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9gerian:
Correct.

It is marriage between 2 growing adults usually, and not occasion for poverty alleviation for the families and neighbors.

Simple

skentelelady:
God bless you. This case needs strict steps. Please dont let church intervene in this matter ooo
That woman cannpreted and do worse later

Which church... I will look my pastor straight in the eyes and tell him its too late for negotiations... I can't trust my wife to treat that girl nicely any longer... Am taking my kid(s) she should carry her own.. when she needs money for those ones she should let me know... When Dem grow make them come find me, and if they're stupid enough to believe whatever lies and deceit their plants in their heads against me, then that's their problem[b]!!!!!! [/b]

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Gooooddd!!!!!..
When I was reading this story, I was getting very mad!!!. Waiting to see your decision at the very end..if to say you talk kpem!!! Contrary to what I would have done... Infact you no go like wetin I for tell you..
My brother listen... You made a promise to a DYING WIFE infront of God and man... It was recorded in heaven.. now a woman, a human being created by God just like you wants you to miss heaven all because she wants you to Bend to her wants...
What you said is the BEST AND ONLY decision... As far as this matter is concerned... If it was me, even if she had given birth to 5 kids and was maltreating that single one... I go PACK comot that house with only that girl and leave the house for her... Walai!!!... She go know say craze pass mental... And I will NEVER come back to that house, no matter what till that girl don safely marry. Cos if u come back after much begging from family members, your useless wife will codedly continue the maltreatment.
I hope you're already looking for a place for your wife and the other kids... No gree o... She must go... Imagine her having the audacity to go tell the poor girl... Just imagine!!! Kai... You even come dey beg am.. if I was your friend I go go your house and BLAST THE HELL out of that stupid woman... And I hope you treated the fuckup of your foolish aunty... That is an animal that you need to stay very far away from..
That wife of yours can kill you... Carry that girl and run or you send your wife packing... If na me marriage don end be that... I no go gree o.. lailai!!!
Please update us

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Interesting15:
We all must make decisions everyday. However, there are certain decisions that are greater than several other decisions we make. These are decisions that changes our lives forever.

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My relationship with Jesus set me on the pathway of destiny and purpose fulfilment early enough. Hence, I don't experience idleness, hopelessness, and helplessness. I've never been stranded in my life.

Jesus is sweet.

The greatest decision you can make today is to embrace Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and start nurturing an intimate relationship with God your Father. This is what will empower you to live a life of complete dominion here on earth, and make you a sure candidate of Heaven (the rapture will take place anytime soon).

Run away from sin, and live your life for GOD. It is your destiny to live inside GOD through Jesus Christ Who is the Way, the Truth and the Life. Only Jesus Christ could boldly proclaim: "I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." (John 14:6).

If you want to submit to Jesus, simply say this prayer:

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Jesus loves you too. Amen

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Best decision EVER!!!!!!!!

nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.

The poster below you has said it all... Anyway, there is nothing you or anyone can do about it.. divorce is NOT AN OPTION as long as she doesn't go against the God give marriage rules and regulations.. all you can do now is to pray for her to change... Don't go to hell fire because of this... Boil hot water and pour on your hand.. that pain in hell is a 100 times more than hot water... Don't allow desperation and stupidity to overrule your sense of reason.. God no go follow you look am from your angle o

xana101:
Call

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pstemma1990:
Thanks sir, I appreciate... But is there any need of posting his phone number here?

There's no need as we don't know him.. just forget about him... He'll meet his Waterloo in this life someday, one way or the other.. karma works, I can CONFIDENTLY tell you that

pstemma1990:
Good evening everyone, how are we all doing?, I've been a member of this forum for sometime now..

I'll just go straight to the point..

6 weeks ago a neighbor of mine, I've known him for like 1 year now, he usually supply charcoal, but for some period he stopped.. When I asked him, he said he invested part of his capital in another business, and lost everything..

So he was looking for new capital to start afresh... I wasn't having much on me, so I spoke to a friend of mine about it, he agreed to loan me the money, because he doesn't know this charcoal guy, but the loan comes with interest..

