₦airaland Forum

360clips:
Please talk with sense. And don't just open your mouth before thinking.

Dude... You are no different from the other Africans out there.... the religious who chase after their gods of men with the same ardor. 🥱🥱🥱

No wonder that man saw himself as a god over other Africans, particularly the darker ones. He felt himself a god over other Africans, and I can see he had followers who considered him a genius

360clips:
➜ Gaddafi was a genius take it or leave it. HE was the only leader in the whole of Africa that had guts. Yes, he was a power hungry man, but at least he still wanted good for Africa. Look at the before he ruled in Libya and after pics. And you'll understand.

Storyland! You are no different from the other Africans out there.... the religious who chase after their gods of men with the same ardor.🥱🥱🥱

360clips:
It's killing us. Especially the older generation ones. They use religious sentiment to do everything! If we can use science innovation and tech to back up Africa, Africa will be a 1st world. The only genius leader, now deceased that will have changed the whole game was Gaddafi. If you don't about what he wanted to do, go read it up on chatgpt. It's just a sad case that these older generation people are using religion to deliberately kill us and tie us down in Africa. Something has to be done fast! We have to revolt and fight for our freedom! If not Africa as a whole will be decimated!

Nonsense! When did Gaddafi ever use science and tech to back up any of his plans? It is this worship of men that is religion in Africa...the man literally desired to make himself a god over all of Africa, yet here this one is asking folks to go chasing him up on ChatGPT. Every 999 out of 1000 Africans out there is stuck believing that there is some man-god out there waiting to save him from his own mediocrity and incompetence. Africans don't worship gods but rather the men who sell them these ideas of a god out there somewhere.

Double0h7:
➜You’d start a fight in a telephone booth so I’ll just wish you a happy new year 🥳

Stop entertaining the urge to shame your fellow women... they are not your competition nor are they there for you, correct. Learn to treat them the same as you treat men. 🥱🥱

Kalatium:
➜This Is Not Shade, This Is a Wake-Up Call. Sister, sit down. Read this slowly. Read your Bible. Not for Instagram quotes. For grounding. For direction. For discipline.
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Become a woman of value. Not loud. Not desperate. Not average. Intentional. Skilled. Soft but sharp. Calm but dangerous. No more mediocrity in 2026. No more “I’ll try.” No more excuses packaged as personality. Level up quietly. Let results announce you.

1. She is better off reading Instagram than the Bible with you religious characters— gods of men— not certain which one of the over 46,000 different interpretations of scripture out there in their one religion comes close to the truth of what is in fact written in plain text in the book of books. 🥱🥱🥱

2. The rest that came up, I take as a rough suggestion that women focus on self-love and self-care ... basically, decentering men and decentering tradition/religion at the same time... so I choose not to cut this. 🥱🥱🥱

However, I do have an issue with your particular fixation on women. Why not give this same message(or at least similar to menfolk), many of whom don't even know how to wipe their arses well? Why not give this well-needed advice to males who study after study now show are earning a lot less than women? About 50% of marriages in Nigeria are currently manned by the woman as the breadwinner, so, shouldn't your primary focus be on men losing their place in even the marriage home? Why not advise men to become these men of value...Not desperate...Not average...Intentional...Skilled...Soft but sharp...calm but dangerous... no more mediocrity... no more “I’ll try,”...No more excuses packaged as personality...level up quietly...let results announce you? 🥱🥱🥱

If you are any of this yourself, then isn't it best you focus your energy on advising your fellow men to man up? 🥱🥱

BlueEyedBabe:
➜Yes. You forget them all eventually and move on. First love and first sexual partner can both be eclipsed by love and sexual encounters that you experience later.

It can also be eclipsed by so many other things in life, such as self-love, acquisition of strong emotional and social intelligence, mental illness, stress, memory loss, etc. There are so many things that can literally erase all of the stewpid sentiments that one first held fast to. 🥱🥱

Geofavor:
If you're married to a billionaire, no one expects you to do every house chore. You will be in a huge house. Of course, you will hire people but it will still be your responsibility to organise and supervise these people. IMO, you have to do some cooking, because it's personal and it's one of the best ways to an African man's heart. Most men want to eat food prepared by their wives, not by some chef.

That proverb 31 woman Christians love to drone on about is, in fact, a woman married to a billionaire in our time. She manages the household and does none of the actual work herself, as she has so many maids, thanks to her husband's wealth, to work on it for her. 🥱🥱

This woman here might just be a very good manager looking for her own Proverbs 31 husband— yes, a woman has to have a Proverbs 31 husband to be a Proverbs 31 wife— so she can be a Proverbs 31 wife. (The latter cannot exist without the former, but religion would rather gaslight women into believing they can do it all by themselves than hold men to a higher standard.)🥱🥱🥱

Double0h7:
➜She spent her youth, her health, her blood, tears, and sweat to have the life she has. Sitting down getting fat and delusional will not get you the life you dream about.
You have to work and sacrifice; even if it’s done on your back rather than your feet. Me! I’m content with my health, peace of mind, and meeting my basic needs for myself.

