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Dear Keppy,
what is ever is wrong, suicide is not the way to go. talk to us .people actually care

cionon:
Risking your life to bear his child. You have to shuttle between work, familybn church and most times when the man is down financially, she supports. In sickness she will run up n down with him. Alot sacrifices as well.

You mean your child, that is not a sacrifice.
he does the same thing for you too
he supports u when you are down too
you would expect him to do same if you were sick

Na wa o, madam all u have quoted is no biggie and it shows you have no idea of what marriage is . when you love someone you just want to give and give to that person not count how many you have done for him.

i still maintain that a mothers love is one of the greatest thing ever. we as human beings can compartmentalize our love , i want my husband to love his mom so he can appreciate why his children loves me more or shows it more. stop dragging with his mom and show both of them love , a mother can never leave the side of a child but a spouse can.

I pray God restores your marriage, marriage is never a competition on who has the biggest balls.

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Would you rather he loves his mom the way he loves you.

shior women bothering there head over silly issues. A mothers love is the next thing after Gods love. Can you honestly sacrifice for him as much as a mother would. As long as he loves all of us ( his mother,his wife and children), i pray he never has a reason to choose amongst us.

Na wa o women have suffered.

But it is ok for the man to initiate divorce? I am expected to stay married a man who gets drunk beats me even though I took the pastors advice to not say a word when he talks.

Or the man that sleeps with every thing skirt even a door.

Or the man who derives pleasure in making money and ensuring his family struggles alongside.

And don't tell me a virtuos women builds her home because when the men gets out of the door does she build for herself alone. Why yoke yourself by force to someone that doesn't want to be.

With this write up the woman is a devil the man is a saint who losses his way and needs the help of the devil to find it back.

That is how most mother lived there and in old age regretting how they did not dare take the risk.

chronique:
I won't sugar coat things but tell you straight up how it is. First of all,know that you constituted yourself into a nuisance when you were a destitute squatting with somebody and still going ahead to impregnate someone else's daughter. It shows how irresponsible you are as a person. Look here,every parent wants the good of his or her child. You don't go around messing up people's children and expecting them to receive you with open arms. No one is expecting you not to have a relationship because you are broke but how much is a condom for God's sake? If you couldn't use your brain to be responsible at that time with the kind of situation you found yourself in,you deserve whatever kind of treatment you got. You simply went to disturb the woman with your wahala. I won't fault her or blame her for whatever she did to you. Nobody wants a useless life for his/her child. The woman was right in sending her daughter that does not have sense,and went to get pregnant for someone that doesn't even have a house to stay in,away. You should be grateful to her for pushing your responsibility to you,and making you man-up. Only God knows what would have happened if she didn't send the girl to you. You can't go and misbehave and now expect someone else to help you clean up your mess.


I'm always upset when I read stuffs like this. This is the nonsense that most people do and end up helping to breed criminals in the society(by producing kids they can't cater for). Not everyone gets lucky like you to repair the damage done. You're tryna sound like a victim here but you're not.

My advice: if you can afford to help her pay up,fine. If you don't want to,no problem. But let me be clear and frank with you. If the reason you don't like her,is because of how she treated her daughter when you messed her up,you're clearly wrong. When your kids grow up,let a homeless young man that can't cater for himself,impregnate your daughter. I'm sure when it happens,you'd understand how your mother-in-law felt.

God will bless you abundantly. Imagine him forming victim. U dey squat for person house still dey do kpekus matter, shior. I over trust my mama OYO.
I pray for all the people who have encouraged him to feel like a victim that same will happen to ur daughters. Then u can take the man in, with ur daughter and grandchild afterall that is what u expect the mother to do.

At op to pay that woman's debt is ur choice but u need to apologise to her for making her miserable. Do u know how many sleepless nights she must have had. No sane mother intentionally starves her pregnant daughter and sends her out. U got her pregnant u don't have a house and still expected the mother to feed her na wa o. U couldn't even cater to her feeding shior. Better do what is right.

From lawanson get to ojuelegba or get to the cele express take a bus to oshodi from oshodi enter a bus going to new garage drop at western bustop not sure again cross to the other side of the express. Tell d conductor u will drop at UPS other passengers might help.

