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Lilosama:
✓ A lady has come out to say what happened when she tried doing Feminism with her husband after years of being a submissive wife. The husband is an Edo man and she has said women should not try feminism with their husbands especially if he’s a Benin man.
✓ What do you think? Watch the video to find out how her husband reacted.

The lady is clearly an eejiot who
1. Does not know what feminism means or is about.
2. Thinks it makes sense to claim she tried it on --- my guess she means she has weaponized it -- someone while in a contract which clearly states that she be a slave/servant to her husband. 🥱🥱

2. I think she should go back to the drawing board to learn exactly what feminism means and entails. And how even her right to speak publicly is thanks to feminism. Yes, she needs to reeducate herself so she stops making these senseless videos showcasing her brand of stewpidity. 🥱🥱🥱

Lilosama:
➜...

So, I finally watched the video, and heard nothing sensible in the statements made by both the commentator and the woman. 🥱

In the video, the woman claimed she attempted no longer submitting to her husband, all this while still supposedly religiously/traditionally married by way of a contract that stipulates she be the subjugate/slave in the arrangement, only to then wonder why it backfired. She then stewpidly concluded that it came down to her being married to an Edo man. I can't even imagine how dense one would need to be to come to such a conclusion.

If one violates the terms of the contract one signed up for, what does one expect to happen? What aspect of feminism leads these to believe that it is possible to violate the terms of a contract and somehow avoid consequences for it? 🥱🥱

Of course, the religious/traditional marriage contract requires that a woman exist as a submissive partner in the union. With the man as the sole provider, head/master over the woman, who is herself a servant/slave in the agreement. If a woman in that capacity decided she no longer wishes to submit/be a slave/servant to a god/head, what she would need to do would be to exit her current contract (not breach it), and then consider signing a partnership agreement, which comes with no submission requirement at a later date. 🥱🥱🥱

Cj4charles:
✓ the community have the right to banish anyone that can't control or contain their child

As stated under what legal code? 🥱🥱🥱

csamii:
✓ Go f up for your commit. When dem banish you, call police for them.
My community is simple. We just ostracize you.

Na only poor illiterate people una dey fit attack with that nonsense knowing fully well that chances are slim to none that they will stand up for themselves. Try that against any well established educated individual and all of you there might end up selling your lands and moving away to pay the penalty for your actions. 🥱🥱🥱

Originalsly:
✓ What is Barbarian about this? ...you see Barbarism in the penalty but not the act. If the parents raised their son right there was no need for this.
✓ Police and prison were never part of African culture ... what's wrong with practicing our own? It's called accountability.... not fit to live amongst others ....banishment. I still strongly believe the murderer should've been forced to eat at least one bowl of heaping hot peppers before being banished.

Penalty as defined but the legal framework in the state of by a mob? 🥱🥱🥱

2. African culture when there is codified system of laws in place which all citizens are to be held accountable to? You think you can just wake up one morning and decide your own brand of jungle justice on your neighbor and then tag it African culture, abi? Nonsense !! Ever using words they have no true grasp of. 🥱🥱🥱

Arostar2023:
➜Maybe the failed to restrain their kid...some parents can be nonchalant towards their wards repeated bad behavior. This is much better than lynching them...though, I wonder if the village has the right to banish anyone from their community.

Even if that be the case, no community or people have the right to banish others.

Arostar2023:
➜If the child is a minor there isn't much anyone can do about that.
➜ I don't know if Nigeria has facilities for the trial and rehabilitation of deviant minors.
➜ Lastly, if your kid is known for causing trouble and you failed to address and curtail his excesses. One day you may be held responsible for his escapades.

What gives you the notion that a minor cannot be processed by the Law in Nigeria, where a 7-year-old can be prosecuted?

