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Many guys are just childish in this nairaland, maybe they are still children, someone brought up an issue that needs an advice, all some of you could offer was insults, maybe you already felt you are the first guy she's about to dump or maybe someone once dumped you that way

@op
The truth is this, based on my own experience in life, don't ever pity anyone you are not indebted to when it comes to relationship, I do advice people to an extend I advice them to leave a marriage once they have tried to keep the love going but failed

Make sure the person you are dating or marrying is a second to none, make sure he's number 1, never had someone somewhere you are wishing you are together with especially when the person is feeling the same

mhizsuzzy:
Relationship with God is important over religion. But you need guidance at the early stage. I thought like you but God placed wonderful friends around me to help me. As a child feed with milk, you need assistance till your grow yo a point
Thank you. Noted
You are loved

the best guidance is the Holy Spirit not friends, that's why few of us who seek God by force without anybody's guidance found him deeper than those that were guided

Being guided by human will only leave you at the level of your guidance knowledge, he or she can't teach you what he doesn't know

All the religions in the world were founded by people who seek God without human guidance

These pictures are just one place with different shots from different angles

kiddkash:
whoever said money can't buy happiness clearly didn't have enough

and you concluded they are happy because of these pictures?

Fastestmanalive:
Saka will choose England laslas. Some of our players still havent been paid their salaries and benefits for months now. If he knows he doesn't want to carry a placard demanding for salary he should respect himself and choose England.

playing for national team is based on passion, fame and fulfillment, club side is where footballers make their money

mhizsuzzy:
What's wrong with me? My prayers are not answered. Have asked that question? You are welcomed to my crib. Let's have a friendly chitchat

Good morning and a beautiful Sunday to you...

I prayed and didn't get answers. It got me thinking, why do some people get answers and I don't. Maybe, I am doing it the wrong way or am I doing it with an unclear conscience or am I in doubt? what's wrong?
I know you have asked that kind of question. I pray God answers you through me. Amen

Let's pray
Father in heaven, we thank you for your gift of Jesus, the gift of this new day and your love which you shed in our hearts. We thank you for all you have done and all you will do. We come before you in great humility and submit our will to your kingship. Open our hearts and mind sto receive you. Speak to us through your words in ways we can understand and let your spirit in us reveal you to us.
We ask you in Jesus name. Amen


Causes of unanswered prayers:
1) You may have been asking amiss and with wrong motives
(James 4:3) KJV
What are your intentions? Are they right? God is not a man that he can be deceived he searches your hearts and knows your genuine intentions. Are you praying so that people will say: haa! she is a prayer warrior (like the Pharisee) or are you really seeking a connection and pouring out to God. Are you praying to boast to men that your prayers get answered?
Check your motives dear loved one.
Soln: Keep asking God to teach you his ways that you may die to pride or showmanship. Consciously rebuke those thoughts when they come. You have the power of resurrection in you.
2) He will answer you.

Come confidently to his throne of mercy and grace.
Some come with "let me try if this thing will even work" Hmmm...(I did that before)
God is more willing to answer you than you are to ask. (Jeremiah 29:12)
He loves you and will hear you when you cry out (Psalm 106:43-45)
So come as you are

3) The prayer of a righteous man:
(James 5:16)

Sincerely ask God for forgiveness for the sins you have done. But wait, you can't use God. You can't apologize just to get what you want from him and turn back to your evil ways.
Life in Christ is the best. Choose it.

4) Ask the holy spirit to help u:
(Romans 8:26)
He is the helper. He will help you even when words can't express how you feel (isn't he a good God that even provides help when our strengths have failed)

5) Ask in Jesus name:
John 15:16:
The father will give you whatever you ask of him in my name. Jesus is the key to get to the father. (Note this it is important)

6) Pray his word:
Give God his words and the promise of his words will be your portion (Don't forget to do it with faith). Pray the bible. As you study the word daily if any part speaks to you, use it as a prayer. It is his word and you know it is important to him. Write it done and make prophetic declarations about them

7)Thank God
Gratitude is very important. Even if you didn't see the manifestation yet (Philippians 4:6)
It is pride that makes you not to thank him (2 Chronicles 32:25)
Thank him cos he has already done it for you.

Submit it to his will:
Patience is important. Wait! it may not be time yet. But whilecyou wait what should you do?...Thanksgiving cos he has done it already.

Some prayers need you to call those faithful to help you so that their faith can help your faith (Matt 18:19) (James 5:14-15)

Faith is the bedrock. No prayer works without faith. Forget about the problem. It is difficult I know but you have to try dear loved one.
Devil will bring doubt, confess the assurance of the answered prayer. Dance when ever you remember it. Cos it has been answered.
You can also make a covenant with God (some kind of petitions need this) Let's the spirit lead you in this..he will speak to you about it and how to go about it. You are blessed
Those changed my prayer life. I am glad to share them with you, beloved.