Stop shaming women for their dreams and desires in life. There are fat women out there dating rich men, too. Many of the delusional women out there eventually get themselves the very men they seek... either as wives or side chicks. If this lady does not eventually date her wealthy man, this is on her and not you. It isn't your place to decide whether she is deluded or not. 🥱🥱

There are numerous jobless, irresponsible men out there, currently married to women who cater to their every need... women are literally breadwinners to many of these mofos. So why can't this woman dream as she pleases? Stop gatekeeping the kind of dreams women can aspire to. 🥱🥱🥱

drstranged:
Sincerely I really fear for this generation of Nigerian ladies. Values have been seriously eroded over time and abnormalities are becoming the norm. The situation is worsening with each passing year.

What values? The same so-called values that men have at no time ever held themselves up to? As far back as the time of your ancestors, the unofficial divorce rate in southern Nigeria has been at least 50%. So, what values are you now seeking to impose on women who have literally grown up seeing the farce of what you call values for what they truly are? 🥱🥱🥱

Emeskhalifa:
✓ But that's prostitution na

If you want to believe that this fact makes even your own mother a prostitute then so be it. The fact again is that relationships has always been transactional ...men have always known this -- they have for the longest fought to get the women ay the cheapest price possible..some traditions had men literally kidnapping women to make them as sex slaves and or wives ...for the longest. Fortunately , women now have rights, know and accept this transactional nature to relationships and are now choosing to play the game to their own advantage.

Anaconda76:
✓ Both of you and the poster are describing different sides of the SAME COIN. As much as i agree with the poster that the sacred institution of marriage has being knocked off its high pedestal,
✓ there are still lots of women who are waiting for men to finish dealing with olosho (is it really ever possible with many women willing to be a man's side chick??)
✓ and come "save" them from themselves as you say.

Marriage is not being knocked off it's pedestal because of the proliferation of hook up girls but rather because marriage itself no longer served the same benefit it used to back when men were on the most considered the breadwinners with greatest access to wealth and resources in society. 🥱🥱

My statement directly attacks OP's argument and can't be construed as attacking different sides of the same coin by this. 🥱🥱🥱

2. From the time of our very forefathers, the majority of men had their virginity taken, not by the wife but by women outside of marriage. The same remains the case to this day. And yes, there are lots of women out there waiting and praying to be married by even those men and so many others available to exist instead as side chicks. 🥱🥱🥱

3. I don't know about saving them from themselves since it ain't like Nigerian men stop olosho-ing after marriage. 🥱🥱

anonimi:
✓ Women generally chase a rich/successful man, whether they TRULY desire you is irrelevant.
✓ This is the essence of hypergamy. Moreover, for both genders, success has many people famzing around it, while failure is an orphan.

Women generally chase a s successful man yet women are breadwinners in almost 50% of married homes in Nigeria? Come on now.....this is 2025. Avoid bullsheet and start stating facts.
Men are the equally hypergamous. The fact is the average man out there is ever seeking to obtain the best women for the least cost to him. ( The average man wants the most beautiful woman, the virgin he cannot even afford at no cost, the educated wife even though he is a stark illiterate, sex for no price, free labor from a woman for as long as he can get it...that is hypergamy too.) 🥱🥱

This 2026, let's begin using terms we only fully grasp the meaning of so we stop wasting each others time.

azukaazuka69:
✓ These babes are only after money. Me I'm single and happy, the last babe stress me die.
There is this guy called Infolenka on Nairaland that guy is an expert on fine babes with " correct bodies" he gives their pictures and their names I'm following them on Instagram and Tiktok. No money involved. Na the money I dey run from

All women are after your money since that is all most men can blast of bringing to the table...and I am not even referring to the hold digging men out there who would sit back and let their wife's be breadwinners. 🥱🥱🥱

Emeskhalifa:
✓ Won't the whole stuff become transactional thereby making her look like those who trade their private parts?

Relationships have [b]always been transactional. [/b] We have always known this to be the case. Why try to make women feel weird about or shame them for realizing and admitting this fact now that they seem to have finally caught on?

yemmit90:
✓ Lolz, be poor and let check it out.
Not only women, quality men too will want to be your friends when you are rich. Nothing in this contemporary world better than being wealthy.

