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God have Mercy! It is well

Do you both attend same church? Inform him of ur readiness to talk to your(his) pastor.

If he is not serious with church, encourage him to join the workforce.

Please rule out the option of leaving. I acknowledge u have made a mistake by marrying a cheat after 6years of pre- marriage relationship but it will become your cross to build. Weldone

HOOK UP! hook up!! HOOK UP!!!

Will young girls hear? Perhaps she followed a total stranger to have sex. Is only a woman can sleep in strange or new place with a man because of man.

I have zero pity mbok....others should learn from this ugly story

Horney men bankroll them. The real source of income is sex. Receptionist is just to advertise the real thing, customer will not see her at home nah

Very true. Please op, don't disregard this contribution.

Kuriosmynd:
No solution to your problem. Once a lesbian,always a lesbian.
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Move on or just marry her like that and face the brutal consequences later on.
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There's nothing like fixing.
She can never tell you the truth of how long she's been a les. What if she's been like that since 16 (secondary schl) do you expect her to tell you that? Lol.
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Do you even know if her lesbian aspect is the most pleasurable and fullfiling sexual experience for her, while u are just the expendable provider for her needs and emotional baggage?
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Guy. Run. Run o
Most lesbian or bi dey dey wicked for guys. Cos na Dem carry feminism put for head pass.
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Na when dem enter ur house, u go see their true colors. They have no regard or respect for men o...Forget the love she's showing. Na fake. She's looking for the societal ring and the unlucky man she go use practice her feminism for marriage...lol

Tah! Police? strike? Na lie. Who will collect N100 and N200 they on every checkpoint

for you to be asking this question, means you are foolish, truth! Abeg carry your story enter gutter

My brother, I think that we as christians have an already framed mind not necessarily rooted in the bible but inherited values and norms. This is one of the core subjects in christiandom that our dear Leaders will not want to answer directly, maybe to maintain order, which is good but not necessarily scripture.

AntiChristian:
It is often said that Yahweh/Jehovah/Jesus of the Christians prescribe one man for one woman so how come tens of Prophets/men of God had more than one wives and or concubines?

Cain's son Lamech and Moses had 2 wives. David had 8 wives! Solomon 300 wives and 700 concubines! Gideon had many wives!
Deuteronomy 21:1-17 suggest marriage of multiple wives including captured prisoners gotten from conquests.

Elkanah a godly man and father of Samuel had 2 wives. Abraham, the father of faith had two wives!

In 2 Samuel 12 when the prophet Nathan confronts David over his sin with Bathsheba, we read: "This is what the Lord God of Israel says: 'I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. I have given you your master's house and your master's wives into your bosom … and I gave you the house of Israel and Judah, and as if this wasn't enough, I would have given you even more."

Is it that all of these men of God were not guided (by the Holy spirit) in their marriages?

And lastly Yahweh prescribed law to protect first wife in Polygamy- Exo 21:10 "If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights."

Why this law since Yahweh/Jehovah is against polygamy?

We just need answers to the questions in red!

Polygamy is not a sin! God is not the author of confusion!

Acehart:
I’d like to ask you for your understanding of the word “Sin”; what is Sin?

Biblically, Capital NO

I so disagree on this one. One man. One wife is a modern or civilization concept and not God's standard.
The only place God almighty spoke on marriage type was in 1Timothy 3-212, where is specifically mentioned as a part of the qualifications of a 'Bishop' he must be a husband of only man. However, christianity hates sexuality outside marriage and Divorce of any guise.
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Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.

Jacob, Solomon , Religion, Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them Male and Female .
(Not Male and Females or Vice versa)

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his Wife(Not Wives): and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Anything apart from GOD'S Standard is SIN. It is Fornication, Adultery and Man/ woman Decieving themselves!

Nice one joor. But you should have shown her maturity by inviting her to eat with you, so doing, u will win her loyalty

N100. N50 going, N50 returning...No stresssing.(most times, i get free rides sef

hmmm, this one the president's 'family house' entrance be like self con. I hope poor mass are not living in huts and woods? Kai, the sitting rooms needs alot of overhauling mbok

Which town, Nnaa?

I really think you need education first before a man

which campus u dey?

Premiumwriter:
ASUU strike and I suddenly have a lot of times on my hands.

