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Blazay:
Women are too 'cheap'.
Men are too loose!

Attention, financial security, and Loveeeee

MRbrownJAY:
Too many FAILED in your story.
#1 you propose marriage within 4months of dating this gal then wonder why she acting like a stranger. . . . Because she IS.you know absolutely nothing about her. FAILED!
#2 she refuse to come and live with you after marriage because you were broke. FAILED!
#3 at that time you should have understood that you made a grave mistake, count your losses and be done with this golddigger but you didn't. FAILED!
#4 she heard you got paid and suddenly she comes round and act "like a wife". You knew what she was after but didn't drove her away. FAILED!
#5 she now said she wants to get pregnant and you went ahead in fukcing her. Did you have amnesia about all the shiit that happened before?! (Check list for #1 #2 #3 or #4) FAILED!
#6 she now says you have watery weak sperm and washes it off, to me it sounds like she has been around the block a few times if she has expert knowledge about sperm quality (then again, that's what happen when you marry strangers). FAILED!
#7 you ask for fertility test rather than HIV test in these dangerous times. Is your life worth 200K?! Get you priorities straight bro. FAILED!
And last but not least #8 if you give the money, you will never see it again, and there still won't be any marriage. This woman and her mother are after your money. Better sleep with one eye open and on your guard ALWAYS. These are the type that would kill you for less than 500K.

You said it all correctly!!

Seems like one big mess , Honestly there are way too many good single women out there to be chasing this one who is bringing nothing but wahala to the situation for no reason! Let this serve as an indication to you of how the marriage will be . Just ask yourself can you live with that?

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=610305.msg7785622#msg7785622 date=1298467787]Please tell all these to your mothers. . .[/quote]Exactly!! They wouldnt dare, I guess this is how he/she thinks of the woman in the family!! FOH--

Well, the only part of this post that was understandable was the end- so, Bottom line get a DNA test- see if the child is part of your family, If it is, then you guys need to accept responsibility! If it is not then your family will come out looking great, and the girl and her family foolish! Other wise there will never be peace in this situation!

iz2much:
My husband lost his job five years ago and has not made any effort to get another one. Recently, out of concern, our church pastor got him a job with a good start-up salary, but after attending the interview, he decided not to take the job, giving all kinds of excuses. The boss kept asking for him, but he refused to show up. He blames me for everything and even his inability to progress in life. I am tired of being the one making all the sacrifices and fore-going my dreams. All his efforts to travel out of the country cost me my education, which I should have completed, and my business. I cannot put up with this any more. What do I do? I have three children aged six, three and one, respectively. What do I do?

courtesy punchontheweb

You do the same thing you have been doing, NOTHING!!! You should have put your foot down, two kids ago!! How are you guys managing? Apparently there is some income coming to your house. No one here can tell you to leave your husband, but I will say that he is only doing what you allow him to do!!

Check this out- and she was a young Nigerian girl!!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/02/09/woman-dies-after-buttocks-injection_n_820586.html


Woman Dies After Buttocks Injection In Pennsylvania

PHILADELPHIA — A woman who had a cosmetic injection in her buttocks at a hotel near the Philadelphia airport died early Tuesday, prompting a police investigation.

Detectives said the woman and three companions traveled from London and were staying at the Hampton Inn in southwest Philadelphia. Two of them had traveled to the city in November to have their buttocks enlarged and, on Monday, one received another injection while the other had a hip augmentation.

Detective Joseph Murray said the 20-year-old woman who had the buttocks injection later complained of chest pains and trouble breathing. Paramedics were called, and she was taken to Mercy Fitzgerald Hospital where she died. Her name was not officially released.

The results of an autopsy by the Delaware County medical examiner's office haven't been released.

Police were seeking two people involved in the cosmetic procedures. They said they believe the procedures were arranged over the Internet.

"We're not quite sure right now if that person performing that procedure is licensed or unlicensed," said Lt. John Walker of the Philadelphia police southwest detectives division. "We're still working that information right now."

