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barinedan:
Any dressing that exposes your sensitive body parts is ungodly as a christian

The Christian unaware that every man and woman is born naked into this world, making dressing/clothing an issue of at least secondary importance to humans?

cutecommend:
Dress to glorify God.

To glorify god that made men and women enter into this life butt naked?

MrHandsome2013:
➜I hate my dad not because he was poor but he didn’t learn from his mistakes. He is not fit to be a father. Imagine father that never inculcated the spirit of love among his children. The hatred that existed between him and his siblings. He used it to train his kids in that way. Imagine being lucky having a father that bring his children together, tell them to stand for one another

Your mother allowed him to do all of this to her own children?

Tolu2024:
➜While some wish they have a father figure in their life. This life is unfair to be honest

No one I have ever encountered has ever wished to have a terrible person for a father. Life is not the problem here; terrible fathers/and mothers who give them to their children are.

Worryingly:
➜SMH. That she's my niece doesn't mean I'm her only surviving relative. She has a grandfather, who is also my father.

But I don't see why it matters that you are not, though? In your OP, you presented yourself as someone who loves this girl as a father would love his child. I see now that isn't necessarily the case at all. Seems it may be best to ask that you inform her grandfather of the plight of his grandchild in marriage. Anyways, is your father—her grandfather— aware of the fact that his grandchild is being bullied — mentally assaulted — by her husband? If not, please inform him immediately so the girl can get a relative to maybe come to her rescue in all of this.

Daniel058:
➜John 3:16 " For God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son that who ever believe in him should not perish but have everlasting life.
➜ Before ascending to heaven, Jesus commanded his disciples to go into all nations, baptizing them and teaching them to obey his commandments (Matthew 28:19-20). This demonstrates his concern for the salvation of all nations, including Gentiles. The Bible clearly states that Gentiles can receive salvation through faith in Jesus Christ. Acts 15:10 states, "It is my judgment therefore, that we should not trouble those from among the Gentiles who turn to God, but rather write to them that they abstain from things polluted by idols, from sexual immorality, from the meat of strangled animals, and from blood."

1. In John 3 vs 14 - 15, Jesus Christ of Israel, whom you pretend to quote there, made it abundantly clear that He would be raised up as a bronze serpent to the very same people whom Moses raised a bronze snake to in the desert. Thereby drawing a parallel line between the World that YHWH, God of Israel, loves and the World comprised of the descendants of Israel to whom He, YHWH, sent Moses to raise a bronze snake in the desert.

The nations, which Jesus Christ said He was sent to by YHWH, His Father, He made clear, were the Lost sheep of Israel - the bloodline of Jacob. That is what is contained in that book which you pretend you quote from.

So, again, why bother when the YHWH, the God of Israel, made it abundantly clear in the writings of His own chosen people that He is God of Israel alone?

Daniel058:
➜Sometimes I'm confused. Is the bible Telling us the truth about who God truly is? Is God truly all knowing God ,Does knw the future, is it true that he's omniscient God? If He is Why did he created Lucifer who is going to disobey/offend him?

What does it matter to you whether he knows everything or not? YHWH gave Himself the title of God of Israel, implying that He, YHWH, only answered to the descendants of the man called Jacob, to whom He, YHWH, gave the name Israel. I guess my question to you is, are you a blood descendant of Jacob, that you would worry about Him?

Religion don damage the brains of many finish!

Toymax88:
➜I don't think the court will grant me the custody of the children considering their age : 11 years, 7 years, 9 months. I always enjoy your input

. Let the courts decide what it will decide AFTER you have filed for custody and presented evidence/reason for your filing. Not many years ago, FFK filed and gained full custody of his baby in those same Nigerian courts after proving his wife was not competent to have him. Your case is different in that the woman in question is not a wife, but still, you could always argue that you are a more resourceful parent than your baby mama. That might help tip the court in your favor. I think shared custody would make sense in your case. I suggest you find and consult a lawyer first.

maasoap:
➜Suit yourself, who cares? Leave submission to housewives who cherish and love it, ....

Na only housewives dey cherish and love it. Husbands no fit? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

1Sharon:
➜What's right about it? She's a submissive provider. He doesn't work.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That's a good one! 😂😂😂😂

Toymax88:
➜Thanks , I have taken down the picture. My request is simple and short. They should enrol the children in public schools, I will be sending you the necessary materials to the class teachers, this didn't go down well with the babies mama.
➜ I just want the children in schools, I'm not interested in the relationship again

. Unless the state they live in requires that all children of that age be enrolled in school, I don't see the meaningfulness of this request of yours. Plus, we are talking about Nigeria, where the court says one thing and does nothing at all. If you truly want your children to be in school, then you should be asking for custody of your kids so you can put them in school yourself.

