₦airaland Forum

aktolly54:
so if a man rich enough to marry five wives and buy house for each one of them and marry all of them then man can do that? Since we are talking about "AFFORD" this moment

how much is a house that you would think it should be all a woman's time, body and energy should be Worth? If a man gave you a house so you will .marry him and live at home for him, will you be satisfied with that to want to dedicate your life to living for him and his dreams? 🥱🥱🥱

Gunayo:
Hope you are not married? I pity your husband if you are married. He must be passing through hell.

Provide us here with the documentation of the law that guarantees you see from your woman in marriage without need for consent from your wife. That is what I am waiting to read from you lot who think in your tiny brains of your marriages are literal slave licenses. 🥱🥱🥱

Grown-arsed men comned by way of lies into marriage, crying foul after realizing marriage is not a license to treat their wives like slaves I don't know which is more pathetic --- the ones who lied to you alll of you who believed the lies sold you all by fraudsters. 🥱🥱🥱

Amaggedon:
➜Context is very important while making reference to such law. Rest please leave marriage for those willing to get married ,its not for everybody.

I laugh! I see you don't know where your right to marriage also comes from. 🥱

Again, I am waiting for you to provide us with the details of where this right to ownership of the body of the woman you marry(you own her as a slavemaster owns a slave after paying bride price) is documented. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

essentialone:
➜Well, a man marries. A lady is married. Return to school if that is not clear to you.

Well, is the man not equally married?

Abi, did I just post a retort to a literal brainfart?

Amaggedon:
➜Marriage grants you right to sexual satisfaction, traditionally, legally, religiously, morally.
➜ I dont know the opinion you trying so hard to shape here.

Where is this right that you claim documented? I would very much like for you to provide us with the documentation of this right, which you claim that marriage grants you. 🤔🤔🤔

Simply provide us with a reference or image of the documentation of this right, which you say marriage grants to you. 🤔🤔

Amaggedon:
➜So why would you marry to a man knowing its for his sexual satisfaction, then went ahead to deny him the benefits of the marriage?

Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman. Similar to how you have to pay to access a sex worker's body, you also have to pay your dues in marriage — make your wife happy enough to want you to have her body. 🥱🥱

Of course, if you are not willing to do the work required to make her happy enough to give it up to you, you can always divorce her and seek your sexual satisfaction through sex workers, if that equation makes it easier for you to reason. 🥱🥱🥱

Amaggedon:
This only happens when women gets married because of their selfish gain.

A man who marries a woman to have his sexual needs met, among other things, also does so for selfish purposes. 🥱🥱🥱

There is literally nothing wrong with people being selfish —no one else can love you better than you can love yourself, after all. Saying someone is selfish is not an insult but a possible sign the person knows how to center themselves and not others. What is more of an insult, particularly in a relationship, is when one partner is guilty of failing in the area of reciprocity. 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
➜I live alone and i don't bring men into my apartment, I don't go out at night to hustle. The way you guys look down on women is too alarming and this is why some of you make grave mistake in terms of marriage

. Even if you bring men to your apartment or you have many situationships going on for you, what business of his is it? Many of these boys regularly brag about paying a hooker for their needs several times each month. (Not sure how many of them have even seen the space between a woman's legs in their entire lives, mind you.) The fact is, they brag about being promiscuous, yet they have the mouth to put down women who are equally promiscuous as they are? Does that even make sense to you? 🥱🥱🥱

No mind OP oh! He probably envies promiscuous women out there who can get all the sex they want and still keep themselves in a nice place of their own, while he can't pay for all the sex he wants without his account taking a huge hit for it. 🥱🥱

Never apologize for being who you choose to be, or for feeling you need to explain yourself to others. 🥱🥱

Glimpsetv:
➜She revealed that almost 29 friends were involved, yet none have stepped up, leaving her feeling that her money has gone to waste.
The post has sparked various reactions online, with some suggesting that perhaps the Asobi is too expensive, which might explain why none of her friends have bought it yet.

No be this Nigerian economy we dey all deal with dem go come get money for asho ebi from?

flexxyworld:
➜Im so sure she also never apologies. Thats not your girlfriend, she’s just using you. No matter how much convo or the tone, she will never change/listen. The only solution is to walk away from such relationship. You are not her man

. Stop projecting! His issue is not the same as yours. 🥱🥱🥱

Eagleways:
➜By just satisfy his or her urge and save us your wicked manipulative logics.
➜If you respect him yourself, you should know that his urge in marriage is his right

. Why should she, particularly if she is not happy in the relationship, as the other commentator suggested? The manipulation here is the expectation that the man should have his urges satisfied even when he is clearly not reciprocating the energy she has been pouring into the relationship. Even the prostitutes that the man probably runs off to on the side get so much more out of their encounters with him than the wife, so what incentive does she have to give her body to him? 🥱🥱

2. Respect in marriage is meant to be both ways, not one way, even in your marriage. So, why insist it is OK when the man does not respect his wife, but expects her to respect him regardless? 🥱🥱🥱

Hmmmmm2024:
➜Under what law ? Stop misleading people

Abi, o! Just imagine the nonsense argument.

Father4all:
women don't have standards. They set it for men they don't like

.Interesting assertion! 🥱🥱

If that is the case, then the OP's argument is trash— it was already that, but you drove the final nail in the coffin of his argument —since a woman is only meant to put out if she likes the man. Therefore, it is up to the man to ensure the woman he marries likes him; otherwise, he gets none. 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
➜Relationship comes with responsibilities which you know and if you are not ready to take care of your responsibility in a relationship don't go into it. Both the man and the woman have rules to play.