From ojuelegba take a bus to oshodi from oshodi enter a bus going to new garage drop at western bustop not sure again cross to the other side of the express. Tell d conductor u will drop at UPS other passengers might help.

From ojuelegba take a bus to oshodi from oshodi enter a bus going to new garage drop at western bustop not sure again cross to the other side of the express

Cutehector it seems u get a rise from insulting people. I was talking to saiprojects because from ur initial post u seemed to confuse the preparation of ewedu from efo riro.

Even if I had talked to you I still do not see the need for insults. Most posters on nl just jump to attack without any rationality,it is really a shame.

Even the poster that insulted you sef u no gree insult am. Rationality out the window.

saiprojects:
I don't understand you, what has cutehector's post got to do with my recipe?

Don't be on the defensive I just expected that you would use the opportunity to enlighten him.

Cutehector:
Rubbish food

At saiprojects I am disappointed that u have not corrected cutehector.

1) nobody uses broom to make efo riro only ewedu. And it is never the same used for cleaning it is a shorter broom used specifically for ewedu

2) efo riro is not slimy. It is simply fried stew with vegetables and a lot of obstacles ( fish, pomo, crab, beef, gizzard, liver, prawns)

What about second hand clothing for children, high grade of cos.

Hmmm I am happy that u were humble and honest enough to agree that u guys did nto fully understand each other be fore marriage.

Use the opportunity of your upcoming anniversary to get across to him. Write him a long letter tell him of his good side, massage his ego but don't exaggerate. Remind of your love and the once in while he has been thoughtful. Tell him you want to be the best wife ever but you need him to be there.

Tell him you are thinking of ways to improve your dress sense, your looks and your cooking and mean it.

Carry him along in your quest to change. The style of dressing that appeals to him, a change of hair and light make up ask his opinion.

On the house chores you need help and you can pay for it. If you have a maid already then which part of the house is always untidy as your kid doesn't get home till you do. Maybe u need to supervise the help more.

On food issues get the cleaner to do the shopping for you and you cook in bulk on weekends so u don't cook everyday. Learn to take time out for yourself before you start aging unnecessarily.

The sex part my motto has always being if he ain't going down on me I ain't going down on you.
Whatever you do don't be confrontational and stop reporting him it obviously doesn't work.

God be with you.

At Op I want you to read this with an open mind.

I know how it must have being to see your mother cry so hard and your father beaten up, embarrassed and afraid. For a young child it would have been so sad and confusing. But honestly do you know the truth of what really transpired? Do you know if the person that sold the building to your father had a genuine claim to it? Do you know if the girls father was just a victim in all this. We all wish to see our parents as smart, perfect beings but is that really the truth.

Of all the girls in the world your brother had to bring this girl, God is interested in this story and truth will soon be out.

How would you feel if somebody wants to punish you for your father's crime? Do you think it is fair or right? If some of us were been punished for our great grandparents or grandparents deed many of us won't exist.

Like you said the girl might be as bad as her father but we have seen juju priest give birth to pastors, pastor giving birth to agberos and the examples go on.

Forgive and move on, tell your brother but not with sole aim of stopping the marriage. Let your brother make his decision. Revenge has fueled so much that u refuse to be happy for your brother.

The family already put u guys through he'll why let them do it the second time.

Revenge will drain you of everything good.

MsGlobalwonder:
So, luvluvluv you want to dump your gf because according to you she is "disrespectful, materialistic and extravagant". But you asked this same lady out, she agreed and you dated for 1yr. You knew about all those qualities then, but still dated her anyways. I think you have something else up your sleeve, if not; these traits can be worked on. It's even good you are dumping her now so that she can go find love elsewhere. Know that karma is a b!tch tho... it pays people back as they deserve. Cheers.

At poster don't let people like this guilt you into yoking yourself and later regret it. Let the lady go. At Msglobalwonder courtship is for discovering issues like this. One year isn't time wasting.

Hello,

Just checked the everywoman website, most of the sections were out of stock. Actually interested in the black peplum top with a full zipper. Is it available in various colourS.

