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anuoluwa222:
Pls who else Got this, I can't really remembered when I applied
thanks

Congrats
u've been shortlisted to attend Lagos West Orientation of Lagos state C.............

My brother also got same message yesterday. he said it was one youth volunteer stuff he applied for on the internet like 2months ago. is there anyone who is working there?

Babztemmy:
I have being married for 5years and sadly I still dont feel so close to my husband. I got the bible says when two come together they become one. That is that become friends, right? But sadly it doesn't feel like it. My hubby is the kind that likes FULL time respect; greet me when you wake up in the morning, great me when I come back from work, (yes wives please greet your hubbys oo) am heading somewhere with this please dont judge me yet, don't go out without telling me, don't put your hands in my pocket, what are you looking for, don't talk .

While am talking (that is even understandable tho) many more I can't mention. Don't tap me on my shoulders if you want to talk to me, don't, don't, don't.

He also isn't romantic, he hates me been romantic around him, it gets him upset. Its been 4years plus and we still argue ALOT. I thought they said the first 3years is the time of misunderstandings but its 4years now and still nothing has really changed.

Sometimes i try to make him talk maybe am not doing something right, and he just always seems to find a fault. Either I don't have respect or I don't have respect or I don't obey him everything calls to respect. Well it's not like I don't respect him or I just wake up in the morning and start disrespecting him. No, it's always in the cause of an argument so while am trying to justify myself or win the case, the disrespect sorts of crops it's way in, but fews hours later you will see me back all over him, trying to make peace but by then I have lost all my worth. He is way closer to his mum and sister than even to me. He prefers to Share all his secrets with them than with me.

Last two weeks was like the saddest day of my life in this marriage journey. He bought a car for his mum, he didn't tell me, the car slept in the house over night I didn't know, on my way back from my outing I saw my hubby in a new car driving down with his mum, In amazement I came down to ask whose car it was and how come I was kept in the dark, then his mum said "it's my car didn't you know?" I felt like a stranger all over again. I called his mum on the phone few mins after I left the embarrasing scene to ask why her son didn't share the good news to me knowing fully well i'm not against him buying her a car. And she said my husband said i didn't greet my hubby the night before and also that morning. Yes I remeber not greeting him the night before cause we had little issue and i just thought to do small shakara, then my not greeting him that morning wasn't intentional, I even apologised immediately my husband cautioned me and I thought we were fine. But I guess we weren't. This is where friendship comes in marriage. No matter what your partner does( as long as it's not adultery or some other serious things I know some women can do.) I feel you should still be able to still give her the respect due. Abi I really wish out vind could grow stronger, it's bin 4years and my hubby doenst know my dress size, or shoe size or favorite artist or favourite food, my choice of music, my choice of anything, he hardly laughs at my joke, I can't tickle him or throw a pillow at him he will term it as lack of repect, I can't call him "ode"while joking he will say am rude, It's plenty ooo. I thought marriage was more you both becoming friends. Don't you think life is too short to be rigid ALL the time. My husband is very rigid it scares me alot if I would be able to go on for long.. I love him very much than anything in the world but he doesn't feel that way or that much for me. Not like he doesn't love me. But I think I love him more. So we are probably not on the same page. i want to be the one he can run to anyday anytime, share his secrets with, want to be the one that has the power to put the best smile on his face, but each time i try, i fail. WHY?? Is there still hope.

Anyone in the house who has testimonies of marriage getting better after 4years. Cause i feel if you fail the first 3years you may never get it right. Mhen ladies you got to get it RIGHT from the beginning to avoid stories..

Secondly, always arguing with a man who feels intellectually superior will always have a negative outcome. he is more logical and you seem to be more emotional. he may deeply love you, but feel if he keeps showing you that side of him, you might take advantage of it to disrespect him.you have to find a way to be respectful romantically, i.e not losing who are, but at thesame time, giving him what he wants. ask him how he wants to be touched, addressed and respected without sounding argumentative (you must study his moods to know when to raise issues. i percieve he is also a critical person). but make sure you do the first thing in my ealier post. you must show you can handle issues logically (intellectually), not emotionally.try and listen to him more to be able to contribute intellectually to his train of thoughts.because you have to prove to him first that you undetstand his points before you quietly ( stylishly ) chip in yours.better still, you can do a rsearch about it (google, etc). in that way, he will see you as a someone he can talk and confide in.his emotions will be naturally fired up, without you having to nag about how he doesn't show affection. they key is being respectfully romantic!! this means you must make it a lifelong lesson to control your emotions and channel it towards intellectual harmony. forget the rules of compatibility after five years.its a lifelong journey. throw away the clock and try to understand him day by day. don't bother yourself too much about his side. just be committed on your own side to make it work. God bless and help you. ensure you also ask God to help you always. the power of a woman is not how well you talk to him, but how well you talk with him and about him to God. thank you. peace.

