₦airaland Forum

Heathrow44:
Op she's 26 now that's y she has calmed down, she now knows she getting to 30 thus d need to settle down is now dawning on here, mom is shouting when re u going to bring a man to d house, ur mates are getting married o!! Dad is shouting nne, we need u to get out of d house I'm tired of having u here, at ur age ur mates av gotten in-laws and ogoo! And u re here, nne u av to get married ozigbo ozigbo, we need t see our grandchildren, u knw Emeka has just entered university and only I cannot cater 4 his needs, Adanne too wants to take her WAEC exam I don't av d money to pay 4 her WAEC exam and university kwa, nne gi has given birth to another girl, so u see nne u need to get married so that ezibute ogoo anyi ga-enyere anyi aka zoo umunne gi na university okwa enu-na! I don't like dating minors even though u passed 18 yrs doesn't mean u aren't childish and immature and a minor, the worst thing anybody can do is date young girls btw 18- 24 yrs, this girls are all in d olosho stage, hoeing stage, they want t taste all d dicks around and when is tym to settle down they would now remember one bobo they av aside d many side guys and they would choose the one that is mumu, has money and is ready to get married and that's y she chose u!!! She has now tasted all d dicks and now she wants to get serious, she would get married to u but would still keep her numerous boyfriends around 4 fucking! Mr. Man I'm going to tell u the truth, this girl is now pressured to get married and u are d only one that is serious, has money, a mumu that loves her to a fault, and u re too naive that she knows that she can cheat on u even in marriage and since u love her so so much u would always 4give her, she has u wrapped on her middle finger cos u re a mumu, idiot forget d insult but that's wat u are, a man that doesn't av any sense of self worth or value, she called u a he-goat and see all the atrocities and comments she made about u, she meant everything she said to u Mr .man, u chase her all about like she's d only girl in d world, u av over pampered the brat that she now has u wrapped around her middle finger, she controls u now, so she would also wish to control u in marriage cos u don't have d balls to take control and put her in her place, u are so lust in love with her that she sees u as a piece of trash she can easily dispose, op, do urslf d favour and put that brat in her place cos las las it will end in premium tears, take ur chances with her and in d end too it will end in premium tears! This girl is almost similar to one annoying brat that chatted me on FB by name "Chidera" and that's her real name cos I don't care, this girl has never called me b4 only replies with text msgs when MTN stay safe N4 was free, immediately it stopped she stopped, she has never called me b4 with her own airtime, I've called her 4times and after that I dumped her, the next thing she said is sub 4 me like an online alamjiri gold digging bivxh that she is, I told plainly that I'm not sending shit to her, she can go to hell 4 all I care,Mr. Man u need to realize that there are many girls in d world and yes including one favyhur her on Nairaland that feels she's the best thing that happened after dubem bread, whereas she didn't go to Harvard and isn't anything, that's how I deleted that one too, imagine me sending me a msg saying she thinks about money all the time that I should transfer her money I told her to go and rest she isn't serious, d thing is that girls in Nigeria always feel they are special and irreplaceable and is because of how this Particular OP behaves and acts, follows them like a he goat and over pampers them that makes them feel so proud, arrogant just like the girl was at u at d party, u need to know that there are over 3.4 billion women in d world aside that particular girl, I knw d drunken in love singers that come out shouting u should make d 1 girl in ur life special out of d many the truth is dat u should explore and find that one girl and once u get married try as much as possible to stick to only her but b4 marriage go out of ur comfort zone and check all d girls out, u av the option to choose the most strongest breed of woman out of the many chaffs that exist, u need d strongest breed to make better children for u, u need to choose women out of the 3.4bn shades of women mother nature provided 4 u, u are d chooser and u control who u choose to marry not d other way round where u are boxed in and forced to choose a mating mate out of pressure and lust, if u re looking 4 Gf then get silly but when u want t marry oga, be serious cos marriage is a serious business and needs the best breed of female around u! I think u avnt really seen how love is or how a woman should behave wen she's in love with u, and I think that's ur problem! A girl hasn't really loved u b4 that's y u don't av d standard to measure what u should expect from a girl in a relationship, there's this one girl I dated long time ago we still friends sha, we talk but I was clear that we aren't anything just friends, I made it very clear to her, I'm not going t mention her name here cos I would like to hide her Id, do that knw dat DAT girl has set one of the highest standard of what I should expect from a relationship for me, there's nothing this girl hasn't done 4 me, so any other girl that's coming to form she's too special is just being stupid and a brat ! I don see all that finish so yeah I have my baseline! I knw wat t expect from a girl in a relationship and when I don't see any of d signs I bounce, I don't av time to come and start writing long epistle or break up letter, is simple I ghost out, u don't see d calls or msgs and when the girls call back to knw y I'm not responding I don't answer d calls, msgs or video calls, even when they use anoda no when I hear their voice b4 they say shit I cut.... U should have this sense of self worth even if u don't want to or u love this girl so bad, u need to always be in a good position of not begging her to like u, u dont need to degrade urslf to that level of begging someone to love u cos u re a human being and deserve to be loved cos life is short oo, u don't necessarily have to beg someone to love u, u need to do the things, do d mating behaviours associated with getting a suitable mate but u dont av to beg a girl to love u, is demeaning, immature and pathetic, all this kneeling down to ask a girl to marry u is complete rubbish, u dont av to do that, it is not necessary, tell her hey! I like us to start a family, i would really like my children to take after u cos i want my children to av the qualities i like in u, so would u spending ur life with me Simple, all this nonsense men do is wat makes all this rubbish girls in naija feel so entitled, special and act like they av sense whereas they are fish brains nothing more! She didnt go to havard, doesnt av assets or anything that would really add value to ur life and she knows that too but yet still acts like if she doesnt come into ur life, u cant have a life again is complete nonsensee

