₦airaland Forum

coollabman:
More than 30,000 broken and failed marriages were recorded in Badagry area of Lagos State between January and September 2016, an NGO, Family Reloaded Organisation, said on Wednesday.

The organisation’s Coordinator, Mrs Sesi Sebinun, told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Badagry, Lagos, that the major cause of broken homes in the area was negligence of duties from both parties.

“There are so many broken homes in Badagry and the number is going to increase if urgent steps are not taken to address the situation.
“The husband fails to see that he is the man of the house while the wife isn’t submissive and these cause friction in the house.
“The children suffer this because of the psychological effect on them, so, both parties must learn that building a home takes team work by both parties,’’ she said.

She noted that violence in marriages was due to impatience from the two parties.
“Impatience and lack of understanding between both parties are the major causes of violence in marriages because they do not have the will to tolerate each other.
“We must learn each other’s flaws and tolerate them instead of getting angry at little things,’’ she said.

She advised people to make use of social welfare services to address issues in their marriages. “Many people are not aware that there are organisations that provide services to people whose marriages are in trouble.
“You don’t have to wait till when things are damaged beyond repair before seeking help from social welfare service and customary courts to rectify things,’’ she noted.
She advised couples to pray regularly for their marriages.

http://m.guardian.ng/news/lagos-community-records-30000-failed-marriages-in-9-months/

JESU! The purpose of marraige is being eroded. failed marraiges produce unbalanced children and unbalanced children add to the failure of grown adults in the society. this indeed calls for an emergency. it is clear that 'love', attraction, romance, money, connections, cars, house, influence, beauty, sexology, cohabitaion, height, complexion, etc counts for absolutely nothing. A sense of deep committment and understanding seems to be the only thing that matters at the end of the day. intending couples, please watch and pray well o!

damosky12:
Your parlance really shows you have a personal relationship with God.. What exactly is your point? Is it that your "personal relationship" with God does nothing than criticisms of men of God without a focus on how to develop your life. Personal relationship indeed. Go get a life. God help you.

so thats the only thing you saw on the post. quite myopic of you. you failed to address the issue of their closeness. no man of God invites strangers on their pulpit. so its logical to say they are of same plumage, wether false or not. is it not masturbation that one of them encourage? since you rose to their defence masturbating (albeit figuratively), as a true zombie disciple that you are.

ceeethru:
I think is surprising to see people here celebrating impunity of the highest order in a supposed democratic regime, there's no doubt that Nigerian judges are very corrupt, but can the president be bold enough to arrest the judges that has spoken in his favour? This is purely an act to intimidate other judges to work on his favour, even the roothless military junta of Sani Abacha and IBB never acted like this; but today the claimed educated in Nigeria are celebrating every nasty moves made by this stark illiterate, that is to show the level of education they operated in Nigeria, this nonsense can't even happen in Zimbabwe or Somalia.

look, no one is celebrating the northern bigot. when your child struggles to stand, what do you do? you clap. is it because his steps are perfect? no. you clap because u see a desire to do things that could not be done before. we see people returning monies voluntarily for the first time in our history in this administration. lets clap and criticize where snd when necessary and stop being hypocritical.

bayelsaowei:


Apc wants the core Niger delta states...

have you been drinking ogogoro from the same pot with the ineffectual buffon?

damosky12:
It is only a fool that arrives at a conclusion without pellucid reasons to do so, thereby limiting the possibility of his salvation. Just thinking.

Hey don't masturbate on this thread because of what i said. do pastors invite strangers to preach in their churches? or your conscience has already judged their characters? go get a personal relationship with God and stop this religious zombeeism.

PapaBaby:
Meanwhile Justice Okon Abang is relaxing and watching the drama on TV.
As an APC judge you're immune from prosecution.

kikikikikikikikikikikikiki

SIGE:
Will be in Christ Embassy first this october before Coza november....

BIRDS SAME FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER...just saying.