HungerBAD:
To the OP.

It is easier for people to apportion blames to the woman,but I will not do that.

Sometimes,to solve problems like this,you have to revisit how you guys met,and did before the marriage.

Was there courtship before marriage?this is very important,since you said he does not even know the things you like and that includes music or even your dress or shoe size.

Was the marriage an arranged one?was it a courtship the Christian way,where you dating and speaking only about the bible before marriage?

How did he grow up?did he grow up in a house where the Mom literally worshipped the dad?and he is looking for something like that?

You did not mention kids.

Your write up makes it look as if you guys are strangers,I mean total strangers.

Let us talk about the respect thing. So,continual greeting to him shows respect right?he is your husband and if greetings make him feel respected,then please do it. Or does greeting him make you feel unhappy?

Some men are generally not the touchy type,and do not like women all over their body,he might be that type of man,and not necessary somebody that is not romantic,he just don't like being touched.

Lastly,and and this is for you. What makes you happy?I know a lot of women will do anything to be a (Mrs)but after the marriage then what?what gives you Joy in your marriage?

Talk with him. Do not talk to him. Talking with a person is the ability to draw the other person into your world,into your pains,into your frustrations,into your life.

He is human,and I am sure he will see reasons with you.

Goodluck.

Where CocoCandy sef?come advice here. If na to insult me now,I go see you.

It is clear both of you were not compatible from day 1. he was probably moved (deceived) by your romantic (playful side), while you were probably attracted to his manly(physical and financial security) side. these are superficial qualities. he percieves you as a scatterbrained person who is low in real intellectual engaging discussion. you have to show him your intellectual side by studying what he likes best or his job description/industry. he id attracted to intelligent people. you must always show this to keep winning his heart and save your marraige from generating into infidelitu. God help you.

I THINK THE CABALS IN THE OIL SECTOR UNDER THE GUISE OF SUBSIDY HAS MOVED TO AND ENCROACHING THE POWER SECTOR!! WHAT THEY ARE ASKING FOR IS MORE LESS SUBSIDY: PAY THE DIFFERENCE OR WE KEEP COLLECTING IT FROM NIGERIANS. WHEN HAS BUSINESS BECOME DO OR DIE? IF YOU ARE NOT MAKING PROFIT, THEN PULL OUT RATHER THAN BEING OWED HUGE DEBTS?
THE FIRST THING FASHOLA SHOULD HAVE DONE WAS TO REVIEW ALL LICENSES TO ENSURR CAPACITY TO DELIVER. THE NEXT STEP SHOULD HAVE BEEN TO START LICENSING ALTERNATE SOURCES OF ENERGY LIKE SOLAR AND WIND. THAT WOULD HAVE OPENED THE MARKET TO CUSTOMER FRIENDLY COMPETITION. THE MINISTER SEEMED TO BE CLUELESS IMO. BUHARI DO THE NEEDFUL FAST!!!

you went for an interview at lekki last week right?

MrDavidson:
Laptops already infested with myriads of surveillance and spy softwares. I'm sure EFCC will throw them to the garbage dump immediately they leave. If the story is true, that's a classical insult to Nigeria. US that could install surveillance microphone into rats to send to Russia for spying, this is too foolish of them to do at this time. We can't fall for this.

I share your sentiments, but contrary to what you think, it is configured with special softwares and programs, with special access to classified intranetworks on the internet with its mac address registered with dedicated ports. it is indeed meant to enhance discreet information sharing over the internet, as well as using 'ghost' protocols in sniffing information wihout being detected. trust me. six laptops are sufficient for the job. if they want to monitor us, they already have satellites(including our NIGCOMSATs) doing that. besides, they own the internet and its servers all over the world!
My main concern is securing convictions with the courts and lawyers dragging corruption cases for years. the judicial system must also be upgraded.

Nigerians always making news allover the world. SMH!!

BUT I THOUGHT THE WAILERS SAID WE AND THIS GOVERNMENT MUST NOT LOOK BACK. OR WE LOOK BACK WHEN IT IS CONVENIENT, E.G COMMISSIONING, AND FACE FRONT WHEN IT IS NOT CONVENIENT, E.G CORRUPTION? I TIRE. BUNCH OF IRRESPONSIBLE HYPOCRITES.!! TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVERYTHING IN THE PAST THAT THIS ADMINISTRATION INHERITED!!