proxillin:
She has been mounting pressure on me to follow her to meet her parents. We have been in this relationship for a year now. Although she is not the only one I am dating. I am not sure of the other lady, but atleast this one is ready to marry me.

I am not sure if I genuinely love her or not, but a part of me love her..A part of me want to treat her bad, whenever I remember what she did to me in the past.

3 years ago, I started noticing and showing interest in her being my junior sister’s friend. I discussed with my sister who encouraged me to approach her that she had no boyfriend. We were on talking terms before which was an opportunity. So I leveraged on that to get closer to her. When she noticed I was getting closer, she started giving me attitudes, stopped talking to me. Finally she stopped coming to our house. She would give my sister thousands of excuses why she was not chanced to come to our house.

We met at a friends birthday party, to my surprized, she warmed up to me, greeted me. I though she must have repented. While the party was on, I asked her to come to my table and spend sometimes with me, she said “ok”. I waited for hours, she didn’t come. I later saw her in the room with the celibrant. I jokingly said to her “You dey whine me abi”. She just went off, started ranting, she said I should say whatever I want to say now infront of everyone..infront of her friends. “Why do you want me to come and sit with you?” say it now “let the whole world hear”. It was so embarrasing for me. I just said to myself “whats there..are they not aldult?..dem never toast all of them before”.

My sister was there, got angry and left us. She had already warned me to leave her alone. That I am interfering with their friendship. On my birthday, she replied to my whatsapp pictures with love and kiss icons. She went to facebook to like all my birthday pix. Facebook was alerting me as she was clicking. She finally sent me happy birthday..where is my cake..we started gisting again. She apologized for what she did that day, that she was not in a good mood that day (someone who met, joked and laugh with me, even agreed to come sit with me on my table).

We continued chattin for weeks, I made sure I didn’t get intimate with her. One day, my sister was playing with my phone, then saw our chats, read through our chats. She was mad at me. She confronted me and nearly slapped her for disrespect. She later calm down and explain to me that if I knew what this girl said about me on group chat, that I would shoot her if I have a gun. She said she didn’t tell me so that I wont feel bad.
She then show me their caucaus group chat discussing me. Tears was just coming out of my eyes. I felt cold. They were just laughing at me. My sister was just fighting for me shutting them off.

