^^^

jay bee:

How dare I take a stab at Queen E
Where have u been all this while though?

Uhmmm, I have been working, working, and when I get tired been doing more work! This is the busiest time of year for me, you can always drop me a line on FB!

jay bee:

loool
Just pointing out that their is indeed two sides to a coin.
No right or wrong way

No i think you are just taking a stab at me, lol, but if you say so!

jay bee:

^^^^
How about the saying, If something is worth fighting for

I guess i gave up on that one~ Dont use my own words against me now!! , lol

I know this one very well!! There is a saying ,
"If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with,

OP Why such a rush to get married?? No time to date, so wait until you have the time and then start, Marriage is not something you want to go in blindly especially with such a rush for no apparent reason !

Which woman doesnt do this?

Mrs.Chima:

You need the mirror?

of course!! Make sure everything remains intact

Mrs.Chima:

The most standard one of them all should be SOMEONE THAT HAS A PULSE.

Lol

Stngy meaning?

I actually have before. Not a real pleasant experience fighting my man for the mirror!!

GOD, SEX, Finance and communication!

He made his bed now lie in it!!!

sexkillz:

^^^ He's already bought it twice and returned it! Seal was always broken in both instances!

Go buy a different brand then

[b]This is what a man wants in a lady, I would marry straight away any lady who meets my very short list of standards below ; (culled from http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_do_men_look_for_in_a_woman)

>Someone with similar interests so they have something in common.
>A woman who will make an effort to please him.
>A woman who makes an effort to look her best.
>An appreciation of the man's job.
>Passion
>A woman whose ego isn't bigger than her hairstyle.
>A partner for his life.
>A partner for his soul.
>Someone who is caring. All men want to be looked after.
>Someone who has faith in him.
>A woman who is strong yet sometimes submissive.
>A woman who is strong but does not have an attitude.
>Someone who is not too loud.
>Someone who won't nag him beyond reason.
>A woman who challenges him and is full of the unexpected.
>An interesting woman.
>An intelligent woman.
>A woman who is not dumb (mediocre intelligence is fine).
>A woman who is smart enough to grasp new concepts.
>Someone artistic or creative.
>A woman can take care of herself without feeling that she has to compromise herself in a relationship.
>Someone who suits their individual personality.
>Some guys like an aggressive woman.
>Some guys like silent and reserved type.
>Someone in-shape/athletic.
>Interdependence, so that you trust and need each other.
>A sense of humor.
>A woman with a nice laugh.
>A positive personality.
>Men want a woman who is comfortable with her own sexuality.
>Someone up for action, or willing to get a little kinky in the bedroom.
>A positive personality
>A talent and passion in something worthwhile.
>Men respect and want a woman who knows her own mind; women who are true to themselves.
>Someone relaxed and confident.
>A woman with a good soul.
>A woman who has a great smile and loves to laugh and be herself but can also be intelligent and serious.

On the other hand, I don't have a clue what the "Long list of standards" a lady looks out for are; obviously, if that of a man is this long, then that of a lady will be like a mile long then![/b]

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^^^ I already failed that long list you posted within the first 6 lines, lol[quote author=claremont link=topic=751677.msg9077024#msg9077024 date=1315152880]

Take the lineage of both and embrace both with open arms.

No, we dont, I was born in the USA and have kept my Naija name, Most people ask me why don't I have a English name, "my reply is always the same " For What Purpose"? My name has not held me back at any point in my career and I would say has actually been a help.

Go and buy it, it may have a return policy that way!

claremont:

The same way a lady has a "Long list of Standards", is the same way a tall, dark, handsome, "mesomorphic", career-focused man has a long list of standards as well.

So I guess the better question would be why are the ladies "standards considered unrealistic and the mens are not?

pendo89:

What is wrong with these dudes?

They want a sexy looking lady with hourglass shape,nice bosoms, great legs and all that.
So what is wrong with me asking for man with sexy seductive eyes,and voice  and yes MESOMORPHIC kind of body?  _{Not metamorphosis}
Is there any out there? Post your pics here first for verification.

