For once i started a business on my own. I haven't earned a penny from it but i am believing that one day i will get it right. This year hasn't been awesome but i am moving. Thank God.

descarado:

This is very effective for you really
I like it.
My friend will start clean up exercise. Any day u see her cleaning her house like her life depends on it, just stay clear, she may clean you too

Lol

ethicallyright:
"Toast to the ones here today

Toast to the ones that we lost on the way

'Cause the drinks bring back all the memories

And the memories bring back, memories bring back you

There's a time that I remember, when I did not know no pain

When I believed in forever, and everything would stay the same

Now my heart feel like December when somebody say your name

'Cause I can't reach out to call you, but I know I will one day"

This song gives me goosebumps. It makes me teary thinking of my beloved late dad and every loved one i have lost.

Easylion3569:
Please can someone put himself in my condition and tell me what to do?

You have two options, keep the baby or abort it.
If you choose option 1, then get your parents involved. Some people had babies while in school with the help of their family but it will not be easy i tell you.
If you choose option two your conscience might not carry it and God help you if something goes wrong.
Either way just know that you have not committed the worst sin on earth.
Take a look at people like yul edochie that their babies at a very young age and draw strength from there.
Do whatever is best for the both of you.

God bless your God heart

Maobichek:


No definite plans of coming home this Xmas but if this airport is open for business, I will fly home by the grace of God.

That will be good

Anambra obodo dike

May the best man win. Anambra obodo dike.

Grandmeister:

Nope! Sex is overrated and women know it...he has more money than the Op. Even though that doesn't mean he will be willing to give the girl as much as the Op would.

True words

Grandmeister:

It is not his dick game. You know it and I know it...

Lol...well you may be correct

Grandmeister:

The story is true and I don't even know the Op. She went back because the abusive ex has more money to flaunt. They will lower their standards and all that "God fearing caring man" bullshyt when a man with deeper pockets shows up. And then turn around and call men scum and Cheats.

This is not money, this is the effect of a curved dick.

The guy's dick game must be applauded.

If you like quit but before then, you get five thousand naira wey you no dey use?

My aunty once told me a story about a girl that was raped while they were on their back to their various homes after a block rosary convention.
The moment the rapist pounced on the unlucky girl they rest of them ran farther to a safe distance and from there, they could hear the girl shouting "ozugo". Ever since then the word "ozugo" became traumatizing to the girl. Once she quarrels with her mate all they need say is " ozugo" and she will be silenced.
While i was in the university, i had a course mate that i wouldn't want to be friends with because of how he looked down on me but we had a mutual friend and so we get to talk once in a while because of this mutual friend. Anytime we have an encounter i always ask myself why this guy was so condescending towards me. Later i found out through my sister that he stopped greeting my sisters friend simply because the girl changed from faculty of law to a different faculty.
One thing was clear he hates to associate with the poor. His condecending attitude towards me continued until he met my parents, his attitude towards i and my sister changed completely. I wondered what changed until this mutual friend told me that his family were very very poor and so he hates to associate with the poor. Apparently he thought i was poor because of my descent and moderate looks, whereas i am from an average home. Now that is truama.
Trauma can be as a result of past ugly experience like in the case of the girl that was raped or a hidden psychological fear that might make us act in a certain way like my friend in school.
What do you think?

Congrats learned colleague

babapressy:
If you don't want them to flog your child, simply build your own school and be your children's teacher. During our days they flog us wellaa, even if you report to your father you make the matter worse, yet we grew up responsibly and sound academically.

Sometimes these teachers end up damaging the students emotionally. A teacher in my primary school days treated me so badly. She lied to my classmates that my parents were police men and they threatened her simply because she beat my brother but that is a blatant lie.
When my brother was in this teachers class she beat him on the head and injured my parents merely went there to find out why she did that and in a very calm manner. This woman could not give an answer for what she did to my elder brother. What parent wouldnt flare up but my parents never threatened her with the police. I feared school while i was in primary 5.

