MhisTahrah:
If you must throw shades, at least do it intelligently.What do hypergamy and hypogamy mean?
When men marry poorer women(hypogamy), they do it because they want to subjugate these women.They are the major decision maker in that family because of the financial capability and they tend to relegate their wives to housekeeping roles.This is going by Gerrard's logic which is sometimes true.And I argued that when such wives start to earn more, their husbands may feel emasculated because their major power(money) over their wives will be minimal and that could lead to disgruntlement and subsequently misbehavior. Do you need an example to fully grasp this?

This is just okoto. The main discussion between the guy that quoted you is who marry up between men and women? Before you see a man that wants to marry a woman that's richer than him, you would have seen 500 women that want marry a man than richer than them. Men subjugation is another discussion entirely, it's not hypogamous.
All your arguments in this thread have been flawed by some people because your arguments are illogical.

MhisTahrah:
Men can also be said to be hypogamous, your argument goes both ways in fact. They go for women they are richer than in order to subjugate them.One can infer from your post that the majority of men deliberately get married to women who are of lower financial status than them, it also supports my statement that when these women get financial breakthrough and earn more then their husbands, the husbands feel emasculated and misbehave.

WTF did I just read?
This one doesn't know the meaning of hypergamy and hypogamy.
The guy is talking about men marrying women that are lower in status and financially. You are talking about financial breakthrough of women in marriage.
How does it even correlate?

new2012:
Looking at other platforms and the openness to different views, one thing is obvious. Nairaland is filled with APC-clout-chasing, unrealistic-demonic, bruised-brained, defeated-maniacs.

This forum doesn't reflect the realities in the streets.

Those people you just described; if buhari killed their father, raped their mother and sisters, jailed their brothers, they would be happy and praise buhari for a job well done. It seems like you are new to Nairaland. They are APC bot, they have been programmed with 30k to praise whatever buhari does and the 30k is for monthly software upgrades.

Israeljones:
Just imagine how some guys here are defending the girl just to look cool perhaps to ladies who might be reading....

I can bet most of this guys cant even do half what that guy has done for the girl but they will come on faceless forum like this to churn out opinion exactly opposite to their type of person...

Why on earth would a lady not be smart in such situation.... reject the money from the mother, she might end up forcing her to collect the money and if she doesnt do that, You can ask the money from the guy... how difficult can this be, Just a little compromise would have gone a long way... it might even be a catalyst that speeds up there relationship into marriage..

I'm still wondering why they are focusing on the chat as if it was the chat that trigger her to collect the money from guy's mum. Most guys in his shoes will react the same way he did because what she did was disgusting. The money is not the problem, but that gesture would go a long way in the relationship and would just be her own little way she could appreciate what the guy has done for her because the guy is not her father, he's her benefactor. What the guy is doing for her is privilege, not her right. And a guy that can buy her a phone, buy clothes for her, pay half of her shop rent, there are still a whole lot of things she can still benefit from him, which is going to be 20 times more than what she collected from the guy's mum.

You know, ladies don't care about what has happened in the past and what's going to happen in future, all they care about is the present.
When she finally ends up with someone that treats her like trash, "men are scum will be her motto.

dopedealer:
To be candid , the lady is all wrong considering the level of investment and support the guy has put in for her. To start with how much is the money for hair ?
In a typical Yoruba setting , it would be considered that she lacks respect and foresight . She failed to differentiate btw customers and mother in-laws.
She is so money inclined and might have probably been broke at that time which forced her to even collect the money without thinking. Atleast she could have offered a discount!!

This is just common sense. At most discount the price.
Mama: how much is my money?
Girl: 3000 but you can pay 1500, ma.
With level of investment the guy has put on her, the guy can't even enjoy one single benefit from her.

WoundedLamb:


I knew this was the direction this chat was going.. the women bashing team. Misogyny has so much clouded your thinking that you can no longer treate cases in isolation. It's about supporting one gender and not about logic. He got all those for her so he could call her names at will? The girl was totally put together throughout the chat but was only telling him to stop calling her names. That's the kind of girl who is willing to talk about things and move on. Whether she was right or not, the guy has zero skill on how to address issues. Zero.

K

WoundedLamb:


Oga, why are you bringing unrelated things together? The lady didn't even know the phone was solder cheaper than the actual price. To her, it was the normal price and she didn't bother talking about it then cause she wasn't expecting her boyfriend to do more than he'd be willing to do. There was no communication around that. The communication I'm talking about is the one we both read which obviously took place after she took money from the guy's mum. The guy came for a fight and not for a discussion. If that's how to address things your girlfriend does that you don't like, that's fine. I pray he finds someone who will never do what he doesn't like. As for the money, so many people would have collected it not because they are hungry or ingrates but because it doesn't make any difference to them. This is something that shouldn't be a deal breaker. Tell her you weren't expecting that and she will not do it next time. Go confrontational and she will be forced to defend herself.

You win.
You can keep painting trash behavior with gold, that's your business.