Hello house. I there anyone that knows this emfrica air/sea cargo people? My kid brother brought a guarantor form for them for me to sign. I have serious reservations that there are scammers. No official office/warehouse, no employment letter? Can someone prove me wrong/right please. Thanks.

Hello house. I there anyone that knows this emfrica air/sea cargo people? My kid brother brought a guarantor form for them for me to sign. I have serious reservations that there are scammers. No official office/warehouse, no employment letter? Can someone prove me wrong/right please. Thanks.

Hello house. I there anyone that knows this emfrica air/sea cargo people? My kid brother brought a guarantor form for them for me to sign. I have serious reservations that there are scammers. No official office/warehouse, no employment letter? Can someone prove me wrong/right please. Thanks.

Hello house. I there anyone that knows this emfrica air/sea cargo people? My kid brother brought a guarantor form for them for me to sign. I have serious reservations that there are scammers. No official office/warehouse, no employment letter? Can someone prove me wrong/right please. Thanks.

He is indeed a lecturer!! LOL! You can get a Phd with this question!
Now you have to first of all take it one after the other. Examples of educational testing are JAMB, NECO, SSCE and undergraduate/graduate exams. An example of a psychological exam is the IQ test.
The research question is simply saying: If I have a high JAMB score or a first class or i score high IQ tests like Eistein, should that in itself determine my worth of how the society values me? Remember the key word is the BELIEF/VALUE system of such exams. What does these exams actually test and is it all encompassing of all human potential and capabilities. Yes or No, you must back it with references.
If you are of the opinion that it should not be a basis of true value, i think you will have a better arsenal of materials at your disposal. All over the world, people are faulting those kinds of tests and the plethora of those with low IQ and lower degrees who have high values in the society is increasing by the day.
Don't just localize your argument. To argue about corruption and exam malpractice as basis to throw it away will be seen as childish and myopic.It means your work would be meaningless to saner societies where corruption in exams is not an issue.Let me stop here before i will be seen as giving you expo!
if in need of more consultancy or difficulty in downloading some materials when browsing, contact me. Enjoy the free consultancy above. Goodluck OP.

Please kindly send it to me also. Thanks.
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HMMM!!

Why would he decide to embark on such a thing? It indeed beats my imagination. Anyway, the parliament voted against gun control. Enjoy yhe rewards!!! SMH!!!

This is serious. !!!
Those over there should give more info please. I pray peace returns to that community.

elisra:
a USA underground military base called area 51 is harboring alien beings who give technology to Americans

I also suspect such an area like that exists in Russia. It is secluded. You can neither come in nor go out.

RONALDO PAYS HIS TAX IN FULL!!!!

france 0 germany 3

france 0 germany 2

RUN RUN RUN!... except you are ready to work and die there without reasonable pay.

SIMPLY PUT..
Ilesha polytechnic ADMISSION is different from ilesha polytechnic RECRUITMENT!

Good news.
my current passport expires in 2018

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I CALL IT DETERMINATION!!!!
..wishing you success.

chigoizie7:
Like seriously?


That is a very unfair thing to say.

Why would u hate men?

Don't mind her. hating men, yet romancing romance section. or is she les** smh!

xharder:
At the end, most of the proceedings will go to abuja and peanut will be given to the state and nothing to host community after their soil amd enviroment has been destoryed....


The pain of being from resource producing community.

precisely. we must use the oil example as a lesson on how not to mine your resources without a proper framework. i think in the desperate bid of the gorvenor to assuade the people, is making a big mistake the govt. made with the oil story. you allow foreigners bring in their money, thereby dictating for you their profit share, they bring in their experts and mine away your resources. a proper framework should be:
1. give scholarships to your people in learning bitumen mining and a host of things that can be manufactured from this. develop the technical capacity of your people first.
2. establish bitumen processing plants HERE through joint partnerships. NEVER export everything raw.
3. have a solid legal agreement with d host communities directly due to the environmental impact.not through politicians and so called elders
these 3 points describes the ONLY way not to repeat history.

Sasuwa:
if you start blogging today and he who enter medicine today, you fit build hospital before he finish

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firstEVA:
I guess every guy has his taste and preference. Some others will chose beauty over intelligence, they need a wife they can show off to friends and family.

so after the show off, whats next?