So Let's go and do it the right way.
Your faithfully
Love

with all these explanations of God and how to seek him, you people make him look unreachable

With my experiences in spirituality I have come to realize that reaching God has no formula, he responds to individuals differently, just reach out to him the way you know how to, don't read any manual anywhere

chiommy123:
God only speaks to us through the Bible which is his word and the mind of Christ any other thing is guess work

you are a baby Christian, I used to think like you till I grow spiritually

Lol... What people don't know is that the power that possess that innocent cat, dog, snake, rat they sent leaves immediately you killed the animal

The animals they sent to you is an innocent animal close to you which was hijacked by the witches spirit and dumbs the animal and returns back to the body after the assignment must have been accomplished

alaribe1992:
I am an undergraduate of a high institution in Owerri, so I've been home due to the closure of schools Nationwide.

There's this girl whose mom owns a drinking bar somewhere around my street, she's an undergraduate too, but she's been home too during this lockdown. I've been seeing this girl for years but started developing feelings for her suddenly.

I approached her as a sharp guy and collected her number. She wasn't using a smart phone then, so we communicate through phone calls.
At first our conversations was smooth and sweet, and it was like a match made in heaven, we haven't gone out for a date due to she always stays in her mom's shop and her mom is a very strict woman. Her dad is late. I told this girl my mind, that I'd like us to date and she agreed.

To cut the story short

After a week she started acting strange, sometimes she wouldn't pick my calls and she won't call back, she got a smart phone and was back on WhatsApp. She replies my text late after seeing them.

On Sunday afternoon I called her and she busied my call, a friend of mine who lives opposite their shop called me on phone telling me the girl was outside their shop and was over the phone with someone for a long time. I called her again and she busied my call again, I texted her on WhatsApp to ask her what her problem was.

After a day, she replied on WhatsApp that she's sorry. Well today she just texted me that she's no longer interested in the relationship that she just wants to be left alone. Note that we haven't even had a time together all this while due to the fact I didn't want to rush things with her and she was always at her mom's shop.

I want to know how someone that likes you before just wakes up and all of a sudden no longer interested in you again without any provocation.

Thank you

have you experienced something like this before?

agboifeanyi242:
Marriage , also called matrimony or wedlock , is a culturally recognised union between people, called spouses , that establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws .

The definition of marriage varies around the world, not only between cultures and between religions, but also throughout the history of any given culture and religion. Over time, it has expanded and also constricted in terms of who and what is encompassed.
These are 9important things to know:

Be good friends. Don't marry a stranger and hope you'll become compatible over time. Start with a solid foundation of love, shared values, common interests, and trust.

Don't expect your partner to change. People do change, but not in predictable ways. So if your partner has a drug problem, assume he'll always have one. Suppose you're marrying someone with a drug problem, not someone who will, with time, stop taking drugs, and ask if you can live with that. If she doesn't want children, assume she'll always not want children. If he has a temper, assume he'll always have a temper.

Communicate consistently and communicate about everything. If you have a big secret in your life that you're not comfortable sharing with your partner (a fetish, a crime you committed, a friend you betrayed), this will likely cause problems down the road. Get it out into the open, now, and lay down a foundation of honesty. Fart in front of your husband. Tell your wife about your latest poo.

Sometimes people say, "I woke up one day and my husband was a stranger." But he didn't become one overnight, even if it seems that way. People change gradually. It only feels like they change quite suddenly when they don't continually talk. If your wife is slowly becoming depressed or dissatisfied, it shouldn't take you by surprise. You should know about all the stages, through constant talk. There should be many, many opportunities for intervention.

Make sure you can honestly discuss sex, money, children, in-laws, careers, politics, and religion. These are the contentious subjects that can drive uncommunicative couples apart.



Value partnership. If this isn't a high value for both of you, you're in trouble. If you have lots of "deal breakers" or if, whenever there's a problem, you think, "Should I stay or should I go?" that's a red flag. Your marriage will have a better chance of success if you're both committed to fixing problems and if you both think of all problems as shared problems.

Work on projects together. Collaboration is one of the primary forms of human communication. It's a kind of social glue. Try to find hobbies you both like doing together

Play together. I don't mean Chess, Monopoly, or baseball. I mean have tickle fights, or chase each other around the home; or roll around in the mud, together. Playing around is another social glue. You need to lose all dignity around each other habitually.

Marry someone who has intimacy needs that match yours. Marriages can work between joined-at-the-hip couples, and they can also work between highly independent couples. But it's hard to sustain a marriage between a clingy person and a standoffish one.

Have sex multiple time before you get married. Make sure you're sexually compatible.

Live together for at least a year before you get married. Make sure you're compatible roommates.

