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at op you are yoruba married to isoko , cool . same here . what part of isoko is your husband from and what part of yoruba are you from?
Interested in learning as well. Sadly my husband cant speak but he understands , they speak more of kwale cos that is where his mum is from.

Chidoks:
The author of this piece supports adultery 100%.note the following:
1. You cannot fight adultery with adultery.if he becomes violent during confrontation.cool down,force yourself to stay calm and bring up the issue at a safer time.don't even run to your/his folks.nothing much can come out from that end.report to God who will help you deal with the pain and ultimately change him
2. I really don't understand why most people these days say stuffs like"you see in Africa the expectations are high bla bla..."before nko? We are Africans!we have rich cultural heritage and characteristics. What is wrong in asking a woman to submit to her husband?can there be 2 captains in a ship?we understand order and uphold it.recently there are many cases of divorce because most of our celebrities got deceived by westernization.must we copy their nonsense?
3. Marriage is not for girls but women who can endure whatever challenge marriage brings and enjoy in the future when they must have refined their husbands and raised good children that will bring honor to such homes.but if you insist on adultery and are caught,your husband will drive you away,marry a more beautiful,younger cool headed damsel that will take your place and by then he may have stopped cheating! And your family,friends,co-workers ,supporters will mock you,avoid you,gossip about you,insult you and it will amount to 3-0

I understand the authors standpoint and i agree with her 100%. She did not support adultery but rather said if a man cant keep his vows to be faithful we might as well start the marriage by agreeing that extra marital affairs is not a sin - an open marriage . Thus either parties can sleep with other people and it wont be considered a sin as long as they both come home. But here in lies the problem, every man wants a faithful wife but he cant keep it in his pants.

At op now to your points:
the first point . would you call a someone who you catch cheating and still threatens with violence worthy of your respect , haba. In as much as i advocate that women should trash issues calmly it still doesnt justify violence if they dont. And that is why most of our mothers end up wasting away, pinning for a man who doesnt care if you live or die when the good is going and only remembers the vow he took with you when he is a wasted version fo himself . I say women should stand against infidelity , even the bible recognises how bad it is. But you hardly hear people quote that but they are quick to tell you that the bilbe says the man is the head of the women. In order words you have advocated that women should stay with cheating husbands till they either die of a diseases or the man grows tired of cheating which is most likely in there 50s and come back to a woman who is tired, sad and very angry.


the second point: Yes we are Africans not animals.And when expectations are high it should be from every member of the society. not just the females alone. it is expected that a woman should be long suffering , smiling through the pain because she is a women. You are quick to remember that women should submit to the husbands but you forget to quote that man should love the wife even as christ love d the church. The love of the church killed christ , we are not even telling the men to die for us , we just want them to stop cheating. and if truly you loved something you wouldnt cheat it you would give selflessly. Or am i missing something.

The third point: i do not support adultery from both parties but the sooner we shame the erring party rather than praise or condone it from a man the better for the institution called marraige.

Flets:
1. Bayelsa group reporting from Lagos
2. Punch.com.ng
3. Which group is Bayelsa elders?

These three points to the sensationalism around poor journalism.

GEJ has gently left the space for them, they should leave him alone. Under what capacity will Patience Jonathan be a problem to Dickson?

Campaigns are over, APC should quit spreading propaganda through proxies

With 126 likes and 13 shares it is obvious that people are quick to like anything without reading nor understanding. Bayelsa has always been a PDP state and i wonder how APC is been fingered as a culprit. Isnt it obvious that PDP is a house divided amongst itself even in other states. PDP sympathisers should let go already and accept what has come to stay.

@op i feel for you but you need to look at the bigger picture and that picture includes your children. You obviously married a cheat and its really sad . Stop having a pity party by yourself you cant undo the past you can only resolve to live better.

Did you have a discussion with your husband about it?
What was his reasons?
Your marriage needs a lot of hardwork to get over this, couselling and most importantly prayers.

But SUCIDE is never an option.

scam ,scam,scam,scam,scam,scam,,,,,,,,,,,,.

Yes you are right to feel aggrieved , but i am still at a loss as to why your mother in law reacted that way. you need toanswer some questions.
1) why do you think your husband disagreed with taking the kids to your own parents?
2) Are you sure there is not a deeper rooted issue?

