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Diamond098454:
I wonder how married women cope with the excessive demands of sex from there husband

. It should be dealt with in the same way non-married people cope with excessive demands for sex from their partners. The one with the problem learns to better handle their need rather than attempt to impose it on the other human. Most people know to adopt sexual discipline before and while dating. There is no reason why such sexual disciplines should be thrown out the door after marriage. If the partner feels he/she can find better outside of the marriage, then there is also divorce, which is a legal way out of marriage.

It is never the responsibility of one partner to needlessly suffer to satisfy the other partner.

always247:
➜I dont know if she is infected but they are still together and she shows no sign of leaving the marriage

CHEEZZZUUUSSSS!!!!😩😩😩

See how you contradict and confuse yourself?You said "Two conflicting matters cannot be true at the same time" only for you to say "both are wrong. "That is you affirming that two conflicting matters can be right.

I have always wondered why a course in Logic is not required at the elementary school level, and this here is one major reason why. How a grown individual cannot reason even the basic things... it disturbs my mind.

judewrites:
➜Our destinies differ. The big mistake we make is to compare ourselves with other people.
What we lose to sex outside marriage is proportional to the greatness of our destiny. What I really mean is the greater your destiny, the greater the loses to sex outside marriage. That's why you should be extremely careful with your own destiny and stop looking at others who are misbehaving sexually because what they lose cannot be compared with what you lose! As for certain 'big men', many of them use sex as occultic means to upgrade financially! As for those reading this_apologies for drifting from the topic!

A prostitute— she probably had sex with more men than are currently alive in your entire village today — who lived thousands of years ago, has her name near immortalized. You are telling us that by not having sex, we can protect this assumed greater destiny, supposedly greater than that of this particular prostitute? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

The literal cognitive dissonance that powers these religious delusions —all contradictions-ridden, mind you— person no fit buy am for market at all. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

always247:
the guy is married. he has been treating stubborn malaria and typhoid for so long until recently they discovered its hiv

. Hope his wife is not already infected. And I hope this will be the final sign she needs to realize she should not be in that marriage.

Tenrack:
ask your papa

He was not poverty-ridden, hence such talk never emanated from his mouth, and for good reason. Na poverty-ridden men dey always talk of how dem take care of women.

Tenrack:
No still mean say no be scam in most cases. Mam go just busy inherit wahala. You take care of a woman who might destroy you later because you no be blood. Abeg abeg.

It is always the poverty-ridden entities going around claiming they took care of women. How much do you give or pay her for all she does that you believe in your delusion that you take care of her? 🥱🥱🥱

PassingShot:
➜But she's dating a married man, not so?
➜ No wonder you are so loathed by most of the people here!

The society literally lauds married men who date outside of their marriages, meaning the men are not expected to feel bad about cheating on their wives. But you expect the sidechicks to feel bad about sleeping with men who are literally permitted by society at large to sleep with them? How do you make that make sense to you? 🥱🥱🥱

2. I would rather be loathed than descend to the level of stewpidity that is you. 🥱🥱

VaginaAcademic:
No" good man" out there marriage is not a bed of roses.

Those they call good men typically turn out weapons fashioned against women. I recall reading, not too long ago, a thread where a brother detailed how the good man he introduced to his sister turned out to be a weapon of abuse against her life. He claimed he knew the guy for 8 years and believed he would be best for his sister, but the opposite turned out to be the case.

Cmanforall:
➜Social media and content creators are now promoting sex sex sex. These should be regulated!

Sex has always been an exchange between two consenting humans. Religion/tradition has tried at gatekeeping this access — for the umpteenth time—to no avail. Social media is merely highlighting this fact.

Teach your girls and your boys all they need to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases from a very young age, so that when they are old enough to decide on sex themselves, they already have the wisdom to move forward with care. 🥱🥱🥱

Kalatium:
➜Has it ever occurred to you that what you think is conflicting might not really be conflicting but just how you see it.
For example, it was battled in the beginning of 20th century whether light is a matter or a form of energy but the debate was that it was never both. Years later it was discovered it was both. Light exist as both matter and energy.
In summary. Life is not a zero sum game. It's not everytime that how you think things are means its the objective reality for everyone.

This subject isn't about life but about the supposed rightness of general opinions held by some humans regarding the freedoms of other humans. There is absolutely no reason why an opinion should be raised above a fact; all humans are free to act according to their rights by law, regardless of the opinions of society.

plsdisvirginme:
My life would have been much better if my mother was a black lady. Fair women make life difficult for their kids and generation. They live a life to impress people, they borrow money to maintain their expensive life style. . Money that would have been used to make life better for their kids. The money are used to buy creams , fake life to impress people. Chai

You go to school at all? 🥱🥱🥱

9jaBloke:
➜The house is given to the primary care-giver, which is usually the woman, so that the children can grow and develop in familiar space.
Again, assets acquired during the marriage are divided equally and women are prioritized.

