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fineboynl:
who gain from this very story.

You are not making sense since your Nigerian marriages only benefit men...the women who are thrown out of those marriage are thrown smack deep into poverty at the end, thanks to laws that deny women their fair share of the martial communal wealth due to biases against married women-- hence the reason why women cling as hard as they can to Marriage in Nigeria. 🥱🥱🥱

iwaeda:
King Solomon of the time, 100 children.

King Solomon has less than 10 kids. Please, endeavor to educate yourself this 2026. 🥱🥱🥱

dontai:
I can promise you, non will come out like you.

That is actually a very bad thing for you.😩😩

BlackViper:
✓ According to reporting, Xu has allegedly claimed to have more than 100 surrogate-born children, expressed a desire for “50 high-quality sons,” and stated that having many children could solve most problems.
In a 2023 court hearing, he reportedly said he hoped around 20 U.S.-born children would eventually take over his business. Some claims—including that he has hundreds of children worldwide—have been denied by his company, which disputes parts of the reporting and says only a small number of the children were born in the U.S.
Xu’s case reflects a broader trend among ultra-wealthy tech founders planning unusually large families to preserve their companies and personal legacies.

Instead make him build himself these high quality sons out of robots, na human lives him wan manipulate in order to achieve him goal? Well, let's hope those high quality sons will not turn out the end of him and his legacy along with that of all the people out there -- a plague on humanity itself. 😩😩😩

fineboynl:
✓ It was then I know marriage as it is today is organized institution against men. The only thing a man can do is to carefully select because once you made that mistake it can reshape your life and career. And you might never recover from it.

A divorce in Nigeria, particularly that undertaken under customary law,-- the vast majority of mariages(including religious marriages) in Nigeria are registered under customary law -- rarely benefits women, so how can marriage be said to benefits women more than men?

ridwintin89:
Lol 😆😆,women that turn relationship to employment opportunity.
That is why single mother is everywhere. Mens are not fools. You you bill me anyhow, you will collect. Dont forget ladies or women can sex a man without spending a dime.Get money,look good,buy car.respect yourself. Free pussy would surely attach to you

Wrong! Single mothers are every where literally for the fact that women refused to value themselves...realize that their life and that of their unborn children should be worth more than a mere dick occasionally available with no benefits. 🥱🥱🥱

If more women made themselves scarce to dicks looking for a hole without consequence, the number of single mothers(and single fathers) would drop significantly. If more women loved themselves, then way more women would be willing to get pregnant for any man unwilling to adequately compensate them for the sacrifices and commitment to the process. And if even more women were to love their children too, there would be even less births altogether since women would then not wish to have kids with just anything out there with a dick and change. 🥱

Daughters need to be raised to center themselves and their lives above men and religion/tradition. 🥱🥱

Adexgentle005:
Leaked videos of veritas university girls is so disturbing. If you like no ask about her past or at least marry a virgin you go suffer wetin no good.

Are you sure you are OK? 🥱🥱

Tenrack:
if your brain cannot decipher what I've typed, that's not my problem

Decipher what was a request that he instead like to himself? You are not even half as smart as you think yourself to be. 🥱🥱🥱

Cum4me:
Simp simp ode wake up

So-called simps are so many times better.. they seem to be individuals with better emotional and social intelligence than the average men out there. 😗😗😗

Op is here tackling, rather than avoiding dealing with, his emotions head on..if that makes him a simp, it means he is on the right part to becoming a better human being.🥱🥱🥱

Hypnotise:
Things like this happen because of oneitis, only dating one lady at a time. You suppose to have multiple options or talking to multiple potential partners, like she clearly did. That way, you wouldn’t feel the loss so intensely

Nonsense? We all know people who dated more than one individual at a time only to have it backfire with them being left with the most desperate date, usually the one who they don't really like that much still clinging. That is more of less something to be ashamed of and not something to boast or tell others of, if you ask me..🥱🥱😁

Yes, dating someone you don't even like that much because you are afraid of what happened to OP happening to you is pathetic. 🥱🥱

gerizzim:
✓ Did you read thru his msg to understand before attacking it?
this one you wrote up is only you that understands the crap you wrote.

