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Sports / Re: Ese Brume wins Long Jump bronze medal at Athletics World Champs 2019. by liberalchick(f): 8:04pm On Sep 20, 2019 |
All DL championship winners get automatic qualification in their respective discipline to Doha. GenBuhari: 1 Like |
Sports / Re: Ese Brume wins Long Jump bronze medal at Athletics World Champs 2019. by liberalchick(f): 7:23pm On Sep 20, 2019 |
She will be at the championship, she won the diamond league final. GenBuhari: |
Sports / Re: Ese Brume wins Long Jump bronze medal at Athletics World Champs 2019. by liberalchick(f): 3:01pm On Sep 20, 2019 |
Danielle Williams of Jamaica is the fave to win gold she has the leading time. However, yea hurdles can be tricky. GenBuhari: |
Romance / Re: My Idea Of Feminism by liberalchick(f): 12:42pm On Sep 11, 2019 |
pansophist: Apples and Oranges. You are comparing mental strength with physical strength, we all know the average man is stronger than the average woman. Unless you are saying men are more intelligent than women then your analogy doesn’t work. Feminist have NEVER compared salaries of men across careers. In your example, feminists would compare the salary of a STEM woman to a STEM man of comparable education, experience and skill. Now why would it make sense to compare the salary of a liberal arts major to a STEM major? Do the men in liberal arts job earn the same as men in STEM jobs? Please can you post these statistics that show women are increasingly unhappy since feminism started? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Idea Of Feminism by liberalchick(f): 12:34am On Sep 11, 2019 |
Michellekabod2: It wasn’t my intention for my post to come across as belittling, my frustrations didn’t translate well. I am Nigerian and I get frustrated that debates about feminism is often about trivial issues. I think you underestimate Nigerian women, they are more than capable to discuss issues/policies that promote gender equality. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Idea Of Feminism by liberalchick(f): 10:07pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Michellekabod2: I didn’t say feminism could only be defined based on socio-political issues, I didn’t go into sexism because I didn’t think it was relevant to my post. Obviously sexism is why we have gender inequality. There is a difference between a woman that decides to do all the house chores and respects another woman’s decision not to do so and a woman that believes it is the role of women to do house chores. Choice is key to gender equality. Feminists fight For equal access to opportunities so people have more options to choose. I don’t like to quibble about the nuances in feminism, if someone believes in gender equality that’s good enough for me. I am not in the business of dictating to the person on how they should use such opportunities. It’s a slippery slope, there is a danger of turning into the misogynists we hate. Both sides of a coin, replacing one form of oppression with another. This is why some women that believe in gender equality (access to equal opportunities regardless of gender) don’t want to identify as feminists because some smug feminists look down on their choices. One of the aim of feminism is to allow women to define themselves however they choose. I didn’t agree with Chimamanda when she came for Beyoncé, I didn’t agree with her when she bullied Hillary Clinton into changing her social media bio. She is a militant feminist. Hillary is a wife and a mother and there's nothing wrong with that. Her being a wife shouldn’t be less important than any of her other achievements. For some women being wives are important parts of their identities, insinuating that being a wife is not an equal choice as been a lawyer means she is effectively disempowering those women. I am not for someone that believes she has the right to weigh in on how other women should define themselves. Since she has been the darling of the liberal media and raking in millions, has she used her star power to sponsor any bill in Nigeria that would promote gender equality? While she’s bogged down on petty things like “who opens a car door?” women like Dr Amadi are actually working to effect change. It’s because of her married women in Nigeria no longer need their husbands permission to obtain a passport. She used her money to take the government to court and won, this was just in 2009. I live in the ‘other parts’ of the world and unlike some Nigerian feminists, feminists here are more interested in fighting for policies that would create actual change. No one cares if you want to wash the cloth in your house or you don’t want to cook soup. While some Nigerian feminists are on twitter arguing about who pays for transport fare, feminists here are on twitter bombarding their representatives on sponsoring bills that promotes equal pay for equal work so they can afford the transport fare. Here, feminists march for change. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Romance / Re: Painful Sex Or She Doesn't Love Me? by liberalchick(f): 3:37pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Your wife should see a doctor, she might have a medical condition. From what you described she has entry pain. It’s caused by a lot factors one of which is poor lubrication. She probably doesn’t make enough estrogen that’s why her vagina is dry. Sex was normal during pregnancy because estrogen levels are off the charts when a woman is pregnant. Estrogen levels drop sharply after pregnancy. Since she doesn’t want to use a lubricant, you should try spending more time on You should tell her the lack of sex in the marriage is a very big issue for you and she should see a doctor. 5 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 12:48pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
Thank you. Enyimbamercedes: 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 12:39pm On Sep 10, 2019 |
lol do you really think N10m is enough for legal fees in a high profile case??!! What is that? Do you know the amount of work needed for a pre-trial? Please where is this gofundme? Please can you post a link? I searched and I didn’t see any digital footprint of this gofundme. The only thing I found was some gospel dude suggesting the Dakolos open one. babyfaceafrica: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 1:59am On Sep 10, 2019 |
It depends on the payment agreement between she and her lawyer. Some lawyers take on a law suit and agree to be paid when they get a favorable judgment. atonement12: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 1:43am On Sep 10, 2019 |
Okay so I just read the writ and the law suit is based on the 2002 rape not on the recent events. I am baffled, civil cases usually have a stat of limitation, it doesn’t seem like a viable law suit. Anyways, I guess we would’ve to wait and see if it gets tossed out because it has no legal bases. The judge will only toss out the case if it’s a frivolous law suit not because there is no verdict in the criminal case but the judge can freeze the civil proceedings. niaralandtopuser: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 11:32pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
That’s what the civil trial is for. He gets a fair hearing when his side presents their counter suit. The judge will hear both cases and give his/her ruling. In her suit, she is asking the court for N10m in lawyers fees and a public apology as compensation if she wins. Fatoyinbo will get his day in a civil court. Though the civil court is independent of the criminal court, some facts revealed during a civil trial can be made admissible in a criminal court. If the two cases have/share underlying facts then the judge will use his/her discretion to freeze the civil proceedings until there is a verdict in the criminal case. Investigations still going on for a possible criminal trial. chronique: 5 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 11:08pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