2. Take your kids and put them in school yourself. I doubt the woman herself is interested in a relationship with you either, since she has been refusing your calls, and her mother also rejects your visits. If the woman does not show up tomorrow, ask the courts how to gain custody of the kids so you can ensure they are put in school, if not this term, maybe the next.

Goshen5:
➜ during the pregnancy he gives her money to take care of herself until she put to birth,during the child bearing he bought everything for the child bearing and pays all her bills.at a point the girl’s family got fade up and told him that since there daughter doesn’t want to change if he sees someone better he should go ahead and marry. which he did around 2022.then one day she posted suicide note threatening to kill her self and the child.which he involved police and they rescued her from the suicide. he later realized that she was using the pregnancy to extort money from 3 different men,telling them that they are the father of her child. he realized last year when he went to visit the child,I think he had a confrontation with one of the man and the man said everything, immediately he took the child for a dna luckily for him he was the father and he is the one paying the child fees, child clothing,house rent and he gives her 200k every month for the child’s feeding and she also collects money from the other men.
➜ Last year he gave her 5m to start up a business around 2023 so that she can be using it to take care of the boy which she went and bought a car that she is not driving but yet he is still giving her the 200k every month. one of the said father is threatening that if he doesn’t have the child no body will that when he comes back to Nigeria that heaven will get loose because he stay in America and this guy threatening all this, his cousin is living with her and the child because the said cousin begged her that he is having a house issue.
➜And my friend has never been disturbed because of the age limit,his child just clocked 4 years you know considering Nigerian rigorous court processes,but now we realized that she smokes loud and all manner of smoke in the child’s presence and bring different men to the house and also sleeps with women in the same house,that is she practices lesbianism and we are afraid she would influence the little child and my friend has video evidences of all this practices and the evil she does and also has a chat she had with different men where she was telling them that they are the father of the child and why they should send money for the child’s upkeep.
➜ Sometimes the school authority will call my friend that the child is still in school and once my friend calls his wife she will immediately run to go and pick the child and most times the child goes to school from his house and is the wife that normally take her own child and the boy to school. his fear now is this,her younger sister that was staying with her always call my friend to go and retrieve his child before she spoil him,because of her attitude her people came and carried their younger sister staying with her and little girl always tell my friend how her elder sister brings in different girls and men to sleep in there house and the girl should be about 12 or 13 years old.so he is thinking of involving human right and his wife said he should try and retrieve the child before things go bad because his wife loves the child the way she loves her own son.

Why blame the courts for your friend's hesitation? Why has he refused to legally claim the child and even fight for custody(even if shared) before now? He is not married to the woman, so he would need to claim custody to get the child admitted as his own. And according to you, your friend currently has a wife now, which may be another reason for complications in this. So, what exactly does your friend want and why he has refused to go to the courts to file a suit for it up until now?

Toymax88:
➜Tomorrow Monday (5th May, 2025) is the date set for us to meet at the Oyo state ministry of women affairs and social inclusions, ONIREKE, IBADAN.
I just spoke with the officer in charge and she told me that the mother in-law didn't accept the letter of invitation sent by the ministry. She said that when an officer got to the address,she met with women but she rejected the letter of invitation, so the officer called his office (ministry) to inform his superior about the refusal to accept the letter and he was asked to give the phone to the "MIL". They introduced her to tell my "wife" to make herself available tomorrow at the ministry. I called my wife but she didn't respond to my calls, she's deflecting my calls. I called the officer in charge again to be very sure if these people will show up tomorrow, they ask me to come
My question is this What if they didn't show up? What's the next step? As the schools resumed last week, my children are not enrolled in schools, probably helping the MIL to sell OGOGORO in her shop. This is second week of RESUMPTION, out of 13 weeks that make up a term.
Considering the cost of transportation these days, I want to set out for the journey as early as possible. Kindly push to the front page, pls it's very urgent . Attached is the picture of the mother in-law, she lives @ BARIKA UI second gate (IBADAN)

You better bring that picture of that woman down since you are violating her right by posting it. You are not married to the woman in question, nor are you then directly related to the MIL, therefore, you have no direct dealings with her. She has every right to accuse you of harassing her.