Not true! It can only be given to her if she wants it and can afford to pay for it.

frugal:
➜The baby is for both of them.

Says who?

T0BY:
Shout out to those guys/men that don't sleep with anything on skirt despite the strong and powerful sexual urge. Having multiple partner isn't an achievement but then everyone is free to make a choice and live their life.

Nothing that one does without involving the use of one's brain and intelligence is really an achievement.

Diamond098454:
Human can't do without sex and people hardly stay out of sexual relationship but despite how sweet love making can be, the truth remains valid
Good morals, self control and self discipline is the best way to stay safe.

And how would you define good morals where casual sex is concerned? I think it ultimately has to be about having a deep sense of responsibility for one's own health. I see no reason why an adult should carelessly indulge in sex, knowing fully well how not everyone has a deep regard for themselves and their health.

Odebayo4010:
Some of you are Christians but in practice you are superstitious and fatalistic pagans. You believe whatever happens, 'is god's will.' Don't be an idiot. You have agency. You have the power to determine your own destiny. You set causes and outcomes in motion by your choices.
When you ought to speak up for yourself, you wait on god. When you ought to take action to protect yourself, you wait on god. When you ought to choose the right leaders in your nation, you wait on god. Take responsibility. God won't do what you have power to do for yourself.

Every religious individual out there, including you, OP, is superstitious, believing in invisible enemies being responsible for the many obstacles in their lives when, in fact, a lack of understanding is what is responsible for it all. 🥱🥱🥱

The worst kind are those who believe there is a satan somewhere responsible for all their evil acts against humanity, and they number in the majority.

Juoflife1:
And what's wrong with her remarrying after 6 months?

Even if she wants to remarry the day of the burial, there is no law against that, too. The same way men can do that, and even worse, is the same way women can.

grandstar:
➜I still stand by what I said that only decent for both can move but should not be too soon.
I am 100% for women remarrying after marriage. It is also scriptural.

Respect is earned, not given! Women like men are free to move on in any way they desire at any time they are ready to.

Kalatium:
✓ Because you think you are right doesn't mean i am wrong.
You have your point and i have mine.

Two conflicting matters cannot both be true. Either one is right, and the other is wrong, or both are wrong. 🥱🥱

What I focused on in my response to you was the facts, and not opinions. Opinions cannot/do not trump facts. 🥱🥱

DarkLover:
✓ Love to me is an expression of my inner essence outwardly, through connection, affection & care.
✓ It gets complicated while expecting the same treatment you exude, but I believe that, there are so many people out there who share my ideology of love, so getting someone shouldn't be a problem.
✓ I have had & still have so many loved ones in my life. I was never devoid of love. However, this topic revolves around romantic relationship & a path to a happy ending. I want a happy home full of love and all its branches.

1. What you described can also equal chaos. I am asking you for a concrete definition of love..🤔🤔🤔

2. I asked you to provide us with your concrete definition of love so, we can better understand what it is you have inside that you consider love. Know that we are not mind readers; the only access we have to your mind is through your words and your actions. Your OP tells us of your actions. Now in your words, please tell us what you construe as love. 🥱

3. People have loved ones but that don't mean they know what love is now, does it? A vast majority out there use the word love but have never in fact experienced love; most don't even understand exactly what it is. So, please tell us what you know of and is love. 🥱🥱

anuofGod:
✓ Mental and emotional abuse are underrated.
They're are silent killers. Sometimes, too much of it could spark life threatening underlying illnesses: low blood pressure, high blood pressure, depression and many more.
✓ If the partner isn't willing to change, I think it's just better to exit when exhausted and live a quality life with good mental and emotional health.
I've seen two women very close go through this, both developed low blood pressure, one is at the chronic stage, the other woman is battling with low pulse of 30-35 readings instead of 60 and above.
Why? They're traditional women who would not speak up, who would keep quiet and be tossed around with disrespect and manipulation. May God help us

1. Indeed! The autoimmune diseases that kill off women in Africa...no be here. 🥱🥱🥱

2. It mostly hates what it does to their ability to reason like sensible human beings and the attachment that builds from it all to their torturer. 🤔🤔

CodeTemplarr:
✓ I underatand that demons or evilspirits are hybrid of women and rebellious angels so understand you anger with men.

Your own level of mental issues .... Na only psychiatrist fit deal with am.🥱🥱🥱

grandstar:
✓ You made a point.
But the truth is that either way, there should be some reasonable time before moving on. It shows, if not love or appreciation, some decency and respect.
✓ What I'm saying, even if it was a loveless marriage, like many are today, don't brazenly move on too quickly after a demise.

1. You mean the same respect that many men have denied women for the longest, and society has been all too accepting of?🥱🥱🥱

2. Seems more like you are not placing on women expectations that society has rarely ever imposed on men for no reason. The way I see it, so long as the woman is not criminally responsible for the death, she should be free to move on as soon as she can. 🥱🥱🥱

Enough of the useless traditions that burden women and never the men. 🥱🥱🥱

israelmao:
✓ Christian marriage is not in confusion only that some people are the ones in confusion.