2. If it has the laws, it should have the facilities, or begin now putting them in place. There is no reason why crimes committed by minors should be disregarded or ignored. 🥱🥱🥱

3. A crime is a crime regardless of who commits it. Also, no community has the right to banish individuals in such a situation. 🥱🥱

Kelle443:
➜and outrage have gripped Isiagu community in Awka, Anambra State, after a tragic incident claimed the lives of two young siblings.
The children were reportedly pushed into a river by a fellow youth while searching for firewood, leading to their untimely deaths. In the aftermath, the alleged suspect’s parents have been banished from the community, sparking intense debate over justice, tradition, and communal responsibility in Nigeria.
The heartbreaking story has left residents in mourning and raised serious questions about accountability and safety.

First of all, this is illegal nonsense and should not be encouraged. Second, I hope the boy who pushed the kids in the river has been charged and maybe even arrested, depending on the circumstances. 🥱🥱

The family that is supposedly being banished could actually sue the community for this. I don't know why in 2025, Nigerian communities still cling to barbarian practices. 🥱🥱

OLAADEGBU:
➜According to Adeh, relevant provisions of Nigerian law clearly prohibit abortion. She cited Section 232 of the Penal Code and Section 228 of the Criminal Code, which criminalise the act and classify it as a felony, punishable under the law.

All the more reason why there should be comprehensive sex education, which gives awareness of pregnancy prevention and the illegality of abortions to all children from an early age, so they can avoid the need for abortions altogether. So, when is Adeh, planning to call on the government to begin making that happen?

naijapikin2:
✓ Really 😳😳😳 Well if I was the guy I'd just go on with my woman. But I'd never test my woman like that. Come to think of it...if it was the other way...they guy would've fallen too🤔🤔

Well, duh! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Solofresh2:
➜The dignity of marrying her a virgin alone, should be the warranty for a bride price

This... coming from the same person who then followed up with the following...

Solofresh2:
I think at this point, the male gender can be so gullible when it involves the opposite gender Imagine the stupid question you are asking based on your the story

.. is clear indication that we are not even close to the end of the gullibility train as far as this male gender you refer to.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fBQnQTkhsq4?si=b6m8QpmpNW81ZXAS

Boxnaijatv:
...

Africa is what happens when an entire continent refuses to pay attention to the mental health of its populace.

You know, that book you all love to quote from says something like," Love your neighbor as you love your own self." What is fascinating to see is how people who claim to believe what that book says almost always make it seem that the way to show love is by sacrificing oneself and love for oneself for others, when, again, the book instead says, "Love your neighbors as you love yourself." (Not more than you love yourself or less than you love yourself, but exactly/as much (as) you love yourself. ) This literally means that to love others, you must first love your own self, and only then can you go on to love others in the same way. Implying that when you love others more than you love your own self, or when you love others less than you love yourself, you do not meet the requirement for love set by that statement contained in that book... and this applies to all of your neighbors, including husbands, children, mother, etc. 🥱🥱🥱

Someone might come up and say something like "it is not good to be selfish." To that I will say you are absolutely wrong. Again, that statement, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself," literally states that if you are not first selfish -- love yourself -- , you cannot then go on to love others --- be equally selfless. 🥱🥱

bigpicture001:
➜Intentional or no intentional, dt ladies is closest to her marriage days.. yet, sh fell for this strange guy... Abeg leave excuse for women!

More like OP's friend tried to rock the cradle... marry a young girl..., probably after creating many broken homes himself, only to discover that even the young gals have no free loyalty crown to hand to older men coming for them. 🥱🥱🥱

Women are marrying even into their sixties and seventies, for those who still think marriage makes sense at that age. So, go rest your tantrum-riddled brain for a corner. 🥱🥱🥱

3rdeyeNigeria:
✓ @Oyinbogyal, ...5. Lastly, from your story, your dad grew up angry, and he want to transfer that anger to you via his actions, and it seem you are already angry, if you don't retrace your steps back to inner happiness, you will transfer same anger to your children through your own mistakes.