Walker said investigators were also awaiting test results to determine the substance used.

big nero:
met this girl few months back . . . . really fell in love instantly , the issues she travled not long after, we met, we communicate by fone though,
the isssues is i feel this girl has temperamental issues,( i have too) (asked her often and shes denied) i try to crack jokes or say stuff that will make her laff( just to giive us some sort of connection) she does not laff, yep i think thats my problem am trying to connect with her, its so diificult, really i really am in love with this girl( once i told her that ill stop calling cos of the way , she sounds at times, shes twisted the whole stuff to indicate that she was sorry and i shouldnt stop) thereby indicating interest

she grew up in kwara or so . ( i grew up in lagos) at times i feel its the diff in background etc and my lack of understanding of her( due to the fact that we were not opportuned to spend more time together before she travvled.

my questions this, is it possible to decipher or get a good understanding of her and her attitude through the fone( offcourse i cant ask her directly as her ans will favour her or will be distorted)

your replies will be well appreciated

I dont understand , how did you fall in love with someone that really doesnt show any interest in you?. Only love those that love you back! Go with your gut feeling .

YES!---------- That was easy!! " Never in your life" -You cant miss something that you never had-.

Shame!!! She will be tortured for the rest of her life!!

Put them all in their place one good time, and all will be well! At the end of the day you are a man and free to live your life!

Advocator:
My niga you need to stop whining like a woman, if a woman is not interested in you then the ocean is full of women. Different variety of women are everywhere. Take this helpful advice from me as am I experience in the relationship department, you gota treat a woman like a garbage, treat her like a intimacy gadget, she will want you more.

No need to thank me.

So, not trying to be a trouble maker. , but how did your father treat your mum?hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm-, or better yet lets go a little deeper- how did your grandfather treat your grandmother? ---- JUST ASKING??

AMEN!!! Put it out there first- either she is with it or not. Most men will be surprised!

sauer:
the guy wants to sell a book, or rather its title. A man's love can be as compassionate. It has to do with the individuals in the picture

GOOD POINT!!!

190:
[color=deeppink]why would her phone not get busy when shes receiving important calls from men
Never trust a woman
Its in the koran!! [/color]

Now this is the funniest thing I read in a while!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tosinville:
Steve harvey? i don't really know that author but i'll definately go for some research asap maybe on wiki lol. Well if he isn't white, he might be talking from experience with the white folks.

Ha Ha!! Now really, 

koolchicco:
Fa fa fa fowl foul!https://yoursmiles.org/tsmile/agressive/t0126.gif

True or untrue?

Tosinville:
^^Abi, it depend o! so i don't really care about what steve harvey in that book

Not meant for you to care? It is meant as a matter of opinion either he is talking real, or talking trash,  and this is coming from a book written by a " MAN" but I guess we know your vote already!

Tosinville:
Ladyjide,

I know the way how strong love is with the white folks thats not how it is with some other race.

Sorry on this one I completely disagree, Love is strong with "white folks", ? and it is what with all other races-- especially AFRICANS?

but Tosin this was written by STEVE HARVEY ( HE IS NOT WHITE)

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=607877.msg7759523#msg7759523 date=1298097480]Please post the rest of the article because this half view is not going to get a balanced review.[/quote]I am sorry - this is actually an excerpt from a book written by Steve Harvey, "Act Like a Lady Think Like A man" The rest is way too long to add.

Tosinville:
You just posted this quote to make nigerian ladies on here to feel so fly about themselves, nigerian's women affection is for you to have huge amount of stash full in a "ghana must go" bag thats when they can love you this way, they don't even wanna whether u look like chimpazee jnr brudda but as long as you got this dough, u are the green light.

I belief this quote is from a white folk, abeg stop using whites mentality to compare an african/nigerian mentality, they are incompatible.