So I'm starting a little side project and this will be beneficial for guys who are finding it hard to meets girls or start up conversations with them..

It's totally free to join in by the way.

During the week, I plan on going out to meet new ladies. Toast them, get their numbers and you know the rest.

Here's the gist, I'll be making a documentary of everything (not videos tho as it'll be clumsy and wouldn't look real).

But I'll make a mental note to record our conversations and put them in writings.

This will be a self improvement journey and hopefully, you get to read all my successes and probably failures too and if nothing else you get to laugh.

I'm on campus so the number of ladies should be quite easy to get. Everything will be compiled into a weekly newsletter which you can read for every.

See,
Come up with a pathetic story, borrow N120k from her. Dont break up with her, just let the relationship freeze by stopping communication.if she calls, answer, but dont call again. if she wants to make trouble on the money, stress her and agree to be paying 5k every month.......

Moony45:
I'm just gonna make this quick cos i'm angry right now.

I met this girl back in 2019 before the pandemic in what started as a beautiful relationship. I have always supported her financially with every penny i had (even when she gained admission into HND in 2020) while i managed with the little i had. She always complain of wanting to use money to settle school stuffs and blah blah which i reasoned and i always found a means to give her cos she claimed she was always broke and acted like she was. Sometimes i even screenshot my account balance to her to let her know i was broke sometimes. Even though i'm out of the country, i still manage to send money to her with all the struggles one faces abroad.

Fast forward to today, i was able to access her bank application only for me to find over 150,000naira there and i checked the account history up from 2020 and this girl have always had above that amount.

I'm so angry right cos i feel betrayed by the kind heard and true love i have shown to her cos she has consistently lied for more than 2 years and i'm contemplating on breaking up with her, doing worse or making her pay cos there were days i only manage to find 3000naira and i still sent everything to her.

What should i do?

Mature advice only pls

Mods, a little help for somebody's son here

Respectively, I think you don't have much money. Instinctually, 96% of men will fling around women when they are rich, very rich.

30k is even for low class girls. Some don't even collect anything less than 100k and above.

I feel when you become rich ur perception will change.
BTW, I hate paid sex of any guise. For young men, SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE BRINGS DISFAVOR

Nwa oma, after the war, abi conflict, dash me ur weapon, maka ndi unknown gun men

Too costly

It's very well. Yesterday, after dressing to go to work, I had to UnCloth to bath again due to the severe heat

It's really crazy. Back in school days, had this female colleague, who would, just to prove to me she is a big girl, call up 5 men for her school fees and hand outs and interesting, 5 of them will respond within 30mins.

Baba Buhari is looking healthy on this picture oh

Interesting thoughts.
My that is busy building a house for my wife and children, taking academic programme and planning to commence village project asap. Omo, Its admire and muveee. No time for *disfavour*, unnecessary waste and fine girl allowance......If e do me too much, we go enter bathroom go pour cold water for body

Table really dey turn. Anybody wey swear for this man chop better winch. As at this time last year, if you tell this ruthless man he will be locked up in the same cell he heartlessly put others, he will even shoot you

Go for the bank.

missimelda01:
Try not to have sex with the next girl you meet, find other non-sexual ways to build intimacy and you'll continue to find her interesting.

that'll be a temporary solution. What happens when he finally get intimate?

This father is not smart

Anxiety2022:
I did RVS and it came out positive

That's an antibody test.

RVS is simply Retroviral Screening

If you are not sure of how to support him or her, keep quiet
HIV meds, ARV, is FREE OF CHARGE in Nigeria. Especially, Public health centres- Primary Health centre, General hospital s, cottage hospital, teaching hospitals.
In most HIV program, treatment to opportunistic infections or co-morbids are FREE.
Infact, everything relating HIV clinical management in public health centres- including lab tests are FREE

ajailer:
Though being diagnosed HIV+ can be a blow on the body and mental state, but I believe it's a starting point for you. You need to seat down and think about your priorities now, focus on them with all your energy and achieve them. I don't know if you are married but please don't think about infecting others as that will only lead you further down d hole..

ARV I hear are relatively cheap these days even if not free, you just have to stay committed to using it everyday.

I know you are down but you still have your whole life ahead of you just that now you have to take conscious decisions for yourself and your loved ones.

It's a win win for you. Travel to the US. In few years, you will not regret the decision. For most, it's a dream come true.