₦airaland Forum

davidylan:
pele oh. Who are the guys you attract?

Dont worry, they will soon come. Ma binu.

Okay funny guy, I attract a variety of different men, but I have yet to find the one I would call a suitable long term mate, Whether they come or not, the question I posed in this thread still remains unanswered!

5p1naz:
ok now im lost. . . . i understandeth [size=14pt]n0t[/size] one bit of what that was suppose to mean. . . thou shouldest [size=14pt]forgive[/size] me for my lack of [size=14pt]simple English understanding[/size] but if thou wouldest break the sentence down in layman ENGLISH. . . i would gladly aprc8. . .  cos it [size=14pt]looks[/size] and [size=14pt]sounds[/size] like an insult to me even though u clearly said [size=14pt]"no disrespect intended"[/size]. . .

You can take it how ever, I said no disrespect intended as this a public forum, and this topic was not meant to insult any ONE, or my answers. This was just something that was on my head today. I don't know you, your age or your situation, but in my opinion a grown man still trying to find their way in life is NOT my definition of quality, and what I seek for my life or my future! Another woman might think differently, If you feel disrespected build a bridge get over it, and I apologize! NEXT

davidylan:
They've been snapped up by American women who know what they want and GO FOR IT not sit around playing hard to get.

That's rubbish, who plays hard to get?? I am not sure what the women you meet do, but not I! You might want to come with a better answer than that! I know what I want and have went for it both professionally and romantically so you say what now, ?

chika98:
You are limiting yourself. Date other African men and have fun. A good Nigerian brother like you say isn't gonna just come out of the blue
He will come round when you will be ready to know a good man when you see him. Have fun and live your life while you are at it.
I have met some non Nigerian men that are good.

I am trying to expand my mate search these
days, just not so easy!! But your advice is well taken!!!

You have a lot of valid points gawky and personally I have searched within myself.
Living in the USA a lot of my choices are limited when seeking a suitable
Nigerian man. Friends tell me I should start dating outside of my Nigeria brothern but at this
point I refuse to do that. I know what I want and what I want my future to involve. SO MAYBE THAT is where I fall short, if so then I guess that is where I am meant to be!!

Well first, dont be so easy to give your number out these days!! A lot of weirdos in the world-- secondly you may just have to get your number changed, but first just stop responding to his text messages, and phone calls. IGNORE HIM, and he will get the message

Slap him or her back and keep it moving, !! If they are man or women enough to slap you then they should be man or women enough to get slapped back!!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=494146.msg6542372#msg6542372 date=1281376823]omg, i know how you feel. luckily for me i have family in the UK, the Nigerian guys there seem to be better than the US ones.[/quote]Its a shame, have to catch a darn flight just to get a Good Naija man and import him in!!!

Brownteeth:
I think the good guys do not approach women as easily as the bad ones. So I think its time you ladies do your research, discover and approach any guy you think is a good guy, rather than sitting down and waiting for any guy from anywhere to pick you up.

Maybe true, but where do you find these men to approach??

5p1naz:
hehehe cosign u for real. . . we are tryna get money n0t w0men . . . lols. ,

Then I dont belive I would label you "quality" at this point in your life, and this topic doesnt apply to you. No disrespect intended!!

sakastic:
you babes are part of the major problem, when good guys approached you. all u look out for is if he has money and good job. forgetting that a guy that is focused is better than a guy that is not but a millionaire.
it is high time you babes knows what you want

If I have my own money and job-- now what? I don't necessarily need you to bring that to the table,because I bring that and more!!! but at least give us something to work with, Meet me half way for GODS sake . I am all about helping my man to build them selves up, as that is what folks do in a relationship but i can't do all the work !!!! Now a days you cant even get a half quality NIGERIAN guy that is unemployed and with no money who treats you right- so whats the excuse now At the end of the day- my question remains the same, Where are the quality Nigerian men from these days?

double08:
please can you expantiate on what you mean by QUALITY?

Well-- I am 28- am professionaly employed, live alone, am honest , hard working and not a cheat-------I want the same in my man, I fall short because I want that from a Nigerian man and not a Black American! So I remain single here!!

Move on, sympathy marriage, where do they do that at? Find the one that GOD has for you, the past is called the past for a reason, and is better left there!!

I would like to see answers to this questions. In my "OPINION"  honestly  I think that these days that a lot of Nigerian  men are intimidated by the educated Nigerian women a bit!! They would rather go for the less educated, dependable type, There for these days being educated does not ensure you a mate, in my case it hasn't yet!!

This is an easy one, RUN for the HILLS!!! She is merely a girlfriend and not even your wife, you by no means are obligated to her for any reason. She has already showed that is she is not trust worthy!!

Maybe it is just me, but on my side of the world( USA) it seems that these days there are a lack of single, quality, honest Nigerian men out there!! A lot of men will say the same for us women as well!!!  The problem seems to be that there is not a lack of quantity these days, but truly of quality.  Maybe I am looking in the wrong place, but my question is where are they hiding, or do they no longer exist!! Will one have to settle in 2010?  Lets get the dialogue started!