ZanyABC:
NOW THAT THE CONTROVERSY REGARDING THE RECENT 'CRACKDOWN' ON JUDGES IS OVER: WHAT NEXT?
If you have money, you can really take advantage of government in this country. There is too much noise; too much sentiments and little 'intelligent conversation'. At the end of day, everything is swept under the carpet.
Notwithstanding where each of us stood regarding the last saturday's crackdown on judges, I am sure EVERY Nigerian now worries about how to get the judges convicted, if truly they are gulty.
NOW imagine what people are talking about! Let's even assume that the arrest of the judges meets the standard of law, are we going to get them convicted with all these conversation people are having?
What conversations am I talking about? DSS has been releasing 'evidence' against the judges and here are some of them: a list of 'monies' recovered from judges' bedrooms; the fact that a Rolls Royce was found in a judge's compound, the fact that a judge has 15 cars, the fact that a judge has several properties...etc
You call these ones evidence of corruption? DSS must be joking.
In which part of the law is keeping money at home a crime? Even if you keep N200 billion in your house, that in itself is not corruption. It does not take a brilliant lawyer few days to come up with some explanations for you.
In which section of the law is owing a Rolls Royce a crime? There are a thousand and one legitinate ways to own a Rolls Royce. Could be a birthday gift from your daughter's man. Could be proceeds of business. If DSS finds 1000 Rolls Royce in a person's house, that is not proof of corruption. Even if you own all the houses in Nigeria, that is not a crime. We should stop asking people to come and explain how they got XYZ amount of money! That is the easiest way to lose a corruption case.
If this is what you guys did forJames Ibori, Stella Odua, Joshua Dariye, and others, I am not surprised these guys were not convicted. Little wonder all corruption cases don't end up in conviction. If anyone goes to court with peripheral information such as these, no judge will grant a conviction.
The proceed of corruption can be used to buy a bicycle or nothing; and that does change the fact that it is corruption. The proceeds of corruption may have been spent patapata. Meaning even if DSS found no money in the judge's houses, that does not affect a case of corruption in any significant way.
The real evidence we need are evidence of people who paid brides to the judge; the evidence of a go-between; Audio and video record of the process from negotiations to dropping of the cash to the judge. Fundamentally inciminating evidence from the judge call logs to go-betweens, and several other evidence. So far I am yet to see 5% of the evidence needed to establish corruption.
Let's stop talking about Rolls Royce or foreign currencies. That is not how to prove corruption. These are evidence that gives DSS a reasonable suspicion to effect arrest and carry out investigation; that is not the evidence to prove corruption.
I hope this will help our excitement. We always get too excited about weightless information like this. What has happened to Stella Odua, Fayose, Allynson Madueke and many others with all the figures that were put in the media. Gbenga Daniel nko? How about Dimeji Bankole? Assuming Jonathan spared them, why hasn't Buhari convicted any of them?
When the Federal Government sued Saraki and Ekweremadu for forgery, I remember stating it on this platform on my Wall that the evidence are not sufficient. Now the case has been withdrawn. A person can benefit from forgery without being guilty of it.
Guys we are too learned to allow security agencies to confuse us. Let DSS produce the real evidence.
NOW IS MY POSITION:
Let's ask DSS for the real evidence. Even if they are not producing it to the press, let them demonstrate that they have it.
- A judge travelled to Ghana or Niger to collect bribe!
-Who told them?
-Any video or audio to that effect?
-Whose bribe did the judge go there to collect?
-Any statement by the person who gave him the bribe?
-How must is the bribe collected?
-For what purpose was it collected?
-Is it about a case?
-Who are the parties to the case?
-Have you interviewed them?
By asking these questions instead of getting so excited about the foreign corrency especially and the Rolls Royce, we will help DSS a great deal.
2. Secondly let's advise DSS to go back to NJC. They should present their allegations to NJC. It is better if the affected judges are suspended or removed while they are facing prosecution. Otherwise a Supreme Court judge will leave the dock in the morning and sit to hear a case in the afternoon. That is not too good. That is why it is always better to have a judge face disciplinary action even if it is suspension before their prosecution.
I hope this changes our conversation a little

intellectual but sentimental rubbish by typically bribed lawyers! first the questions u wanted to ask will be asked by their lawyers in a proper courtroom, not in a nairaland courtroom. you are d ones that will call it media trials.secondly, a corruption case canbe established without a sting operation. were the assets declared in their asset declaration forms? can their income support it? if they gifts, can it be established that they were inducements?forexample, if d DSScan prove d monies were transfered to themfromgov. wike's accounts who happened to have hada case before some of the judges? if they were clean gifts from friends and relations or from profit from businesses, then you must provite financial documents and tax clearances. so you see, acase can beestablishedand won without actually planting bribes. rather than condemn their lawful actions, we should rather follow the cases and make them pursue it ti a logical conclusion. people were demonstrating at d EFCC's office that mrs jonathan should be prosecuted.thats the way to go.why? before the ellites settle it and obtain backdoor judgements. the masses become the loosers and victimswhen they sweep it under d carpet. now judicial commission has written the president and the arrested judges issue is not among what do you think is happening? they are negotiating a soft landing for themselves and others who the DSS will come for. we are the ones that must not keep fighting ourselves by condemning every effort of any govt. and be torn along ethnic,religousand party lines. APC and PDP are dsame. we are d ones that must seize the opportunity to bring the change that we want, which may not be the type of change that they campaigned about. by the way; no judge standing trial has the moral capacity to sit over any case. so it is automatic suspension.