Very sad situation indeed! I hope she seeks psychotherapy before she even attempts dating or marrying in the future. Otherwise, she may just end up transferring the same trauma -- internal chaos -- to her own children. 🥱🥱🥱

bigpicture001:
/✓ Wetin u mean... All ladies are cheap so long as u flaunt money to their faces.. including female bank managers

Intentionally chasing after cheap/ mostly broken women only to then declare that all women are cheap shows the level of hate you have for women in general.🥱🥱🥱

This coming year, please consider chasing your fellow men instead. I am certain you will have more respect and overall admiration for them instead. 🥱🥱

Lonestar124:
✓ I prefer to spend a fortune on a virgin, than to marry a public entity, but ✓ why do you feel agonized about my write up?

Then focus your energy on just that
...making a fortune to buy yourself that golden egg that will magically make all your troubles disappear and stop making unfounded statements. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Not in the least bit agonized. Just bent on correcting your particular confusion about the issue of bride price. 🥱🥱

It is almost 2026! Seeing such blatant ignorance still roams free illicit the urge to see it done away with immediately. 🥱🥱

Lonestar124:
It's aligning madam! Your gender are wicked and mean, they see everything as opportunity!!!

It doesn't align at all. First of all, never in history has the paying of bride price been for only virgins -- it is literally called bride pride , not virgin-bride price -- what in the world are you particularly high on? Second, if a virgin is what you want,then you better have money enough to afford such because I would think you would need to pay extra for that. So, carry your whines off somewhere when the problem is in fact that you are simply unable to afford what you desire. 🥱🥱

Third, if you hate women so much for not pandering to you, why not go with men instead? 🥱🥱🥱

QuantAnalyst:
✓ I feel you are being a little harsh on your father. This is just my personal opinion, and please don’t hate me for it.
I believe your father still loves your mother. When they separated, he may have found comfort in the arms of a Nigerian lady. It could honestly have been anyone. Men can be vulnerable too, not only women. It’s possible he was taken advantage of emotionally, and that the pregnancy happened in a way he didn’t fully intend or want.
✓ I think he kept this a secret because he still loves your mother and didn’t want to jeopardize any chance of reconciliation. Carrying such a secret for so long must have weighed heavily on him, and that may be why he has finally come clean.
✓ Telling you all now is not a sign of cowardice. I see it as a sign of deep embarrassment and regret for letting you, your siblings, and your mother down.
✓ When he said he doesn’t have affection for the boy, I don’t believe that’s entirely true. I think what he meant was that he has no affection for the boy’s mother, not the child himself.
✓ Again, this is just what I think. I could be wrong, but this is how it feels to me. Please don’t take this the wrong way as it comes from a place of understanding, not judgment.

1. Don't lie to her! If he was able to find comfort in another woman barely weeks into the separation, it means the man was ready to move on at that point. (Yes, the child may be 9-years-old now, but he was conceived 9 years and 9 months ago meaning it was only weeks after the separation that the father sort solace in the arms of this other woman.) 🥱🥱

2. Again, stop lying to her. He kept it a secret to cover for his actions. It has nothing to do with love. Love does not hide things or keep secrets. His actions were for the benefit of him and his ego at the time. 🥱🥱

3. It may not be a sign of cowardice, but it may certainly be to finally clear his own conscience, also an act of cowardice. A better word would be selfishness but hey! 🥱🥱🥱

4. Of course not, given he is after all a Nigerian and his parents or people are probably aware of the boy's existence. 🥱🥱🥱

5. Try to be less conceited in your reasoning next time. 🥱🥱🥱

naijapikin2:
✓ The guy that pranked his girl is a fo0l. The guy that slept with his guys fiance is a fo0l. The girl that fell for the temptation is a fo0l. Nairaland mods that put Auto ban feature is a fo0l. Only God is wise. 😠😠😠😠

The only fool in this case is the friend who felt he should be able to get what he could not give. He wanted loyalty but could not give it. The girl and the tester should go on with their little situationship, abeg. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

gucci20:
✓ You friend has to discontinue the introduction, bcoz the lady in question is an olosho in disguise. If your friend marry her, she'll continue with her wayward acts. And this will coz a lot of damages.

