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Pat081:
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Dey play Nigeria police do all this more than what you write sef

First, know your right than you will be able to get or demand better treatment or even she like some Nigerians have been able to. If you know your right, you will know to use the law in your favor against those oppressing you. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

ope2711:
That's problem I have for now, I don't even know what to do. Nobody is here except her children.

So, you never saw before now that those are the children you kept having with this woman who now left you? 😮😮😮😮😮

manuelkel:
✓No be small freedom , but e no go easy for am shaa.
4kids men, keep your heads up OP, the Lord is your strength....thank God for liberating you from the shackles of jezebel.

Freedom with 4 kids? You mean Oo should abandon the children with family members like many you do so they --- the children -- can then raise themselves? 🥱🥱🥱

muyico:
✓ Congratulations 👏🎉 to you
Free from bondages

You mean he should abandon his kids with his mother like you did yours too? Because last I checked children at the major burden in marriage to men, not necessarily the wife whom many have no problem emotionally and mentally cheating on. 🥱🥱🥱

ope2711:
✓ Please house I need your help, the wife that I've married for over 14 years now just left me today with 4 children. We didn't have any issue before until 31st of December, 2025 when I discovered a photocopy of Nigeria passport in her bag and fighting started when I asked her what was going on. We've been dragging this since that day but today she confessed that she's already done with me and I should not worry about her anymore. She left my house this morning o. Today is the most saddest day of my life. Pls pray for me and my children.

How are the children? Have they eaten? How old are they? When do they begin school?... 🤔🤔🤔

abiolert:
✓ That's y I said it's important he has a direct communication with her regarding the issue, it's not a must it works but if he wants it to work the ball is in his court first.

Communicate what exactly as if she is the one currently having an issue with it? Sounds more like you are suggesting OO make his issue hers to havs to fesl with. 🥱🥱🥱

Op is the one stuck on age gap. If, for example , the woman absolutely does not want to date or dabble with her age mate let alone a man couple of years younger than she is, how is OP's communicating issues he has with age gap to change anything? 🥱🥱

Mrexcell:
✓ Over 70% of women loves successful men naturally only love can't pay their bills even culture has made it so most families will always prefer to give out their daughters to successful men worldwide.

Women obviously prefer successful men over unsuccessful men same sort of the way men prefer beautiful over ugly women, why? Because marriage is usually about improving ones social standing, not diminishing it. When it comes to men, what most of them being to the table is not their emotional, physical or mental energy but financially energy and that usually ties back to their success. Hence the reason why many women would rather get themselves a successful man than an unsuccessful man. Many men already know to expect a woman' to bring her emotional, physical, and mental energy to the table...the so-called invisible/unpaid labor that keeps homes and community together,b that is why they also don't mind preferring it also come with pleasing aesthetics so they can stand out socially with their friends.

By the way, there is no love in why of what I described so far. Love would ensure to regularly compensate a woman for all of the work she does in the home --- cookng, laundry, cleaning, emotional regulation work, nanny job, personal assistance duties, surrogacy, sex maid, etc. But since love is merely a sidenote and not necessarily a requirement in marriage, most women in stead experience financial abuse in their marriages are the hands of men who have absolutely no love for them. 🥱🥱

Antichristian2:
✓ You didn't address anything from the thread! You just attacked what's in your brain!

You mean your question, " Can God die?" Was not in the thread but in my head? 🥱🥱🥱

To address the issue, I had to first ascertain the identity of this "God's first in relation to your religion since you are Muslim and then maybe also consider whether this is not a case of you projecting the attributes of your Allah of the Muslims -- your particular with --- onto other deities like the Christian and maybe even the Greek gods. 🥱🥱🥱

Antichristian2:
...Can God die?

Is your intention merely to attack the religious narrative offered by the Christians(you being a muslim), or are you asking generally because you think you understand the limitation that you believe should apply as far as every deity out there, including the muslim Allah? (Basically, are you suggesting that every deity out there ought to have the same limitation that the Allah of the Muslims has?🥱🥱

Are you somehow of the mind that because Allah of the muslims cannot take human form and hence die the human death, therefore Zeus of the Greeks should also not be able to take human form and die the human death? I would like to understand why you keep insisting that God(in your case, Allah) cannot die the human death; therefore, all other deities out there should also not be able to die the human death.

abiolert:
✓ Let me advice you like someone who is married to a woman born in March and the husband born in September of the same year. We are both happily married and we have kids that are aware that their mum is older than their dad. It's not a big deal but just let her know if she is ok with it l, then go ahead and tell her the truth.

That it worked for you does not mean it would work for Op or many other males out there particular for men who believe themselves entitled to one-sided respect from women by virtue of their "manhood". I have seen this sort of situation implode quickly when such men are involved. 🥱🥱🥱

SHIVA001:
➜There is nothing Like attraction bro, there is only Transactions.