CHAI! LOOK AT HYPOCRITES BELIEVING SAHARA REPORTERS WHEN IT SUITES THEIR BIAS! EVEN WHEN THERE ARE NO OFFICIAL STATEMENTS YET.

SamJed:
Nothing we no go hear...from millions of naira and thousands of dollars to unlicensed pump action...and the annoying thing is that after some months everything will just die down...and we start all over again...but then i wonder which high ranking personnel or politician in this country doesnt have an arm in his house...licensed or unlicensed...even the dss boss has them enough...this country is just full of hypocrites blaming other hypocrites

So whats your suggestion?:we descend to anarchy? you and many others are d reason the case dies because u label them as witchhunting and when they are released, u say its victory for democracy! many nigerians' mentality has been messed up during these 56years!

Vikkie14:
This is how Boko Haram started then. Use of force, then protest, then killing, then ARMED uprising.
Now, consider the same pattern in this Shia/shiite saga. These people will SURELY become the next Terrorist group in Nigeria.... Iran will sponsor these people to destabilized Nigeria.

THEN THEY SHALL BE WASTED LIKE THEIR BOKOHARAM BROTHERS!

ejilife:
you mean at your age you still fail for the fails and media trial by the DSS?

you call it media trials? was it not governor wike that ran to the press and publicized the videos? or was it the DSS that decided to film the private residents of the judges during the raid?
the NBA issued press statements before the DSSofficially made theirs to clear the media trial already ongoing? can't you see that we are d one's sensationalizing things here or are u telling me it is d DSS that owns nairaland, facebook and twitter now? have u taken time to gothrough theCJA 2015 where any one with a warrant can lawfully breakdown the door of private residents at any time of the day? don't let us join issues. i believe the purpose of education is to train the mind to be factual not sentimental.

bentlywills:
Sahara Reporters and there crazy kinda news'


Which judge will reject 5billion naira

Never believe anything u read on 9jaria dailies

ahaa! your likes rush and commend SR when the news favour their bias. biased nairalander-wailer spotted!

[quote author=papparatzzi2013 post=50117528]SERAP too don see light. I thought they were forming Jet Li like the Nigeria Bribery Association before.

We are still waiting for the much talked about response from NBA. They were threatening fire and brimstone over the weekend as if they cannot wait for Monday to come and here we on Tuesday, with nothing to show from our association of Corrupt Judges errand boys.

PMB when you are through with the Judiciary please beam th next search light on our tertiary institutions. That is another place demons have made home for corruption extortion, victimisation and lack of professionalism.[/
quote]
very intelligent talk. not like some who just rush into thread to spew trash.

saintkel:
Anyone who sides with d DSS is totally a tyrant n does not understand how fighting corruption should be done

how should it be done, mr right?
after writing SJC severally about the judges without success, obtaining search warrant and arrest which gives provision to breakdown doors at any time of the day where necessary, monies found counted and signed to by both parties, arrested persons were duely araigned and given bail lawfully because they must not be dtained beyond 48hrs?
your hatred for buhari should not make you throw away your sensibility.

TPAND:
No one is stopping Buhari from fighting corruption, but fighting like a dictator and tyrannical autocrat is what we are not I support of. Everything should be done within the ambits and provisions of the law.

Buahri should understand what a democratic system of government is. I see the arrest of the alleged corrupt judges as a show of Shane and defamation of character

it beats my imagination that some people still talk this way and throw common sensibility in the gutter. since saturday that it happened, are u telling me you couldn't pick a copy of d constitution and the criminal justice act 2015 to educate your ignorance? shame on you.

ejilife:
Buhari and DSS is pained that justice Ademola didn't do their bidding in granting Nnamdi Kanu unconditional bail and as if that was nt enough he removed every barrier obstructing the commencement of actual trial in Buhari WASC case

but what are those monies doing in his residence if i may ask? or using your own logic, are the monies ipob bribe?

bonechamberlain:
When would the executive act on its corrupt members, they are quick to act on the judiciary and legislature, let the other arms of govt act on the executive, corruption should not be a fight for only does not in buhari's executive.