.. and the some people happen to be the Christians, right? Even your pastors are confused since they mostly say one thing but do something else and then end up with profiles and live consequences no different from those of people from other religions and those who don't have or care for religion. 🥱🥱🥱

zoedew:
WRONG! I don’t belong to a religious crowd! Besides, so long as the religious crowd you allude to do not run their marriages according to the Bible will they have Divorce a common thing in their lives.

Again, divorce rates ( including rate of abuse in marriage) within religious circles mirrors that found outside. religious gods do not seem capable of rendering the lives of the religious differently from the lives of the nonreligious.

Kobicove:
➜This cannot be true, this asset sharing formula is not equitable.
But since they had a joint account maybe the wife was the one making most of the money

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Amumaigwe:
➜Strong women in your context are women who are incapable of attracting or keeping a man. So funny you people only act strong in the day, but cry all night in pain and regrets.

Wow... I can't believe a grown man, in the year 2025, still believes the myth that single women cry all night in pain and regret? 🥱🥱🥱

I guess Scott Galloway has yet to reach out to this one about how that myth was created by men to scare women into wanting them.

DarkLover:
➜....my friend, thank you 🙂I have freed her, though very painful, but my thoughts transcend today's alone. I don't want to be single, I want to love someone & I know that someone is meant to love me too.
➜ Expression of love brings unexplainable happiness to me, so I won't be single for long.

1. Can you start by explaining to us what love is to you? What makes you think or believe that you have the capacity to express this love to someone else? And why are you convinced that you must be loved(in a similar fashion) by someone else?

2. There are different kinds of love out there.... with romantic love just one of them. Being single does not mean one's life is devoid of love or that one does not have love in one's life. It simply means that love does not necessitate the presence of a romantic partner in one's life to be expressed or received.

More importantly, why do not want to be single? Why do not want to spend time alone with yourself in your own essence to further understand yourself, and first pour your love into yourself before you go trying to pour it into others?

Odebayo4010:
➜A woman makes poor choices in relationships and ends up damaged. She tells you: "if you love me you will stay with me." No. It is not your responsibility to suffer for the consequences of her stupidity and bad choices.

Sometimes, I think many of you are simply daft or on the spectrum. 😫😫

If you don't like single mothers, why keep searching them out only to come whine about what they say to you? Which kain mumu-ism be this one? Leave them alone, and they will leave you alone! 🥱🥱

DarkLover:
➜ I'm sick and tired of being sick & tired of my definition of a perfect life, a perfect relationship, & an ideal partner.
I guessed I'm built differently, my views are most times different & otherworldly. My ideas about relationships are being forced into making me believe that it’s unreal and only achievable in a Utopia.
I want a perfect home, devoid of the world chaos & accepted follies. A perfect partner who understood the assignment without voicing a word. The one who will stand shoulder tall with the women of essence & class out there. The one who won't be allowed to be ridiculed or disrespected.
But in all these, I guess my wants are many, they feel like I’m an egotist & a narcissist— that I demanded too much or pushed them too hard. I know that I’m just a human with a weird definition of life. My aura kinda exposes their weaknesses and insecurities in their quest for perfection, and now, I’m alone.
My girl is still on here, though I left her alone and ignored her when she needed me. I know she would read this, and probably understand my plights & in-fightings. I know we all have our shortcomings, I know you really tried to match my pace, even when it was tough and demanding. I didn't mean to leave you in the cold, and I hope that you find peace. I am sorry.

First of all, break up with that girl who you already know cannot match your pace, no matter how she drives herself to do so. She is someone's precious daughter and does not deserve to be put through that drill — unnecessary suffering, mental and emotional anguish— only to never measure up. Abeg, set her free so she can go work on her emotional and social intelligence, as well as self-confidence, which she definitely needs to work on. 🥱🥱

Second, since you already know what you want and you don't want to seem egotistical and narcissistic about it, I suggest you begin right now dating yourself and yourself alone. Do it for as long as you can get your idea to the point that it no longer seems egotistical and narcissistic, or maybe until you realize that you are probably better off single and happy on your own— yes, it is very much OK to be single and happy by yourself than going around chasing your views. Sometimes, you are the only one who can love yourself the way you want.

Adewale1603:
Why do these U.S people usually divorce. They always divorce. Same with the American actors and actresses

. Divorce is also rampant in Nigeria. The official divorce rate in Northern Nigeria, including their Nikah(false/unofficial marriages) practices among muslims, compares to that in Western countries, maybe even higher. It is only that in southern Nigeria, traditional marriage proponents pretend that spousal abandonment isn't a form of divorce when it is literally the same thing without the formalities. The rate of divorce in even southern Nigeria is no different from the divorce rate in the U.S. or anywhere else in the world. 🥱🥱🥱