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The answer is capital YES.

Maisiba:
Men can agree with me that if you do not marry your first love, all other relationships will be a struggle to coexist. The older I get, the more I doubt the possibility of loving twice. I speak from experience: nothing can compare to the first love of youth. Women can speak for themselves. But from what I see, a woman will love you as long as you are loaded with cash.

Your description of Love is just a feeling...

I wish many married women are like your wife, marital separation will be low, men addiction to different habits like alcohol, tobacco, womanizing, gambling, etc will reduce, untimely death of men and risk factors will greatly reduce.

God bless your wife, man. Also pray for her, she also need ur prayers.

Best

metaluterus:
I bought Dangote cement 8,500 today

Which location pls?

With all due respect, your opinion is foolish. Which support does he need from a population that is battered by hunger, insecurities and uncertainties.

2 options, let him resign for an energetic person to try. Nigeria needs actions. Hire and fire. Why is all the meetings, conferences and workshops by different MDAs not working? Who needs to be an escape goat? When you fire crops of heads, others will understand the music: deliver or go.

Honestly, government should consider seriously bringing back with the fuel subsidy, our people are to greedy to be sincere. Nobody knows where or how d saved subsidy money was/is used.......

Get a PhD(both honorary and academic)
Pray more (especially in tongues)
Read my read more
Win 10 souls per month for Jesus
Add a new source of income


...so help me God

Palliative rice as Christmas bonus? For politicians and their boys only? How about the electorate?

SIRKAY98:
May you not be in the situation of the man, you will do tripple, an evil spirit recently entered the life of modern day women and its really making them feels you must not beat me but i can emotionally turture and be disrespectfull to you. Unless if the man is mentally unstable thats when he should react, if not let that woman pack her belongings and go to her papa house.

I really think the impact of feminism is gradually rubbing off. It's easy for the man to be blamed. Let's be fair by doing some root cost analysis with the view of fixing this mess, can our women be reminded that if you cannot be loyal, absolutely, submissive to your husband, don't marry. Cos it will get messy. At some Point irritation, frustration and violence will set in.

Men, we get issues too. We need to expand our hearts more to tolerance. To know when to walk away or ignore. It's very tough. I have my own experiences. It's not easy at all

No, I did not. Some of us went for NYSC with the fear of God. He rewarded us with open, continuous and sustained blessings like high paying jobs, great wife and desired children without any form of hassle. A life of no drama.

He may be married. End the relationship if he doesn't.

I have a cousin brother, that's his specialty: he considers it a cheap approach to dating- lying to women he is single with promise of marriage and active involvement in her family while his wife and children resides in another town

I think that this mass wedding model needs to be understudied especially here in South South and South East. This is demystify dating someone's daughter for years illegally.

I think that it's a great idea. Most younger persons just need that push to keep going.

I agree that it can be bettered like ensuring that the groom have a means of income.

Danielben27:
Good morning and happy new month
I want to narrate the problem I am facing presently to you guys. I believe I will be able to get good response here.
I am 28years old. I finished school year. And from then till now I am not working not that I don't want to work o or work isn't coming but I have problem passing the interviews. I am so shy and timid that I won't be able to answer questions. The last interview in abuja, a job that could pay me up to 150k I messed it up. They asked me questions that I knew the answers to but I was so afraid to speak. I couldn't even look the man and two women in their face. I just sat there mopping at the ground,sweating uncontrollably. My hearts pounding. They were even encouraging me to speak up, they gave me time to talk but I said nothing. Even when I tried to speak my voice was just shaking. I could have easily gotten the job but that one went
Last month,I went for an interview. Job of 75k. I messed it up. The man even told me to come the next day for the job that he understands my fear but I didn't go because I felt I won't be able to attend to customers well.
My social life is zero, I have no friends, I have nobody I can relate with. Like this I have been managing the little money I have and what is left is 15k. If this money finishes without me getting a job I am doomed bcus nobody to call.
Why I am bringing this here is so that someone can help me out. I saw a doctor and he said it is anxiety disorder. He gave me drugs I took around march but nothing worked. I was just spending unnecessary, when he even prescribed another drug that one just made me hungry every time.
Back then in school I heard people use weed to be more social but never tried it. I thought it was bad and not good for the health. But now I can do anything to come out of this. The only situation better than this my situation now is death.
Please I need advise on how I can get weed, dosage. Is there any other way to use apart from smoking. Where can I get quality weed. Like how much will I spend on it in a month( I am short on money now ).
I have an interview on Wednesday so I will appreciate if more people drop their advice. God bless you.

It's well with you. Which town do you stay. I can be your friend to upgrade your morale. You need it for every thing even after securing a job

ʏᴏᴜʀ ʀᴇᴀsᴏɴ ɪs ᴜɴʀᴇᴀsᴏɴᴀʙʟᴇ. ᴀʙᴏʀᴛ ɪᴛ ᴛᴏᴛᴀʟʟʏ

SeaTrade:
For me,no.
I'm in the nightlife business but I see no point flying up and down in the night like some of my pals are doing ,or looking like an armed robber in the name of looking the part.
I maintain a clean look(shirt,trouser and sometimes casuals),make only worthy clearcut vision friends and not keeping unserious people in my contact list in the name of cartel.
I've got better dreams than where I currently am so I don't let the shenanigans in this business disrupt my objectives.

