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Romance / Re: Looks Like It's About To Start Again by liberalchick(f): 3:18am On Aug 30, 2019 |
Even if you reach your last bus stop, you are still not immune. Most marriages/long term relationships will experience The seven-year itch, when it happens, you either divorce/separate or adapt. Scary stuff. OP, nice post. Fountainofyouth: 4 Likes |
Family / Re: My Life's A Mess by liberalchick(f): 5:12pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Ok. No worries, you can find lots of resources on the internet. You can also join a support online forum. I will look for some and post here later. Watercarrier: 2 Likes |
Crime / Re: Why I Collected N370k Settlement From My Daughter’s HIV+ Rapist - Dad by liberalchick(f): 4:41pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Oh ok, I see your point but I disagree. As a father he needed to fight for justice for his daughter. It’s also not about him and his economic situation, he wasn’t the victim. It doesn’t matter wether he gains anything or not. Why should the father even be entitled to gain anything? Why should he be thinking of economic expediency? Is it now okay for fathers to profit off their daughters’ rape? No one was thinking of the victim, no one fought for that girl, not even her father. obailala: 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Ladies, What Is The Most Annoying Question A Guy Has Ever Asked You? by liberalchick(f): 4:27pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
How many exes do you have? 42 Likes |
Crime / Re: Why I Collected N370k Settlement From My Daughter’s HIV+ Rapist - Dad by liberalchick(f): 4:22pm On Aug 29, 2019 |
Sending a criminal to jail is not just about punishment. It gives justice to the victim and pays a debt owed to society. So, the 14 year old didn’t get justice and the rapist is free to roam the streets to rape another unsuspecting victim. Society has failed his next victim. obailala: 5 Likes |
Sports / Re: Briana Williams Fails Drugs Test by liberalchick(f): 11:49am On Aug 29, 2019 |
Wow and we’re still waiting to see what would happen to Christian Coleman. |
Family / Re: Should They Go For Medical Test Before The Wedding? by liberalchick(f): 1:13am On Aug 29, 2019 |
The aim of marriage is NOT to produce kids. Speak for yourself, “MY aim of marriage is to produce kids”. GreatResearcher: 4 Likes |
Family / Re: My Life's A Mess by liberalchick(f): 12:50am On Aug 29, 2019 |
Yes they would because most Nigerians think there has to be a major event to cause your depression. Where are you located? Do you have access to therapists? If you are in Lagos I have one or two I can recommend. You can send me a message if you need help. You are already on the right track, knowing you need help and seeking one on a forum is good. Watercarrier: 5 Likes |
Sports / Re: Tobi Amusan Breaks 20-year-old African Games Record by liberalchick(f): 10:25pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
And that time is not even near her PB. She is in great form this season but the 100mH this season is very very competitive, it would be a great feat for her to medal in Doha. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Was I Wrong To Leave? by liberalchick(f): 9:22pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
OP, it’s normal to second guess yourself after a major decision. No matter how bad a marriage is, divorce or separation, while liberating in some situations is a very hard choice to make. Based on what you wrote, you didn’t make a mistake. Domestic violence isn’t something you want to endure in a marriage, or you want to expose your children to. The human psyche is amazing, we are able to dull our traumatic experiences so we can heal. You have been away for four months, your experiences are beginning to dull, you are yearning for something that isn’t there. If you go back, within a month you will remember why you left in the first place. Your husband has already checked out of the marriage, it’s time you do the same. It’s going to be very hard, but you have to try for yourself and your children. Going back when he hasn’t shown any remorse will be a disaster, nothing would have changed and you would have deleted any incentives for him to change. 18 Likes |
Family / Re: Was I Wrong To Leave? by liberalchick(f): 8:46pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
So what kind of quality of life is that? Your home is supposed to be your sanctuary and your safe space. How can you be in your house and you can’t talk? You risk hot slap if you open your mouth, is that one life? Couples quarrel every time, a marriage is broken if you can’t have healthy arguments without the fear of being physically battered. Mekenz: 20 Likes |
Romance / Re: See The Parting Gift A Random Guy Left On A Lady's Thighs After Dancing With Her by liberalchick(f): 8:23pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
lol at “uppercut” maybe the guy wore shorts. Eww AwkaetitiBabe: |