Na the idiot guy wey spend money ontop girlfriend wey he supposed spend on his mother I blame.
The faster he knows that women don't reciprocate sacrifice or been nice, the better for him. Otherwise, women will keep showing him pepper.

SavageResponse:


That notwithstanding business is business

Business is business, but the guy sold phone of 60k for 48k to her brother, 12k reduction. But for her to forgo money not more than 2k for her boyfriend's mum, it becomes business is business. Lol.

WoundedLamb:


Yes, there was a little problem. It was a very very little problem that shouldn't have led to "you're foolish", "you're wicked", etc. And like I said, it was not about the money but a difference in understanding. As you can see on this thread, there's a divide already cause people see things differently. 2k might not have made all the difference to the girl so I'm pretty sure not asking the woman to keep her money was an oversight or a different perspective. The guy does not like it, which is valid too. But if the guy leaves her cause of this exact problem, bro, he's not ready for marriage. If we're being honest with ourselves, we'd all agree that this is the kind of day-to-day little problems that naturally lace our relationships regardless of how perfect we think we are. In fact, if this is the only major problem they've ever had, then they've got a more perfect relationship than a lot of people here on NL who would quickly type "dump her!".

I laugh in different perspectives. The guy sold a phone of 60k for 48k to her brother and the guy has no communication issues or different perspectives when hr did it. But it's her turn to reciprocate just 1% of what the guy has done in her life, communcation issue and different perspectives spring up, that's why she couldn't do it. Orisirisi.

That's a trait of an ingrate. There is no two ways to it, stop painting it.

WoundedLamb:
This is clearly a case of different perspectives (the debate that will come up on this thread will further reflect this) and I see it as something they could have easily discussed and agreed on how they'd rather have things be. As a dating couple, they learn more of each other everyday and they reform to better suit their expectations. This kind of issues are bound to come up and should be taken as an opportunity to further know what the expectations are. If I were the lady, I probably wouldn't collect money from my fiance's mother. That's me though (I wouldn't expect that from others cause friends and family could ruin business). Again, if were the mother, I'd insist she should collect her money especially if I plan to be coming there often cause I wouldn't want to appear as a burden. And finally, if I were the guy, I wouldn't send my mum to the shop with so much certainty that my girlfriend wouldn't take her money. If I wanted to ensure that, I'd tell her upfront. From the chat, I don't think that would have been a problem.

But the issue here is not the money but the poor communication between them. The girl might have collected the money not because she was bent on getting her pay but just that the thought of asking the woman to keep her money didn't cross her mind at that time. Again, if the guy's mum is rich, she might have even felt it was respectful taking the money from her and saying "thank ma" while slightly kneeling just to show she acknowledges and appreciates her support for her business. On the other hand, the guy's discontent is very valid as well. Not only because he's done so much for the girl but because he would have even felt embarrassed when his mum told him that she paid. It's sad that the girl didn't think it through or even saw it that way but we all must agree that they need to learn some communication skills. The guy typed with so much emotions and the name calling came faster than Tonto Dike's ex husband. If this is how he would react each time they have an issue as a couple, then there's a big problem. The lady seemed more put together in my opinion but she should have known when to de-escalate the issue seeing how emotionally charged the discussion was but she kept stretching it.

Communication is indeed everything.

Don't shift blame to communication. Leave communication alone make e de enjoy hin life.
The guy clothed her, bought phone for her, paid half of the girl shop rent and that is same salon the guy's mom went to make her hair, phone of 60k he sold it for her brother 48k and that's 12k loss. After all this, the only thing this guy could benefit from her is just to make his mother hair for free which the cost might not be up to 2k.


To you, communication should take the blame.

Belial06:
End Yahoo not SARS
When did they start all this rubbish ??
IT IS ALL BECAUSE OF THE FRAUDSTERS KNOWN AS YAHOO!!!

WHEN DID SARS START CHECKING PHONES ? IT WAS WHEN YAHOO BECAME RAMPANT

WHEN DID SARS START DISTURBING PEOPLE DRIVING FLASHY CARS? YAHOO CAUSED IT

WHEN DID SARS START HARASSING PEOPLE WITH TATTOOS? YAHOO CAUSED IT

SO LEAVE SARS ALONE LET THEM KILL OFF ALL THE YAHOO BOYS

Look at this forum even one thief criminal called slawomirr who boasts about fraud calls it hustle boasts about using drugs to push his fraud hustle and yet no moderator sanctions him.

You need to understand these Yahoo people are beasts.. they are not your friend

They will use you for rituals to get money because they don't know how to do honest work

They will rather venture into rituals and armed robbery if they don't make it through Yahoo

They should all be killed like armed robbers

Let them die

They tell you not to judge them that politicians do worse ... Hahaha
They are the children of demons

Evil thrives when good people keep.silent

Today Nigeria has through silence enabled these heartless demons called Yahoo boys and girls

Speak up !!!! Take a stand as a muslim or christian against these demons

If you have them as your neighbor call efcc or sars

Don't hide them!! Don't say after all it's white people they are cheating!! No!!

