₦airaland Forum

Sirmwill:
✓ I didn't mention that Jesus lost anything.

1. Insisting Jesus Christ of Israel supposedly loved others more than He did himself implied belief that he lost something aka sacrificed for others. So, make up your mind. Did he love others more.i.e sacrificed himself, sinning against God of Israel -- YHWH--- in the process of not? Which one? 🥱🥱

Sirmwill:
✓ No, Jesus laid the ultimate foundation of love. He died to bear the sins of the world. Which no other person can.
He ultimately loved everyone in the world than himself.
When he told a rich man to sell all what he had and give the money to the poor, was that not saying the rich man should love others more than himself?
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w Again, Jesus Christ of Israel NEVER loved any man or men more than he loved His own self..in John 10 and John 17 it is literally explained to you that the major reason why He chose to give up his temporary life on earth is in order to reclaim His eternal life and then take the reward for the work he has done which is the Kingdom of God.for him to reign as King over. 🥱🥱🥱

Jesus Christ of Israel lost nothing in giving up his temporary life on earth. He is recorded to have said this himself. 🥱🥱

Regurgitating the gobbledegook narratives of your gods of men only shows how what you know is not even taken from the records in the book by those who walked with him but rather sound bytes blasted at you by men you have set as gods over you. 🥱🥱

Sirmwill:
✓ Until you meet Jesus who loved his neighbors more than himself. But I get your point

Jesus Christ of Israel never loved any man more than he loved himself. if he has done that, Jesus Christ of Israel would have found himself in direct violation of YHWh of Israel who commanded His people to individually love their neighbors as they loved themselves in Leviticus 19 vs 18 - 20. -- a sin against his father. 🥱🥱🥱

Chienex24:
➜Then abstain from sex!!!!! IT IS THAT SIMPLE!!

Nonsense! 🥱🥱

Ezekiel2122:
➜Women are very wicked. When they don do olosho finish and can't fund anyone again, they will turn Feminine just to decieve the gullible ones in being with a man. We all know Feminines are retired olosho.

The men wey follow them do olosho, many of them eventually turning traditional husbands, are not wicked, abi? Na only the women simply requiring they be treated no less than they were before marriage that are after their olosho season don over for both men and women be the wicked ones, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

It is too early in the year for these nonsense statements, don't you think? 🥱🥱

JoeEeL:
➜Her and [b]her children, instead of "her and their children"... U are all shades of wrong![/b]

Stop yammering without carefully using your head! It is way too early in the year for this nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Those children are equally hers, and it is her responsibility to make sure they are provided for even when their father becomes broke. So, yes, she needs to be thinking first and foremost about those kids — not even her needs first—and not of that man who can no longer provide for their welfare a that point in time. She knows they are also her kids does not take away the fact that they also belong to the man who may or may not be thinking of them at the point. 🥱🥱🥱

pigmania:
➜Ogbeni you are stale joor, always arguing without a reasonable premise. This is a new year o! Do better with your life and time. Na me dey even answer you.

Abeg waka pass me go hide for inside gutter somewhere! 🥱🥱🥱

Tendd:
➜Well, conflicts abounds when genders roles are not discussed properly.
➜ Men and women are different in some ways and this calls for plans of various duties, something feminism does not often uphold
➜ ..Also, studies show that some regions mainly Asians in the diaspora has a relatively low divorce rate compared to Nigerians or African Americans.Why is it so? Don't they have women emancipation?Our parents didn't have so much divorce at least according to statistics. Another striking corelation is the health aspect.Most divorced west Africans and Black American women seem to be overweight or suffering from obesity.

1. Conflicts only abound if they remain unresolved.

2. Men are not so different from women. The same men you speak of are clearly able to not only submit to a female boss but also completely abandon the gender illusion entirely when it calls for it, clearly showing that men know how to do pretty much whatever it is they are required to do in any situation. The same man who refuses to wash dishes in his own home would not blink an eye to do the same job in a restaurant if his livelihood depended on him doing so. Clearly, the hogwash of difference and the need for plans for different genders is all in your head.

