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My dear why are u bothering yourself. Left to me she is a non issue. They married her just like they will marry you. Give her space, be cordial don't be rude to her. Talk to her but totally ignore her insecurities with time she will soon expose herself. I know their type.

Lessons for new wife, when you get to a new family be cordial to all. Know your allies and your enemies treat them all the same. When insulted behave very maturely. With time they will expose themselves. Don't enter a new home with enemies you don't want to start on that foot.

I don't know if the woman is guilty or that Mr Mouka is innocent of any wrong doing, but let me highlight some specifics:

Mr Mouka and his congregations reaction to the accusation was that of a guilty party and blind followership. He is notthe only MOG been accused both truthfully and wrongfully and we can judge there reactions.

I watched the youtube video and I have never seen an accuser of any church come with such heavy documents.

We all seem to forget we are in Nigeria and justice goes to the highest bidder. We all know that woman's resources and reach is limited compared to Mr Mouka.

According to my people" Ohun to pa mo oju Olohun ba to". " Bi iro ba lo logun odun ojo kan ni otito ma fi ba"

Women deceiving since time immemorial with church going and religion. Men and women should learn ways to test integrity and personality of there intending.

To your story your in laws are not ashamed begging and attending such mediation. I trust my people, I am on my own.

If all you have said is true I commend your patience but you made a whole lot of mistakes.

For both men and women people should learn to deal with issues decisively. It is your life and only you can take a decision. Both the pastor are not been fair to you.
From your story she is an adulteress, a quarrelsome woman, a fetish one hmmm
The only thing she has not been accused of is stealing.

Your life takes priority

Another home remedy for hbp is soak onion in water overnight and drink every morning. Change the onion every three days.

Like someone said she should watch her salt intake.

A minimum of 30minutes excersise 4times weekly

A fairly good wristwatch

ogawisdom:
Op he has nt married her yet so can't demand she uses her money to buy stuff for their future kitchen, it is at d lady's discretion. What he can do is to b buying d kitchen stuff himself or give d lady money to buy n bring to his house. It is his responsibility really . Marriage is nt a partnership its abt a provider n a helper, dts y d woman's total submission to d man's leadership/authority is nt negotiable
She is moving into ur house as d man, when she moves in she must then support u. It is good sha to see her making plans towards ur future together, dt shows commitment but at this stage it's at her discretion.
By d way wat kinda of man will allow a woman move into his house with properties, she should nt move in into ur house with things beyond her clothing's, personal effects n d likes but nt gas cooker, microwave etc
U kw her well, do wat u think u shld do

In as much as I agree with you, the lady needs to show a bit of commitment to the relationship. It's not about her money, even if she doesn't want to use her she can collect from the guy and buy for the house. There are many ways to skin a cat.
I know a couple and that was how the woman started and it continued into the marriage. Four years after marriage she collected money for blender she bought while her husband was away and still inflated the price.

Marriage is our thing, the house, the property, everything inside is ours so it is a joint effort. Investments is not only, time and effort. I think the issue is she is not showing any signs of preparing for a married life.

Before I got married I didn't have any money to buy stuffs but I was always excited to window shop send my husband the pictures and price and wish we could get it.
When he got my husband went behind my back bought some and surprised me. It just showed to him that I was preparing for a life with him but I was hindered by money.

Just maybe he should talk to her one more time for the sake of there love.

Merry Christmas

bloomstar:
get lost... you're just protecting your imperfection.
go get a degree and stop wallowing in meritocracy!!! u are de silly one here

Did you just say meritocracy, really, I guess you meant mediocrity. Well I refuse to banter words it shouldn't be hard for people to see your silly reasoning.
A university degree is the key to perfection in your world I see. You wake up and see the real world.
Am out.

It is really sad that we have a non functional society but it is even sadder that the man is in front of a church and nobody has talked about the church being a good samaritan.

I am tired of this hypocrisy we call living quick to talk of religion where it doesn't matter. Mtscheeeeeewwwww

bloomstar:
and later dey will want to make HND holders equal to Bsc holders... thunder fire demon!!
my music though...

Really, like the university graduates are any better. I honestly don't blame you, it's the stupid mentality most Nigerians have. Ask around is the school curriculum of the university different from that of the polytechnic. Guide your utterances before people actually know you are stupid.

Please kindly check the mail got a response from postmaster@vixagroup saying the mail is undeliverable.

