₦airaland Forum

dollytino4real:
✓ not all, paul 4 Bible say i eat but because of wetin una go think n talk go make him not to eat

So, you take that to mean that this Paul, you refer to, lived his life according to the opinions of those around him. And because of this, you, a literate woman living in the information age, have chosen to live like an unmarried unemployed, possibly childfree, 1st century style hobo -- for lack of a better word? 🥱🥱🥱

Offpoint1:
✓ Where you designed for formula or breast milk?
Take a back seat, this is beyond your societal conformity. Take a back seat for now.

Were you designed for other processed foods that you eat and still are capable of surviving on? 🥱🥱

Ever resorting to asking the stewpidest of questions when cornered, huh?. 🥱🥱🥱

plsdisvirginme:
Anyone should please give me some business idea or any skill acquisition, I'm empty ,. Help a fellow bro.
Criticism is accepted as long as I'm going to live to tell the story at the end, Thanks

Why are you empty? Why are you unable to figure out possible ways forward giving what you have and know? Tell us.🥱🥱

tgmservice:
With great sadness I announce his passing.
The young lad was going through a lot.
Farewell bro

How do you know he is dead? 🥱🥱

mechanics:
He should report her to her family members and not on social media.

if it were the man who abandoned the baby with the woman, would you also suggest his family be harassed for the decision he made? 🥱🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
✓ It true I totally agree with you.

We are waiting for the day when more Nigerians will make the decision. When people begin to make that change in their daily lives, we will begin to see the evidence for hope for Nigeria.

Diamond098454:
✓ you are strong oooooooo
I'm a shy type

It has nothing to do with being strong or not. Everyone has a limit and the ability to decide when to impose that limit. I know this have decided not to let anyone railroad me or use me to humiliate me or destroy others. 🥱🥱

Anyone can do this too. It is a decision...a choice available to even the most demure of us all. 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
✓ Are you telling me if you are the one. You will challenge the pastor right inside the church full of congregation
✓ No no no. You won't do it The best is to ghost that church

I would probably get it on camera, too. And post it asap.

2. In this day and age, people need to stand up against bullsheet that those before them endured and excused.

Diamond098454:
✓ I would have stop him immediately but it will look as if I'm disgracing a pastor.
✓ You understand religion in Nigeria🇳🇬🇳🇬
My friends was laughing

Somebody, for no fault of cause,chose to assault and humiliate you. You said you were so embarrassed, like he literally stripped you naked in public. Yet, you don't think you would have been well within your right to have called him out for his bullsheet right there and then? 🤔🤔

2. Oh, I understand all religions are scams and any scammer who comes near me with that bullsheet won't use me for a fool. 🤔🤔🤔

Merry Christmas to all this 2025!

Diamond098454:
✓ That will create so much scene . I resembled my mum and her family
All her sisters and two brothers has the same eyes

Is that like you saying because you think Asians look so much alike, you should get a pass when you wrongly accuse anyone of them of a crime or injustice? 🥱🥱🥱

Seriously, serious problem dey and no be for government I dey talk! 🤔🤔

jaszplus12:
✓ My dear, thank you for your comments. I understand you even better now...your domain remains deep in an abyss of trauma troubled transition. Its understandable.

This from someone who never understood divorce for the solution that it has always been in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
✓ I was so ashamed of myself, so embarrassed

Why didn't you call him out immediately on his lie...pass the shame right back to him who it rightly belonged to? 🥱🥱

jaszplus12:
✓ You see, the smart you didn't proffer solution, what you did was to take away the scaffolding that would be used to guide any marriage. But I don't really blame your sense of comprehension of marriage or even the logical reasoning put forth by the OP, your one direction mind just engaged gear and roared off!!
✓ I like your advice though, cos it floats around yet [b]only the regretful will or would need to it! Yeah, awaiting a brand new year so you can have a rethink when asked to advice on marriage. Good girl...[/b]

Divorce is a legally valid solution to marriage. It has been around since the very first marriage between humans and remains a solution that marriage even to this day. 🥱🥱🥱

Again, endeavor to develop your language comprehension skills and also work on opening your mind so you don't continue to miss out the obvious even when right in front of you.🥱🥱🥱

2. Only the regretful seek divorce yet year in, year out, the number of those who keep embracing divorce continues to increase with some folks doing it several times in their one lifetime? Your summation on divorce obviously doesn't match the reality of things. Seems more like many more consider divorce the logical escape from a regretful situation in marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

jaszplus12:
✓ The exact point the OP is trying to make is what you have just displayed!! Outsmarted yourself being too smart!
🤣🤣🤣

you ain't even half as smart as you think yourself to be if you were not able to figure that instead of OPs suggestions that women labor in vain/suffer in marriage with such obviously immature specimens, I would rather women be encouraged to seek divorce from such marriages. 🥱🥱