Women are no longer like their mothers and grandmothers.... pushovers.. if you want loyalty from a woman, you don't get it simply by picking to date or marry them... You only get it by giving it yourself. 🥱🥱🥱


Op clearly didn't value this woman..he felt he needed to test her... meaning he was himself not loyal to her. The audacity of him to expect loyalty from someone he gives none of it to. 🥱🥱🥱

OlayemiTade:
✓ The real problem here is the loyalty of our girls. Real men and women are scarce, until you're ripe for marriage that's when you will know that real opposite gender are scarce.
Abort mission that's all I can say for your own sanity

Why should girls owe you loyalty when you have none to give to them? What nonsense entitlement is this one high on? 🥱🥱🥱

honor4me:
Your father is securing his heritage. If he hasn’t gotten any kid other than you guys his root is totally forgotten.

What heritage? A baby or human being is made with a total of 46 Chromosomes with exactly 23 of them coming from the mother of the child and the other 23 coming from the father of the child. So, why is a man having children with multiple partners considered him securing his heritage even in poverty when a woman having a child by any number of men is pretty much the same -- all the mitochondria in any human being (power house of the cell) comes from the mother and never the father? 🥱🥱🥱

Curtis03360:
✓ My friend hired a guy to run a loyalty test for his fiancée, introduction to take place middle of January just to be sure of what he is getting into but the fiancée failed the test and even though my friend told the guy to end the game, he still went ahead to sleep with the fiancée at the agreed hotel. He doesn’t know what to do because he said he could have still managed to continue had the guy not slept with her and he contemplate on taking this up legally with the guy as he already told him to end it and pay him for his services. The girl is not aware of any of this till now and that was why he couldn’t stop it from his end by telling her he’s pranking her with the said dude

Running a loyalty test indicates a lack of love for the woman on your friend's part for this girl, so why would he expect loyalty from someone he does not love? Is your friend some sort of imbe-cile? A woman you don't love likely would also not love you but that don't mean she would not keep to the terms and conditions of the contract between you two so long as it remains the best deal -- benefits and values --- for her for the time being. 🥱🥱🥱

The loyalty tester probably made the girl a better offer than your friend did so what did he expect to happen? Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Kalatium:
She Saved His Life With Blood Now He Wants Divorce. Some People Are Not Worth Saving. Let’s call a spade a spade. A man was dying. Blood was needed urgently.
His wife approved a blood transfusion and saved his life. Today, that same man is angry. Not grateful. Not relieved. ANGRY. He’s even talking about divorce because the transfusion goes against his belief.
Read that again. Slowly. After she did try everything, saved his life, and suddenly she’s the villain? This is peak nonsense. Some people don’t want solutions.
They want drama as long as they’re alive to complain about it. Let’s be very clear. Belief is personal. Death is permanent. You cannot be alive because of someone’s courage and then punish them for it. That’s not faith that’s emotional blackmail mixed with stupidity. And let’s not dodge the obvious truth:
This issue happens mostly with Jehovah’s Witness beliefs. If you hold such a strong doctrine, why did you marry someone who doesn’t believe the same thing?
✓ Marriage is not love alone. It’s values. It’s life-and-death decisions. It’s “what happens when things go wrong.” If you can’t agree on that, you shouldn’t be married..
✓ The most annoying part? The man is alive, breathing, typing nonsense, forming outrage — because someone refused to let him die on principle. No gratitude. No humility. Just ego.
✓ Honestly, the wife should let him go. Let him marry someone with the same belief and handle the consequences together next time.
✓ Life is not a rehearsal. Some people are not worth saving not because they don’t deserve life, but because they don’t respect the sacrifice it takes to preserve it. If she had left him to die, we’d be preparing burial rice by now. Instead of “thank you,” she got insults.
That marriage is already bleeding and this time, belief won’t save it.