Individuals have the freedom to define the rules/boundaries for their own relationship and life. If a woman wants to give herself away cheaply to men(she may be desperate for a man), she has the freedom to present herself on the market for any man looking for a free woman. The woman who knows she has a value and that not just any man will do, will also position herself in such a way that only those men who can afford her would come her way. (A great way to filter out the cheapies is to set your price/boundaries and stand by them no matter what.)

Myrrhis:
➜It is not by force/compulsory to be in a relationship. You are not entitled to anybody. Nobody owes you companionship.
So, if you cannot handle the expectations that come with having a relationship, make your life easier by staying on your own. You're better off that way. You cannot manipulate your way out of what is expected of you, while expecting something in return.

You are absolutely right! 🥱🥱

A man who refuses to meet the needs of his potential lover is not entitled to or owed companionship by her. If a man refuses to pay for a woman's hair, skincare, toiletries, wardrobe, accommodation, and/or school fees, the woman has every right to refuse him access to her energy and attention. 🥱🥱

Rynny:
➜🤦

The least you can do is pay for her transportation back to her family or friend's place. But it is OK to break up with someone you are already aware you are not compatible with. It is better than us waking up to another crime story about some lover/boyfriend/husband murdering his wife/girlfriend/lover, or the other way around. 🥱🥱

Rynny:
➜Saying she doesn’t see herself marrying someone like me came from the fact I don’t yell, react or do nothing, even when I caught her cheating

From your own words, you are both not good for each other, and I don't see why you want to suddenly flip this to make it seem you were mistaken in admitting this.

Rynny:
➜When I say change her, I mean like having convos with her, letting her know what I don’t feel comfy wit or like. So as she can change
➜ but …. Wait…🤔 she lives with me tho, I don’t live with her

If you feel a person needs to change so that you can feel better with the relationship you have with them, what that means is that the relationship is wrong for you and for that person. 🥱

2. Tell her you are done with the relationship and let her to move out immediately so you can both find yourselves better lives with other individuals.🥱🥱

Rynny:
➜I really want it to work but seems I be putting in too much efforts to what isn’t there.
➜ There was a day she made a statement, “I don’t see us ending in marriage, n just dating hoping where ever the relationship go” and that broke me deeply. Thats when I knew I’ve left myself belittled in so many ways.

I don't want it to work for you both, given that you already admitted to being part of the abuse and toxicity in the relationship.🥱🥱

2. You both need to find other partners whom you would not need to be toxic towards. There is nothing good about being in a toxic relationship, for either of you. She already told you that she does not see herself marrying someone as toxic as you, and you already revealed that she is toxic for you. So, best you both move away from each other immediately. 🥱🥱🥱

Rynny:
➜But we sorta live together. And I really wanna quit but the feeling I be having like she’ll be really hurt, I’ve tried changing her to my Taste, all effort seems abortive 💔 am really drained n tired 😪tho she’s a nice person when it comes to other things but disrespect is the issue, she talks don on me, insults me, and blame it on anger.

You tried changing her to your taste? Sounds more like you are equally an abusive/toxic element in the relationship. 🥱🥱

Anyway, let her know you are done trying to control her and moving out. And make certain you have all your bags packed and already at the door immediately. Don't spend a minute longer than today. That way, she can have time to immediately work towards getting a replacement roommate. 🥱🥱

Rynny:
➜What’s the easiest way to break up with a toxic n disrespectful partner, please be specific n direct to the point. I need a way to leave the relationship 😒 please help me 😩 cos I can’t deal wit it anymore, minute she’s all loving n calm, the next minute she’s so rude, disrespectful and all. Please help me 😩🥺

Walk away from the toxic and disrespectful individual. The person obviously does not respect or regard you. So, why do you feel obligated to give him/her what has not been given to you? Walk away! 🥱🥱🥱

GloriousGbola:
➜have money. police will not prosecute any case without being paid. have money and a will to follow through to the end.

This is a civil issue, not a police issue naw!

Naijalegal, abeg, come explain to us wetin this woman fit do legally to this riffraff who took it on himself to sully her name online, abeg! Give us steps on how she can go about getting a more decent and open apology so other women can learn from this one case.

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IAM4BAT4plus4:
The only clean girls we have in the country are these ones into modeling...
They are clean virtuous and guided by their organisers... You need to see what many girls do for ordinary phones these days

. Meaning that your mom, grandmom, and sisters are not clean? 🥱🥱🥱

glammagazine:
https://charmingpro.co.uk/miss-nigeria-tofunmi-adekola-wins-best-carnival-costume-at-miss-cosmo-2025/

What is with the misleading title?

Luckybelt:
Then you are wrong. Women are jewels. If I hate women I ll tell them just to go and marry a rich man not minding God fearing trait

Yep! You definitely hate women so very much! 🥱🥱

DeGLORIOUS:
✓ It's not compulsory to come to terms with reality. Your thoughts about reality can't change it from being the reality. Keep it up using the big brain.,

Reality is not as defined by your delusions but facts established outside of your mind there. 🥱🥱🥱

Luckybelt:
➜I later said ‘doesn’t have much money’ . Why did you say that

Because I am certain you hate women. 🥱🥱🥱

Neddstark:
➜ If they think it's too much a risk, they have a choice to be unmarried and single.

You swear they do? Cause the bulk of the time, they are shamed for remaining single and childfree. 🥱🥱🥱

Luckybelt:
Marry God fearing and hard working man, even if he has no money. Support and pray for him to be prosperous.

You hate women, don't you? 🥱🥱🥱