Yes it is a financial company not sure of thier particular field. Use google to confirm addressm

Try the trade fair complex. My neighbour has a cosmetic shop and that is where she buys her stuff.

At Op I have come to the same conclusion as most poster. Your sense of entitlement will be your greatest undoing. With one side of your mouth you praise her and cbring her down with the other side.

She uses u like houseboy but she feeds and gives u a roof over your head.
She deceived you abi because she promised u money and she couldn't deliver.

Op life is waiting for you in a few years just maybe you would understand her struggles. Instead of you get of your butt and hustle you are here lamenting that she isn't helping. I ask again do you know her struggles.

U posted ur issues to hear people tell you that she is evil and wicked but in reality I don't know her and so can't judge but from you tone of writing you a Lazy,entitled, myopic and ungrateful child.

Yes I said child as real men would stop lamenting and think of practical ways to solve there problems.
And don't come at me with a sob story of not knowing your story you don't know mine either.

Don't know where 2nd Rainbow is. But find your way to Obalende or cms enter Eko Hotel bus tell them to drop you at dstv junction

Hi, don't know about their pay range. It's a fairly ok company into ice cream and confectioneries raw material.

At OP thank you for all your efforts on this forum.
Kindly check the jobs posted on your blog from People Expert needing job code. The code is required to send ones cv.
Thanks once again

At Op I am sorry to say your wife is cheating on you and probably with more than one person, not that it matters.

Depending on your disposition, you need to involve both families and fast. Am sure with all you have read you are likely to take very rash decisions but I would advice you to calm down and do it right. How you kept your sanity after all this messages is impressive but not a good thing. You might explode one day and that might be disastrous.

The sad part is your wife is as slippery as an eel, she has always been able to explain her way out of situations. People like her rarely change unless when in a very bad situation.

If I may ask, not that it is an excuse, is she the breadwinner? Does she have so much financial commitments that her income can't satisfy? Does she dress lavishly and very expensively?
This questions are o help decide if she does it for money or just her way.

Aside when does she have so much me time to chat and meet up with dates.

Take charge of your life and make a decision. If u can live with all you know and can forgive then work on your marriage re establish boundaries but this would require so much hardwork, patience and two willing and sincere parties.
I wouldn't blame you if you decide to end the marriage, your wife isn't loyal

carlcar2012:
Fork u

For stating my views? Do I know you? Is it this same topic or another thing. Madam park well o.

Onegai:
Step up your game: start loving up your wife, paying her attention, take her out, spend time with her, gifts.

Basically, wear red pant and black bra

. Abi o that is the advice he would have gotten if the op was a woman. Team Red Bra and Pant

God bless you tearoses you couldn't have said it better. At op she gave you the honest truth. I can count 10 families I know very well where the woman once brought the bacon home fully, some the men are in charge back but some are still being handled by the women.

All in all u married a good man who believes in his career and lacks the urge to hustle. Teach him, nuture him. My dear this where you need to summon the inner reserve in u and love him. Yes love him.

At Op recommendations is not bad in itself. It's the pressure that leads to bad choices. The lady wants to impress, the guy wants to impress the recommender and as such allows in deceit.

Your job is cut out for you, because you are outside the country the stakes is higher for the girl and you can't see her in her element all the time.

My 2kobo meet all recommended girls but don't be pressured into dating or marrying anyone. U have a right to say yes or no.

You should talk to her. She regrets a lost love.
Ask the details of the meeting not to quarrel but to work towards your marriage. Tell her the dangers of the ex, reassure her of your love. But let her if she messes up she is gone.

She met up with an ex who never had sex with her but it resurrected old feelings. Let her know the guy might not feel the same and she should think if she is willing to end her marriage for that.

Part of your duties as a husband and leader of your home is guidance. God is ur strength.

At Op slow down with your rants. I know you are frustrated but your man is not a lost cause. We can't all be the same, hustle wise.

The honest truth you met him like that and married him like that. Go to God and ask for wisdom then meet ur husband and discuss your family goals for the new year. Questions like stuffs you have raised heren research stuff and send him the information. Don't give up be strong for the 2 of u that is marriage. Free your mind and go back to loving him, work on your psyche.