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ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv

Men in Africa and especially Nigeria cannot be threatened by any of such innovation..
You know why?? Most women over here are money mongers and in as much as those gadgets and innovations can't give the females here money.. They would always jettison them and queue for men..

my brother you are very correct. I was discussing with 2 different ladies here in naija. I had not even indicated my intention yet. They were smart to know where I was going and immedietely they started tabling all their problems to me which were very petty and I was busy telling them kpele. the next thing, they asked me if I brought them a gift and when my answer was no, they started avoiding me like a plague. that's how the relationship ended before it even started.
some girls are like that though not all girls

Ayemileto:
@OP, better go and meet your Daddy to select a lady for you.

Because if with all your "choosy" or "selective" attribute, the kind of lady that ended up meeting your "specs" have all those bad characters, then it simply means you're a very poor decision maker when it comes to choosing a partner.



Not minding how strict you become, you will always end up with someone that fits your "specs".

And once your "spec" is bad, then it will always be someone bad.

correct man

othermen:
What about her good attributes? Our characterisation of another often say much about our own character even.

I am certain that you have received many support to reinforce your decision as regards this matter from this platform. But I will be clear with somethings to you Sir.

She is always right and unapologetic-
This is ambiguous expression, why would anyone be apologetic for being right or being always right? I think what you mean to say, is that she is sometimes wrong and when wrong, she is unapologetic. This is no great attitude, however I think you are exaggerating…for instance to you, it is wrong of her to put her picture on WhatsApp status, and so because you have a circle of folks with like minds, they agree with you, you confront her, but she really don’t understand why she should apologise for not hiding her face.

What you want is not a wife, what you want is a slave… someone scared of you, someone insecure, someone that can’t disagree with your opinion or ideas. We apologise because we want peace, but she might choose not to apologise because you don’t deserve it and because it legitimises whatever request or position you held. You must deserve an apology to get one, Sir.

She is always eager to harass and disrespect me-

I am wondering how she could have harassed you and disrespected you, by disagreeing with you, you may feel disrespected, by her refusal to lick your ‘asss’ sir, that may be want you mean by disrespect. And what does she harass you with? Her free will, her intelligence, because when you say harass, I am sure you mean, she intimidates you.

Perhaps because of your background, you don’t come from a place, where women should have a voice…, you come from a place where you expect her to do your laundry. Sir, you have to grow beyond your background, and if she has been physically aggressive towards you, I could say you must have cultivated such habit in your relationship yourself. Again, you must earn respect and it is often from reciprocality.

She can’t cook-

This is just to get the bandwagon to follow you, and it is from expressions like this, that I began to perceive that you may not have characterised her in a just or fair manner after all. When a lady, comes to this platform and say, ‘he can’t even Bleep’ while this may be a legitimate concern, the context of such an expression is already coloured. It is an empty banter statement and it is incomplete, inordinate and incautious… she don’t cook is different from she can’t cook, she can’t cook well is different from she can’t cook. She is not your cook, at least not yet!

I can imagine your small kitchen, and she spend hours and tire herself making you a meal, and you open your mouth and dismiss her effort…you have not encouraged her to help with the meals. I however encourage everyone (both genders) to please learn how to cook and cook well. In some relationship, meals are important.

I don't think I am alone- I have stopped trying to figure out what this mean.

She advertises herself on WhatsApp-

Your characterisation again is lacking in good judgment. If you have absolute power, you would not merely have her use Hijab, you would also compel her to use Niqab. Sir, she being with you, does not create an obligation from her part, to shield herself from everyone else.

Women want to be complimented, married women use make-up to be admired. It is not an evidence of desire for lust, than it is what makes everyone of us human, and for you to think otherwise, shows that you may be unmindful. This is a symptom of paranoid personality disorder.

Acting possessed and trying to overpower -

So whenever she tries to overpower you , she is possessed and because you cannot accept that she is more powerful than you, she must be possessed, possessed by a dominant gene I suppose. Power based relationship often lead to revolt especially in this age. Accept that she is not inferior to you, treat her with love and respect, master her with care, and she will submit to you. But the more you think it is a matter of brawn not brain, you would likely be overpowered in other facet of life.