All will remain  quiet I bet,

pendo89:

Top on my list. (physical attributes)


1. Tall,dark, smart/intelligent,sexy baritone voice,with a mesormophic kind of body.


Is that too much to ask for? . Men are also very choosy.

Maybe so, MOST "men" these days are not even ambitious enough to have careers ,  not to talk of tall/dark, intelligent etc,  It seems we are expected to  start at ground zero with our  standards and expectations, and accept that.   Yet most "men are not even willing to do the same  when It comes to women ( Yes I said it!!) Other wise we are cursed with being single old ladies forever,  or given "twenty years and begging for anyone"

sexkillz:

Where's the list?

Make up one, not with me in mind for this topic!! Just a general discussion

Stay out of my kitchen!!!!  Unless it is something he would insist on doing,   ( If so feel free) Heck the man  may even be a better cook than me !!,  As a man you should  definitely know how to take of your self in that aspect,   but I remain old fashion about my beliefs in this one. Leave my pots and pans alone, !! The Kitchen is for the Ladies

The most hated and debated is back,
So here is a topic that recently came out in a party i attended, which created a BIG debate, Many people tend to think women these days have long lists that describe what they're looking for in a man…but are their standards simply just too high and unrealistic? What do you think, ?

Princek12:

To all the women who seek responsible bachelors, check your attitude and be nice to a guy who approaches you. That guy may be the responsible bachelor you so desire. Stop making shakara to a guy in whom you are interested. It is so unnecessary.

190_@:

Moderators kindly take this topic to auto mobile section

No I am waiting for[i] Jaybee [/i]to roll out the red carpet before i voice my complaint!!

JAY BEE I HAVE A COMPLAINT,

Which height are we talking about , ??

Is corruption the New Traditional Value of Nigerians? Do you think that this article is true- 2 years later from the time it was written back in 2008 now today in 2011.

Personally I say that it is NOT true, but I am sure there will be those that will argue differently. Read along and give your opinion.


http://www.nigeriavillagesquare.com/j4/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=9318:making-corruption-nigerias-traditional-value-&catid=81:hakeem-babalola&Itemid=46

"Who or what is going to curb corruption in a nation where impairment of virtue and moral principles are genuinely considered traditional values? Who or what is going to hold or keep rottenness in the land within limits? Although this question has become a cliché, it is basically to hound all those who have declared war on corruption in the history of Nigeria.

Over the years, I have learnt that whenever some dudes proclaim war on corruption, they actually mean the exact opposite – peace on corruption. They would like to address the nation that corruption should not be regarded as a big deal in the land where everyone encourages it. But these dudes are probably afraid of the consequences of such frankness, hence the need to continue playing games. Corruption, it seems, is part of various turpitudes of modern society. Can it be curbed in Nigeria? No, it’s too late.

Before I go in perspective, I’d like to share a recent experience. I recently visited the Nigeria embassy in Hungary. A senior colleague and one time National Union of Journalists’ President had arranged a meeting between a senior diplomat and I. It was a meeting I appreciated for, ever since I was embarrassed in 2001 when another senior diplomat ran away from an interview he had already agreed, I decided not to “trouble” them again. But when this opportunity came from someone I respect, I took it. It thus helps.

There were many issues in my mind to discuss: immigration, proxy passport, invalid Nigerian document in Hungary, Nigeria’s properties and award of contracts etc. Although the senior diplomat I spoke with on that Wednesday April 23 seemed to be candid and appeared brilliant, I sensed a pattern of thinking peculiar to Nigerians, and unless we recognise, accept and be honest to ourselves, all efforts to tackle issues – especially bribery and corruption – will forever be in vain. The experience has provided a deep insight into how our public officials think. This is unfortunate but perhaps we are all victims – of a pattern.

According to my observation which could be faulty, corruption is not regarded as a crime per se in Nigeria – not anymore. Although Nigerians know that corruption is going from bad to worse, deep down only a few see it as a big deal. Those dudes may preach and preach against corruption, it is now obvious that they can’t live without it. The pressures from family, friends, or relatives are just damn too much. Even ordinary Nigerians are compelled to give or accept bribe in many circumstances beyond their control.