Congratulations. Lord may i have triplets at once when it is time.
Please if you have been trying for a baby for a long time there are options like ivf do not be deceived it works.

Keals:

I can relate.
They're mentally and emotionally barren.

Deal with every one as they come i.e do not generalize every child raised by a single parent. Some were trained well. And please na two parents train me o.

What were you doing with a Bleep boy? Nobody holy pass but please look face before you bleep. If he has no name to protect do not bleep.

African names
As far back as my young mind could remember, i had a problem with my surname been called in class and so what do i do? Once my teacher is taking attendance, the moment she mentions my first name, i do not wait for her to call my surname name before i answer. Most times i answer before the completion of my surname. At that age i and my classmates didn’t care about the meaning. All we cared about was the sound and uniqueness of it . My classmates would mock me because of my surname. My surname means “peacemaker”, i learnt this while i was in the university but as a kid, my classmates and i took the name at a face value which literally means “house keeper or repairer". And so i was taunted as a kid by my classmates. They will always taunt me to come repair whatever thing that was broken be it chairs, pen, pencil etc. Apparently, i wasn’t the only one facing that challenge as my older siblings complained too.
At the university i had come to understand the meaning of my name and people at the university also appreciated the name better, i guess we became more mature . It surprised me to find out that my roommate at the university who was by the way three years older than me was suffering what i had suffered back then. Her surname was exactly the kind of name we loved back then in school. It was short and sounded very westernized ( Chinese) it was a three letter word.
Where her problem lies? It has no meaning. According to her, processing her registration was quite hard because every admin office she entered would always ask her to say her surname in full because is way too short and meaningless. Whenever she tells them that that is her surname in full they were always inquisitive asking for the meaning which her answers were always “i do not know". She appreciated my surname so much and so many other people at school did and that is because of the meaning.
There was a period finances was a huge problem at home. Dad had lost his source of livelihood and his health had gone bad. Mom was the only one catering for eight kids who were all in school. We had just moved from grace to grass. We could not afford the rent of the beautiful duplex we lived in which was situated in a government residential area. It was a place meant for the rich. Mom had to look for another house in a different area. While on the search for a flat, she came across a street. The name of the street captivated her... “ ifezuoke " which means “everything will be complete". Once she saw this name she said everything will be complete for her once she got an apartment in this street and so she channelled her mind on getting a house at “ifezuoke" she didn’t want a house from any other street but there.
She found a house a there but it was not a fanciful house, nevertheless we parked in.
I am African, a Nigerian and Igbo by tribe and i can categorically say that names mean a whole lot to us. There is always a story behind our names except for a few cases.
At the time when my father was born, there was high rate of child mortality. My grandmother named my uncle “Ozoemenna” which literally means may another death not occur. This name “Ozoemenna “ tells a story and this story is that a kid or in some cases, kids had died in that family at infancy. As a matter of fact, my grandmother lost three kids before the birth of my uncle.
My village is quite a rural place and so couples are still struggling with family planning. In some cases the withdrawal method which they are used to fails them and a baby comes into the picture. It is cases like that that gave birth to the name “Atuanya" Atuanya means that the baby was not planned for or in English parlance the parents thought they already “hanged their boot". “Asingibia” is another name given to kids that defiled family planning and it means “did i ask you to come”
During my first year at the university i came in contact with a girl by the name “Nwabundom” it is a name that tells of pain. It meant that the girl is her parents shade/shield . It was my first time of hearing that name and knowing what i know about names, i was heartbroken i knew deep down that the parents must have gone through a lot for them to call her their shade. A mutual friend told me that Nwabundom’s parents stayed for years through mockery and pain to have Nwabundom and she was her parents only child. An only child in a Nigerian society is considered a diamond.
Azikiwe is a name that is quite popular in Africa majorly because of Nnamdi Azikiwe who was a pro activist for the political movement in Africa. Azikiwe was quite popular yet i did not know the meaning up until October 2020 when the Nigerian youths stood up to bad governance in a manner that had never existed. They were adamant and unflinching to the many threats of the Nigerian government. It was at this show of bravery that a man exclaimed, “Azikiwe”
In that moment i had an epiphany. “Azi” means youth, that i have always known but that day i realized that Azikiwe literally means that youths are full of vigour.
I know of two friends whose names were changed to different names after they got involved in an accident that would have claimed the lives of many but in their case they very much survived it with scars that tell their stories. One was named “Chizobam" a feminine name which means “God protect me” the other was named “Chimdindu" which means “ i serve a living God”.
We African’s...Nigerian's more especially the igbo’s and yoruba speaking tribe are known to give names that have a story behind it. Though i am not so conversant with the yourba tribe but i know of a yoruba friend by the name “ Itunuoluwa" which means “ God's consolation or comfort”. According to her, her father considered her his consolation after his wife itunu's mother died at child birth .
I also know of a yoruba friend who bears the name “Abidemi" Abidemi simply means a girl child who was birthed in her fathers absence.
So i implore you today, if you have a African friend, a Nigerian friend more especially the tribes i mentioned you can always ask the meaning of their names as their might be a story behind it. Sometimes this story talks about the root of their very core existence. Like the name “Mkpuechina” which is by the way not a common name. Mkpuechina tells the story of lineage that was almost wiped out from the surface of the earth due to the death of the only surviving son or husband or a family that longed for a male child and eventually had one as the case maybe. In Igbo tradition men are considered as continuity and so once there is no surving male child in a family, the lineage will be at the verge of non existence once the daughters of the family leave for their husbands houses and so in some cases, a daughter of the family might be begged by the family to stay behind to procreate for the family “ ka mkpu ha yara ichi" or sometimes a lady is married into the family just so that she could birth sons so that the family will not go extinct. However this practice of “Mkpuechina” is beginning to wane out in the igbo society.
Also there are common names that have meanings but do not tell a story. Ok bye.