1. The woman is in the wrong! 🥱🥱🥱

2. If that is the case, then why didn't the woman choose to leave the man instead of trying to force her own fear of death on him while he was sick? 🥱🥱🥱

3. Why should he be grateful to someone who disregarded what may have been his final will to impose her own ideas on him instead? Make that make sense? 🥱🥱🥱

4. She should have let him go the moment she realized that she did not hold to the same ideals that he did. She is at fault here, and if that man were to sue her, she would wish she had never forced her ego on him. 🥱🥱🥱

5. Fear of death makes life the joke that it is for many, including that woman. She'd better go pray that the man will only divorce her— since she refused to let go of that which does not align with her beliefs. If he were to sue her, she would doubly regret going against common sense for as long as she did. Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

43Ronin:
Monogamy na for poor man

The post does not state anything about him being married. So where does this comment of yours come from?

Ikpeabujo:
➜thanks so much. Your words really encourage me because you seem to understand better,
Honestly I don’t see any simp attitude in my post

. There is nothing wrong with being a simp; it is finding someone who pours into you as much as you pour into them ... your equal... that makes relationships all worthwhile and to that requires a lot of emotional and social intelligence backed by self-love(the healthy kind, of course). 🥱🥱🥱

The woman who made the video is ignorant.

njokuuche77:
➜....Conclusion: Society Is Reaping What Homes Are Sowing
We cannot fix Nigeria only with policies, police, or prayers while ignoring parenting. Every Malefactor or morally broken adult was once a child shaped (or neglected) by a home.
If we want a better Nigeria, we must return to intentional parenting:
* Teaching values before wealth
* Character before connections
* Discipline before indulgence
As Galatians 6:7 reminds us: “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”
Nigeria is not cursed. We are simply harvesting the fruits of what many homes have planted.
Fix the home, and you heal the nation.

The vast majority of the ills — quick wealth culture—, including the problems of bad parenting— most Nigerian parents spend more days and nights praying for wealth and long life, than hours spent in an average day focused on the nurturing and well-being of their children— among others are primary caused by those in your traditional/religious circles. You cannot teach people values you yourselves do not hold to or adhere to. And that is why even the children of your pastors cannot be vouched for when it comes to these teachings of values, character, etc. Unless you are ready to cast down your many gods or men who also praise wealth and keep parents away from raising better children by organizing numerous services and vigils each week, you are not ready to face the real problems were they really lie.

Doctordan:
✓ Quite On the contrary, whoever gave me this information has my interest at heart. This is the truth.

An obvious lie can never be sold you in your best interest. 🤔

Ikpeabujo:
thanks so much. Your words really encourage me because you seem to understand better,
Honestly I don’t see any simp attitude in my post

According to Jaime Diman -- CEO of JP Morgan Chase -- some of the best soft skills to have in this new world are strong emotional and social skills. Channel your energy towards building those skills and you will not regret it. 🤔🤔

AKWATGOLD1:
@Ikpeabujo, Did you want to listen to frank truth, you cannot please woman after all you have tried your best according to your income. Please let her go. Almighty God shall use your good intention to replace her with better lady.

Let's stop lying to the individuals out there regarding these things. There is no god almighty out there playing games with people's minds in this. There are, instead, people looking for others to bond with on some level, and each person has the right to seek out only those who would at least benefit them the most. That is what relationships — whether platonic or romantic — literally are.🥱🥱🥱

Hugose:
Please how can I get a divorce lawyer within Ikorodu axis

Contact Naijalegal. She can better explain things to you, I think. 🥱🥱

https://www.nairaland.com/8546409/now-end-up-jail-making