3. If you read those studies carefully, you would have also noted that the major reason for th artificially low divorce rates in those regions has to do with the fact that the laws in those regions make it so many more times harder for people, particularly women, to seek divorce. Add to that the many injustices wrought against women in society, and you will find that there is reason why so many women now reject marriage altogether, choosing instead to remain single for as long as they can endure.

illicit:
➜But the Ethiopians....

But OP is in Nigeria.

Biodun556:
✓ Jesus was unlettered, he was sent to children of Israel, he spoke only one language and left the World in his 30s.

He was unlettered, yet he was able to read(and comprehend) the contents of the books of the prophets, going as far as to clearly explain them all with great wisdom as early as age 12? 🥱🥱🥱

Most of you clearly never read up about these people whom you pretend you speak about. 🤔🥱🥱

BIZNess123:
➜The best GO in Nigeria.... All his prophecies comes to pass...Him no dey do chochocho

Eyin oniro oshi... e tun ti de... this new year again? 🥱🥱

Lucifyre:
✓ The confidence with which people assert claims that have no historical basis never ceases to amaze me. This is just an empty assertion there’s no evidence for it in the sources nor in scholarship. At best, it’s nonsense ahistorical speculation presented as fact. Lol!

No historical basis? Historical speculation? There is no historical evidence that the book of Psalms, supposedly a compilation of poems/psalms by King David of Israel, contained several statements, at least one of which was later linked to the Aramaic language, which belonged to the people of the nation of Aram in existence thousands of years ago in the Levant region?🥱🥱

I am afraid I do not follow. 🥱🥱

We are still waiting for the list from as as far back as the beginning of these lists to be realized, but here we are with yet another list to contend with. At this point, isn't it simply wise to conclude that this man is nothing less than the liar we have always known him to be? 🥱🥱🥱

Tendd:
➜Some women become combative a[b]nd argumentive thinking that is feminism, that is why we have the alarming rate of divorce among our people living in diaspora[/b].
➜ lt is so pathetic that some would make a fuss out of everything in their marital home thereby wrecking the nuclear bond that unites the family.

The alarming rate of divorce has absolutely nothing to do with feminism, but women individually bulking against the bullsheet they have had to settle with for a long time before reaching their limit.

And this divorce trend is not unique to the diaspora, as it has existed since even the time of our ancestors, who had tried so very hard to hide it all behind the refusal to officially declare marriage abandonment as divorce.

2. What is instead pathetic is how married men do not put in as much effort in maintaining their so-called marital homes but are all up in arms when teh women who have for the longest had to carry on without their input decide they will no longer put up with the neglect and abuse. 🥱🥱

Kingogbotor:
➜Very rare situation...
U work in the same office ..collect almost the same salary .or slightly different..she go still expect u to dey foot some of her bills...and still tell u she doesn't have money ..

Women no dey fun una with gun to your pricks, to marry dem naw. So why all of these wailings that you are to foot 100% of the bills if you intend to marry her traditionally — you want to live as oga at home over her, despite working in the same office with her, and you both submit to the same boss at that? 🥱🥱🥱

Amumaigwe:
➜You dabble into every marital topics in NL and you speak so passionately and authoritatively. If really you have your fingers wrapped around every marital matter, why are you still single?
➜Could it be that your ideologies are unworkable? If so, why are you forcefully selling an ideology that is not tested?
➜ That's a manifestation of bitterness.

1. Just so you know, being married is a choice... not a natural state. And every choice we have out there literally piles on responsibilities/burdens that do not necessarily alter our being in any way or form. So, pretty much anyone who understands human nature and human behaviors understands even married human beings. Just an fyi! 🥱🥱🥱

2. I have never forcefully sold any ideology here or anywhere else. I should instead ask you why my pointing out there there are alternative choices even in marriage for anyone out there seems to irk you.

3. This 2026, I am gonna need you to at least learn to use only terms you clearly understand, both the meaning and correct application of.

bit·ter·ness
/ˈbidərnəs/
noun
1. sharpness of taste; lack of sweetness.
2. anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment.