I read the gobbledegook and responded appropriately. 🥱🥱🥱

ruffhandu:
✓ I see. I assume you are just playing with words. Lol. Let me here that you are tagged an "evil" man in your hood.

Being tagged evil by a bunch of likely ignorant individuals means absolutely nothing. 🥱🥱🥱

It only matters if and only if you have a criminal background that certifies you as such. 🥱🥱🥱

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Witches, and wizards who have no such criminal background have no reason to feel anything about being tagged by ignorant members of their community. 🥱🥱

ayoncox:
Train don go you still dey Wait for am, look for another one na

That us a bad idea. He is still feeling from what happened to him --- literally pining for her return --, yet you are already advising him to look for another one? Are you folks so allergic to your own company that you feel you need to jump into the next relationship without at least giving yourself the chance to stew and grow from the lessons life had prepared for you to from the previous? 😩😩😩😩

Ikpeabujo:
I love the girl so much but I’m really Confused the love for a new guy in a Space of four months

Why? Because you feel your hormonal delusions which you call love ..fueled merely by chemicals rushing back and forth in your brain...should be all that is necessary to overcome her desire for another man whom she has determined to be of more benefit to her than you? 🥱🥱🥱

Let me let you in on a little secret. Hormone-induced love means and amounts to nothing if not backed with tangible benefits -- of measurable value. If the person you are in a relationship with is not able to achieve their individual dreams and desires — no matter how ridiculous or small --- all while you can achieve/pursue your goals and desires, what that means is that you are not of benefit to that person and you don't love that person— you truly don't like that person but like using that person for your benefit. Love is not mere words but action, and an action that benefits both individuals in the relationship, not just one. 🥱🥱🥱

Tenrack:
Count your blessings man. A woman in your life now could have derailed you. Keep working on improving yourself, improving your knowledge and relationship with God. You'll be fine.

Count your blessings...eaning choose to live denying reality, right?

Op just told his truth as he sees it and would like others to know it. Rather, than accept, you would rather he weave fairy tales ---- colorful lies --- around his reality, abi? Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Religion seems only capable of producing nothing but more arseholes this planet does not need more of. 🥱🥱🥱

Imindmybusiness:
✓ This thread is disgusting and should not be allowed to thrive. This kind of threads push widowers to marry new wives who in turn maltreat their children. Have you not seen responsible single and widowed fathers who raise their toddler children into adulthood? How do you expect them to raise them without bathing them? I will bath all my kids including girls until they are able to bath themselves well enough and there's nothing paedophilic minds like yours can do to change that.

Unfortunately, responsible fathers and husbands are rare in Nigeria. That is sort where I see OP's rather distasteful warnings coming from. 🥱🥱

The vast majority of Nigerian men have been groomed from a young age into regarding sex as the go-to activity for all of their emotional outlet by their male role models in the society to the extent that when Nigerian men see a female body, they don't see a human being but a hole to stick their dicks into. Even religion raises this hypersexualized view of women in the minds of men to another level by insinuating women are there to serve the desires of men. 🥱🥱🥱

Doctordan:
✓Did you know that when a person has sex, a spirit enters him?

Whoever did this to you hates you.🥱🥱9

Damochan:
✓ At your age, you would have noticed that life is cruel. Someone you trusted with your life would have made you regret you ever did.
In the bid to forestall such disappointments in the future, you stop trusting in anyone at all. You even join those who say, trust no one.
If this is you, I need to tell you that Satan is planting a bomb for you. He knows you can't even build a great relationship without trust and see how that part is being chipped off?

✓ Bottom line is...When you see that you find it difficult to trust anyone, no matter how righteous they appear, there's a problem and you need to get help.
Someone asked, "So how can you help someone or how can someone come out of such?"

