ejimatic:
He is legally alive now.Also disolution of the first marriage was not presented before the court but legal mising of the first husband.

chingle5:


Sorry what is asexual

RichieMichie:


We don't dismiss Asexuals, atleast not me. People barely know of their existence because they're like 1% of the population. Even within LGBT+ Nigeria, members do not know of them. It's up to them to make known their existence. I have never met an Asexual person either online or offline. All I know about them is the little I have read about Asexuality and asexuals

RichieMichie:


Tell that your asexual friend to tell his people to start fighting and not leave the whole thing for the lesbians gays and transwomen
Same thing bisexuals are doing, leaving the whole fight for homosexuals.

bukatyne:


I don't want to chase the sex angle so let me say this and drop it:

1. If a dominant husband tells his wife to 'lie on the couch for him', does the wife have the option to say no?
2. If the husband is to dictate the pace of sex, then the wife's consent might not matter much because whoever has the consent to give dictates the pace of sex in that relationship.

bukatyne:


The above is also from number 4:

If you would not ask your submissive wife if she wants to have sex or order her to do stuffs without the option of no, where is the consent?

This thread is not about sex or consent, my observation is what I would have liked to ask the author because she spoke about conflicting concepts there.

However, this is in no way a green light for you to do anything your submissive wife is not OK with because submissiveness doesn’t equal rape. The fact that you’re husband and wife is irrelevant, and just because you’re a married couple, it doesn’t mean that you have the right to do anything she doesn’t feel like doing or that you are entitled to force her into having sex with you Kinky sex ideas are one thing, but sexual abuse is something completely different, and you should always have in mind not to cross that line. Remember that consent is always crucial and that you can’t start doing anything without that

Hathor5:
Sunnimuslim,
what you went through is terrible and it is sad that people act like this is normal. This is not normal, this is abuse. I hope God will give you the strength to heal from the abuse you were subjected to and I pray you will use your experience to do better but I also want you to know that it is not your duty to forgive your brother just because you happen to be related. Forgiveness can't be forced. You will allow it when the time comes and I hope you will allow it for your own sake and your own peace of mind and not because it is expected of you. Take your time. You will be fine. For you to open up here tells me that you are on your way to finding the peaceful resolution that you seek. As of now, feel free to keep your distance from your 'brother'. Sometimes the family we are born to is not the family we need. It can be hard but it can also make you stronger. I am glad you are old enough to stand up for yourself but be careful it doesn't get out of control and someone gets seriously hurt in one of the fights. Your brother hasn't changed. He must have a lot of issues to act the way he does. No sane and content human being behaves like this. I hope that understanding this can help you see that he needs help too but it is not your place to help people who have not asked to be helped. It should be your priority to protect yourself, best by keeping your distance, at least for the time being.

Klass99:


I tell people who care to listen that the people who love us the most, won't always be family.

If you have good/decent people as family by all means celebrate and enjoy them, if not.......... you're on a very long thing.

Family is everything & blood is thicker than water, are over-used and abused concepts that amuse me to no end.

placeofallure:

Be able to discern your Judas from your Peter. Peter had a bad day, Judas had a bad heart. Peter, you restore, Judas, you release. You got to know who to restore and who to release.
I know who I can live with and who I cannot. Don't judge people until you have walked in their shoes. Thank you.

@ Uyailncomparabl thank you for not breaking the sister code.

yourgistpartner:


Fathia Balogun changed her name o, if I can remember well. I think her husband dragged her to court over the name issue sef. guess the lady can keep the name if the husband is not a petty being

mariahAngel:

area74:
Dear family,

I have created this topic to get wider opinions from the experienced and especially those who are married because sometimes when take decisions or react to situations they may not be objective but fueled by our personal biases.

What is your take on parents especially mothers calling spouses everyday in marriages? Mother-in-law calling her daughter everyday or mother-in-law calling her son everyday.

Personally, I don't like it or support my mother-in-law calling my wife everyday. Situations like this will make it inevitable for my in-laws to know everything going on in our lives. I believe when people are married, they should be left alone to live their lives.

Please what are your opinions about this topic?

frozen70:


The choice of dropping an ex name goes two ways

It's either both parties agrees she keeps the me after divorce

Or she drops the me for her to return to her maiden name and either remarry bear the new husband's name or retains her maiden name

There is nothing like she bears it before and there is no big deal about it

frozen70:


Real divorce from a higher court drops name

Customary divorce to me is like a separation that will lead to legal divorce and so may or may not continue to bear his name

Belafonte:


Nigerian men cheating is irrelevant as far as this issue is concerned. The issue is that this man is bothered about his wife not playing ball. Barring rape and fulfilling his sexual desires elsewhere, this guy will die with a dry dîck. That is the issue

Men that don't open threads have already fond outside help . The OP's friend is obviously a simp otherwise he'd know what to do

Belafonte:


Men that don't open threads have already fond outside help. The OP's friend is obviously a simp otherwise he'd know what to do

Palema007:
Well it seems some women are dams here, always wet and flowing Ever ready to take Men anytime any day After all their bodies belong to their Men and they have no right to object their advances.



Lol .

Romangalactic:
Who else saw this coming, raise your hand.

https://www.nairaland.com/6012731/police-clear-dbanj-rape-seyitan

No evidence, no nothing.

There issa big difference btw court of public opinion and court of law, clout chasers need to learn the difference.
Sentiments nor dey win court case

Romangalactic:

What do u make of the outcome now

fieryy:


Yeah, but my point is every secondary student is a science student. We first had NaWi, which is a combination of biology, physics and chemistry in class 5-6. In class 7-10, it became more specific, so we had a Biology class, Physics class and Chemistry Class.

Ramos16:


Correct me if I am wrong, I know only high level details of the case, but I do remember seeing something like that flying around, the one he asked for 100million, if that case is filed in a court of law, the police is supposed to pick up the accused immediately and can hold them for up to a period of 24 hours legally

Romangalactic:

Okay, so will she face legal action as the alternative?

Ramos16:


Excuse me, what do you mean by intimidation, are you saying you will prefer for him to do nothing?

And also he did file a lawsuit