Anyone who has been unbiasedly following the conversations I have thus far could easily tell that my points do not come from a place of anger and disappointment as a result of being unfairly treated. 🥱🥱🥱

Let's do better, collectively, this year!

always247:
➜there is nothing like new year, its just an illusion of human beings. nothing changes its just the count that we start again.

Even your weeks are illusions, but I bet you know Monday from Sunday. Yes, there are lots of illusions in life, but I bet if you showed up claiming that the month is not January 2026, you will be seen as really just a stewpid slowpoke. 🥱🥱🥱

Happy New Year, Peoples!

If someone had performed CPR on that boy right at the moment he was found, he may have survived the ordeal since it was an electrocution and not a literal burning. @OP, please inform the gal that if she wanted to have a better memorial for her brother, she could work on greater awareness of CPR — teach fathers, mothers, and individuals in the community how and when CPR can be performed to save lives.

Goodmarlian:
➜22

Those women at the salon saved that girl's future from being exploited and maybe turned into yet another single mother by you. I am happy they stood up to protect her.

FlipModeSquade:
➜It's all good until that partnership agreement gets to the part about sharing bills 50/50 and they will suddenly remember men are supposed to be providers.
➜ If you want an equal partnership agreement, be ready to make everything ironclad with a prenup.

1. In my opinion, a 50/50 agreement DOES NOT make sense for any woman who values her contribution to a relationship, particularly if she intends to have and raise children in that marriage.

2. Well, if you don't want your wife to have equal rights as you in the marriage, there is always traditional marriage, where you can carry 100% of the financial burden on your head and sing Kumbaya all the way. 🥱🥱🥱

Goodmarlian:
Early last month I met this girl on campus where I work in one of Lagos prestigious higher Instititions,the time I met her she was sick and had no one to support her, I was a bit okay financially so I bought her drugs and food steadily until she got better,her parents were late as she narrated to me and she was staying with her aunt and the aunt wasnt financially stable to sponsor her education so she really struggled In school to keep up,Infact the aunty wants her to drop out of school and face her hair dressing skill until when they are financially stable because it was becoming difficult for her but this girl stubbornly refused and insist she will continue with school which I felt was a courageous decision from her.
I really liked the girl and she herself was also In Love with me due to me being caring towards her,and we were really attached to each other however things got bad ever since she started working in one hair saloon inside campus, her female co-workers are beginning to Influence her negatively, I feel there is this coworker of hers that encourages her to start billing me heavily that I have money ,suddenly she started feeling entitled, if I give her money to go eat she no longer says thank you, she will just grab the money from me and move, sometimes she will deep her hands in my pocket and remove money which I really hate. I started to think I am training a baby tiger that will hurt me later.
One day I sat down and thought about my relationship with her, I removed the orphan sentiment and asked myself, what if I am in the same shoes with her will she consider me as a worthy partner? That was when I came to my senses,omo na so I decide to dump her shaparly,in the evening that day she called I refuse to pick, she waited for me in our usual spot I refuse to show up, she asked my friends to call me I refuse to go. Them she finally came to Confront me to ask me what happened I told her I am passing through a lot and needed space she left immediately, I noticed she was depressed throughout that week, I cannot use my money to train up an upcoming entitled gold digger that will later hurt me women are something else.

Let me get this straight! You were looking for a free booty call or maybe even a situationship, and after finding you a broke orphan, you thought that by buying her drugs when she was sick, she would be the perfect girl for your private use? She would have made you a perfect prey, but fortunately for her, she met other women who called her back to reality, and got her to realize that her worth as a woman was not tied to her being an orphan but in her having valuable emotional, physical, and mental energy which most crave and should rightly not be able to access for free? 🥱🥱🥱

Brendaniel:
➜Like he told you he is a deadbeat, he doesn't care, there are people like that, both men and women, I know a married woman who wants to divorce her husband and leave including her children with the man, though in her case she intends seeing them from time to time and sending support whenever she can but she doesn't want to live with them.
➜I've heard of others who left without even looking back at all, but child support in Nigeria can be enforced if any of the parties gets the support to enforce it.