2026 is a brand new opportunity to prioritize acquisition of language comprehension skills.🥱🥱🥱

obiekunie01:
✓ This one wey you dey talk like say you don invent a way to help us know those among them that are NOT prostitute!
CAUSE THE LAST TIME I CHECKED, THEY ALL SEEMS TO BE PROSTITUTE - SOME OPERATE FROM TTHEIR FATHERS HOUSE, SOME OPERATE FROM HOSTEL, SOME FROM CHURCH, SOME OPERATE RIGHT IN THEIR HUSBAND'S HOUSE, SOME EVEN PRETEND TO BE MARY-AMAKA! AND YET THEY ARE ALL INTO THE SAME BUSINESS WITH DIFFERENT BAPTISM NAMES.

Since you have now come to realize that all women are oloshos, now you know that if you don't get money to pay, na suffer go be your head. 🥱🥱

yungkels:
Warris dis now?
Sometimes I see religion as an enemy to Africa...

It is exactly that...a weapon fashioned against Africans... A potent drug that seems designed to see Africans never to rise. 🥱🥱

dollytino4real:
na Nigeria not Yankee, we care of wat dey say

The same Nigeria that women have been getting their divorce in abi na imaginary one wey dey your own head for their?🥱🥱

Since the 1980s, divorce rate for Plateau state for that Nigeria has been consistently above 70%. But rather than admit that your own problem is that you care so much what people say about you still, you wan dump am for all of Nigeria wey no even get your own time? 🥱🥱🥱

Offpoint1:
✓ A 3 months who's left behind by his/her mother stand a 90% risk of dying than a 3 months old left behind by the father. Breast millk is baby life support system... Ponder on that.

Yet babies whose mothers literally die during childbirth are known to have near 100% survive(if born without complications) even without getting a sip of breast milk? 🥱🥱🥱

Something dey terribly wrong with the way many folks still reason.🥱🥱🥱

Starz825:
➜The poster is speaking about connecting with people cos thats how you start up... Meanwhile, he dey hard for introvert to get marital partners.....esp for women wey no dey go out at all..cos you can not get all your needs online

A great number of people and business deals are now connected remotely with each other these days. 🥱🥱

dollytino4real:
Rip to her, it is well, if u leave they tag u ashow dey ur eyes

At your age, you still care so much what people think or say? 🥱🥱🥱

Famous606:
➜A child we come looking for his father because he really want to know is heritage and in some cases some of them are being rejected by the so family of the woman in terms of inheritance and possession of property .
➜ If a man abandoned a pregnant lady(foetuses) don't you think the lady is forcing it on him and which he totally rejected because he meant not be ready for such responsibility or probably having doubts if the pregnancy belongs to him .
➜ All am trying to say is that the lady action is wrong but i can't fully judge her because we have not hear her own side of the story the man can be doing emotional blackmail just to have public sympathy
➜ please if you know the lady kindly beg her to go back to her child because the punishment she is giving to the husband is too much which in the video the man is already stress out ,i guess he has learn the hard way .

1. According to science, the heritage of the child is also the mother— half of the chromosomes that make up a child come from the mother, and the other half comes from the father — so, definitely, when the child goes looking for its mother, it is also looking for its heritage. And with women working and saving money for themselves, even mothers can now offer their children an inheritance and possessions. 🥱🥱

2. Well, since it is the woman abandoning the man in this case, don't you think it is the man forcing her to have his half-seed to create a child with, and she totally rejected even after being baby-trapped by him because she was not ready for the responsibility or doubts that she would be able to take care of the baby for him? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You just suggested that when a man does it, it is right, but God forbid a woman do the same, it is wrong. Clearly, there is nothing reasonable or or to be trusted about your judgment.

4. God forbid! An adult, after considering her situation, decided it was best for her to leave the baby with the baby's father. When a man does the same thing, not even a single person calls him to account, but encourages him to move forward almost immediately, whenever a woman does, the child suddenly needs its mother. It is punishment when a woman does it to the man, but not punishment when a man does the same thing to a woman? Nonsense! 🥱🥱

The woman should live her life, make money so she can send her child to college by the time the time comes to look for her. The father of the child can take care and raise the child better than the mother can... no be so? 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
✓ My dear I followed a friend of mine to her church three months ago and the pastor brought me out and told me in front of every one
That my eyes is from water that's why I haven't given birth since a year and 6months I got married. My friend and some of my course mates started laughing at me.
The truth is I'm not married, I'm not engaged. I don't know where this pastor got his prophecy from.

