₦airaland Forum

bidemi12:
i am currently in the process of convincing some of my american friends to invest in Nigeria. The only problem is they are scared because of the cost they might incure to set up the investments. i try my best to tell them that most nigerians are retarded and the challenges they face with getting safety permits for standards in the US don't apply here. In a nutshell, you can pretty much get away with murder. They still don't believe. Maybe i should introduce them to Nairaland so that they can witness some of the remarks by so called educated posters who blame victims and not the organization. Yes!! that is what i will do. I wonder why i didn't think of that before?

What type of investing are you trying to get them to do?

Go and meet her, Lagos, is not too far from Ibadan, See her in person then decide!

Be a man - and make your own decision.Dont let your family do that for you. At the end of the day-- you are the one that has to live with her at night, and go home to her, The grass is not always greener on the other side!

I would personally dis own them both, and not talk to them ever again. You may find it easier to forgive your husband than your sister, but me personally I would not be able too.  Shame on your sister !  For the most part, blood is suppose to be thicker than water and if your own flesh and blood can do something so senseless, then GOD help them! The fact that she could even speak her mouth to say those words to you is a shame, and not someone worthy of being called your sister. What has this world come too, when a sister would do such a thing because of jealousy? Just do what you feel is right for you!

The only thing you can tell him- is walk away. Despite the fact that he maybe able to forgive, the lack of trust in the relationship is still present and will for ever be, and that will never be giving back!! Tell him to walk away while he can!!

^^Ok ,  so this goes out to you and a few of your counterparts,  on Naira land, if the shoe fits any others reading,  then wear it, 

I have had enough  of this thread, and because this is my world I can have it MY way! So  lets end this and settle the score, Lets be honest, Why are you mad?? Why are most of you guys mad? I wont say it is because I asked a simple question as to "Where are the quality Nigerian men hiding these days."That question required a simple answer, Some of the responses answered just that, but others completely got side tracked,    I can tell by your post  that you are mad (tosinville, and some others)---Perhaps you were one of the endless number of guys in Nigeria- that sent me an email, that I dismissed, or perhaps you were one of the  women that sent me a message trying to hook one of their brothers- that I dismissed,  Bottom line, Life is too short to be this HATEFUL, ! Life goes on,

I am not worth it you said?, well  I guess you will NEVER know for sure will you, ? My words are my words, and last I checked I am free to use them how ever I see fit.  There is someone out there in the world that does know that I am worth it.  One thing I can definitely  say for sure is that person will NEVER be YOU, Whether he is currently in Nigeria, the UK, or the United States, he is fully aware, and we press on!!!!!!  I will be 30 and single with out a husband ( NEVER), ? not to talk of 35(NEVER), ?  Folks just STOP it with your rubbish assumptions or wishes for My life!!  Any of that will never be, but YOU will never know for sure will you??  If you did not understand it by now, it makes ME no difference! I am fine with where I am in my life, and secure just the same. If you did not get the memo, this is the cyber world, and  believe non of what you can read, but only what you can verify, Until then, save your assumptions, So to wrap this up some of you guys get over me and enjoy your days, as I truly am!! It is not that serious and has never been for me!! My regards

kashmo:
^^^ If you don't mind me asking this question, what part of East Coast do you reside?!

You can choose to ignore, but I would definitely love if you respond.

Honestly, the consensus here and your likelihood of finding a 'Quality' Naija man in the East should be high.

I am not so rude that I would ignore you, I live 95 north, Philly, Philly- Philadelphia ( the so called city of brotherly love)!!

Beync:
@LADYJ, I LIKE your COURAGE TO SPEAK your MIND,

I LIKE THE CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM,

THE BIGEST ROOM IN OUR LIFE IS ALWAYS THE ROOM FOR SELF IMPROVEMENT

LETS GIVE ROOM FOR IT, WE L GET THEIR,, ALL THE BEST.

