of the girls he impregnated.

Olat4421:
➜lolz he his a stupid boy is okay what of d girls he convince to impregnate are they not d stupid

Stewpid attracts stewpids, that's for sure. However, the boy is the most stewpid in all of this, given he now has 10 potential children to care for for most of his life, while each of the girls here only has about one child to worry about.

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
➜The only reason he could impregnate all those girls was because he didn't use cond*m, nothing else. These genz girls have no shame. Once you prove to be ready to smash any girl without shame, they'll be coming around you codedly to collect and clean mouth. Older girls, responsible girls, respectable girls whatever you might call it; the only thing they think about is sex. Check their TikTok reels and videos, nothing else other than exposing body parts and romancing before the camera. If that boy lives in a general compound, e sure me die say some married aunties go still dey collect around 2am even with these impregnation stories. You don't know that gender. Their feelings trump everything else, including reason.

It is the fault of the girls that the boy did not wear condoms?

Belurved1:
Raised by single mother

Nonsense assertion!

immortalcrown:
➜Three things:
1. He is probably endowed and energetic, and those who experienced him spread the news.
2. He has high libido.
3. He is promiscuous and could not stick to one or two girls.
If not, what will make 8 girls flirt with him to the extent of pregnancy? Not just one, two or three girls. Is he the only boy in the area? Some of the impregnated girls may even be older than he.
Well, each of his baby mamas will cater for herself and her baby.

I seriously doubt that given his name and the names of all of the girls he impregnated are known to the authorities. He is likely going to have a very, very hard life both in his village and financially after this.

Toymax88:
➜But no smoke without fire!!!
➜ Like I said earlier, she's destructive. I have the pictures of all the household items she destroyed which I had wanted to present as evidence.

Nonsense! You have no legal right to assault another human being, and so you may end up having criminal charges leveled against you in this. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Well, you could have simply taken those to the police and had the police require she pay you back for the damage. You reaching out to assault her is a completely different thing entirely. You made things bad for yourself there. Stay away from her and your mother from this point on, at least or she might even consider reporting you as a stalker.

mjuvey3:
➜This message of yours is for the low esteemed, gullible simps we have in this country,not me.

You may refer to them as low-self-esteem gullible simps, but the fact is that Nigerian society places such people on a pedestal — men willing to stand as providers for women whom they, in return, are to expect loyalty from; the traditional system of marriage honors men who opt to live as providers, promising them the reward of loyalty and submission from the woman in such relationships. When such men are no longer able to provide— fail at their traditionally required roles—, this woman here is telling you what should be expected to happen.

yusman14:
➜It is true. It is something I have experienced many times. A lady will be selected ahead of a guy just because she is beautiful, meanwhile she isn't capable of the position.

Are you sure you are OK?😶😶😶😶

So, it does not matter to you that behind the scenes, such women are taken advantage of — some having to sleep with their bosses to remain employed, something she needs—since you have made up your mind to consider it an advantage?

Tzar:
Since these young stupid cats choose to buy love as the simps that they are… good luck to this weak generation! The old Gs ONLY buy love when they start having erectile dysfunction and need to compensate. But these foolish boys create the jezebels that will destroy them because of their weaknesses. A generation of simps just nauseates me.
They are the once that indulge characters like this dumb girl.

Jezebel was instead a very talented politician who knew how to use her husband's power to her benefit.

yusman14:
➜Women actually have better chance of job compared to men.
➜The lady just have to be beautiful and bursty, most companies will employ her, while the over qualified men will miss out on the job because he doesn't have ass and breast

That has never been true in Nigeria and is still not true even today.

➜ What you saying is that the sexual exploitation of women is an advantage for women over men? I hope you would think this way too if the one sexploited is either your mother, your wife, or your daughter?

JovialJune:
➜You see, NIigerian men are not ready for this conversation, they will never accept a balanced marriage because it's a taboo to their nonexistent self esteem and ego.

Is OP himself ready for the conversation, given the scenarios he posed in his own comment?

Nnamdipapa:
If my wife makes triple my income, I will make sure food is ready at home and actively participate in home chores.
If I bring all the money, then she does her traditional role of a full time housewife.