She drinks alcohol-

Young girls today, they go to club, they smoke, they do drugs and all manner of things. After doing so, they still go to mass on Sunday, some Muslim girls during the fast, break with Shisha. We live in an age that for social acceptance, you should know how to take a cup of alcohol or wine. What you didn’t say, is if she is alcoholic, I am sure if she is, you would have mentioned that.

Her drinking of alcohol however may not merely be against your desire but also your religious belief. But chill, Nigeria is a significant consumer of alcohol and yet highly religious, if it against your belief, and you cannot tolerate it. Then I think, of coz, give her a choice between you and it. In the end, it is your life, do what is best for you.

Wearing a waist bead and ankle bracelet- One good person here has already addressed this.

She is kind of my way or nothing-

This is not negligible Sir. It should be about the best way, the most reasonable way and the most advantageous way... not about her way or your way. If she has always had her way, then she is an asset. Many corporate organisations pay lots for such skills. But an extremely disagreeable person in a relationship can be overwhelmingly distressing, and what matters goes beyond the goal. But what is your goal? If your goal is peace, then the way to peace may be allowing her to have her way. You both win. But I am sure, what I have said is not so realistic, there would always be varying perspectives. Engage her, not forcefully, but reasonably. I am sure she will see reasons when you do that. Sometimes, concede to her needs, ask her counsel…and stop thinking she should have no intelligence and no thoughts of her own because this person is a she.

Easily get upset and next ruin my day-

Being upset is a reaction, and when she is upset, she is not having a great day either. She has given you two years of her life, and you can't find a single good thing to say about her, when she has assisted you with counsel, or tended your needs... Help her when she is upset Sir or walk away. Walking away is better these days, if you think you are not compatible, it is better than having to live a life of despair for the rest of your days, for her and for you, it may be the most advantageous.

But I needed to be clear with you, Your write up- projects you as a very weak person, and not just weak, but also as someone who can’t put with a stronger will. You cannot manage a relationship as at now, and your brain process suggest to you, that the solution is to marry two women. Don’t you think that something is inadequate with that brain? It is that same brain, that evokes all of the problem with her, that is why, it is essential another look is given. I hope you work on it Sir.

Na wa ooo. you sound very much worst than the girl you are defending. God forbids abeg. people like you go blow the ceiling off at every single provocation just bcs you think the world revolves around you. God knows I hate headache. try that on me, I wont complain like op. I go just pursue out of my life without even thinking about it. Nobody reach to become a liability in my life and still deny me peace. If I don marry you, I go just divorce you and rather remain like pastor Chris. I go enter court and show them that I have the means to take care of my children and that I don't want them to follow ur lifestyle. I go manufacture all the evidence I need.
Then when the pepper don red, I go see btw me and you who go suffer and I go see if you no go calm down by force when no man go look ur way again.

This is nice.. those thieves britain and their useless tool called Nigeria are dragging the ibo nation annoyingly too too back. all the northern Nigeria knows how to do is to kill, steal and destroy while the only thing in the heads of yorubanzas is to dance noisily naked in the name of music and insult people with their useless disease mouths. Let biafra go they won't. they'll keep forcing us to stay in this nonsense country and enduring their mumu animal charactered so called government..

3rd point captures the entire point

This is my candid view ooooo (no insults abeg. try get sense). Ladies when you treat ur guys like this, I assure you that he will never leave

Thank God that there are still parents living up to their parental responsibilities. At least heaven will record it for them that they did their parts.