Madam without being biased u do have issues of ur own. I guess this is all a joke to you. U are the perfect feminist wife ( if there was such a thing). If u talk like this on a faceless forum one cannot but wonder the kind of person u truly are. Truth be told u cannot blame a wife for the husbands indiscretion but madam. Revenge is not for people that one to stay married. Take ur revenge and walkout of the marriage Or work it out with ur husband.

trendyprettygir:
I wish for so many things: peace for Nigeria, No wars.

But right now i wish for a 150,000 thousand naira as i will be delivering in just ä few weeks. I have not bought ä single baby item or food and husband and I are having difficult times.

God will surprise u beyond ur expectations, since I read ur wish it has been so heavy in my heart.
We will pray for u and urs

It just got reduced to 2,700

I wish I get pregnant before the new year.

I wish all financial hiccups are smoothened before the new year.

I wish my younger brother gets a good job.

I wish for peace, joy and good health for my family, my in laws

I wish that doors be opened for my husband

Madam I feel for you and I know God will answer ur prayers.

To be honest ur husband is not trying enough, when things get to this level he needs to take drastic measures. Even with his book business he can have other hustles. People drive okada, tricycles and buses just to put food on the table. Even women do it when it has gotten tough. And this are things u can get people to invest in for you. If u worship in a good get somebody to finance any of the above for u and u deliver money daily or weekly to the person. Once in a while he takes a day or 2 to pursue his book hustle.
Let him just be faithful in remitting the owners money simple. I wish u well.

Yes there are theaters in Lagos. Google terra kulture, as spelt, on the island nice place

Op can you answer the following.
1) what is longest time u have spent alone with the kids.

2) do u agree that kids need structure and discipline or they should be allowed to be free after all they are kids

3) is she always like that?

My husband will make catfish or turkey pepper soup and buy origin. Once I see does signs I do a silent yipee in my mind, from there gist go start. And when I am tipsy he takes advantage( private joke)

Me I apologise straight away till he accepts and then mind blowing sex

Your friends needs to be matured about this and let it go. She is only one hurting, as such she is the only one that release from unnecessary pain. She is too young to be logging around such hurt. She just start life o, people will hurt u. Ur spouse, ur children, friends my dear the list is endless.

Now for mama, she is playing with fire

Your friend needs to let go and forgive her father. He made a mistake and has apologised. Life is tricky and we can't be sure when we are faced the same decision we will do better.

Now for the girls mother she better be wary of this home wrecker. He wants her back after how many years. They can maintain a cordial relationship for the daughters sake.

I am tired of hearing this same arguments all the time. I don't think a 15 year old girl is too young to assist in the home. If she was the posters child shey the mom will be doing house chores and the daughter will sit down or taking care of a younger one is a big deal.

And u all keep wondering why our girls are not better prepared to be wives and mothers.

On this same forum your see women being bashed everyday for choosing to stay at home and take care of there kids instead of pursuing a career or starting a business.

Not all women can be mediorce in there choosen field, should she sabotage her growth in the office so she is labeled a good wife.

I really don't understand anymore

Rukemi don't be upset by whatever happened, just thank God that you got away unscathed.

Some people are generally aversed to good in their life. Those people are bad, no mincing words. If the girl had complained to her mother that u didn't fulfil ur promise Shebi they would have contacted ur link ( ie ur colleague) .

What is your colleagues take on it.

Thank you so much Aydelicious. God bless and expand your business. Thank you.

Towel, boxers, t shirt, drinking cup, same bed

[quote author=HungerBAD post=40174542]The problem with marriages is that couples refuses to converse.

If you are uncomfortable with her pinging, then bring it to her attention. Have a talk with her, and honestly a woman should not spend time on her phone too much anyway when she is with the hubby, unless the man is of course boring and she is getting her fun from her pinging friends.




Gbam

People married living like strangers, until the situation degenerates to the point of hostility.

Thank you.

Still waiting for the cooking method

Sorry for being a bother.

Ok can I get two Chinese sauce and the sphagettini with vegetable

Ok thanks.

Can u send me 2 of the commonest ones served at Nigerian parties

Thank you so much

Hello Aydelicious, pls can u help me with the recipe for Chinese served at Nigerian parties. Thank you

Help pls

@ ayedelicious
@felkezman

Can someone pls assist with the list of ingredients and cooking method for Chinese meal at nigeria parties.
Pls it really very urgent.