Nnaa, what kind of nightlife business are u into

I think your pocket level may be a determinant factor. CHEATING OF ANY KIND IS BAD. But, when a guy is very rich and promising (say very rich family), MOST women can tolerate.
If you are just a regular street boy, you have lost her, lick your hurt and move on, Nigeria is too hot for your foolishness.

this writer is living in his/her world. Where I live, Sex is everything to a woman. forget what you see on ur screen. it's just a craft- nobody lives like that anywhere

Consider:
MBA
Human Resource management
Supply Chain management.

These will help u access current market

HSE 1& 2 & 3

I hope it becomes useful someday shaa

My opinion is:

1). Apologize to him. Greetings is not affection.

2). If u feel unsafe, u want to record the calls or unwittingly record his verbal instructions. Some bosses will never respond to sure mails. They will even see it like some subtle trap. My current boss is a professor. I struggled with same issue when I began working with him. At some point, even to seek clarification, I will share it via email just to get feedback via phone calls.

Some bosses are that way. Most big men do not have time to stress up compiling instructions that they would just call you on phone to inform. I suggest you should try to be comfortable around his style.

If u have ever been a victim of his denial of such instructions, kindly seek to share ur opinion with him in a humble tone via face to face talk, no text or mail cos it can be perceived as evidence gathering

Few thoughts on this loan:

1). Where do I get a senior civil servants to sign for me? In this country where nobody trust anybody with money

2). Will the signing authorities like the VC and co not make life hard for applicants as it's norm in today's Nigeria

3). What happens if I don't get a job after 2years post NYSC? Will the government hire me to enable me repay my loan

I think:
1). If you do nothing, it's a matter of time, u will watch all the soothsayer said happen.

2). I think you should intentionally give ur life to Jesus Christ, sincerely cry to him for Mercy.

3). I think you should seek for restitution to the girl u had hurt, someone or some people (mother and aborted child) may be crying against u in the spirit. Don't let youthfulness deceive u. Sometimes, if someone, esp a woman feels hurt, justly, against you, and she cry out to God(or nature), not to even talk about mentioning ur name to a deity. It usually doesn't go well with the man.

4). On the strength of the effects of mid night prayers, with your mouth, cancel anything that doesn't match with Gods word over ur life, speak what u want to see or happen. Yes, you are also a prophet, according to the bible. Prophesize into ur life/future.

Best

I agree with you.
The man should review the school the children are attending. Most public schools are free and even good. Na social status dey make us feel say it's made for househelps meanwhile, they have qualified and quantitfied teachers unlike many private school that cannot afford to employ enough teachers talk more on university graduates

kazyhm:
Majority of fraudulent activities, embezzlement of public funds etc are as a result of something like this..........your husband earns 75k a month and the wife earns nothing yet she is the one that defined stinginess......let her be the one earning the 75k.....the world will not rest from her posting pictures everywhere and badmouthing the husband as a lazy man.....

Any amount is enough provided you are contented at the stage you're in life at the material time, have short, mid and long time plans and stay focus......

Never allow any woman push you to your early grave by suggesting additional jobs for you...and be aggressively pushing you to earn more through whatever means possible just for her to live above her means......and the heartbreaking part is; she won't be satisfied still..

Rome was not built in a day....Adenuga, Dangote, Otedola etc all started from somewhere.

It is in marriage that I get to understand that a redundant and dependent partner is the chief pilot.......while in the corporate the world......you have to be intelligent, consistently productive, brave and efficient to be the boss....

My brother, sincerely, I have been there, apply exactly the same energy (I wish I can underline this) she use for the husband, your father on her, you would have passed the exact message - knowing how it feels to bully an older or higher persons.

My dear Mom used to be very difficult both with our daddy and our tenants (we live in our own property). Even as a very young lad, I observe or notice everything with an intention to proffer solutions or change. I launched a sole targeted confrontation on my mom, I plainly told her, how she felt was exactly how her victims feels. Now, she is completely different. No matter the provocation or issue, u will probably hear her voice last, she hallow her husband to our admiration: In all of these, I was guided by wisdom and love for my dad, first, then my mom.

Some of the people, tying funny are children, who will not even be bold enough to face u if u see them.

and where is the basard of a student doctor? Have you bitten offhis manhood and his right ear?

I say this again; Women only leave or exit a marriage because of lack of financial prosperity. Once there's money, women will never leave, she will convince herself and state.

Once there's no money in a marriage, even a verbal exchange can lead to end of marriage


Men, know this and have peace

You see ur life? If it were the other way round, it would have been okay. Women! keep doing your part, provision is not gender based. At the same time, keep talking to him, it will not always remain that way

all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband losses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money. He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.
Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.
The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?
Is this not enough reason to divorce him?

We love you dear Kwakwanso..... Please sweep all the votes LP will not get....put confusion among APC and PDP

Newton2024:
Outside social media where people can hide their identity, it is difficult to find Tinubu's surpporters offline most especially here in Osogbo. I don't think those who are hired to promote Tinubu online will vote him during election.

Hahahahaha, I thought am the only one,I have never seen anyone promoting Tinubu even on WhatsApp status

Who else thought it was 'All Ibos'