There are poor intelligent people out there who equally have rich friends. 🥱🥱🥱

Solseal007:
✓ Are you not aware some women pay for sex through kind and some affluent women demands certain kind of men to warm their beds? Sex where men pay heavily is reserved for the adventurous rich men ! Some men have made life out of hanging out with women of affluence

Wetin this one dey talk now! OP's focus is on girls being paid for sex by men whether adventurous or not. What in the world are you know trying to drone on for? 🥱🥱🥱

thomas2024:
✓ You lied. You are not being truthful to yourself. I know you are good with words, you use them to twist narrative and I see what you just did. I clap for your double standard. Tell me any woman that’s not hyper hypergamous in nature and woman that’s not attracted to a powerful and successful man (high-value man)?

Hypergamy is not unique to women as men are equally hypergamous. . Your typical man wants the best female specimen he can at the lowest cost to him ... particularly poor lazy men. In Nigeria alone, almost 50% of married homes have female breadwinners while the man has no problem relying in the woman for all..that is also Hypergamy in progress. 🥱🥱🥱

This is 2026, work on improving your understanding and use of terms you previously thought you could throw around for points abeg. Some of us are not having the foolishness continue into the new year. 🥱🥱🥱

Solseal007:
✓ Are u a kid, sex is recreational in some kind of circle and jobs that are stressful and time consuming
✓ What you know isn't the entire length of knowledge therein the subject

Oh, now, it is no longer that sex is recreational but that it is recreational only in some circles? Worse, you now want us to believe that some jobs are stressful and time consuming? 🤔🤔🤔

2. Are you certain you are not a kid yourself because this response along with your previous are giving just that? 🥱🥱🥱

Emeskhalifa:
➜Kobo, shoud he pay the girl the 10k she was expecting to get after being shagged or not?

He promised he would. 🥱🥱🥱

Solseal007:
➜ Hard working men don't patronize sex workers esp those refered to in this context , most hardworking men have permanent girlfriends and sex partners who are mutual benefactors.
➜ Within this context of the writer he's referring to the economical prostitutes- those who bargain with and target high enders to improve their life! No ordinary worker pay attention to those girls, they have a niche and target customers

. Mutual benefactors who don't get financial compensation or favors from these hardworking men? Are you shitting us or something? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Economical prostitutes? What nonsense is this? 🥱🥱🥱

Solseal007:
➜Terrible trend, if the researcher was right, the percentage went up recently truly. Sex that is a recreative and procreational act is been reduced to financial services.
➜It's greed mostly not poverty. These girls long for a life they can never achieve

. Sex is recreational for whom? 🥱🥱

2. Greed? The life they long for can never be achieved, because you would rather the girls offer their bodies, energy, and time up for free to men demanding the service of sex from them, right?

placeofallure:
➜Like the ladies in the picture accompanying this thread, I still can't wrap my head around how I'll dress up, at times to the teeth, in the night like this; when every evening I rush home to go UnCloth. I think it's weird. Poverty cannot be the only reason responsible for this.

Dressing up to the T in the evenings has nothing to do with poverty. Ladies do it all over the world for many different reasons....work, dates, clubbing, partying, occasions, hanging out, etc. Nighttime is not immediately bedtime for everyone out there, even right there in Nigeria. 🥱🥱

Yorubastardz:
➜My uncle dyed October and was buried November. During his burial we all wear white senator for the burial.
Now my cousin did wedding today I decided to wear the same white senator we sewed for uncle burial.This boy almost embarrass me but it happened indoors. Started yelling that why will I wear burial cloth fur his wedding?? Even his grooms man was telling me to fashi the matter but ever since I got home. I've been thinking about that incident Was I wrong for wearing the white senator we sewed for my uncle burial?? Why do we place so much significance to rubbish superstitions

Na men dey help create all of this superstitious nonsense wey dey eventually come back to bite them all in the backside. 🙄🙄🙄

Normally, you did not do wrong with the clothes you wore to the occasion; no be say you carry the dead body enter the wedding. However, we are talking of Nigeria, a place where almost every other individual is sure that their village people are out to get them(aside from the satan in their delusions) and that every other person out there is a detractor. 🥱🥱

Oyinbo go recycle the same suit im wear for graduation, go work, go wedding, go funeral, go collect award sef.... but Nigerians ehn.... 🥱🥱🥱

lailo:
Why are women doing prostitution to live?
Cant they work and make a living?
And they will broke shame a hardworking man.....
Women and entitlement mentality

Over 44 million youths(not considering older people) are reportedly still unemployed in Nigeria to this day. But your particular issue is with why women are choosing prostitution when the economy has been going to hell in a handbasket for the last 10 or so years? 🥱🥱🥱

jaszplus12:
➜Yesterday I broke my own rules, I stopped to give a lady a lift as it seemed public transport was scarce.
She was happy to talk, and in the short distance we drove, she already spoke about fixing her hair, she hadn't eaten, she would love to visit her mom...I stopped so she could buy something to eat, she too the money I offered to pay for the food and I didn't get any change back! That was when I knew so much has changed in the world!!
Dropping her, she offered her phone number I took it and said I'll give her a missed call...I sincerely doubt i will...