More women should take to doing this.

2. If women would enforce it a lot more on their end, making certain to document or keep bank records of every amount sent and received by their single-father parties( in case the child needs to learn the truth in the future), then I believe enforcement will eventually become more serious than it has been before now.

kenchop:
Same nonsense that was tried with me, I quickly hired a cook. Have had a cooks for over 2 years now, wifey now struggling to get back into the kitchen but no vacancy for her there.
USELESS FEMINISM

She succeeded in getting you to hire a cook? That is actually a win. 🥱🥱

pigmania:
✓ Lol, you just validated what I've been saying. Did they give themselves the 'more rights' or cried for it? Even gaays have rights in developed countries today, does that make them smarter or high in IQ? You always argue offpoint, sounding like a crack addict.
✓ I should invite my mom to nairaland just to explain and impress an irrelevant person like you? Na now I confirm say you no get common sense. I know you'll secretly hate on women who are living productive lives and holding their homes down, with respect for their husbands.

1. Illiteracy/lack of basic language comprehension skills is an illness in this day and age. 🥱🥱🥱

2. I have repeatedly asked that you call your sister and mother forward to tell us their side of this story. 🥱🥱🥱

pigmania:
➜You are glad that feminism is thriving, and you're not smarter than your mother and grandmother because they were contented with what they had and respected their wedding vows.
➜Wetin my sister dey find for nairaland? Are you not aware that most smart people come here when they are bored or just want to pass time? My mom had to go take care of her twice when she had her last two kids, and no, it wasn't even her husband that bought the flight tickets, my family didn't wait for him. Should I also invite my mom to nairaland so you can hear her side of the story too?

1. They are not smarter, yet they have more rights today than their grandmother and mothers?🥱🥱🥱

2. Invite your sister and your mother so they can come tell us the true story! 🥱🥱

mechanics:
J The same method will also be applied.

Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱

pigmania:
➜So called woke generation who think they are smarter than their parents because they had early access to the internet and AI. How much your papa get when he marry your mama, are you saying that he never went broke along the line?
➜ Are you a product of a broken home? Well, my sister is a business woman abroad and her 3 kids are not citizens of Nigeria, her 15 yr old son is already earning in America, so I think she'll still be doing fine without a man. You should be advising ladies to live productive lives and stop encouraging leeches.

I am glad the woke generation has refused to live like pushovers just like their grandmothers and mothers before them did. 🥱🥱

2. Call your sister to Nairaland, make we hear her side of this story! 🥱🥱🥱

guobe:
➜There is the girl I know, I chatted with her just like 3 months ago and asked about her love life.
She explicitly told me that the guy she really loved and was dating wasn't really into her and it seems she was the person pushing the relationship . She said she had to break up with him because the relationship wasn't heading anywhere. Just a couple of days now,I am seeing proposal, traditional wedding pics of her flying around.
➜ The bottom line is that once most girls are through with university, they just want to get married. Once a guy come and say mar before he says rriage, they have jumped on him. Some of the girls are lucky though with this act but alot get their fingers burnt. You need to know the person that you will spend the rest of your life with very well as just knowing someone and getting married to the person within a few months can be catastrophic. I know most girls won't take the advice as asoebi has to be sewn and jolof rice eaten.

Childhood trauma and neglect in women, coupled with societal pressure, feed romantic/marriage obsession in women. Top that off with poverty, and you have a recipe for disaster to come for most of those women who succumb to that urge/itch.

That said, in 2026, please stop making these inane claims without at least backing them up with facts.

Double0h7:
I’m going to lose that final 10kg!
I’m going to grow my hair longer
I’m going to invest in great face care products and routine.
I’m bringing sexy back! 😏

Self-love for the new year. 🙂🙂🙂

Criksus:
Not an issue for debate na, simply choose to stay single till you are financially stable or be in a relationship without financial stability, but remember whatever decision you make, na you go still enjoy/suffer am. Choose wisely

Tell that lie to all of the children born into poverty each day. They are the true victims here. 🥱🥱🥱