He got it the same place that we all gets our lies from.🥱🥱

everythingtall3:
✓ I know I am

Every Tom, Dick and Harry in Nigeria claims to be a good guy, yet Nigeria remains one of the DV capitals of the world.🥱🥱

Religion was meant as a tool of subjugation from its start. It was meant to kill those are it needed killed for its purpose to be realized. 🥱🥱🥱

Famous606:
✓ That child is to small nobody
✓ we tell her the story of the mother
✓ don't forget that the child is just 3 month old no proper breast feeding no recognition of the mother face or anything to show ,the woman that we take care of her at that stage
✓ becomes the mother automatically for life am judging her action for punishing the innocent child just to get to the father
✓ i just believe they are so many ways she can deal with the husband without involving the child .

When a man abandons his baby to go live his life free of it and it's mother, we never hear "that child is too small." Rather we hear,"The child will come looking for its father when it is old enough." 🥱🥱🥱

2. Much like fathers, there are literally a lot of deadbeat mothers out there too. That Society does its best to hide their existence does not make them vanish. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Fathers abandon even foetuses before they are born with their baby mamas regularly. And babies whose mother's die in the labor room also so survive. This child will be fine and it is being raised by its father.

4. But a father who is also a father for life is not judged at all when he abandons his baby, punishing it too? 🥱🥱

5. So many years, yet Society finds it totally acceptable when a man abandons his baby with his baby mama while insinuating that the mother's toxicity is all the reason necessary for him to abandon both of them? 🥱🥱🥱

Arlee:
✓ Good thing is,this is not how nature wired a responsible mother,

She is naturally programmed to have feelings for her fragile innocemt baby.
✓ With this your logic : What happens to the excess breast milk nature placed on the woman for the nourishment of the baby?
✓ What becomes of 6 months exclusive breast feeding necessary for the well being of the innocent baby?
✓ Its never about selfish feelings, its about the innocent child

nature does not wire women to be mothers since not all women have children. Society has typically tried to wire/brainwash all women into nurturers ignoring the fact that even fathers /and non-fathers can get that trained and do an equally good job at it. 🥱🥱

A responsible mother is at least one who knows to exit a toxic situation when she sees it for what it is. This mother has at least done that much so her child can be nurtured in a non toxic environment. 🥱🥱

2. Powdered baby milk is sold IN Nigeria too. The baby is with its father and will do quite well. 🥱🥱

3. Are you insinuating that babies whose mother's literally die during labor do not survive drinking powdered milk during the first six months of birth? 🥱🥱🥱

4. When fathers abandon their babies with their baby mamas, we literally never see that word --+ selfish --- used. But now a mother does the same and you want to make it all about the word? Wow! 🥱🥱🥱

tollyboy5:
So we should subject the baby to such experience ✓ because of the mother is just a female and never a mother. God help us.

Their is nothing worse for even a baby than having at least a loving parent to care for it.🥱🥱🥱

Historical not all females have been mothers and not all mothers are good mothers. Good fathers can also be good mothers to babies. 🥱🥱🥱

Just last week, he had droves of supporters. Where are they? 🥱🥱

guobe:
An average African is more property conscious and can go extreme to protect it.

Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱

Makelele004:
loving. It breaks because they stop repairing. Emotional connection responds to behaviour. Change the ..pattern and feelings often respond.
This understanding matters. It shifts focus from blame to action. Marriage survives through awareness, effort, and honest repair.

Nonsense! Why should it be the wife's responsibility to police a grown- arsed man's emotions for him? If a man emotionally disconnects from his marriage, it should be his responsibility to detect and immediately correct himself.

Abeg normalize divorce and stop pretending men are adult children women need to take care of in marriage...the same marriage these men are supposedly leaders/heads of. No wonder sex goes out the door after a while with women eventually realizing their husbands are no different from their own children in that they too need raising.😩😩😩😩

Normalize divorce make women freely exit such relationships. A grown man still unable to do the basic inner work required of all adult humans needs a mother and not a wife and no woman's child should be burdened with such nonsense. 😩😩😩

Arlee:
➜using the action of few irresponsible men to generalise and justify this lady's action? Strange. Note,I didn't blame all ladies, i blamed the action of this particular lady

. Irresponsible men that are never called out or punished in any way, while the women — the baby mamas—left behind are dehumanized and humiliated? Of course! Why not? Let women have the same freedom to leave when they know the relationship is too toxic for them to remain in. And let the men raise the children themselves. 🥱🥱🥱

Women need to normalize leaving the babies with the baby fathers. That way, society can talk down less on baby mamas, and the woman can breathe while the children thrive by being raised by their baby fathers who we are told raise better children. 🥱🥱🥱