Where you thinking of mining her for your physical pleasure without at least paying her back with equally physical benefits? 🥱🥱🥱

parags:
➜The annoying part of this is that you have access to internet to fact-check this .

The internet that says there is no value to your claim, abi na another one? 🥱🥱🥱

parags:
It is actually documented fact . Poor/bad economy equals increased prostitution , less marriages, increased.abortionsand more baby mamas .

The idea that there are fewer marriages, more abortions, etc., exists only in the minds of individuals and is not backed up by facts, though. 🥱🥱🥱

Ayomide11111:
➜Thank you very much sir. I appreciate this also. Haa! This life heen.

The worst thing you can do to yourself is cling to some god delusion in this situation. 🥱🥱🥱

Yeah, life is hard, and unfortunately, we can't always achieve the same things as others around us; however, that is not a reason to have our emotions thrown into a loop every time we see others doing better than we are. What you described seems a lot like depression stemming from your failure to realize external validation for your existence. That means several things
➜ You are severely lacking in the emotional intelligence department
➜ You seek external validation rather than sourcing your validation from within yourself
➜ Your emotions are all tangled up in a ball — probably jealousy, frustration, shame, guilt, loneliness, confusion, anger, sadness, hopelessness... etc, are somewhere in there battling each other for prime control, and that is really throwing you into some serious depression

Your emotions are valid, but having strong emotional intelligence would go a long way in helping you not only recognize, regulate, and properly respond to each emotional energy. I suggest you either:

1. Seek mental health therapy immediately from a professional and begin your journey towards unwinding those emotional knots, beginning now, so the rest of your year is not colored by all of this
2. Pick up and read practice books on how to become more emotionally intelligent and work through every chapter and exercise until you are sure your EQ is higher and confident that you will be able to better regulate your emotions all by yourself from that point on.

Azazyel:
➜Even if poverty level was low in Nigeria, these ladies would still justify their actions. Prostitution is mostly fueled by greed and not poverty. The moment people learn to be content with what they have in this country, things would definitely get better.

Justify? Do they need to justify their survival to you? 🥱🥱🥱

Some of you are just completely off your rockers and don't even realize it. 🥱🥱🥱

Elzazzi:
➜Those guys are doing more harm than good. They making the younger generation see prostitution as a normal thing!

They are not the ones making it. Prostitution has been normal since the time of your ancestors. Women had to hide their truths back in those days to pretend they were virgins to get married. These days, women are better able to live openly and freely their truths, not living in fear of running into the same men who engaged in oloshoism with them by the way to shame them. 🥱🥱🥱

Elzazzi:
If the ‘Ibale’ culture of virginity-keeping before marriage, as practised by the Yorubas, were to return today, only 1% of women would get married. This is because many young ladies have been pounded more than Gaza, Palestine, since puberty. This part caught my attention. This writer withheld nothing.

Why should such atrocities be returned? Is it because you think it is ok for men to, after their much oloshoism— not that that era really ever ends for most Nigerian men(some even experiment with other men)— be rewarded with a virgin? 🥱🥱🥱

Fortunately, women today are no longer as stewpid and naive as their grandmothers and mothers were.

uche87:
➜At face value, transactional sex seems harmless. It appears to be a win-win situation: the woman’s palm is greased while the man is relieved of natural tension. However, acts like this devalue the institution of marriage. They fuel the objectification and commodification of women. Men become discouraged from marriage and instead choose to have children and move on. Research has shown that children raised without strong family values often end up as societal misfits. Studies further indicate that children in households where sex is traded for survival face higher risks of dysfunctional family dynamics, including exposure to substance use or early sexualisation, which can disrupt the development of healthy relationship values. In the long run, this becomes a menace to the Nigerian state.

Nonsense! At their core, all cultures in Nigeria — every tradition/religious notion behind marriage — already have it that women are objects for satisfying the desires and pleasures of men. So, claiming that women finally ensuring that they at least gain real value—money that could go towards their survival and retaining their independence—, as opposed to just the idea of having a man in their lives, from the exchange devalues marriage, is ridiculous... nonsensical at best. 🥱🥱🥱

There are still lots of women out there waiting for men, who are done dealing with oloshos, a culture that did not start today, to come marry them and save them from themselves— even if financial abuse becomes their lot in those marriages. So, let's bury this bullsheet about how those other women who offer sex for cash to men are to blame for the issues that the institution of marriage continues to wrestle with. 🥱🥱