Family / Re: My Life's A Mess by liberalchick(f): 2:00pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
Op, you need to see a mental health professional, you are showing signs of depression. There are no major external stressors that should cause you this much sadness yet you are not happy with your life. Most people with your life would be happy and content but for some reason, you are unhappy and unfulfilled. It’s your brain, the hormones responsible for your emotions are getting their signals crossed. You need to see a professional that would help you. Do not think you are weird, strange or ungrateful, it’s more common than you think and you will be fine. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / Re: My Life's A Mess by liberalchick(f): 1:43pm On Aug 28, 2019 |
This is the real depression not the ones Nigerians conflate with sadness. A mental illness where even though your life is good, your brain/hormones tell you otherwise. You don’t need to have an ‘issue’ in your life to be depressed. calgaryFriend: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Crime / Re: Is This "Juju," Tricks Or Black Magic? Can Someone Explain What Happened? by liberalchick(f): 2:17am On Aug 27, 2019 |
Haha I remember growing up watching the failing super eagles and naive me used to wonder why our witches can’t help us win a World Cup. Magnoliaa: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: It Was A Harmless Office Friendship That Meant No Harm! by liberalchick(f): 11:48pm On Aug 26, 2019 |
Guest007: lol did you actually go to the website? |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 5:13pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
Tourists =\= Foreigners, typing otherwise will NOT make it true. That’s how facts work. Next time before you argue with someone’s post, take the time to actually read and comprehend, fact check your opinions, then post a rejoinder. Do not be in a haste to be emotional or confirm your biases and start going on a tangent that has absolutely nothing to do with what the poster said. It serves this thread no purpose. I actually agree with you, this back and forth makes no sense, there is a break in communication, you seem not to understand my posts. 2mch: 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 4:44pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
lol where is the backlash? From one ignorant person that doesn’t even know the meaning of the word ‘tourist’? You thought tourist meant foreigners, I only mentioned ‘locals’ when I said “Lagos beaches should be developed first for people that live in Lagos to enjoy before you worry about foreign tourists looking for prostitutes”. My posts are up there on this thread, go back and read them. 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 4:22pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
lol don’t project your lack of comprehension unto me. I posted my comments and it’s your choice to comprehend and respond. It’s not my fault you misunderstood and you went off on some wild tangent about prostitutes and ancestral lands. Lagos beaches still have a lot of work to do to reach its full potential. Modified: OP, apologies for derailing this thread, I hope people will continue to post beautiful pictures of Lagos beaches. 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 3:31pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
I don’t want to derail this beautiful thread, we are both going in circles and you keep thinking the beaches have to be like Miami before Lagos beaches can be more utilized. As I said before, Nigerians might be going to the beaches before my ancestors but how many? Most of the beaches are dirty and poorly maintained, for some, the access to get there can be treacherous or the agberos that are posted there. If enough people do not go, how much money can they make from entrance fees? You just want to make this tribal and argue, deep down you know Lagos coastlines have not lived up to its potential. 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 3:10pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
Nigerians may have been going to the beach before my ancestors existed, doesn’t meant it isn’t still underutilized. Indigenous vendors and beach owners don’t make enough for what the coast is worth. Money is left on the table. You don’t have to sell your beaches or your heritage to get full value of what your beaches are worth. Simple. 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 3:00pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
lol ok. It’s not my fault you thought the word ‘tourist’ only meant foreigners. 2mch: 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:53pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
No I won’t get away from your comments, if you can’t handle the heat then don’t post on a public forum. Again, you are not the spokesman for indigenous Lagosians, your primitive and archaic opinions are yours. We are talking about Lagos beaches being developed enough for people in Lagos to use and stimulate the Lagos economy, you are talking about prostitutes and ancestral lands 2mch: 6 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:47pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