Lies! We all know that many men out there are even willing to lower their wifey-standard for attractive women... 🥱🥱🥱

bunmioguns:
➜Money doesn't make you more attractive; it just makes women willing to endure your ugliness for a fee. It’s not 'attraction,' it’s a business transaction. Let’s stop calling poverty 'no game' and stop calling a bank balance 'rizz'.

That's something I have indeed heard many women say so many times now. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Meteng:
One banny I deflowered back then can’t just stop gbenshing me even after I got married. All I need to do is carry my phone and she’ll come running leaving her boyfriend to come knack me. That’s the power of proper, quality first time knacking

. It is 2026... let's stop telling ourselves these ridiculous lies. Let the utterly immature brain farts go with 2025. 🥱🥱🥱

Kingosytex:
➜The core problem is the greedy, entitled women of this generation who see everything as a business transaction and always want to make profits out of everything. Make we no dey find wetin no loss abeg.

From the very beginning, relationships have been transactional, with men being able to get away with access to women's labor and bodies for as cheaply as they possibly could, for the longest. Now that women have rights and freedoms that allow them to bargain for benefits that better work for them, you suddenly want to insist that they see it for the business it has always been, is wrong? 🥱🥱🥱

And this 2026, stop using terms you are unwilling to at least investigate the correct use of. A woman deciding to value herself more than other women you are used to is not entitled to being, but an individual who would rather put herself in a place above you.

PulaPower:
➜True Brain damage is real

I didn't say anything about brain damage, but real-life brain issues.
➜ 99.9999% of us are walking around with trauma that we have probably yet to deal with.
➜ Stress is common to all human beings — all 100% of us. Sometimes, stress overwhelms the memory circuits, making it harder for the brain to shift memory to long-term until stress levels go down.
➜ PTSD happens to at least 40% of us at some point in our lives
➜ Tragedy is almost guaranteed for us all
➜ As for the insignificance of the experience... yes, some folks don't attach much importance to the experience like many others do, so the brain— maybe to save space— saw no reason to save the face of the individual it happened with to long-term memory
➜ Traumatic experience ... that is also a possible reason for it.

PulaPower:
➜Oh yeah. I kinda believe it’s impossible to forget such things. But then, I understand your response so it’s cool

. My situation is in no way unique. There are so many reasons why people don't always remember their first time... trauma, insignificance of the experience, tragedy, stress, PTSD, etc, that could rob people of such memories. And there is no difference along gender lines. (The mechanism for storing, accessing, and retrieving memory is pretty much the same in both men and women.)

PulaPower:
➜Why do you wanna know?

Probably because I thought you had a point to bring forward. 🥱🥱

PulaPower:
➜Okay ...

Anyways, what was the significance of getting my response to your question?

AllMight:
➜How do you feel now?

Not like you! 🥱🥱

PulaPower:
➜No, I don’t think so. Me for example, I still remember the first girl I knack till date.. So I’m asking you, do you still remember yours or you don forget?

First, I am not a girl. Second, I sorta kinda remember vaguely... but bad memory problems over the years have taken much of what happened around that time away from me. So, I can't really tell you for a fact that I do.

AllMight:
➜7 month is still within age mate.... I have no problem with it..... It's the lady I'm worried about

. If you had considered it no problem, you would have simply asked her out and allowed her to decide for herself whether she is ok with the age difference or whether it is a problem. But you didn't do that. Rather, what you did was come on here to bother us about the 7-month gap, meaning you already feel it is likely going to be a problem. The problem isn't with her but with you.

And yes, she may reject your advance despite that 7-month gap in age. You may just not be her type, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But the fact that you have all but decided that she may reject you solely because of the age gap issue makes this a bad match at this point to me. 🥱🥱

PulaPower:
➜You as a girl, you don forget person wey first tear your rubber?

Let me see if I can help you begin to reason in the right direction ... Do boys and girls have different kinds of brains that store memories in different ways and process emotions and experiences differently?

Do not rush to respond. Go straight to Google to do some research. 🥱🥱🥱

AllMight:
➜Hello guys, there's this lady i really like and this lady and I'm planning to go into a relationship with her, but the thing is that she's 7 month older than i am.... Although I'm yet to tell her.... I'm worried if it's goona affect in the long run

You having a problem with her being 7 months older than you to the extent of needing to create this here thread about it already means it ain't gonna work out. Abort mission and go find you someone who is more your agemate.🥱🥱🥱

Philosopher1979:
➜She wasn't. I mean she said it in a sincere way. I did not ask her before she said it. When someone is sincere you will know.

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placeofallure:
➜They can pass for women by the roadside. That's what the writer intended them to be.
➜ Random pictures can be pulled from the internet for emphasis purposes. Or do you have a personal relationship with anyone of them who affirmed to you that this was a club scene?
➜ Woo! Kobokobo or whatever, this is a new year. Don't stress me with your antagonistic mentality. O ṣe inu ọdun tuntun. No use your reggae spoil my blues.