This lady said “how come some men behave like he goat. Why can’t he leave me alone?” “am I the only girl on the planet? Oh God I hate that idiot.” “Gosh, I can never be close to such person talkless of dating him” ANOTHER girl said “That’s how those guys are…you need to disgrace him more next time he try something stupid with you. Blahblah.

That’s when I closed her chapter. Blocked her on facebook, whatsapp, instagram. I moved on. My sister did photoshoot for her birthday and some of her friends came. I saw her and just greeted her, minding my business. Then I was dating another girl then, so it’s a win win for all. She stayed behind, when everyone left, she asked my sister to help her beg me. She knelt infront of me started telling me “she was sorry..she was being childish” This was someone that was in her 24 when I was chasing her. I said I forgave due to pressure from my sister. Since then, she will come to my apartment, do my laundary, cook soup inside my freezer. When she is coming from work, she will branch at my place prepare food on my table. At times she offered to sleep overnite, that she cooked till late in the night, which I will refuse.

But one thing led to another, one day, we had sex. And that changed everything. I couldn’t resist her again. But a part of me still hate her whenever I remember those disgraceful moments. Now she is 26, she want us get married. If I marry her, I may treat her bad.

In a dilema seriously and its giving me headache.

tot:
Yeah, it keeps happening again and again to the extent that the post couldn't reference a recent link

tot:
Why is a 2014 article being recycled in 2020?
Cc: lalasticlala

12inchess:
Well I live in the U. S and I understand this situation very well. You should see a common trend among all these cases. The husband has invested so much in not only bringing the wife here (flights, visas, exams, accommodation etc) but also paying for her school etc. Nursing school is minimum of two years. And runs into tens of thousands of dollars. That is years of slaving to invest in someone's education and the benefit of the family while doing your taxi driver job or security guard job only for the person to change it up and start misbehaving once they believe they have arrived or have obtained their degree and are now well placed. You will never hear these women misbehaving while they are still in nursing school oooo and because they couldn't afford it ordinarily but only after! Schooling here is not cheap. Or how will you feel if you are the person that payed a so called wife's flight ticket then housed her for years paid all her bills up to the last penny. Even went ahead to pay her schooling, money for extra lessons etc. Only for her to graduate and then try to take your house and your property because she is learning the "abroad way" from her so called good for nothing "feminist liberated" friends. Not to consider the emotional trauma. It's enuff to shoot that person in the head. People are killed for way for much less on the streets. An American husband will never pay for anything talk less of school tuition. He will tell u to go take a loan. The least the lady in question should do is pay back all the money spent on her and her schooling with interest if she is planning to leave. Now to go ahead and be trying to take over that person's property? We all know how the law is in the west under situations like this. I'm sorry to say it and I wouldn't ever support murder but the reason that this women are killed is very evident.

Ladycewhy:
Of course a rich man who hasn't gotten married. shuo.

Ladycewhy:
well that's your own.In my book it is .

Sixfeetbelle:
You that your brain is working, explain to me why men are so eager to get "fresh meat" every single time? Even those in so-called relationships want to bang everything? If their wife's friend isn't enough, maid dey, daughter dey, even their best friends wife still dey.

If everyone was put on a chastity leash, men will break their own that day.

Ladycewhy:
Divorcee is better than never been married. Just so you know know. , so it e better to pass am come back.

Ladycewhy:
lol, the door to walk out is now wider and easier, nor be do or die affair. If the road nor let you pass go front ,you pass am come back.

Ladycewhy:
That's for the ones who still decide to marry the average Nigerian man.

Ladycewhy:
And I know the societal pressures on women with dead beat husbands.


A man and a woman both share the financial responsibility but the woman is still expected to stick to the duties of the traditional African woman of both the nuturer and care giver. It's now more work and burden for the modern woman.

Sixfeetbelle:
You that your brain is working, explain to me why men are so eager to get "fresh meat" every single time? Even those in so-called relationships want to bang everything? If their wife's friend isn't enough, maid dey, daughter dey, even their best friends wife still dey.