Praise the Lord. at least when the Chinese take over, we will no longer have those dead people called Nigerian politicians at the helm of affairs

Humans are undoubtedly the most dangerous and wicked animal even to themselves.. more people have died in excess in the hands of their fellow humans more than they have ever did in the hands of animals.

animals kill only when they are hungry but humans kill even for just fun and sports

UyaiIncomparabl:
That was a metaphorical statement. The ways of God aren't like the ways of man. It's too complicated for man to fathom.

this ur ''metaphorical'' since. oya educate us what it's going to be

BigDick70inch:
God forbid!!!
Ain't collecting any shit(666)..
I'd rather redeem myself with my blood and get called into heaven later..

Modified
All we need to make heaven is GOD'S GRACE.. Revelation pages scare shit out off me..
I don't wanna witness those torture BTW..

Exactly my brother. great sufferings in Nigeria is normal thing everyday. rejecting the mark of the beast cannot be difficult for me and will not be difficult for me. besides there a lot of people in this country that don't put their money in the bank no matter how much they are. they don't do all these nonsense technology thing.
in short, enforcing that nonsense in Nigeria cannot succeed as the anti-christ people want. a lot of people will still live their normal lives without it. some will remove whatever you put in their bodies and move on with their lives. Those are part of what makes us Nigerians. we live to destroy everything put in place to work. our politicians will deceive the whitemen just to embezzle their money and do small gragra and it ends there. if they bring sufferings on people, people will still survive it bcs there's no amount of sufferings they can ever bring that people have not seen ten times of it in this Nigeria. besides people die like flies everyday in this country and others alive still move on like nothing has happened.
so they cannot successfully enforce that in Nigeria, and they will not successfully enforce that in Nigeria.

Andrew13:
The guy looks hungry.
I like that he is honest tho

person wey get that kain belle look hungry for ya eye??

Ikeast:
Oga you av win..i'm sure nobody would like to contest with IFA(gods)

forget that one. even if Ifa appears physically to contest election, Nigerian politicians will still contest against it and still do it strong things

Jeffrey12:
* Museum of deformed children.

WTF! is that a cyclop there in the last picture or are my eyes deceiving me?

bia OP. so you haven't heard that the fear of woman is the beginning of wisdom. Keep playing ur simpleton game until they come and bundle you from your own house for rape you never committed.
Also you can't let a stranger enter ur house and send you packing. You can't sleep on the ground for any reason, it's not healthy.
If ur brother can't be man enough to control his bitch, please SEND THEM BOTH OUT OF YOUR HOUSE NOW and damn all the consequences. better the consequences than rotting in jail for a food you never ate. you are still a young man to waste ur life for useless things like that.
some women have that offensive character thing. If they won't pack out, give the photocopy of ur rent receipt to the police and use the police to push them out..
Most people that died young from family fued died in the hands of their brothers who they pitied alot and damning all dangerous signs they saw. Better alive to have a lifelong fued with ur brother than to be in ur untimely grave for it.

Masonkaycares:
You're wired op . Father, mother and children in one room. e shock me oo

and in-law too, all in one room

'the battle line has been drawn'

NEWACADEMY:
If you say so

My brother it's bcs we both know this country very well from the seat of power to the ordinary poverty stricken man on the street, 95% of Nigerians are wicked and will not allow anything good to happen to this country. what you said is good but we both know that can't happen in this country. once that happens, they will kill the person just like thiefnibu did to one prominent Yoruba Lagosian who contested election at the return of democracy in 1999. the man had a well known history of taking care of Lagos and doing the right thing always and people were ready to vote him. but overnight, thiefnibu's thugs assassinated him and thiefnibu stole power overnight from afenifere.

we all know that this fake news is d handwork of frustrated ewedu oduduwanonsense people who are too desperate to cling to power 2023. I love Buhari and CPC people for this. the truth is bitter they say, and that's why the thiefnibu and his useless bunch of idiotic lazy and frustrated low life yorubanzas are bitter.
Mr President is truly a man of integrity. he didn't spare the low life castrated thiefs yorubanzas.. he insisted tranperancy in his government and the thieves yorubanzas want to die cus they feel they can rob Nigeria anyhow they like.
Our dear president Buhari is even gentle sef. if it's me, I will send all those nonsense banzas back to their South West and nuke them there
they are waste of space and resources.