Who do you think is hacking people's bank accounts here ? It's them

Who works with bankers to steal your savings ? It's them

Don't pity them!!!

What you listed above is nothing but of EFCC's job.
Sars is special anti-robbery squad and their job is not to look for internet fraudsters.

The dog probably smelled fish, so the dog wan chop fish. So don't blame the dog.

Babara1994:
He made a mistake. I tell men to be wise and flexible. Don't give any woman any access to your hard earned assets. Fish brains don't think beyond their selfish emotions.

He believed "Not all women are like that". This is the statement they make to set trap for themselves.

ppogba:


Stop wondering my brother lest you begin to wander.

Nigerians love to attach sentiment to the most serious of issues.

If the devil appears today, be rest assured he/she will have un-countable physical loyalists.

The fact remains, he that kills with the sword will surely die by the sword.

But this quote does not apply to over 1000 boko haram members that was captured, not even surrender but captured in process of killing innocent people or gun battle with the soldiers. But you know what? They have been given scholarships and enjoy their lives.

Tunde835:
Dubai is a city In a State Like Emirate Just Like Lagos Is In Lagos State ,Nd Most Of D Emirate Is A Desert

Dubai population is 3.38 million, land mass is 4114 km², and urban area is 3885 km².

Eko Atlantic land mass is just 25 km².
Can Eko atlantic house 100,000 people?

This is just like comparing lekki to New York because lekki is fine.

Tunde835:
D first picture is where eko atlantic city is now hopefully it'll grow

I'll only be amazed if a whole Lagos could be like Dubai, not a street in Lagos called Eko Atlantic. Funniest part is that Dubai is bigger than a whole Lagos.

E shock me.

Sarita01:

But if the person's white they'll look into the case thoroughly,a white man won't spend up to that 44years in jail,but if it's black they'll just brush it aside and not investigate thoroughly and reject appeals made to the court

The woman that falsely accused Brian Banks of rape was a black and she was compensated with $2.6 million. When the guy was sentence to 41 years imprisonment and the woman was compensated with $2.6 millions, justice is served, judicial system is good. But Truth came out, racist card is played.

Still wondering how to play a racist card with this situation, it's going to be a tough a game.

SweetCunt97:
Sperm bank. Or they go outside their community to meet males and come back. Simply letting my imagination go sha.

They can do without male and they want to use sperm. It seems like the sperm they are using is from sperm whale. If they can do without male, they should be able to produce their own sperm or invent an alternative to sperm. . I'll take them serious when they build their own civilization from scratch, not using what men has already built like car, gun, phone, electricity, vibrator, d!ldo, fan, etcetera.

Even using what men has built, they will never pass test of time.

SweetCunt97:
A community of only women is possible (Amazons) but I very much doubt a community of men is possible without women. Lolzz, You guys need us more. So shut d fvck up and be a man.

To you, they are going to impregnate each other without a male. Chai, see thinking.
In the next 50 to 60 years, that place will seize to exist.

nwafresh:
Woke up this morning trying to withdraw from pp and they're misbehaving. Please who has experienced this issue before and how did you go about it. Thanks.

Try to log in from another phone.

RuudVanNisteroy:
More pictures of

Windhoek, Namibia

Someone is comparing Abuja to this. You can't even find a single place in the picture that's fenced. Just see how stores are organized.

RuudVanNisteroy:

I have played my part towards the development and obeyed the laws of the land. I am not part of the group that have looted $600 billion since 1960, while leaders in Botswana and Namibia where building up their country.

And I don't support the leaders that turned the country to the poverty and corruption capital of the world. That is what makes us different.

It's way more than that. There are some public funds that our politicians have been looted, but it will never be discovered.

RuudVanNisteroy:

It is that simple and not rocket science.

But to our politicians, it's like solving the mystery of space black hole.

The countries you mentioned, Nigeria is 100 times richer than them.

lordally:


Bro you better no use your hand scatter your relationship ooo...that girl na Scarce commodity any time any day twice on Monday!!! Bro for a girl to tell you the truth ...baba it's rare oooo bro!!! It's just simple jealousy that's doing you which is normal ...if I were in your shoes me self go vex but one thing you should know is that no one is perfect!!! And we all make mistakes and as regards to the girl in question baba the mistake she made is not one that demands a break up...bro believe me, she didn't sleep with that guy!!! I'm saying this with every authority meeeeen!!! Because I am also in the same type of relationship as you are into....my girl is in Abia while I'm in Lagos...and I allow her to go out with certain guys but she knows her limits ....bro take your woman back!!! Because the next girl to come go show you shege!!! Forgive her and tell her not to do it again!!! Tell her if she does it again na Break up straight( make sure you mean it) I wish you well bro....you have a good girl to make a wife!!

This one don install metre for the pvssy. Anytime the girl don kpansh another guy, this guy go get notification for him phone.
Men de this world sha.