Me and this my neighbor spoke at length, we agreed that we'll be balancing account every week, brothers and sisters, from that day that I sent money to this guy, he disappeared, I didn't set my eyes on him again..

I sent him plenty messages on whatsaap, he later replied that there was no network where he was, that I should expect my balance the following day..

He went off again for like 4 days (u can't call him and get him, but he usually drop messages on whatsaap and u won't reach him again)

After 4 days, he messaged me again that I should not be offended, that his phone got damaged where he was buying the charcoal, so it took him some days to fix it... And he then promised that I'll hear from him the following day...

His phone went off again, I got angry, went on Facebook and posted that he's a scammer, and was on the run with my money, not up to 20 minutes, someone chatted me up, that I should pls delete the post, that he knows the guy very well, that he's going to find out what went wrong...

I deleted the post, the following day the guy finally called me thst he was attacked, that he was still at the hospital, that I should give him a week, I gave him, finally he messaged me that he'll be coming back on Friday last week, and on Saturday he told me that he was back, that I should pls resend my account number, I did, from that last week till now his number has been off..

I have also been calling the guy that called to plead on his behalf, he's number is ringing, but he's not picking, I sent messages, he's not replying, today makes it 5 weeks...

I have all the evidences, I gave him 200k cash, and transferred 200k to his company account, all together 400k, I've been paying the interest since then...

I have all our chats both on whatsaap and on Facebook... Even the receipt of the 200k that I sent, I also have his pictures and phone numbers..

Pls is there anything anyone can do for me, I'm dying slowly... (pls don't mind the long post and errors)

I'll be at the comment section to answer questions..

I'm sorry for your loss but the truth is you've been scammed... It's best you start looking for ways to pay back the owner of those funds... Just count your loss and move on.. don't even think about the police cos police na public market... The way Dem go take bill you.. you go fear.. just explain to the gentleman who owns the funds and agree with him how you'll pay back.. suffice to say no more Mr nice guy... Sorry bro

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FeliciaOja:
I use all the vex inside me and push the door open.
My room was smelling strong disgusting smell of Indian hemp. I saw this yeye boy snoring with music playing on speaker
I flog him belt as he was sleeping and we argued as I scolded him.
This morning he refuse to talk to me and even reject the fried egg I made

so I've started thinking of sending him out of my house. The trauma I experience last night still vexing me.
Should I punish him by not giving him money for 1 week
or
Should I purse him from my house?

He locked you out of your house for hours.
He smoked Indian hemp inside your house.
He had the guts to argue with you
And you still get and cook for am the next day?
Are you kidding me this guy?
A boy whose supposed to be at the village by the time you posted this here...
Please how can I un read what I just read

Mide70:
Please I need your opinion on this issue.

Though before I got married I discovered my mother inlaw calls all her daughters both married and unmarried everyday (only 3 ladies no boys) and they fear her to the bone.

At times every morning and night just to talk to them but I believe when they get married they need privacy and respect but this is not the case for my mother-in-law and I detest such act.

Mind you I'm not against call or trying to break the bond but I believe this is marriage. I'm looking for a way to stop all that

I'm I wrong or right to take that step ?

You better nip that stupid thought in the bud..what's wrong with her calling her daughter everyday..e dey scatter your marriage ni...she no come stay your house, she's just calling..what's wrong with that. My first child is a girl and she's in the university, I love my mother like crazy.... Same thing with my brother ex's mum..that woman will still silently pained till date that I and her hee daughter didn't end up and as husband and wife... These are good women...so if they're calling their daughters everyday why should I intervene and say No. When your marriage is having serious problems who u go run to first..oh I see your own mum abi? Kwantinu

CrisNews:
I Hate Marriage, Says Woman Who Killed 2nd Husband With Poison In Borno

https://pejoweb.com/articles.php?epr=view&pagename=1667137614Crisben.html

Who the hell is even sleeping with this ugly witch

Ahmed0336:
Give it time, let things sort themselves.

Simple

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Are u selling it?