😂😂😂😂

Daluvy29:
➜Poor African mentality of ladies especially those who believes they are beautiful. You have hand too and brain, you can work and make money.

The traditional marriage system in Africa does not require that women use their brains and work and make money, though. So, why are you attacking women for something that is societally a norm?

profmallor:
➜But she just said the truth, and it doesnt apply only to seemingly run girls. it applies to all women. Your value as a man in the eyes of most women is tied to the size of your wallet. So try to be comfortable.

She speaks more to those in the traditional system of relationships in Nigeria, where the man expects he can buy the trust and loyalty of the woman. The man continues to do so for as long as she remains appealing to him.

SUNNINO:
Life is full of uncertainty, no man wish to see his family suffer

Yet there are 10s of millions of families suffering as a result of the choices and decisions made by these men who you claim do not wish to see their families suffer. What does that say about the men in question?

TouchNfollow:
➜https://www.facebook.com/share/r/15K9iz5GmY/

Do people still fall for this?

InfoGuru118:
An 18-year-old apprentice has allegedly impregnated 10 girls within a period of five months, including his master’s daughter and a salesgirl in Anambra State, News360 Nigeria reports.
According to reports, the young man was sent to learn a trade under a master, but within just three months, he had impregnated both his boss’s daughter and a salesgirl working in the same shop. This development led to his immediate dismissal from the apprenticeship.
The Anambra State Commissioner for Women and Social Welfare, Ify Obinabo, made this known during a live social media broadcast on Wednesday. Obinabo revealed that after the boy was sent packing, he returned to his village where the situation escalated. Within two months, he allegedly impregnated eight more girls in the community.
Obinabo said, “I want advice from the public because this one is beyond my capacity. This boy was sent to learn a trade at the age of 18. After three months, he impregnated his master’s daughter and the salesgirl. He was sent away, and two months later, he impregnated eight other girls in the village.”
The Commissioner added that the boy’s mother personally came to her office to report the situation. “According to her, anytime she sees a girl coming towards their house now, her heart skips because she’s afraid of what might happen,” Obinabo narrated.

What kind of useless story is this one? If he is the father of all 10 kids, then he should be made responsible for his part of the child support payment— each of the girls is responsible for the rest, of course — until each of those children also turns 18. His wages should be garnished in the case of non-payment. The boy should also be used as an example for every other girl in his village looking to have a deadbeat as a father for her child, since the chances are this boy won't become a decent provider to any of his many broods anytime soon.

Negroid001:
➜He will use you before he goes broke. This guy know wetin him dey do. If not, he for don pursue am comot for car since.

Storyland! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

See this one attempting to sex-shame women in the year 2025... Africans, who do una this thing, abeg?

Ayatullah:
➜Greedy, uncultured and shameless Nigerian Lady opening her big stinking mouth. Man, what else do you want to hear before you know you have met a devilish lady? Drop her at the next bus stop.

Stop rambling! She is proclaiming the traditional relationship system celebrated across Nigeria with her chest. How does that make her the greedy, uncultured one you claim?

simpleseyi:
➜So women cannot make money to take care of children they carried in their womb for 9 months. ➜Are those women cursed with poverty or is it you who is poverty cursed?
➜ This is they type of children raised at broken homes

If a man chooses to have for himself a woman who cannot make money to take care of the children he has with her, is she in the wrong for accepting the full sponsorship offered her by the man?

2. Are the men who accept to fully sponsor these women equally cursed for marrying under what is considered the traditional system of marriage even today in Nigeria?

3. Nonsense claim since, as we speak, the traditional marriage system is still hailed by so many Nigerian men, mind you, not women, as the best marriage system out there. Let's stop shifting blame here!

wizod:
If I am the man, I will leave her immediately because I have already seen a red flag not to continue

So, long as the same man goes off purchasing the loyalty of the next woman, he is bound to end up with the same thing happening to him.

BItt:
✓ Women will leave you when you don't have money again, so guard your money jealously

Men who go buying women are not themselves looking to be loyal to them. So, why should the woman be expected to do what the man had no intentions of, to begin with?