Here's my response:
The person must know these...
1. Everyone will be betrayed even if the impacts differ.
2. Betrayal is capable of ruining their life and as long as they live in the feelings, they won't have an awesome life.
3. If they caused the betrayal, they should look into why it happened.
If they did good to be betrayed, they should not be tempted to say, "ehm, I won't do this and that again since I got hit badly for it".
If they gave their heart to the wrong person in love l, they shouldn't just jump into anyone until they're sure of where it'll lead.
4. They should forgive themselves for the hurt and pain (it takes time but it will be done). And actually forgive the person. Truth is... You will take your life a few steps backwards for every resentment against anyone.
Thank you.

1. It is the utterly foolish that resort to blaming an imaginary being called Satan/devil for everything their mind has a terribly hard time comprehending. 🥱🥱🥱

Yes, it is best when humans do not put their trust in other humans given than no human has complete control over their life, days and even fortunes -- the one thing constant to all humans, aside from death is change. Yes, we change from moment to moment hence are untrustworthy by our very nature. 🥱🥱🥱

Sadly, a lot of people only realize this truth after a very painful experience, ending up wrapped in bitterness, but that does not remove from the truth of the claim. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Nonsense! Tell that hogwash to all those whose betrayal led to their death or a point from which they were ever able to return from. 🙄🙄

Stop letting religion diddle your brain, abeg! 🙄🙄🙄

kiddaz:
✓ Learn to use people amd situations to your advantage especially during war. You weren't smart enough. If I were you I would have gathered intel through the mutual "friend". First start with something trivial and watch if he's got a loose mouth or not before gradually using him to pick out information indirectly. I say indirectly because it's safer so he can't say you said such and such. Office politics is not a game you play with emotions rather you play people's emotions intelligently cos it's safer with no permanent friends or permanent enemies. Everyone is using everyone. Friendship no dey work place. Everyone came for something and they're all up to something... good or bad

You don't seem to know much about friendships, do you? What makes you think that her mutual friend was not already leaking information to the other side on her given that he kept his relationship with the others going even while they were giving OP a hard time? 🥱🥱🥱

NEWBIN:
1...Have I overreacted?
2. How would you have responded to such a friend?

1. From what you wrote, you didn't overreact. 🥱🥱🥱

2. People are different. You are wrong in assuming that everyone you regard as your friend would have the same values and boundaries that you do. He made his decision to continue associating, disregarding your concerns. You just need to accept him the way he is and move forward knowing that. 🥱🥱🥱

If you feel you were unjustly let go, then I suggest you file necessary papers either to be reinstated or compensated for damage and losses. 🥱🥱

Know from here that adult friendships no dey always turn out like friendship between children. Goodluck!🥱🥱🥱

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engrchykae:
Yoruba pastors ooooooooooooooooooo
Fear God for once.

All these "Scammers from my ethnicity are better than scammers from other ethnicities -- Yoruba in this case," arguments only serves to present you as the gullible fools you really all are. 🥱🥱

Doctordan:
. It doesn't matter.

Stop lying! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

ManknowThyself:
LoL
No energy for ambiguity

Ambiguity is what it will seem to someone would rather not see. 🥱🥱🥱

Ikpeabujo:
please I don’t really understand your point

That girl is no longer in love with you. You have to accept this and move on. Come to terms with what has happened, accept reality of things(how it has happened) and your energy into moving on from this episode in your life.

Don't pour energy in hoping that she will one day come back to you. If that ever happens-- if she ever comes running back to you claiming she is sorry and all those other nonsense you see on Nollywood-- it means she sees you as a pushover....nothing good about that. Any person that runs back claiming they made a mistake in leaving you or abandoning you does not do so out of love for you but desperation ---an urge to salvage a bad situation the best they can. That never ends well for anyone that takes them back in that situation. 🥱🥱🥱

Most pushovers eventually go on to become bitter after being used and abused by men/women who they thought loved them at one point. Don't end up used and abuses by those you date of invest your feelings in. When it ends, let it naturally end. 🥱🥱🥱

ManknowThyself:
✓ when people deliberately leave your life, be smarter enough to let them go forever.
Mind you after a year that girl is coming back and don't ever accept her.

