₦airaland Forum

MrHandsome2013:
➜ yes like my father, is better not to have father atall than to have a useless father who never wish good for his children. An adulterous father that never paid pride price for his wife. A gargatuan and monumental failure that worked for 35 years without achieving anything in life. Does such man deserve life?

Ever considered questioning why your mom gave you such a man as a father, though? She lived with a man who never paid her bride price, and even remained with him despite all his cheating ways. Clearly, she should share the blame. Making talking to her about her hand in the misery you feel may help you make way better choices in your life.

BlackViper:
➜At the paediatric ward of Ahmad Sani Yariman Bakura Specialist Hospital in Gusau, Zamfara State, Fatima (surname withheld) sat silently beside her frail eight-month-old daughter, Mariam, but her mind was on Abdul, her two-year-old son, who had died days earlier. Desperate to save them from malnutrition, Fatima had rushed both children to the hospital. Abdul, severely malnourished and barely breathing, was admitted first.
In addition to stunting and underweight, diagnosis revealed he had a congenital heart defect. Doctors did what they could. He was placed on medication and discharged to a Primary Health Care (PHC) centre for outpatient care. But within a week, his condition deteriorated, and he was back in the hospital.
At the same time, Mariam contracted measles. Her malnourished body had no strength to fight it. She was admitted as well, leaving Fatima to watch both children struggle for life. Then, Abdul died. Fatima couldn’t even go home to bury him. Her husband took the boy’s body back to their village alone, while she stayed behind to look after Mariam.
“We see cases like this every day. The death rate is around 35 per cent, far above normal,” Head of the Nutrition Unit at the hospital, Nefisat Sani, said, adding that most parents delay coming to the hospital because they can’t afford treatment and when they finally do, it’s often too late.
Fatima’s pain is shared by thousands of mothers across northern Nigeria, especially Northeast and Northwest zones. Soaring food prices, insecurity that keeps farmers from their fields, and rising poverty have turned hunger into a death sentence. From 28 million in 2019, the United Nations World Food Programme put food insecure Nigerians at 100 million in 2024.
A week after Abdul died, another tragedy unfolded. Ummi (surname withheld) brought her four-month-old daughter to the hospital. The baby, weighing just 2.2 kilogrammes, less than the average newborn, was fighting to live. Ummi had developed mastitis, a breast infection that left her unable to nurse. She couldn’t afford formula. By the time she got to the hospital, her baby was too frail. The infant died within a day of admission.

The more disturbing part of all of these is that these same women would, months from now, these ones we are to believe have pain it all of this, will yet again become pregnant and expecting to have yet more babies in the same condition. 😩😩😩😩😩

illicit:
How will u now BEAR children...?

Since when has it been by force to bear a child?

Xannadu:
➜If the man is the problem then why do lesbian relationships tend to last shorter than normal heterosexual relationships?

Probably because lesbians know better than to believe the meaningless promises and lies of other lesbians. Once they realize that the other partner has checked out of the relationship, they get the hint that it is time to move on, unlike women in heterosexual relationships who continue to cling to the men they are in relationships with even after the relationship has turned toxic or abusive.

Chilipepper:
➜Canadian-based Nigerian man cries out as estranged wife allegedly demands full custody of their kids, total control of family assets, and leaves him emotionally drained: ‘I gave them the best life, now I’m not even allowed to decide in my kids’ lives!’

Stop ranting. You can equally file for full-custody of your children in court, too. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The law allows anyone to file for full-custody of the children in a divorce case. During the proceedings, both may decide to negotiate and settle for shared custody instead. Stop making unnecessary noise for zero-value attention. If your case is in court, you are best to be on your best behavior and maybe leave social media until after the case is done.

Naija2023:
➜For a self acclaimed feminists, it shows Chimamamda Adichie is a hypocrite for getting her twins through Surrogacy. Sweden as one of the most human right advance country banned Surrogacy because it is Exploitation of a woman's body. It is even worse than Prostitution. It is simply taking advantage of another woman's body by paying money.
Surrogacy arrangements are not allowed within Swedish healthcare (SOU 2016:11), but there are agencies that help couples and singles to carry out surrogacy pregnancies abroad. India was a common destination before that country banned foreign couples' surrogacy (Arvidsson et al., 2019; Sydsjö et al., 2019).14 May 2020 https://journals.sagepub.com Constructions of surrogates, egg donors, and mothers: Swedish ...

What the heck is the meaning of this? Una no dey use una head at all. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

What hypocrisy? As a feminist, did she take an oath to abide by Swedish law, abi wetin?
So what if Sweden decided to make laws banning surrogacy? Must the rest of the world follow suit just because?

Love800:
➜Marriages are modernised now a kind of.
➜Its now partnership. Who traditional or basic marriage help?... Both of us(husband/wife) are putting heads together in this.
➜ But when things are becoming tensed, a man assumes all the responsibilities himself!

