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|Family / Re: Should I Have An Abortion? by liberalchick(f): 3:08pm On Jul 14|
OP, you made a mistake bringing this here on NL, most Nigerians are very hypocritical and judgmental. They would rather preach to you from their moral pulpit and make this about themselves than actually answer the question.
It would be hard for strangers on the internet to give you a hard yes or no, the choice is ultimately yours. We can only give you opinions that may or may not help you make a decision. The two people that your final decision will affect are 1. An innocent child, 2. YOU.
Are you certain you have a stable enough life to bring a child to be part of that life? Are you stable enough to be a single mother? Being a single mother is very very hard. Are you stable enough to go through an abortion that you might later regret? At the end of the day people here will preach and judge but they wouldn’t be there to share the consequences of your ultimate choice. So, before you make this decision that is likely to change the course of your life, you need to give a thoughtful consideration on all your options.
Abstinence as a form of birth control in theory is 100% but in real life for some, it’s a disaster. You obviously have an active sexual life, nothing to be ashamed of, now you need to make it healthy and safe for you. Abstinence doesn’t prepare you for that ONE moment of weakness. As someone said, abortion is not a form of birth control, so you need to get an OB-GYN to put you on a birth control protocol. You also need to insist on a condom during sex, there are STDs out there worse than HIV. If you want to be celibate, fine but you have to put yourself on birth control first.
You’ve obviously made series of bad choices in your life and you are suffering from the consequences, so rather than pile on you, I hope you get to make a decision that would ultimately be best for you and you also need to look back on those choices, figure out what led you to make them, learn from your mistakes and learn to do better for yourself.
An abortion done in a sterile environment by qualified professionals rarely leads to infertility.
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|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 5:13pm On Jul 12|
Tourists =\= Foreigners, typing otherwise will NOT make it true. That’s how facts work. Next time before you argue with someone’s post, take the time to actually read and comprehend, fact check your opinions, then post a rejoinder. Do not be in a haste to be emotional or confirm your biases and start going on a tangent that has absolutely nothing to do with what the poster said. It serves this thread no purpose.
I actually agree with you, this back and forth makes no sense, there is a break in communication, you seem not to understand my posts.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 4:44pm On Jul 12|
lol where is the backlash? From one ignorant person that doesn’t even know the meaning of the word ‘tourist’? You thought tourist meant foreigners, I only mentioned ‘locals’ when I said “Lagos beaches should be developed first for people that live in Lagos to enjoy before you worry about foreign tourists looking for prostitutes”. My posts are up there on this thread, go back and read them.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 4:22pm On Jul 12|
lol don’t project your lack of comprehension unto me. I posted my comments and it’s your choice to comprehend and respond. It’s not my fault you misunderstood and you went off on some wild tangent about prostitutes and ancestral lands. Lagos beaches still have a lot of work to do to reach its full potential.
Modified: OP, apologies for derailing this thread, I hope people will continue to post beautiful pictures of Lagos beaches.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 3:31pm On Jul 12|
I don’t want to derail this beautiful thread, we are both going in circles and you keep thinking the beaches have to be like Miami before Lagos beaches can be more utilized.
As I said before, Nigerians might be going to the beaches before my ancestors but how many? Most of the beaches are dirty and poorly maintained, for some, the access to get there can be treacherous or the agberos that are posted there. If enough people do not go, how much money can they make from entrance fees? You just want to make this tribal and argue, deep down you know Lagos coastlines have not lived up to its potential.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 3:10pm On Jul 12|
Nigerians may have been going to the beach before my ancestors existed, doesn’t meant it isn’t still underutilized. Indigenous vendors and beach owners don’t make enough for what the coast is worth. Money is left on the table. You don’t have to sell your beaches or your heritage to get full value of what your beaches are worth. Simple.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 3:00pm On Jul 12|
lol ok. It’s not my fault you thought the word ‘tourist’ only meant foreigners.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:53pm On Jul 12|
No I won’t get away from your comments, if you can’t handle the heat then don’t post on a public forum.
Again, you are not the spokesman for indigenous Lagosians, your primitive and archaic opinions are yours. We are talking about Lagos beaches being developed enough for people in Lagos to use and stimulate the Lagos economy, you are talking about prostitutes and ancestral lands
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:47pm On Jul 12|
‘Tourist’ doesn’t meant foreigners. Someone from Ogun state touring/visiting the beaches in Lagos is a tourist.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:42pm On Jul 12|
As I said before that is your personal opinion, you don’t speak for ALL the indigenous Lagosians.