Let's stop telling this lie! Studies have shown that it is mainly those who manipulated their way into your lives that usually come back begging to be taken back after leaving you— poeple who never valued you in the first place. Most of the stories Nigerians tell of an ex coming back to beg to be taken back are all lies — tales twisted by pushovers to make themselves seem and feel better than they really felt about what truly transpired. . 🥱🥱🥱

Also, claiming an ex who left came back to beg to be taken back is nothing worth boasting about, as that action —trying to get back with an abandoned ex—typically comes from a place of disrespect, not love or desire. Yeah, if an ex comes back to beg you to take him/her back, it's literally a confession from that ex that you are the current pushover they know to take advantage of until maybe the next mark shows up. 🥱🥱🥱

ChristisGod:
✓ My wife engaged a male friend in a conversation online. The man in the conversation expressed that he would wanna suck her boobs and kiss her. My wife said she could not do that and that they should set boundaries. My wife told me about this happening. On 25th December however, my wife messaged this guy and wished him merry Christmas and also asked where he was.
Few days after the sexual advance, the guy requested for for food from my wife and she replied "it will come". On Christmas day, after my wife messaged him, he wrote "I guess I have to give up on this promised food, you are always rescheduling it" and my wife replied "No"
Should I be worried? Why? Thanks.

Tell her to come on nairaland and talk to us. 🥱🥱

Kingogbotor:
✓ Very rare situation...
U work in the same office ..collect almost the same salary .or slightly different..she go still expect u to dey foot some of her bills...and still tell u she doesn't have money ..

Struggle-love ends with your mothers and grandmothers. This generation of girls are educated enough to resist the urge to offer themselves up for cheap to anyone looking to use them to build himself. 🥱🥱🥱

Ikpeabujo:
I love the girl so much but I’m really Confused the love for a new guy in a Space of four months

You love her so much but what true value does this love have to her dreams and her life? Na sex and hormones you dey confuse for love? If love don't gat tangible value to it of what meaning is it? 🥱🥱🥱

Ikpeabujo:
✓ It’s happens that we have been together for one year and all of suddenly she move to a new city and location, and in a Space of three or four mon And she meet a new and this is very guy has captured her heartily completely and when I noticed change from her and when she stop visiting me, I confronted her about everything and she opened up to me that she moved on with the new guy. and her reasons is that the new guy take care of her more than I do and he also supported her family and her business more than I do and hence her reason for ending everything and now my question is what to do to get her back?.
in all honesty I love the girl but it’s sad that I was not doing enough to prove my love to her and now I understand how much I love her seeing her with another guy and why the sudden love for the new guy in a space of four months.
What can I do to get her back because this very night she just told me that she move on and from her words i can see that she mean it

Why do you want to get her back when her reason clearly indicates you are definitely not what she wants right now? 🥱🥱

Arda1000:
Saw after Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit their eyes opened and they saw that they were naked.
My question is if they were naked all the while before eating the fruit,does it mean their eyes were not functioning?

The book isn't about religion, by the way.🥱🥱

During the time of our ancestors, unclothedness among the various tribes was not considered a thing of shame until after the white man showed up. After that, people began ascribing such emotions as shame and humiliation to seeing their own unclothedness and that of others. 🥱🥱

Yes, Adam and Eve were naked before they ate the fruit. It was their norm until just after the incident. What they formally accepted became no longer acceptable; not because their unclothedness committed any crimes against anyone or was bad in any sense, but because man's ego became centered in man, hence the shame and embarrassment at his own unclothedness. From that point on, man began to fixate on that which concerned his ego, rather than on that which concerned his Maker.

This year is by far the best year of my life --. the trend has remained that way for a while now...and I look forward to 2026 also beating it out. 😁😁

ruffhandu:
✓ Not me being afraid, I ask how they feel being called by that. ✓ How about you being called by the name èvil`? You like the sound of that?

1. Why should they feel anything when the word is nothing to be afraid of ?🥱🥱

2. I am not insecure that I should be afraid of a word like evil or any other word out there. It is those who are afraid of mere words...a bunch letters juxtaposed together for the sake of achieving a meaning..that tend to attach feelings to mere words.🥱🥱🥱