Odewaleadesoye:
VANGUARD

You beta go back before Dem kidnap you for road

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Djbond:
I'll summarize this as possible.

No one is perfect, yes I hit her cuz I was suspicious of her cheating. I bought her an Android phone and she started chatting with guys on FB and WhatsApp, talking about location on how to meet. I'm not always around though, I come home once in 2 days and I provide everything enough for she and our 3 daughters need to sustain on a daily. She doesn't work, our first daughter is 4, and our twins girls are 2 years old. So I believe she doesn't need to stress herself but just to take care of the kids.

Fast forward, she left a day after I beat her (I know it's not right but I couldn't hold the anger anymore) and i already apologized afterwards not knowing she had in mind to leave. I came home and couldn't find her and the kids, I called and started begging, my landlady, my friends, all our neighbors in the street called and begged her, she just kept lying that she will come back today, come back tomorrow but we never see her. I cried and cried, almost killed myself, didn't eat for days, just drinking and smoking, got admitted to the hospital, my neighbor called my wife that I'm in the hospital, she didn't care, never came to check on me.

I called her few days after I got discharged that I miss her and asked her why she didn't come to check on me at the hospital. She only gave an excuse that she has started some pos work in their street. She lives in her father's house now with her stepmom. Her junior brothers are the ones taking care of the children. Her junior sister told me all the dirty things she has been doing since she has got back to their house, like going to sleep in a guy's house overnight when her dad is on night shift. I called her dad to explain, but didn't give me the chance to explain. I called her last week Saturday to come see me, and i collected the phone she's using to do runs up and down from her. Now she uses her sister's phone to do those things now.

She called me with her sister's phone on Monday that i should move on when she discovered that I already know all the things she's doing. I have a problem moving on, I always think about her and my children.
I don't have appetite to eat even as I type this, I'm drinking royal circle. I hope this won't lead to my demise as I'm killing myself slowly. I love her. Why are women like this?

Pls nairalanders don't judge me or abuse me for hitting her. No one is perfect and there's no man that will take it if he sees his woman with another man

NB: I regretted hitting her and already apologiized and prayed to God for forgiveness

Why the hell do I keep reading all these nonsense on nairaland..first it was the Ibo boy( before even reading through I knew he was an ibo boy) that allowed his wife to bring into their one room apartment her town sister with 4 kids or so..imagine a room and parlor.. and he said ea confused and doesn't know what to do...confused about what...your wife didn't Inform you about anything and you suddenly came home one night and met your sister in-law with her 4 kids with plenty load and you're saying you're confused..
As if that was not enough...see what this cow is typing here.. you married a LovePeddler and nearly committed suicide just because God almighty spared your sorry idiotic stupid ass from death...and you still can't let go? Even after she told you clearly to move on after she found out you knew all her philanderings? Are u kidding right now? If you were beside me this night brother...the way I for beat you senseless, you go hate me...fool

angelfallz:
Alcohol is not bad. It is pastors that demonise alcohol. Jesus himself drank alcohol.

Really please show me what part of the Bible..

Coolguy34:
bros calm down, no be me e happen to.
I saw the news on gistlover

Yes I was actually replying the young man that sent it...it's a shame he's not on nairaland..he for hear word

Thank you for sharing

Coolguy34:
A heartbroken man discovered his wife has been cheating on him through her WhatsApp messages.

What advice do you have for him?

The time you spent in written this piece and wailing woefully, would have been enough time for you to either pack out if he house ot pack her out..don't waste your time, the marriage is dead. Count your loss and move on... It's better you found out this early,if you venture going back to her..it's either she will kill you or you will kill her out of jealousy..why? Simple... The trust is gone..you can't trust her again, so why will you go on something that's dead.. God is not holding you responsible for anything for now..if you go ahead and you so much as make her unhappy to the extent of frustrating her life and destiny...Hell fire is sure for you.. again LET HER GO AND LEAVE HER FATE TO GOD, vengeance is Not yours my brother.. that girl is not your wife...your wife is still out there waiting patiently for you