‘Tourist’ doesn’t meant foreigners. Someone from Ogun state touring/visiting the beaches in Lagos is a tourist. Joromi12: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:42pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
As I said before that is your personal opinion, you don’t speak for ALL the indigenous Lagosians. Are the beaches even developed enough for locals to enjoy it? Get it to that level first, before you start moaning about non existent tourists crowding your beaches. 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:31pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
lol I am sure you don’t speak for every indigenous Lagosians. Especially those that will make money from tourist Naira. 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:27pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
Huh?? So Nigerians don’t love the beach? With the population in Lagos, I am sure lots of money can still be generated. Our resources are underutilized. Have we even developed it enough for Nigerians to spend their money here before we talk of foreigners? 2mch: 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:18pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
The coastlines in Lagos are so untapped. There is a stretch of untapped coastline along Satellite town that leads to Benin Republic. I once went to a private beach there, it’s accessible by boat. I can’t remember the name. So much money left on the table. AroOkigbo: 7 Likes |
Travel / Re: South Africa denies Nigeria visa-free status, grants Ghana - Vanguard by liberalchick(f): 1:56pm On Jul 12, 2019 |
Nope. Huge population is not the problem. When a country has more than half of its population living below the poverty line, no country will issue free visas to such country. America’s population is bigger yet its citizens can go visa free to a country with a population the size of Lagos. What’s the difference? If most Nigerians are wealthy enough to spend tourist Naira in SA and come back, even if we are a trillion in Nigeria, SA will issue that free visa. So instead of Nigerians being mad at SA, we should fix our economy so other countries will want us in their countries. Rossikk: 4 Likes |
Family / Re: My Fiancee Was Raped By Her Boss by liberalchick(f): 5:56am On Jul 11, 2019 |
Is this true or you are just another troll? You should report him to the local police station. Then, report him to his bosses so they know their employee is abusing his power/authority. When you do, you should be ready to support your fiancée because she is going to get a lot of backlash. Unfortunately, she might not get justice by way of a conviction or a dismissal at his job. Rape is hard to prove when the victim is a mature adult, the perp is not a stranger and no grievous bodily harm. Her boss can say it was consensual if the pregnancy turns out to be his. Companies should frown at boss and subordinate sexual ‘relationships’ because those relationships are unequal and they are rarely consensual. Also, there is little to no protection for an employee that is fired for refusing to sleep with her boss. Op, since you know your fiancee and you believe she was raped, this is the time she needs you most. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Do intertribal Marriages work? by liberalchick(f): 3:34am On Jul 11, 2019 |
I personally don’t think there is anything wrong in marrying someone from a different tribe other than yours. If you are dealing with your spouse alone, there shouldn’t be a problem with inter-tribal marriages. However, in Nigerian marriages you rarely marry just the individual, you have to marry the tribe too. It’s advisable for women to be much more careful in marrying into a different tribe/culture. There are some tribes that have cultural practices that are not favorable to wives/women. Also, you have to know the answer to “what will be the dominant culture in your marriage?” And be willing to have your children raised in that culture. For reasons above, most men and women tend to marry into cultures they are familiar with. I see how a Yoruba woman/man would experience culture shock when exposed to Igbo culture. Igbo culture tends to be more conservative than the Yoruba culture. In bigger cities, inter-tribal marriages are much more common. Yes! There are many successful inter-tribal marriages, it depends on the individual who you are going to marry. I know one example is not a compelling statistic(s), but my mom is a Hausa Muslim married to my Christian dad from Rivers State. My dad was very protective of my mother and he made it very clear to his family that my mom was not to be some punching bag in the guise of “it’s culture”. I am also in an inter-tribal marriage, I married into an amazing Igbo family. I also have Isoko, Igbo, & Yoruba men as my brothers-in-law. 18 Likes 1 Share |
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