I would not be who I am or an individual if I did not speak my mind. I take every comment on this thread with a grain of salt, and press on in my REAL life!!! Point taken never the less

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=494146.msg6617244#msg6617244 date=1282457157]at least u met the ones that have papers or are citizens and all they fear is being used, those ones i can handle as they will quickly know i dont need anything remotely to papers. what about the ones that u meet and they suddenly think that u are the answer to her and her family financial problems? some will come visit u and ask u to help fill their tank, just bcuz they showed up in your house. they u of a restaurant they found with great deals and even have coupons, u get there and by the time u are done u are out of $40 easily. if u asked them to cook they claim they are tired but just tell them u just finished cooking and u will see their eyes glow like green lantern and next thing out of their mouth, "honey i am so hungry, its just as if u knew i was coming". dont get me started on nigerian girls in the usa! [/quote]I think you need to stop picking up those Dallas cowgirl- Nigerian girls then!! Perhaps if you picked a real Nigerian woman , and not a girl, then some of your issues with them would be solved Regardless a real women has no problem cooking for her man tired or not, moral of the story is, Pick better woman!!

nethacker:
i tire 4 dis ladyjyde babe ooo na only u?
@davidylan, i told her b4 now dat i 8 9ja babes here(sorry 2 say) because d 1st thing on their mind is dat u wanna get your GC thru them, I am always happy seeing them single @ 35

Man , cut it out, if you hate them- go import your mate if you haven't already from Nigeria, Mean while I will get my own from here, You are happy to seem them single a 35, I bet you are, Your point is not taken,

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=494146.msg6617202#msg6617202 date=1282455673]i know u wanna be a cowboy fan; i see it in your eyes, come to dallas, lets spoil u a little [/quote]I just vomited in my mouth , I have sunglasses on , you couldn't even see my eyes----I bleed E-A-G-L-ES green all day!!!! I will pass on the cowboys blue!

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=494146.msg6617120#msg6617120 date=1282451418]speak for urself! [/quote]But then the rest are Dallas Cowboys fans so , that is just as bad !!!

Wow,

Where is your friend located?

Wow- this thread really touched me today . I hope you and your children are doing well!

chiogo:
Interesting thread.

Why are people vexing about the poster preferring a guy who's also in the States as she is? It's reasonable and a personal preference.

@topic, I dunno but Good luck!

Some people just do not know how to pick their battles! Everyone has their preference and that is a small preference as in location, ! This thread has a little bit of everything mixed in, but me being who I am -- I am always up for the debate, Thanks Girl!

As a professional shopaholic-- The day after Thanksgiving is good, but if you want to get some real bargains- try after Christmas!!

Congratulations to your family!

kennylat:
@Osisi,

I am a Nigerian in USA kinda new in America, Less than 3yrs. I am in my late 20's and I am looking for cool Nigerian girl who are doing very good for herself. I wont mind a medical doctor or a Pharmacist too.

I am a working professional and make six figures so I need someone in my social status too maybe a 24-27yr old Nigerian in America would be cool. If she was born here, She needs to identify with my Nigerian culture since I am still very Nigerian.

please I am not needing a girl for papers I am arranging my own stuff by myself.

Sorry ladyjide for hijacking your thread.

Hey go for it, u never know!! I am glad my thread could be of services to some people on here! lol

No- still protect your self from pregnancy and other diseases

chika98:
Marrying someone in Nigeria has it's gripes and all. It is all a personal choice. Not everyone wants to marry someone and bring them here
For one the issue of if they married the said girl/guy for real or just because they want to come over. These things aren't that black and white jare

Exactly at least you understand - it is a personal choice, and if someone choices other wise- It is not the end of the world,

Ok- let me shut all of you guys down quickly- Everyone has their preference in their mate, Some folks like their mates, skinny, fat, tall or short, I like my man to be LOCAL, what is the big dealSo no I am wrong for that, Cut it out!!!!

0hsisi:
I say no mind am
let her do yanga now
By the time she clocks 30 with no serious man in sight ,she'll change by force.
If you see how these American born Naija girls  and their parents rushed some single guys who came from Naija for  a kporakpo convention fear go catch you.
Men were seriously trying to introduce their daughters.