If i were you, i would forgive her but never forget , and when i take stock of my well wishers she will not be included. Would treat like a long distance relative. No unnecessary fraternizing. i greet her ,serve her what i have to offer and disappear into the inner reccess of my room. And honestly you were wrong trying to force your husbands hand by siezing his wallet. That was a direct challenge on is authority. Did you eventually write the exam as scheduled?

am interested

My story got married in my late thirties even though i had kissed some frogs along the way. Dated my husband for a while and i almost lost him because i thought i could do better. Realised i had found my soul mate, my friend , my all in all. i am so confident in my relationship as i know he loves me unconditionally and strives to make my life easy in little ways he can, that is the assurance that i get. He shows off and talks about me to any and everyone. Everyday in the corner of my heart i thank God for making me choose right especially when i think of how many times i almost lost him. Everyday i see new reasons to love him more and more . Praying to God to give us a mini him and me .My Oba ,love you from now till eternity.

Turnkey, try not to always show your limited or no knowledge all the time.

MojAyo:
tanx for understanding what I really meant,I hate broken marriages or single parenting,my mum is divorced and a single mother,the thing dat I hate about dis is the fact dat,she can't talk to my younger brothers,they will never listen to her,there is always confusion in d house,no understanding,okay,lemme make an example,my younger brother was going to a birthday bash,my mum suppose to tell him nt to go,bt she just kept mute to avoid disgrace by him at d midst of his friends,on his way coming back home frm the birthday bash,some thugs came up to him,with him being drunk and rude,they beat d daylight out of him and use broken bottle to stab him 3 places at d back,he was all covered in blood,imagine us all about to sleep at the dead of the night,some women came rushing banging our gates dat my brother ve been stabbed,if u see,my mother almost got hypertension dat day crying,on reaching there,she start lamenting ,to cut the whole story short,she spent a good amount of money at d hospital with her nt having the chance to go to her shop,as yoruba always say,enii bimo oran ni o pon,like if my father is still with my mother,he will ve a iron hand to train those boys which they will never go d wrong path,our last born-she is vry rude,she dnt knw how to talk to elders,bt when I tell mymum about dis ehn,she will insult me and ever her daughter also joining in to insult me,which she will never tell her to stop,which if I beat her,it will cause trouble for me infront of her(mum),so on my two younger brothers,they behave the way they like becos mum never ve d action to tell them she dnt want dis in her house,the one dat got stabbed love partying,the other one,my immediate is vry rude and proud,talks to me anyhow,irrespective dat I'm d elder,and even d so called manfriend of my mum( a married man which d wife never knw her husband is sleeping with another woman outside there)will come to our house to sleep with my mum which d guy is nt even okay than my mum,and I'm suspecting mummy giving him money,so with all dis ,I see single parenting as rubbish,I prayed never to be in one,I want a father dat will join in with me to train d children in a good way,so society won't abuse us tomorrow,u see my dear,the pain of being d first born,and what I seen,go through while I was young,was it my father beating my mum,or the fact dat,my father will be insulting my mum,then she will reply back,and it leads to him beating her,sometimes my dad will kept silent and my mum will be insulting him,being vry aggressive which will later leads to beating,I dnt pray to ve my mothers character,becos of all the wahala ,my father went to marry another woman ,she ve kids for him,and its dis vry woman daat throw my mum and d kids outside d house,my dad and mum were married before I left home for south africa,bt me being there for three years,I heard they were no more living together(divorced)and then I came to visit frm south and came into my mum house,then I noticed all my younger siblings to be vry rude and saucy,which they dnt ve respect for each other,though I love my mum,bt I dnt pray to ever be a single mama,becos the pain and the calamity there,it just takes the grace of God to help someone out,so I never want my life to also be ruled out like dis,even if its for me to behave myself with my husband for the future of my kids,I won't mind,and as u can see,though we fight,and he physically abuse me,we still love each other,seriously,me and him can't help it being away frm each other,if its me nagging him dat makes him beat me,I'm gonna stop dat

My dear in as much as i believe that a male child needs the prescence of a father figure . The abscence of a male figure doesnt give your brothers that much license to misbehave. that means orphans can get a jail free card from misbehaviour. Most people are very wea at raising kids. I am in my late 30s and i dont even know how to be rude my mother , same goes for my brothers. What you described above is not the result of a broken home but a result of weak home training.
i am sorry if i hurt ur feelings .