Your MIL did not accept the letter because, legally, she is not obligated to accept any letter from the courts that is not directed to her. Your woman is the one the letter is supposed to be addressed to, and she alone is the one obligated in this. As for what will happen if she does not show up, well, that all depends on a whole slew of things. Wait till you get to the courts and hear what should happen next. You may be required to get yourself a lawyer and the girl too.

Worryingly:
➜In fairness, theres no physical abuse. Only verbal and emotional.

Nonsense talk! 😑😑😑😑

Consider the effects his own abuse—gaslighting— has had so far on you. Na small thing e be? Take the girl back home and let your manipulative friend go f-ck himself.

Worryingly:
➜Along the line, he told.me.he liked my niece and with my consent, they got married.
The problem now is that he treats my niece/daughter very badly. Loads of emotional and verbal abuse even accusing her of killing her parents and how she is useless and not up to his standard. I have interceded a couple of times, but no signs of the issue abating. He has no regard for me, and relates with me like a nobody. And covertly disrespects me.
Now, each time I want to take things up seriously with him, I'm reminded that he has been very kind to me. How he helped me over the years. That without him, I wouldnt have made it. Even to the extent of telling people that I'm ungrateful. That despite everything he did for me, I'm keeping malice with him.
➜ I maintained that while I genuinely appreciate all he did for me. All that too has been overtaken by events.
➜ You cant be abusing my daughter and expect friendship and loyalty from me. I've been badly guilt tripped in this whole thing and sometimes I'm conflicted. Am I supposed to trade solidarity to my daughter for loyalty for a friend who doesmt regard me. We haven't spoken in months and he keeps telling people that despite all he did for me, I've decided to blank him. Kindly advise.

OP, did you sell the girl to your friend in return for all the good things and supposed kindness he showed you all those years? If not, why does it matter the gaslighting the manipuative arsehole you call your friend is using against you all while he continues to berate and abuse this girl you consider your daughter? 🙄🙄🙄

2. You genuinely appreciate him while he continues ruining your daughter's life in the way he does? Are you OK in the head at all? You should be telling him to go f-ck himself!

3. Your friend is using past niceness to gaslight you into becoming an accomplice to his abuse and possible violation of your own niece(your daughter). You had better stop this nonsense pity-party you are having and call that girl back home to you already. I don't know how you raised her, but her self-esteem may have been beaten up by all of this she has been enduring, and it is up to you to be strong on her behalf so she can finally escape that monster of a man you call your friend.

zoghys:
➜Says who, you expect one of the parent to have full access to the kids while the other parent just pay child support. Every kid should enjoy the love of both parent, and that's it expect when one of the parent is incapable.

Says the Law, Psychiatrists, and other Childcare experts whose opinions may be called upon to weigh in on the situation.

➜I'm not in the best position to answer this, sadly. I don't have anything to bring to anybody's table again. I hope married men and others still willing to get married can answer you.

FYI, bringing something to the table in marriage is meant to be a continuous occurrence throughout the marriage.

PerfectStranger:
This generation of marriages are big scam.

The previous were the scams. What you see today is reality finally setting in to help correct the cruelty of the past.

zoghys:
✓ How is this ranting now, I don't get?. In the best interest of the kids a joint custody would have been the best. Abeg, this shit can be traumatizing ooo. I pray common sense prevail at the end.

Joint custody is not always in the best interest of the kids. That is why each situation is treated on a case by case basis in the courts.

Ouchbabe:
✓ My brother times have changed ooo
Sex means nothing to most women now. The way a man cums and think of the next woman to bash that's the same way women climax(do they even climax) and think of the next guy they will sleep with to pay their bill

It isn't the times that have changed women but that many no longer feed on the old lies they were fed to keep them controlled and in place. Why? Because they now see through to the worthlessness of those lies.

Check am, for inside una churches, women still dey believe the old lie say staying with one man is way for them to reach una church heaven? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Brandiebird:
✓ Whatever helps you keep an errection sir! ✋

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MrHandsome2013:
➜ yes like my father, is better not to have father atall than to have a useless father who never wish good for his children. An adulterous father that never paid pride price for his wife. A gargatuan and monumental failure that worked for 35 years without achieving anything in life. Does such man deserve life?

Ever considered questioning why your mom gave you such a man as a father, though? She lived with a man who never paid her bride price, and even remained with him despite all his cheating ways. Clearly, she should share the blame. Making talking to her about her hand in the misery you feel may help you make way better choices in your life.