Are the beaches even developed enough for locals to enjoy it? Get it to that level first, before you start moaning about non existent tourists crowding your beaches.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:31pm On Jul 12|
lol I am sure you don’t speak for every indigenous Lagosians. Especially those that will make money from tourist Naira.
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:27pm On Jul 12|
Huh?? So Nigerians don’t love the beach? With the population in Lagos, I am sure lots of money can still be generated. Our resources are underutilized. Have we even developed it enough for Nigerians to spend their money here before we talk of foreigners?
|Travel / Re: Top 5 Beaches Every Lagosian Must Visit by liberalchick(f): 2:18pm On Jul 12|
The coastlines in Lagos are so untapped. There is a stretch of untapped coastline along Satellite town that leads to Benin Republic. I once went to a private beach there, it’s accessible by boat. I can’t remember the name.
So much money left on the table.
|Travel / Re: South Africa denies Nigeria visa-free status, grants Ghana - Vanguard by liberalchick(f): 1:56pm On Jul 12|
Nope. Huge population is not the problem. When a country has more than half of its population living below the poverty line, no country will issue free visas to such country. America’s population is bigger yet its citizens can go visa free to a country with a population the size of Lagos. What’s the difference? If most Nigerians are wealthy enough to spend tourist Naira in SA and come back, even if we are a trillion in Nigeria, SA will issue that free visa.
So instead of Nigerians being mad at SA, we should fix our economy so other countries will want us in their countries.
|Family / Re: My Fiancee Was Raped By Her Boss by liberalchick(f): 5:56am On Jul 11|
Is this true or you are just another troll?
You should report him to the local police station. Then, report him to his bosses so they know their employee is abusing his power/authority. When you do, you should be ready to support your fiancée because she is going to get a lot of backlash.
Unfortunately, she might not get justice by way of a conviction or a dismissal at his job. Rape is hard to prove when the victim is a mature adult, the perp is not a stranger and no grievous bodily harm. Her boss can say it was consensual if the pregnancy turns out to be his. Companies should frown at boss and subordinate sexual ‘relationships’ because those relationships are unequal and they are rarely consensual. Also, there is little to no protection for an employee that is fired for refusing to sleep with her boss.
Op, since you know your fiancee and you believe she was raped, this is the time she needs you most.
|Family / Re: Do intertribal Marriages work? by liberalchick(f): 3:34am On Jul 11|
I personally don’t think there is anything wrong in marrying someone from a different tribe other than yours.
If you are dealing with your spouse alone, there shouldn’t be a problem with inter-tribal marriages. However, in Nigerian marriages you rarely marry just the individual, you have to marry the tribe too. It’s advisable for women to be much more careful in marrying into a different tribe/culture. There are some tribes that have cultural practices that are not favorable to wives/women. Also, you have to know the answer to “what will be the dominant culture in your marriage?” And be willing to have your children raised in that culture.
For reasons above, most men and women tend to marry into cultures they are familiar with. I see how a Yoruba woman/man would experience culture shock when exposed to Igbo culture. Igbo culture tends to be more conservative than the Yoruba culture. In bigger cities, inter-tribal marriages are much more common.
Yes! There are many successful inter-tribal marriages, it depends on the individual who you are going to marry. I know one example is not a compelling statistic(s), but my mom is a Hausa Muslim married to my Christian dad from Rivers State. My dad was very protective of my mother and he made it very clear to his family that my mom was not to be some punching bag in the guise of “it’s culture”. I am also in an inter-tribal marriage, I married into an amazing Igbo family. I also have Isoko, Igbo, & Yoruba men as my brothers-in-law.
|Family / Re: How Does It Really Get To This Stage In Marriage?? by liberalchick(f): 2:13am On Jul 10|
When you put it like that, pretending is not always intended, it’s human nature to always want to put the best foot forward. Living with someone 24/7 gives you access to front row seat to ALL the person, warts and all.
|Family / Re: How Does It Really Get To This Stage In Marriage?? by liberalchick(f): 1:49am On Jul 10|
Because dating and leaving is different from staying and living for 24/7.
|Family / Re: How Does It Really Get To This Stage In Marriage?? by liberalchick(f): 1:48am On Jul 10|
Well, most/some people ‘pretend’ a lot when they are courting/dating, it’s impossible to hide the real you in a marriage. Life is too short to endure a toxic marriage.