Tosinville I posted this article to start a discussion not stroke egos, that is not the type of business I am in, Very simple ,

The quote is from Steve Harvey----------- Please read well, This quote is from "Steve Harvey"


Thanks!

Tosinville:
Naijababe,

I don't like someone born and raised abroad claiming to be nigerian without no nigerian experience just because your dad told ya that he's from nigeria.

If you truly lives in nigeria then you'll get what i'm talking about, madam.

Sorry, I think I missed a beat, what does that have to do with the article? Does that make her get your point better if she was born , bred and lives in Nigeria? NOT-----Last I checked this love thing was universal my man!

I could not understand  much of this post past the first few lines to give a real answer to your question , but In my opinion your friend needs to re evaluate himself as a  person. How could he say he does not give a hoot about his own flesh and blood? , SHAME on him !! Who cares that he was in school then, He needs to get his mind right!! He does not have to like the woman who gave birth to his child, but respect her for who she is, the Mother of his child, The child------ there should not even be a question there! It is his own flesh and blood,

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=607877.msg7758833#msg7758833 date=1298080397]How's Mr Jide?
[/quote] I am not sure who you are talking about on my end but How is Ms/Mrs D- Sense? uhmmmmmm,

[quote author=MzD@rkSkin link=topic=607877.msg7758769#msg7758769 date=1298078264][color=teal]It's realistic and fact. Thank you for reminding me, poster. I need to cop this genius's book ASAP.  [/color][/quote][quote author=D-sense link=topic=607877.msg7758807#msg7758807 date=1298079429]OP.
Blahh Blahhh Blahh Blhaa . . .  . . . . .[/quote]Right back at ya!! lol

Nairaland- This quote was taking from an article that I recently read--- The thoughts are not my own , but those of Steve Harvey--- What is your opinion on is it true talk or rubbish?

A Woman's Love is, GREAT, A Mans love compared to a woman's is Unrealistic-


"Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough.
That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. Well, I’m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love— that perfection—from a man is unrealistic. That’s right, I said it—it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how. Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love."

A person should just be themselves, and be real!! We are all human, Now saying that does not mean you should go out of your way to be ill mannered and rude!

Personally I would go with the financially stable man, because at the end of the day his looks are not going to keep your lights on and bills paid!! Now the main deciding factor is how he treats me, because if he is ugly, financially stable but treats me like crap, Then I would rather be by myself- than be mistreated.

Is this a normal list for a dowry?

Well cant say he deserves it, no one deserves to have their heart broken!!! , but Karma is very real " What goes around comes around"

Follow it !!!! Go with your gut feeling!!! I am a firm believer. If you feel something is wrong more than likely your are correct!!

This really should not be about the money, as you are already planning to marry him. Personally this would not be an issue for me but in your case- The man has already shown good faith by quitting his job to join you in Abuja. You stated that you guys discussed where you would live when you were married-- did you not discuss financial things the same? Just imagine the shoe were on the other foot, and you were the one who quit your job to be with your man- Would he now question you the same? ( I doubt it) Never the less only you can be a good judge of what you can tolerate as far as financing the household . The mere fact that you are even questioning it already shows that you have some doubts and are uneasy about it and need to tread very lightly!

kokoye:
really

"SOME" is the key word!! I am not to big of a woman that I can not admit my own faults!!











When no one is around! lol

[quote author=Mrs, Eve link=topic=573498.msg7395737#msg7395737 date=1293109970]See, I didn't want to say what you said girl. Because then I would be accused of trying to e-fight. (looking at Jaybee sideways)

Anyway, Girl "THEY" don't understand the PLIGHT OF BLACK WOMEN.

I am trying not to go historical so let me exit this thread before I get in trouble.[/quote]Exactly!! E- fight if that's what they want to call it- I sit on both sides of the fence on this one - Nigerian and "Black"- if you are in the United States and are of a darker complexion you are automatically labeled black no matter what your family background is ! If you don't know what I been through or what I go through daily- shut your face---until you walk a day in my shoes.