Tomide007:
Lol.....Until I see video evidence, ain't believing shit....Bloggers to dey lie nowadays.

is it until they beat it into ur head before you believe say na true say this story was actually reported.. you no see link there?
na wa oooo. when dem say make some people go sch dem no gree. instead dem go always dey nairaland dey use their imbecilic Islamic religion to poison everything and everyone they see. people of animal kingdom.

NEWACADEMY:
We need a very very very smart, intelligent, patriotic and tactical person as a leader

ogbeni that one na grammar

Depressed101:
i swear you guys have a problem, how the hell did i become a yoruba guy

Hmmmmm. even people wey we know their Papa papa and mama mama go dey deny their ancestry roots just to score cheap tribalistic nairaland points. continu ur ancestors dey watch you for their graves

janjaweedism:
Trust Niaja, every Tom, Dick and Harry will now start making their own videos.

Mariangeles:


It is not a woman's duty to bear children for the man and still provide for them.
You want her to die young? Are you wicked?

As for you, don't go and hustle you hear? Keep looking for a woman you'll scam into "I'll make it in future" marriage.

Madam you too do you want the man to die Young? are you wicked? if you like don't assist ur hussie and ur family. keep waiting for that man that will inherit all ur life problems and make his own for life just to prove that he loves you..

techmo:
Lagos is our land.. yoruba land... tell your ibo people to stop packing them self tight inside ifesinachi busses to come and disturb us in yoruba land... if you stay at home to develop then break up would be faster

Yeah the same Lagos biult with wealth stolen from the south east and South South and you say we the people from the two regions should not take benefits abi?
FYI, the last time I checked, Lagos is a no man's land so stop doing attach by force. the yorubanza tribe is so stupidly lazy that they cannot even feed themselves let alone build Lagos. you sold ur land to foreigners and the foreigners built it for you and now you want to claim landlord. ko le work. you goats won't let this scam of country break bcs if that happens, hunger will kill all of you and your attach by force Lagos.
Any little thing you begin to attach ur lazy asses to Lagos by force. that's the only thing you can do. all the other yorubanza states are worst than my village backyard and that's why when they come to south South or enugu or anambra states, dem no wan go back again. nonsense people.

why him no go buy you car? shey you use kayanmata for his head while him wife wey suffer make am rich man still dey treck. ur judgement day is coming

MoodyQueen:
What a truckload of nonsense.
I didn't finish reading it.

who cares if you do. bcs the truth is bitter. 99% of you Nigerian ladies have liability mentality and that's why many of you suffer in marriages if unluckily for you the man is not a fool and that's why most of you dump young single guys to start disturbing life out of married men that another woman has suffered to build.
You ladies up there are complainin that the man will leave and start spending on modern women. that's my point. Nigerian ladies are selfish including my only sister. you young ladies when you see that the man another woman has made turned ur seduction down, you will use kayanmata on him to lose his senses, dump his wife and follow you.
nonsense.

MoodyQueen:
Whatever.
Call me devil sent. I can't endure it.

Madam nobody stops you from also providing for the family so that you people can live beyond poverty line. That's one annoying problem with Nigerian ladies. 99% of them have liability mentality. then when the children are growing up, she will infest their mind against their father so that it will be only her selfish self they will remember. then when the children get married and have their own selfish wives too and start giving their wives all the attention, their selfish mother will make life miserable for their selfish wives. that's why 99% of Nigerian ladies always have issues with their mothers in law but never with their fathers in-law. Nigerian ladies are just too selfish.
I'm single and still searching not bcs I have not found, but bcs all of them want already made man. none of them is ready to make the man.
For me ooo, if you cannot accept me now I'm poor, you have no right to be with me when things get right. simple. I will take my time to keep looking for that right lady for me biko.

All these yorubanza people. the only thing una sabi na to spread curse and insults like disease. una just wicked for mind. I remember what my Bible tell me: no peace for the wicked. that's why una fore fathers were defeated by women soldiers.