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Hmmm, I think you are taking a big risk man. Dont be too comfortable with your present decision. Be smart and careful

GNLD!... Simply the best

Svp110:
My marriage is barely 2 months. I met her with a child she told me she was from a Muslim polygamous family, which her parents has forced her into a polygamous marriage to a older man with four wives and she was the fifth, she didn't like him but she had to stay wity him to make her parents happy but she ran away from him when she was converted into Christianity and she learned that polygamy was wrong and that was the reason she had relocated to my town city and she said she has no family because everybody has disowned her , I understood her pain but I pleaded her to go back to her parents and ask for their forgiveness which she went after few months and when she return she said her parents were expecting us we traveled to her village and everything went well , she took in for me I have accepted to honour her so I won't put her in trouble with her parents again. Our traditional marriage was 27th of November and she is due to give birth in few weeks, I was in my office when our pastor rang and said he has something important to tell me and I should come at the church premises and arriving at the church , I met my wife she was in tears and the pastor said we should first pray which we did after the prayer he said my wife has something important to tell me , her face was down she couldn't look at me in the eyes and it really baffled me I become scared thinking something bad has happened to the baby or the other child and when she drop the bombshell about her having 4 children I was speechless,  I lost balance and I couldn't even speak for 30 minutes and the only thing I told her if I don't want to see her near my place or else she will be in the mortuary me in prison. I have spent a lot for the wedding Unknowingly she was hiding such secrets from me , my heart is shattered and the pastor bought her back to my house asking me to forgive her, I asked him if he will forgive if she was his wife that did the same thing to her and he couldn't even answer my question but he kept telling me to forgive , I told both of them to get out of my face or I will commit a crime that will land me in prison. I am broken and I curse the day I met the daughter of jezebel. I will take custody of my child after he is born and I swear the daughter of jezebel will pay for all the pain she put me through.

Honestly, I blame you. Una no dey hear word. Having a child and her stories are all the red lights you needed to chop and move on, but no, you want to be a gentleman, a comforter.
Oya, you will carry this cross gently. If una don marry, You will forgive your wife and nurse ur pain and take care of your large family (praying that there is no more surprise in the future)

Dear Men, any drama or story around who you plan to marry IS A RED FLAG. At best, leave her, move on

Lalami3232:
And why you go even tell her wetin your sister talk? That's childishness na. She go hate your sister for life, and who knows where she and your sister go meet again
Next time, just discharge here jejely without much talk. That way, nobody gets hurt but you don achieve wetin you want. You not only made her hate your sister but you really hurt her feelings so bad. E no worth am bro!!! We all na dey this platform dey form redpillers but been a redpiller no mean say we no go get conscience when dealing with people. The redpill dey make us know say we shouldn't settle for less or accept shit from people, but E no mean say make we put shit for people face. Imagine the risk wey she take travel to meet me irrespective of the negative news we all dey hear nowadays.
I no care about how she feel or whatever you dey feel now, but my own take on this issue be say you acted childish for a guy of 25yrs wey you claim to be.
No be only you dey discharge babe for 9ja, but do am with small brain

Tahaa! Mechie onu

Animegirl:
But I'm ready to go on my knees and tell God to bless him every single day. Is God blessings not greater than what I will give him?

U really disgust. Ask God for a laptop then

O dikwa risky. Congratulations to any successful choice you make

I don't understand? Have you paid her bride price? She doesn't owe you loyalty man

Capital Yes, please visit your health care provider ASAP

Family and investments

No regrets bro. We are outsmarting

Let me teach u a secret, Intentionally talk less( you will have more time to analyze and think)

You didn't overreact. Open rebuke is better than secret love. Insist to get something for the girl, even if you have to give more money

Merry Christmas

I'm not sure where to share this. So I felt I can put it here.

I'm pained. Anyways, Merry Christmas to you. So I decided to see how to make the Xmas colourful by going to the market. One of the first things I saw were cages of chicken, long story short, I bought a healthy, heavy looking fowl(I was very happy- because the price was very good).