Omg...this had better not be true

olufunmi01:
More than beg I sent more than 10 people. Just because I complained that she ignores me and doesn't have my time. She just took it from there. Just recovering from the trauma. Don't think I can ever love again.

May love find you again.

skedy1:
Me wey don kneel down like fool

Lol

Women should be given the right to do what they wish with their body. The number of ladies that have lost their fertility due to illegal abortion might be on the high side, this problem can only be curtailed if abortion is legalized.

People still envy him even in his loss. People like me�

Run for your life. She sleeps around and without protection too. I seriously pity her husband. May we not marry community properties in jesus name.

Honestly you sound like a woman. Why are you ranting? Have you ever trained any lady in skill acquisitions or school? I doubt that but you will come online to talk about what you know nothing about. For your information, women work very hard this days. It your duty to provide as a man and if you cannot do that, please do the women folk a favour and remain single! Women in men's clothing.

larryjonze:





Yiimu ... if you tap anything naa palmi, there are rules n conventions, are you ready to embrace her mentality.

Yiimu unto you too

My marriage is blessed already. That is how how you people will make a woman tango alone. I have a good mentality and believe the good lord will send someone that is equally good so that our marriage will work.

May i reach this milestone someday. I tap into your blessings .

BrainSanitizer:


I thought blackmailers keep secrets and collect money from their victims?
How does revealing what is troubling her mind translate to blackmail please?
I'll only reason the blackmail angle if she comes out again to say that she said those things under the influence of alcohol or something like "someone paid me to tarnish Suleiman's image".

If you say so

May we never experience war even in our homes. Amen.

Lovenorth:

Did the pastor also repent? This is the man that will be telling you that God spoke to him this and that, this is the man that is giving spiritual healing didn't he? How can God talk to a man with tainted and questionable behaviors?

My dear, no matter how you see it, calling out this man is totally wrong. This is blackmail.