I was responding to someone that said she didn’t tell any of her family members. So I was just pointing out that she said she did in the interview. Ijawwomaninoyo: 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:36pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
No I wasn’t, but this account it’s in the interview where she broke the story. Ijawwomaninoyo: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:35pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
The judge will give ruling based on which side has a stronger argument. Fatoyinbo’s side will file a counter suit. niaralandtopuser: 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:27pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Oh I just read your comment right. I thought you replied thinking this was my opinion. Her lawyers can argue his denial of the rape caused a chain reaction that caused trauma or the church acted on behalf of the pastor to harass her or church resources were used to harass her causing her distress. This is the right process, the judicial system always has civil and criminal cases. Also, we shouldn’t forget the criminal case might NOT happen if the government after its investigations decides not to try the case for lack of evidence. niaralandtopuser: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:20pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
There is a civil recovery in a rape case. MobilityExpress: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:16pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Again, you are shooting the messenger I am telling you what is in the document are lawyers filed. The document says she is filling for damages and she is not seeking monetary compensation but a public apology. niaralandtopuser: |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:14pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:12pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
No need to shoot the messenger, I am just providing information I didn’t create the legal due process. niaralandtopuser: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:11pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Didn’t you ask how someone can be raped twice in her parent’s house and she didn’t inform family members? To your second question, yes it is very possible for rape victims to continue to live with their rapist. Some maids are raped regularly by their bosses. seborrhic: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:07pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
niaralandtopuser: That’s for the plaintiff to present in court and that’s for the judge to decide. Based on the documents, I think she is seeking emotional damages, since she came out with her story she has gone through emotional trauma. This is a civil case so there is no burden to prove criminal intent. |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 10:00pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
She did inform her family members and her brother went to the church to confront him. He was restrained by senior pastors. The same senior pastors with Fatoyinbo came to beg her parents in their house. Those pastors are still alive, it’s strange nobody in the Fatoyinbo camp has denied that. Watch the videos. seborrhic: 4 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 9:56pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Rape can be both civil and a criminal. Only the government can take a criminal case to court. niaralandtopuser: 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 9:54pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
This is a civil case not a criminal one. MobilityExpress: 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo: I Didn’t Demand N10 Million Compensation From Pastor Fatoyinbo by liberalchick(f): 9:51pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
The investigation is for the criminal case if the government (plaintiff) proceeds to take it to trial. This is a civil case, where the plaintiff is the victim. Different standards apply, the judge isn’t ruling on criminal intent but on compensation for damages. niaralandtopuser: 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Idea Of Feminism by liberalchick(f): 8:50pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
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Literature / Re: �•City Dreams•� (A Chicklit/YA Novel) by liberalchick(f): 8:29pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
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Romance / Re: My Idea Of Feminism by liberalchick(f): 8:23pm On Sep 09, 2019 |
Why and how did feminism start? The movement started to campaign for the rights of women at a time when women had little to NO rights. Just as how the civil rights started as a campaign for the rights of the black man during Jim Crow. Feminism’s ultimate goal is for women to achieve those rights which would ultimately lead to gender equality in society. A state in which men AND women both have equal access to opportunities. There can’t be gender equality if women don’t have access to opportunities that men have. For some reason you seem to think in order to campaign for those rights, women have to trample on the rights or choices of men or women have to be hypocritical in the face of injustice towards men. This rhetoric is what misogynists use in derailing the movement and unfortunately you have let them get inside your head. Phrases like “bitter women” is often used to belittle the movement. You are over compensating so as not be viewed as a man hater. Demanding for your rights so as to have equal opportunities as men doesn’t mean you take men’s away. Demanding that your behavior, choices, aspirations shouldn’t be judged differently because you’re a woman doesn’t mean you look the other way when the choice of a man is judged unfairly. As I have said many times on this forum, people’s choices should be respected. While feminism seek to fight for gender equality on the policy level, what people decide to do in their personal life is their business. I don’t know about women crying about a man’s choice to want a domestic wife. I can only speak for myself, I personally don’t have a problem with men that want traditional wives. I also don’t have a problem with women that want to be traditional wives. I would only have a problem if that lifestyle is forced upon me via laws or ‘culture’. Some men/women are independent and want dependent women/men; some men/women are dependent and want independent women/men; some men/women are independent and want independent women/men; wouldn’t it be a beautiful society if all of these varying choices/lifestyles can co-exist equally? Too much emphasis on personal choices i.e “who washes plate?” It detracts from the main purpose of the movement. Michellekabod2: 2 Likes |
Family / Re: What Is The Cost And Procedures For Adopting A Baby In Nigeria- Lagos? by liberalchick(f): 8:45pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Oh ok. Thank you for the info. sinaj: |
Family / Re: What Is The Cost And Procedures For Adopting A Baby In Nigeria- Lagos? by liberalchick(f): 8:01pm On Sep 08, 2019 |
Hi, please do you know the process if the adoptive parents are planning to take the child out of Nigeria? Thank you. sinaj: |
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