Bullsheet! Equal partner marriages can be traced as far back as 437 BC in Rome, that is approximately 2500 years ago.

2. The only reason a man can assert himself as head/provider over the woman in marriage is that the traditional marriage configuration insists on this being the case, and compliance is necessary to maintain this status. Once you are no longer in compliance with the rules of traditional marriage, you are no longer married under the traditional marriage system, and are no longer the head/provider in the household.

3. Look, that maybe all and good in the man's imagination; however, the moment a man formerly subscribed to marriage under the traditional marriage system becomes unemployed or incapable of fulfilling his role as provider/head of the household, he ceases to be the head/provider; he needs then to occupy different roles from that which he formerly did prior to his demotion.

Love800:
➜No, its not like dat. It depends on the husband(the type of partner she feel he is).
➜ If i be guy wey dey up-and-doing, proactive and taking action to see things fall in place for my family, why won't she be gingered or motivated to help! Its all about the signs. And trust me, once she notices the positives in you, she will be your shield!

The traditional system is rigid in its requirement that the man remain the provider throughout the marriage. The moment a man ceases to be the provider, what he has is no longer a marriage under the traditional marriage system, but something else.

2. So long as you are unemployed and not bringing money into the household, you are not a provider and hence not covered under the traditional marriage system. So, please stop yarning bullsheet!

Maeve7:
➜And the wife who is providing for the time being has to do everything else alone too?

Pretty much since she has chosen to give up her ability to reason as a submissive entity in the traditional system of marriage. It is really sad!

Love800:
➜Yes na. Her money is our money! Why will you blame dem. She suppose to be my shoulder in times of trials!

The traditional model actually does not suggest any such arrangement. Again, I blame women who give up their ability to critically reason every moment of their own lives while in marriage.

Love800:
Then the conquest to purchase Greenlands becomes activated. Driving, flying, sailing, navigating, till you arrive!

... all with the woman's money since the man is unemployed, right? I blame women who put up with this bullsheet in the name of marriage.

bukatyne:
➜As a Christian, it is love and submission; not provision and submission however, I get your point.
➜ I honestly don't have a problem with the traditional system; it is actually better than what a lot of men offer.
➜ My problem is that you are traditional, fine. And then life happens, you can't provide for a while. You can't decide to ease the burden off your wife as a show of solidarity. You want her to keep up her part and play your part while you do nothing. Like how is someone in a marriage and content to do nothing? Even if it is I will prepare the kids for school and make dinner when you are back home while the wife continues every other thing just to show love and empathy? It is well. Later, they will say women think they don't need men when they make money.

1. I don't believe in or argue the Christian religious angle since it is typically based on the whims of society.

2. I don't have a problem with the traditional system either. Of course, there are many other, more favorable marriage systems out there, but we are on the issue of the traditional system here. And it insists that the man should be the provider in the marriage. But here we are speaking of when the traditional system encounters failure, i.e., the man is no longer the provider in the marriage.

3. Again, the traditional requirement is that the man remain the provider under every circumstance in the marriage. Basically, the system only applies when the man is a provider. It ceases to be a traditional system of marriage when the man is no longer a provider. Once the man becomes unemployed or the woman takes over as the provider in the family. It is no longer supposed to be a marriage under the traditional system. A lack of understanding of this— maybe a lack of critical thinking ability too— is behind the reason for the epidemic of married single women. I blame the women.

bukatyne:
➜There is nothing wrong with the traditional marriage system; just make sure you never lose the ability to provide and provide well if you want to maintain that model.
It is a travesty if you want to maintain a traditional model while you are broke. Then you become like 'P' in psychology.

That is the major problem with the traditional marriage system. It is too rigid in requiring that the man provide all of the time while the woman submits all of the time. We now find ourselves living in a time when that model can no longer hold as it used to, and it follows that a more flexible system that insists that the man becomes the submitter whenever the woman becomes the provider, and another that allows both to share provider and submitter responsible is what is needed.

Christmyhope:
➜Those who walk in Christ Jesus are no longer under the rules of sin. For the Bible says "sin shall no longer have dominion over you because you are not under the law but under grace. Sin has been defeated spiritually through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ although believers still dwell in the world where sin is still predominant.And this is as a result of free- will of humanity and consequences of fallen state of the creation.
For those who are dead in Christ Jesus are no longer answerable to the demands of the world. For the Bible says " walk in the spirit and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh".
Sin shall be totally defeated on Christ second coming and believers in Christ live in d world by living in Christ Jesus through the power of the holy Spirit., the pledge placed on us. Hence, sin is destroyed in Christ Jesus especially for those believe and live in Him.

Stop regurgitating the meaningless bullsheet you have been force fed by equally ignorant numbskulls already! 🙄🙄🙄🙄