Any woman, even you, depending on the country we place you in, can pass for a woman on the roadside. Yes, if this were a picture of you walking on the roadside posted for a crowd somewhere in Afghanistan or Sudan, you would be seen as a prostitute too. So stop already!

2. Do you need to have a personal relationship with anyone to stand up for their right to dress and present themselves as they choose so long as they are not breaking any laws?

3. Stop seeing your fellow women are competition in your brain. 🥱🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
➜I'm saying the same thing, sending her the link will only happen by msg to her WhatsApp or direct msg. And she will still think, we are good. And more over Kobo, I can definitely tell you she won't visit anything. And even if she visit, how that one wan take register so that she can comment on posts or make a post herself.
➜ The process of doing all that will stress her out. I know her very well and what she's interested in. At least I have invited her and even told her to check romance section for interesting story. Let her do that first, then if she chat me that she saw an interesting story that looks like her story, then I will let you know the outcome

I am not saying she is guaranteed to visit it; I am simply asking you to send it to her.

2. Yes, you invited her, but you did not give her a direct link, and I am asking you to send her a direct link to click and see for herself what Nairaland is about whenever or if ever she clicks.

lacasera14:
➜ I think the title should be "When you have money, cheap, loosed girls will run after you"
➜ I know some people who were rejected when they were broke by women and went back to the same women after they've made serious money only to be rejected again. The Women told them it's not about what you have it's you I don't like.
➜ Pretty girls with self worth, esteem and intelligence do not run after successful people or men with money. They attract the right wealthy man who sees them for their value. They don't chase, they attract. So yes, If you're successful, women will flock around you but what caliber of women are we talking about here? You Gerrit?

If they were cheap and loose, why didn't they chase after you when you were a nobody/broke-arse? 🥱🥱🥱

2. They were obviously rejected because the women were not loose and cheap... they had for themselves a value that those men had to at least reach before they could date them. Most men only bring money to the table, after all. This ultimately means that a poor/broke man is of little to no value to a woman who is not loose and cheap. 🥱🥱

3. Pretty intelligent women who value themselves would do best to stay away from broke valueless men — again, if a man's only value is the money he brings, then a broke man does not come with any value to a woman; only broken/depressed/low self-esteem/low self-worth women are out there settling for broke men and this is because they do not think much of their value as individuals to say the least. Broke men know this and that is why they go after women from broken homes and backgrounds to wife them up and trap them before they realize themselves.

Stop misusing terms... It's annoying!

Philosopher1979:
➜ The thing is the man the lady will marry, like or date will be similar to the man she lost her virginity to. For example a girl that liked said she did so because I resembled her first boyfriend that disvirgined her. So the thing is the men the lady dates after that will resemble the man that disvirgined her.

Wrong! And by the way, did you actually see the first boyfriend to confirm she was not, instead, trying to inflate your obviously fragile ego in some way?

Kalulu44:
➜Hmm..... We are talking about what happened about a year ago, not this 31st o. And also, I really don't have anything to do with her again. Chatting her up will make it looks as if my mind is still there.
➜ By the way, I have given her the money

I didn't ask you to chat her up. Simply asked you to send her the link to your post on Nairaland, which happens to be about the incident. 🥱🥱

2. Glad you made that decision for yourself. Send her the link, then so she can know for certain you two are over. 🥱🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
➜Hahahaha, Kobojunkie wetin come be your own for this matter. I don try the best wey I fit do. It remains for her to find it herself. That's if she will even visit it sef

I look forward to reading what happened to her, as I sense she had a bad experience that she would rather hide than reveal to those around her.

We are talking here of a woman dressed up at night, riding a keke to her destination on the night of December 31st. Most Nigerian men don't really care, but a lot of women have bad experiences that they keep quiet about — survival behavior— while they go on allowing others to believe whatever they will. Anyway, that's just my thinking, and I would really love for this young woman to be able to let it out instead of keeping it tucked in like our great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and mothers thought they had to, only it never turned out well for them. Emotions are not meant to be suppressed but regulated and managed🥱🥱

What have you got to lose by sending her the link to this post of yours? You already distanced yourself from her. So, what do you care? Just send her the link. 🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
➜I have sent it to her, hope she comes on here and relay her mind

Why didn't you send her a link to your post?

placeofallure:
➜I am talking about the women in this picture. There's what the thread is talking about, prostition, not any of those other things you talked about.

That image is of women in a club scene... not prostitutes. So, many African sources chose to label them prostitutes for obvious reasons.

And yes, African men, including husbands — with wife/wives waiting for them at home in drab cloths— who frequent prostitutes, do take some of them out to clubs, parties, etc., so yes, it makes sense that even those women would need to dress well at night, just like everyone else out there can.