You are free to counter and add yours too.
let's help stop all these "rush in,rush out" marriages.

you should number them by 1 to 9, it would make your article more attractive

Funkyswagzz:
Bro I hope u know this show open alot of doors even if u don't win. So its a plus point for him take or leave it. All I ask is support and if u need airtym to vote just holla.. wil send it

send me #100 mtn to vote for him

It came across my mind to share this story as a piece of advice to whoever may listen,


my father got a contract in 1987 during babangida's regime at sea port, portharcourt, throughout the 80s to early 90s he was counting millions, if not billions, we were tenant all the while because my father was planning to build the whole world in the name of estate


He kept investing all his money in buying barges and boats,he was among the elites in oil then and what we know today as bunkery(was legal then)


One faithful night in 1990, he came home late and the landlord refused opening the gate for him to drive in (landlord was also a rich man)


After some altercation, the landlord went and opened the gate for him, my father felt insulted and decided to build 3 storey building and pack out overnight


He took small change from his pocket and bought a land, started 3 storey building which went on 24 hours none stop, we parked out of the compound into our own house


3 years later, abacha came into power and shut down their business which took all the money my father had in a twinkle of an eye


Ladies and gentlemen, that 3 storey building that my father took small change from his pocket to build became the only thing he has today


Don't wait for tomorrow to live, don't wait for tomorrow to invest, don't wait for tomorrow to act, act today because your tomorrow may not come

A talented footballer who's not hardworking will always succeed more than an untalented footballer who's hardworking

Hardwork is overrated,all the successful people I know aren't as hardworking as the failures that I also know

It's all about talent and grace, then a little bit of Hardwork

OK, last edition had more fine people than this one

But this show is useless, sincerely speaking

What's wrong with this nairaland's mods, a thread opened on 20 may you are bringing on front page now, what if she has settled the matter and found her mom? So we should start advising on a settled matter

TAYO124:
Hush is no hero, he is simply a thief who defrauded thousands of people. If you were ever a victim of internet fraud then you will not side with Ramoni Igbalode.

to be able to defraud thousands of people alone makes him great

Do you know what it is to convince one person, let alone thousands including top personnels like football club

bossvinqualad25:
Nothing pays better earning from your own sweat,if you are in need of ileya ram and reside within lagos contact me,we sell @a pocket friendly price

you think hushpuppi didn't sweat Making the money, yahoo yahoo no easy o

Spouses who don't have opposite sex friends tend to cheat more in marriage when the opportunity arises because they are not used to that

SweetJoystick:
How does this help the common man?

the rail itself helps a common man and it must have a name which is named after Goodluck Jonathan

Nice one, oga bubu

This is the opportunity for biafra to launch an attack

Mokason28:
Hushpuppy give your life to Christ he will deliver you from this messss ....I know it’s not your fault nah our useless government cuz am

government didn't send anybody to steal even though they are the most useless set of government in the world

No justification for stealing

authority2006:
It's even confusing reading and trying to make sense out of your comment. Those who said that they can't do it are the ones who can do it! And those who admitted that they can do it are the ones who can't do it! How exactly did you arrive at this conclusion?

Go ask your English teacher for refund

First of all, the guys ranting here against what you want to do are simply jealous that someone else is about to get the luck they've been praying for, so don't act based on their advice

The only advice I will give you is to follow your heart, nothing guarantee success in life, you can take that action of sponsoring him abroad and it turns out to be the best decision of your life, it can also end up as a disaster

Just live a little bit carefree, take whatever you see, live itself is an adventure

stormborn28:
funny.. You think you are making sense

and you keep replying someone who's not making sense, who's a fool here?

stormborn28:
so news are not serious matters.. The COVID-19 news and other news are not serious matters... Look it is always good to reason properly before writing or typing letters

most important thing is that the message I passed across was understood by whoever reads including you

Meedon:
I deactivated my facebook account in January because I don't see any helpful information there, all I see is adult and teenagers fooling theirselves up and down posting yeye pictures.


I'm out.

The only thing I'm addicted to now is KDP

which one is kdp?

WonderWoman5775:
Thank you.. This is all true, I have had to uninstall some of my social media and left only Facebook because of the toxic and depressing media I end up taking in everyday, apart from the money that I waste on data to watch endless YouTube Instagram and twitter videos, spending too much time there drains you, I just take a break sometimes and I come here(nairaland) to read the headlines and keep up.

the Facebook you keep is the worst that is dealing with people

Legionx:
Will Smith
John Legend
Former Prince Harry
Ciara's Simp Husband

Name more

what's the meaning of simp?

My elder brother's friend who's been on the war front all of a sudden posted his pics on Facebook, lo and behold he was in Malaysia inside night club

My brother chatted him how mange, the guy said he left unofficially, he just left his gun, uniform and every other thing in the camp and move without informing one single soul , his parents sold land and he traveled abroad

If you hear his story of what's happening in the army you won't allow anyone you know to join

Freestainworld:
God pass man, if you like know everything, who God wants to show mercy is who he will show it.

100% correct

What is happening to aba, abia state, look at cities that were villages when development came to aba, na waa o

Nice one