Those that meet with the public officials on a daily basis, if they want to be honest, know that corruption has become a game of survival among the so-called ruling class; even among the watchdog of the society.  When someone who calls himself the Fourth Estate results to sharing the national cake, then Nigerians are still pounding yam with a needle. Corruption has been elevated to a certain level where anyone who is not corrupt is seen as a fool. Parent who used to preach against corruption in those days is the first to advise their offspring to embrace it in Nigeria’s of today.

It’s now more than three decades that Murtala Ramat Muhammed, the one who succeeded Yakubu GOWON in 1975 in a bloodless coup, started it all. He told the nation that the era of corruption would be the thing of past. He and his khaki boys descended on civil servants and other public officials whom they say lacked honesty and oblivious to what is honourable. They were labelled fraudulent civil servants and they were severely dealt with. Nowadays you hear that a Alam has been arrested for corruption but alas, the next day he becomes the bride of those who had earlier declared him wanted

It’s apparent that Mr. Muhammed lost the war he waged against corrupt politicians, civil servants, directors, mangers, teachers, journalists, the police, market men and women. Since that time immemorial, each administration has used coup as a bastion against corruption. Virtually every succeeding usurper proclaimed corruption as the main reason it overthrew its predecessor. It has been like that since GOWON; Muhammed/Obasanjo; Obasanjo/Shagari; Buhari/Idiagbon; Babangida; Abacha; Abubakar; Obasanjo and up till today under Yar’Adua/Obasanjo. Fighting corruption has been like pounding yam with a needle.

Of course there are Nigerians who sincerely believe that corruption is moving the nation backward, but it’s somehow easy to sway them to the other side. That’s one of the ironies of the matter. There are just too many things that can kill the morale to shun corruption. In order to get things done quickly, many Nigerians are ready to bribe their way.  A Nigerian who for example needs an international passport urgently would definitely bribe her way irrespective of her stand on corruption. She may discuss its consequences from morning till night she just lacks physical and mental energy to shun it in reality. It is called Egunje in local parlance.

Telling Nigerians and their leaders to eschew bribery and corruption is telling them to forgo a traditional value. Believe it or not, Nigerians have a peculiar way of doing things. Perhaps we need to realise that bribery and corruption has become our traditional value hence we should legalise it. If we do, at least we won’t be spending billions on probe, or spending lavishly to wage war against it. Invariably our dealers would be able to concentrate and do their job efficiently instead of playing hide and seek with the law. For instance, if a senator goes hiding in order to avoid being prosecuted for corruption, we should accept it as our way of doing things. We should not call her a thief because she is not. Or is she?

Likewise if a plane went missing for months without any clue about its whereabouts, we should not panic, but consider it as one of those things in our dear land called Nigeria. Even if an ex-president refused or could not account for billions of naira during his tenure, we should see it as part of our traditional values. The same applies to a president who prefers travelling abroad for medical treatment to implementing a last solution that would prevent him from travelling to a far away place before he could get medical treatment. And if Aso Rock spends N2.3m naira per day for refreshement alone in a country where hospital is barely functioning, Nigerians should just hail the power that be.

As part of our traditional values, if an “honourable” helped siphon public money abroad, met a Nigerian ambassador with whom he colluded to defraud their government, we should not see their conduct as a crime rather we should treat them as honourables. We should celebrate their conduct as part of our values. A law banning the blocking of roads for any form of social commercial activities and is being disobeyed by the citizens should be seen as part of our celebrated culture. Nigerians should not compromise its traditional values, or let western approach to development enslave them. Even a government that is unable to enforce certain law is our unique way of approach to issues.

A president who is ready to spend billions of naira on international advertisement for the image repackage of her country but fails to provide basic amenities for the citizens should not be prosecuted, for she is following a traditional value unique to Nigerians. Even a celebrated ruffian, who decides to control the state funds from the corner of his bedroom should be accepted and hailed as a role model for upcoming politicians. What matters most is the fact that there’s a consistent pattern in our approach. We should celebrate our values with Alhaji Yar’Adua Obasanjo as he marks one year on the throne on May 29"

None of the above, He is the man of the household and should take that responsibility accordingly! How does she act is a better question?