There is no right or wrong in this situation.
Starting out life with a man is based on your personal conviction , dreams and aspirations.
We were told to marry a man who we share the same dreams with. So why do people expect her to halt her dreams and jump ship?
Funny thing is she might meet another man and move for much less.
Aside from the financial help to her family , she needs to be sure she is doing the right thing.
i wish the poster well, and she should never ever regret her decision.

To save face i would advice you buy 15 tubers of carefully selected yams , as in very big sized yams , remove the smallest from the set ur friend bought and replace them with the few once you just bought.

@tonyChristopher , you advise should go to almost the whole of Nigeria . Which Nigerian tribe doesnt enjoy having plenty children? which tribe of men dont engage in extra marital affairs? Abeg , i married the man not the tribe ( and i am loving it).

tonychristopher:


Go put iceblock for ur toto...u go born many pickin that will make ur toto lose calliberation and get used to gin smell



Now good luck ..oh don't forget the tendency to give woman belle outside


But u will surmount

My dear, you are what tribe.

Proudly married to an Isoko man from Olomoro village

grandlexuz:
How sad. I read from from the first word to the last with plenty of interest. I have a cousin who suffered from this. She later died after several complicated surgeries. At one point her faeces had to be channeled through a hole on her stomach. It was a frightening and pitiful sight..

So sorry for your loss. Was she underaged? and what tribe is she?

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Madam get on your knees and pray for your husband . i see spritual manipulations here.

Rapmoney as all have said your investigation is totally wrong and full of bias . First of all you cant judge people by your own standards, different things are majorly important to different tribes. Ceremonies like burial , naming ceremonies , wedding are held in different level depending on the tribe. Even ceremonies as minor ( my opinion) as age grade things is considered important. Now let me enlighten you a little , in some parts of Delta to discourage the woman from infidelity and register there intention with the family, a bottle of drink is taken to the womans family deviod of ceremony until it can be afforded.

Very lovely thread and i follow it everyday. I had a dream that has been troubling my spirit for a while. Less than a week after my marriage i had two dreams on different days .
1) i was among a group of people and was totally naked but i felt shame.
2) the other dream was my hair been shaved.

From my little understanding i know this are signs of shame but since then i have been having like a spiritual block. Prayer feels dull and lifeless and dreams nnot making sense anymore.

dinachi:
I said it before show me one lady here that seriously condemned lesbianism..Lesbians every where!

@ dinachi the thought of girl on girl is not as repulsive as man on man.

Madam dont play with fire . I understand how it feels to be bi-curious and getting attention from a female but that is a dangerous game u are playing. if u have anything to do with her , she will ruin ur friendship with her sister , ruin ur marriage with outright blackmail or emotional blackmail. And after all the experimentation u will realise u are not interested in women.

present too, interested in dropping two dress sizes. I hope to avoid fizzy drinks and late night eating.

Thank God for this thread and everybody that has contributed to it. I just recently got married and less than a week after the ceremony i had two dreams

1) i was sitting among a group of people and like 3 of us ( females) were all naked .
2) i also dreamt that my hair was been cut off in another dream.

Please note that they are different days .

Thank you.

How much is a bottle ?

pinkycute:
If I may ask what's sucks in my post above....

Sweetie you dont want to go that route with me . Your writing is full of grammatical and spelling blunders i just couldnt ignore .
*blander - its bladder
*dreamt bad dream- when she has a nigtmare or she has a scary dream
*she just recently go for medical checkup and so many more that i cant be bothered to write here . *went

@ OP if i may digress a little please work on your writing , your English sucks.

A number of ten people is ok and stylishly inform your babe so that she can prepare fully. Ten is a fair number . Also you get your uncles to dash the women in the house some cash for attending to them, though not compulsory. Nothing much to expect , i know they would speak English but it would be nice to go along with someone that understands and speak yoruba .