At no point in my life- will I  be in a position to send for a man in Nigeria, and  make him my husband-----I will bet my house on that! Ask me how I know?

0hsisi:
How condescending!
Is there some special advantage attached to you because you live in the US
Rubbish!

It has nothing to do with a special advantage-- do not try to make it into that---It has to do with the fact that you are quick to defend the comment that girls should be willing to import a man from Nigeria-and if they do not by 30 we will be willing to settle for any thing ( Mexican) Never in this life time , Now that is some rubbish!

0hsisi:
I was at a wedding recently
This man was seriously searching for single men for his daughter in med school.
Meanwhile the groom at this wedding was imported straight from Naija for this American born Naija girl

Congrats for them-sorry for the man searching for men for his daughter, but  I am not willing to  do it, nor will I ever been in that position to do so, and the world still moves in a circle,

davidylan:
I wonder.

Nothing to wonder about, it is what it is!! Seems like that part is whats bothering you guys!!

davidylan:
take your own advice then. see your response to ohsisi.

What stops your husband from moving from nigeria to live with you here? it happens all the time. What stops you from moving over to nigeria or perhaps europe to be with your husband? You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms? good luck searching.

What stops your husband from moving from nigeria to live with you here?
How is he to become my husband when i cant even get to know him because he lives thousands of miles away.  
Nothing stops that when the time comes, but I need to get to know the person I am dating before that happens, and telephone calls and once a 6 month visits just wont do for me!!!

 You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms?  I  think that is where you are mis informed- I do not need a man- as I do not think I have ever had a problem getting one of those, and since when cant you get a mate on your own terms??

davidylan:
many of them ask you straight up if you would be needing her to apply for a green card. I heard that a couple of times and i simply quit bothering with them.

1. It might have come out wrong but you cant deny its the prevailing thought pattern among Nigerian women with US passports.

2. What's wrong with "importing" a husband? I've seen it happen to no less than 3 of my family friends and they are having fabulous marriages. Actually my good friend was in Enugu working when he met and married his NY-based wife. They are happily married with 2 kids today.

I'm not sure you really are serious with your search. When you're serious, all these pseudo-conditions wont exist.

1. I am not sure what Nigerian women with Us passports do as I can only speak for myself-- I have never have had anyone date me for citizenship yet- and it hasnt even crossed my mind per say-- If i dated a guy who lived here but was not a US citizen is not a problem, I am just not going to go to Nigeria to look for a date- what about that is so hard to understand,

2.I am not interested in importing a husband, No need to explain anything there--- I am glad for your friends and congrats on their marriages, It is just not what I am in to, or going to do. I need time with my mate and I can not get that when we are thousands of miles apart.

I guess I am not that serious or desperate yet,

davidylan:
lol it might interest you to note that she's a US citizen. The way many of you think impulsively and without much rational is amazing.

Uhmm- It might interest you that I am also a Nigerian citizen- with a green passport, so you say all that to say what Dont judge when you do not even remotely know me, Talk what you know, What is unrational about someone who wants to live in the same country as their mate Just my personal preference!!

0hsisi:
Don't mind them
a lot of them are approaching early 30's with no prospects
By the time they wake up at 35,they will be looking for a Mexican and they won't find

I guess you live in Nigeria- as well, Your response is expected!

davidylan:
lol am i glad my gf doesnt think like you.

Hush, now, that might have came out wrong, but where do you live now  David I already know-- so no need to answer that!! Where did you meet your girlfriend??  Bottom line what I meant was that I am not going to import my mate from another country! Just because that is not your intentions- does not mean that is not another, I do not put my self in those type of positions, so it doesn't apply to me, If you arent living in the US- I am not going to start a real relationship with you. Completely Unrealistic!

Yes- simple is better! It is the little things that matter most

^^ so true, I would say that something funny is going, and perhaps she has lost interest! Sometimes people grow apart as they get older, and really figure out what they want!

^^ Sorry guy- I am no longer looking right now, but maybe someone else will see this!

You dated her since 2002 and still not married?? its 2010 - 8 yrs, There is the reason right there she is acting funny!

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