The price of liberty is eternal vigilance. Nigeria must be very vigilant else we would gradually be harbouring another extremist dictator.

you talk of eternal vigilance of the presidency alone. what about other arms of government also talking like dictators with impunity. lets be balanced. taking sides has been the master plan of the ellite to weaken us nigerians. our stance should be were they legally arrested and guilty of the offence? it may look like we are supporting the president, but no. we are supporting d law. when we support this crackdown to the logical conclusion of conviction, we would have succeeded in setting a precedence that even the president will be subjected to. we would have succeeded in strenghtening d institutions. we must not allow they the ellites settle themselves when they have succeeded in dividing us along ethnic, religous and political lines. now, the assembly and executivevare gradually settling and sweeping d issues under d carpet. nigerians must refuse to be foolish anymore. even if d fight against corruption is one-sided, lets make sure that than one side is thoroughly clean. when they decide to slow down because the persecuted has 'settled' , we must refuse to allow them remove their legs from the turtle untill they secure convictions. thats what i call eternal vigilance!

MadeInTokyo:



If Tribunal orders that the ballot papers be recounted in court, like they did in 2007 in the case between Osunbor vs Oshiomole, then it is legally, technically and politically over for Obaseki, Oshiomole and APC because votes counted will be different from the fake results that INEC announced .

This is Osunbor vs Oshiomole happening all over again.

you are presuming that obaseki rigged the election. thats too bad. why not wait for the outcome of the counting before jumping into history class. mind you, recounting could also be counterproductive for them if they also did the same.

LET THEM SEND A COPY TO THE EMBASSY AND LETS SEE IF IT WILL BE HONOURED AND THEIR NAMES REMOVED FROM THE BLACKLIST. BUNCH OF CLOWNS. THEY THINK AMERICA IS A ZOO LIKE NIGERIA? SMH

MadeInTokyo:



Northern Supreme Court Judges to replace Southern Supreme Court Judges


Buhari replacing Southern Judges with His Northern Brothers to help do his dirty work and subvert the rule of law and eliminate democracy in Nigeria.

Thunder fire Buhari and gullible Nigerians who still think Buhari is fighting corruption .

incinuations and speculations are for busstop analysis. get concrete facts before showing ignorance.

THEIR BACKS HAVE BEEN RUBBED BY THE CHARGES OF FORGERY DROPPED AGAINST THEM, HENCE WHY THE EXERCISE OF FUTILITY IN SUMMONING DAURA?

LORDOFAFONJAS:
Democracy is being raped and some elements are happy about it.........

democracy has been raped a long time ago when judges give rapists 10,000 naira bails. when judges give terrorists bail and they sentence phone stealers to several years imprisonment. that is the true rape of democracy!!

kcnwaigbo:
With all the "evidences"so far gathered I wonder why these people have not yet been charged to court

Kindly check the news again.

omowolewa:
F.G should thread softly, I think there is disciplinary panel in the judiciary which is equivalent to an high court?



Alagba! A cases from the NJC can still proceed to Supreme Court. If you feel justice isn't done, then is either you over hull the judicary system itself or you sponsor a bill t the NASS.


Law depends on the intepretation that is why the phrase 'Get a good lawyer' is common.

After listening to DSS's side of the story, I saw the moral gap of expectation in the conduct of those arrested but that alone may not stand the test of legal standards. FG (Executive, Legislature and Judiciary) must no doubt over hull the standards in Judiciary but it must be user friendly.