|Sports / Serena Williams Cried And Apologized To Naomi Osaka by liberalchick(f): 12:12am On Jul 10|
In a new Harper Bazar essay, Serena finally speaks on her outbursts at last year’s US open. She acknowledged that she owed Naomi Osaka an apology. So, she wrote a letter to Naomi, stating how tennis media tried to come in between two black tennis players. She also said Naomi replied and she cried when she saw her reply. Naomi thanked her for her role in more black girls showing interest in tennis, and how Serena is the only person she knows that stands up for what she believes in.
|Family / Re: Do Men Here Have Sisters At All And Still Bash Women This Way? by liberalchick(f): 5:05pm On Jul 08|
From the OP. Go read his post, it’s there.
|Family / Re: Do Men Here Have Sisters At All And Still Bash Women This Way? by liberalchick(f): 11:58pm On Jul 07|
To some of what LordKO said, you are NO different from the men here on NL. You are a misogynist with a smile doesn’t mean you deserve a cookie.
|Romance / Re: You Belong To The World’s Rarest Personality-type If You Have These Abilities. by liberalchick(f): 11:40pm On Jul 07|
Gbeborun INTP! Also leaning towards INFP.
|TV/Movies / Re: Interior Design Of The Big Brother Naija Bbnaija 2019 House (Photos) by liberalchick(f): 11:30am On Jul 02|
How are they wasting money? This is plain ol capitalism. Judging by the popularity of this show in Nigeria, I am sure this company will make their returns many times over, their ROI will be through the roof. I hope they used a Nigerian company.
|Romance / Re: Did Pastor Fatoyinbo(coza) Really Raped Busola? Another View by liberalchick(f): 11:12am On Jul 02|
If you watched the the whole video then you would know the bolded is FALSE
Most people that have opinions online did not even bother to watch the video. You are either a COZA member purposely spreading fake news to damage her credibility or you just like to repeat what you see online without confirming its authenticity or you don’t care if it’s true or not as long as it confirms your bias.
It’s your opinion/view but if you are going to pretend to have an objective commentary at least watch the damn video.
|Family / Re: 16 Years With The Same Woman by liberalchick(f): 10:51pm On Jul 01|
This is a beautiful thread, a break from the constant woman bashing.
You sound like a good, supportive, loving husband. Your wife is lucky to have you. My husband and I are 16 years together too. Married for 12, dated for 4.
Congratulations! Wishing you more beautiful years with your lovely wife.
|Romance / Re: I Believe Bisola Dakolo by liberalchick(f): 1:17am On Jul 01|
I like how you people always give international examples as if our cultures are the same. Are rape victims in America treated the same way in Nigeria? Nigeria that rape carries a stigma, no girl wants to be associated with rape. Do Nigerian women behave like Western women? Are they as bold as Western women? Busola is Nigerian, the pastor is Nigerian, it happened in a Nigerian City/ Nigerian society. Can we have enough examples in Nigeria that proves Nigerian women overwhelmingly lie about rape, enough to assume that most rape cases are false?
|Romance / Re: I Believe Bisola Dakolo by liberalchick(f): 12:53am On Jul 01|
And who is responsible for him bouncing back? Nigerians. Today people made fun of those protesting in front of the church. Rapists have found a very comfortable home in the Nigerian culture.
|Romance / Re: I Believe Bisola Dakolo by liberalchick(f): 12:47am On Jul 01|
Obviously, this rape case was 15 years ago, the state can never take it to court, they will never get a conviction. If we had a sane law enforcement, what they would do is look for a more recent case, with fresh facts and evidence. Men like these don’t change, there are still victims out there. Bill Cosby was convicted on his more recent sexual assault.
|Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo, Aaramide Abe, Goge Africa, Others Speak At Boss Lady Conference by liberalchick(f): 10:22pm On Jun 30|
Go and watch the video it’s available for free on the internet.
|Celebrities / Re: Busola Dakolo, Aaramide Abe, Goge Africa, Others Speak At Boss Lady Conference by liberalchick(f): 9:48pm On Jun 30|
Well we can never explain why some victims behave the way they do. Have you ever heard of Stockholm Syndrome? Even though it was first used for kidnapped victims, psychologists have started using it for other traumatic experience. Why do some young women that are raped at home still stay, sleep and eat in the same house with their rapist? Why do some kidnapped victims even if they have a way to escape remain with their captors? Humans use repression of traumatic events as a coping mechanism.
Nice try, you didn’t answer my questions though. Rape apologist.
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