If everyone was put on a chastity leash, men will break their own that day.

Preshieben:
I agree with your reasons OP.
I don't see why anyone who isn't comfortable with the way he's living should be thinking about girls and sex,talk more of getting Erections

Sixfeetbelle:
But bear with me and riddle me this. If the men weren't getting erections every second of the day, won't there be a decline in the number of ladies that patronise them or sleep with them? If truly men can secure their loins, if they didbt need to release their loins, don't you think all aftereffects of sex will be reduced? Unwanted children, non-Virgin, abortions etc?

Preshieben:
Did you read what he typed up there?
Why the conclusion that I'm proud?
I only said that to prove to him that my parent ain't broke as he claimed.
I can't be proud cos my parent are rich..
Those riches are my parents,Not mine
I don't think I deserve the insult i got from you..you should have stated your point without calling me names.
So unethical.Thanks
I wish you a lovely week..

Sixfeetbelle:
And how many of these okada men, mechanics and tricycle drivers, barrow pushers, do you think know how important condom is? Even so, do you think their girlfriends know about contraceptive pills and IUD and Billings method and the rest? Let's not even go into how effective these things are.

Tbh, most of the broke people are in those professions I listed above and they don't know the importance of these things. The solution would be either they're educated about it or they avoid anyhow straffing so that God's children won't come to this earth to start suffering anyhow. My two cents.

Sixfeetbelle:
Oya, continue to dey knack raw. Na your body go tell you

Preshieben:
Bro
My parent ain't Broke..okay?
My dad is rich and owns an Estate In Akwa ibom.
Mind what you say please especially if you don't know anything about the person.
I only stated my own opinion.
I don't see why you had to drag my parent into this.
Thank you.. Happy Sunday anyway

Sixfeetbelle:
Is it your right to bring children into this world to suffer just because preeq dey scratch you?

AmancalledGod:
So for the fact they are broke guy's they shouldn't be knacking baa ur head no correct then what happens to broke gals i guess they should not be getting wet as well.

My dear whether broke or rich everybody deserves to be fvcking is a free world

Seems this one u are sounding so pained guess your boyfriend is so damn serious broke

QueenMelinda:
35 people -30 dead,5 alive

Acidosis:
Last time I checked, Ronaldo earns 1000x more than your Vice Chancellor. So?? Education and Entertainment are two different sectors.

Sixfeetbelle:
Idiot.

Answer my question or get lost. Thank you.

Sixfeetbelle:
He came back to her. Why did he?

If you can't answer that, your point is complete balderdash.

izzou:


[color=royalblue]This country cannot be redeemed....We are now known as the heartbeat of fraud

Gambling and Fraud has increased tremendously over the past few years. No wonder importation of cars, Hotel business and Bet9ja shops are everywhere....Very sad

Even our Anticorruption boss is being probed for corruption...This country is a disgrace.

I wonder how the next 50 years will look like [/color]

Swtbabyvee:
I hope u listen to this ode , and destroy ur relationship for nothing

victorian:
My dear, i wish all the broke guys luck in life even though the ones who hurt me don't deserve any iota of blessing or luck! I pray they receive in millions bad luck for what they deserve in life, amen .

But in any case, I don't need any of them who will later become rich in life to drool or love me. I have my own Self made millionaire Prince Charming already who adores me to the moon and back.

If I say jump? He would ask how high baby?

And if he says jump? I ask how high honey?

Dont get it twisted dandee55 and I are taken by great men who knows the value of great and good women in their lives.

We ain't losers cos we are doing very well in every department in our lives. You can eat your heart out

Looser!

victorian:
God bless you my dear. And God himself will keep lifting u up to great heights. Your relationship with a man who understands your value WIl never diminish. You will enjoy this next phase of your life in Jesus name Amen. .


Don't mind unfortunate broke guys who have nothing to offer but their wicked mindset and dicks . They think life is all about sex!

Lol! I always tell broke guys these days, if u see me? Please Run! Don't dare come close to woo me, if they know what's good for them.
I understand how u feel. Thank God u are in a better place.