Due to the weight of the chicken, I couldn't hold it around the market to buy other things, I decided to put it in the boot of my SUV,winded down all the glasses behind(to a safe extent).

People of God, lo and behold, Hmmmm, I discovered my precious heavy healthy fowl has died of heat(note that the legs weren't tied) when I wanted to put the bag of rice I bought.
Out of pain and suspected confusion, I left the market back home.

Now, my question is can I still go ahead to eat the dead meat or I should just absorb the loss and buy another?

Shut Up.
Somebody is vomiting wisdom you are dissing him.

For me,
Where did you both meet. Very important? Maybe he is nursing some crazy fantasies or habits. Or simply wants more comfort or has a religious agreement with God not to have sex in his alter(house) until marriage.
I think you should intentionally ask his reason(s). Let him see your perspective. Give him a month, then share your decision with him.

Hmmmm, Buy and tow to ur own mechanic workshop to continue from where the seller stop.
After all, no be him manufacture the car

Excellent

It all depends on your business line ultimately. If its a coperate click, for instance, you may want to gift custom diary and Pen, nicely packed

wetdspace:
I am currently looking for a job.
Been at home for 2 years now.. even if it's a 100k per month job or lower, kindly refer me, please I no mind .
My Location is Lekki.

U no get joy o, do u mean 10k?

Okwyjesus:
I joined train for the first time this week and it's from PH to Aba. It's a perfect alternative

please where is the station located in Aba

itzvictor219:
As a pastor's child it's killing, the unrealistic expectations set for you by your parents and church members telling you what to do and not to do... It's very annoying. You can't go to some places, can't talk or hangout with certain guys. It's really choking, I always wish I wasn't born into a pastor's family to be honest.
So I'll like to hear from you guys on your experiences and how you were able to overcome it that's if you have oo

Victor, I guess you came here to hear what you want. Dont let the wrong people advice you.....

But who cursed Nigeria leadership? What can our government even get right?

You are under attack. U are a soldier. U know what to do

I understand. You just don't think the thickness should be for one person. I think you should walk away now. To avoid court cases

Diligent1:
Since I graduated in 2011, the highest salary I have collected so far is N30,000 monthly. They would still remove pension and tax from it.

Ahaaa! Ur head need serious oil oh. It's well

The thing over pain oyibo. Poor whitey! Oyibo wey still dey hustle him daily bread, you scam. The man will use bitterness and swear for you......na transgenerational curse be that o

Na lie. It's pure deliberate that GEJ was absent. The traveling can be cancelled or delegated. Baba has to package a reason for "political reasons". My own is another outside Buhari is better. Whether is GEJ or Osibanjo

Stay with your old job. South south is very expensive compared to South West. At the end, ur net worth is more in south West.
But if you are more interested in career growth, take your chance and move with caution.
Good luck.

AdeniyiAr9:
Good morning house,
I currently work with one of the telecoms companies in Nigeria on a contract job; the pay is 60k (720k per annum). However, aside my salary, I do one or two things on the job that gives me like 10 k every week.

Approximately I earn about 100 k every month. I started this job started early this year.
While on this job, I got connected for a new job with an indigenous oil company on a full time basis and was surprised the pay is 1.2m per annum, though I truthfully expected more. For this new job am to leave my comfort zone in south western Nigeria for the south south.

I currently run my masters degree, meaning I will have to defer my admission. I'm also very much always needed in Church

Note my current job is without leave and it's contract based. But the new one is full time and am entitled to 5 weeks leave yearly.

Please serious advice needed. No bashing of any sort

Stop telling her. Ignorance is bliss.

Saving. Especially if you are not a shameless hustle( Can you take risk and get proactive when orignal plans change?) if you want to do business, please use just 60% of your savings. dont invest everything

@Op, I can imagine the long wait laced with anxiety. Many years ago, I got a job with a very big NGO, infact, a higher position to what I applied for. The HR contact kept engaging and following up with me. I was even sent an offer letter via mail summarizing my entitlements and JD. To my surprise, I didn't hear from the guy again. When my follow up calls, I was asked to reapply for the position. I just smiled and moved on....for me, to save oneself from hypertension, Call