Paddy, let me ask you this simple question,'what is the Nigerian defination od Corruption'?

were you not aware of the decision of the NJC to perpectually suspend a chief judgevin rivers state even when a federal high court had said his appointment was legal? do your research on the NJC's handling of their own for the past decade and it will shock you....giving handslapping judgements except for the ONLY case a forthnight ago where they recommended prosecution. if you don'tclean up from within then external clean up is inevitable, even when the prosecution is also filthy. let them go prove thesources of the monies in their custody. when a sitting governor slapped ahigh court judge, the NBA did not cry out. the shameless solidarity will not help us all. lets remain objective not setimental. how i wish this is how nigerians rally round innocent nigerians arrested and detained unjustly by the same DSS, without evidence as huge as this. i have sen people arrested by DSS just because they chatted with a white man onfacebook without scrutinizing the content of the chat. lets us remain balanced and defend the defenseless. at the end of the day, they settle themselves and the common man who doesn't have big pockets keep suffering from acorrupt judiciary. was the conflicting judgements in the markafi-sherriff case not an eyeopener? please.

tinsel:
Where they arrested with there doors pulled down, relations maltreated and the entire neighborhood surrounded with hundreds of policemen by 1.00am? You are really working very hard to justify this gestapo style of arrest.

It is still under the armbit of the law. anyone who prevents the search and arrest which permission has been legally obtained, will be seen as obstructing their legal duties. if they were not obstructing their jobs and yet malhandled, then they can press for charges against DSS. the judge's house that was a case of misplaced identity can press for charges. afterall, the so called gestapo style has been used by DSS for donkey years now even on political activists and ordinary nigerians without the lawyers shouting fowl.now its their turn and they want ignorant nigerians to rise to their defense because they think they are sacred cows?
the laws have been loosed ended for anyone to exploit. it didn't define when and where u can arrest. what constitutes intrusion on privacy and the extent of force in carrying outa search warrant. the position of the nba requesting UNCONDITIONAL RELEASE WITH IMMEDIATE EFFECT and gov. wike's interference with thugs is what threatens the rule of law and democracy

omowolewa:
F.G should thread softly, I think there is disciplinary panel in the judiciary which is equivalent to an high court?

what is this one saying? even the disciplinary panel members are involved. its the same thing happening in d asembly. they will never dismiss their own except he has become a saint suddenly like d case of jibrin.

Bugatie:
Goodmorning Nigeria, A dictator is born...

You never know what you have until you loose it.. Jonathan didn't try a quarter of what the dictator from Daura is doing today. He was bashed left, right and centre but he remained unprovoked.

God bless you Jonathan, you're a fine gentleman.

a fine ineffectual buffon you mean to say.

Toks2008:
The primary duty of the man in marriage is to provide the basic needs of his family talking about the wife and the children while the primary role of the wife is to nurture the husband and the children which is the perfect definition of help mate.

Now it is important to note that no two marriages are the same and what works for you may not work for the other person and the fact that a man provides all the needs of the family does not mean that he can't assist the wife to do some of her primary duties if needs be and a wife who has become the breadwinner may also not mind playing her primary duties without any support from the husband .

But nevertheless i sincerely believe that every man whose wife have become the main bread winner or a co-bread winner to realize that it is very expedient for him to be ready to also be a co-nurturer of the family and also perform the primary duties of the woman such as cleaning the house,cooking,taking care of the children and helping the wife to do things that will ease off the stress from her.

I have heard of several cases where a man who is fully financially dependent on the wife still expects her to do all the domestic activities and prepares all three course meals and some men even get so angry with the wife because she complains of tiredness.

It is very wicked and uncaring for a man whose wife is also a partaker of his primary duties to still expect the lady to fully take care of the home front and this does not make you less a man but will rather encourage the woman and not make her look like a slave in the house.

I know some men will say it is not in our tradition as Africans to do domestic chores and I sincerely agree but we must also understand that it is also not an Africa tradition for a woman to be a breadwinner.

I don't know if this makes sense.

NO. IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. ARE YOU COMPETING?

ABOUT TIME. HE IS A 1:2 CRIMINAL: For every good thing he had done, he had done two wrong things.

mrk74:
I believe she won't agree that I treat her like a child. I don't always push my views on her, but before marriage she had agreed with me that if we hold divergent views and we are not able to arrive at a common ground then she will consent to mine. Currently I'm the only one earning and she has the freedom to spend without my consent. She only notifies me when money is not at home and she needs to withdraw at the ATM which she has the PIN and knows where the cards are kept. I also always discuss and get her inputs when I want to make any major spending. I've sometimes left the choice of certain things that affect both of us to her. Will she have that freedom if she is a subordinate?

Wow! The things that men suffer because of love!
Why do many good men end up with bad women and many good women end up with bad men? well, i guess love is just not enough in marrying someone.

..AND HOW DID THIS HIT FRONTPAGE? SMH! TO MODS.