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Eulalia:
Work more on building yourself and getting a better job or business before thinking of having a girl or even settling down. If you start dating a girl at this level, chances are that she might get pregnant ( as it's the world standard) and then you'll start considering marriage. At this level? With 30k as income Naaa...that is not a good way to start a family otherwise you'll end up depressed even if your woman is working.

Pray that God blesses you with a better job. .

hes 37 n needs to start hving kids . He’s salary won’t skyrocket. If he will make it, he would while married

Our God is not asleep ! But they can’t stop corona virus from killing them . If they could convert the deaths to the south they would hv , but God big pass them

SammyChi1988:
Everything is all about the grace of God... There are people with HND, BSc, MSc etc yet people with O'level is far more better than them.... Africans stop deceiving yourselves...

lol u are the one deceiving urself , there r no jobs for graduates n jobs for ssce holders? Right !! lol , well ssce holders r doing well but it also depends on what u mean by doing well ,, like we are all different. I for example see doing well as attaining degrees,, hving relevant importance in a company , and hving a back up business. we r all different.

HammedOlanaija:
Of course but all least spoiling in a decent way is called rape
But the abnormal part is abnormal rape
That kind of kid will continue from where you stop and start hurting and burning everyone close to him/here with her private part

are we gonna ignore the fact most gay peeps r rapist! Many of these gays started as a kid when their gay uncle open their asses .especially here in Nigeria . Are u gonna ignore that part , that gay male prisoners rape their fellow inmate? Unlike femal prisons? Gayism is the highest form of immorality.

saladinnoir:
Your last paragraph, when did i say i don't need people around me i simply said I'm comfortable being alone, my point in all this is do things because you want to do them because you enjoy not because people are making you feel inferior and you feel the need to conform

okay cool, that’s a better perspective.

123papas:
i understand your plight but how you guys travel from one state to another because of kpanshing is unbelievable

humilitypays:
The reason the man rejected you is not that you are a HND holder, it is how you presented yourself plus how you sold yourself to her father when he asked about your parents and job.


Everybody in Nigeria is scared of poverty, including President Buhari that was why he hurriedly married his daughters out to sons of billionaires cos even as a President he was scared of the future of his kids lol


I can boldly tell you that most of my close friends are HND holders and they earn far more than most master degree holders, most have built their own houses, some building second houses for rent and driving their dream cars and married to ladies with far greater profile than your girlfriend.

For those screaming Masters Degree, what is a masters degree in present day Nigeria and the world when there are no jobs She's only lucky she has a connected father that helped her get a job after her Msc if not, her Msc cert would have expired in her clothing box like thousands of people in Nigeria and even outside Nigeria.


In the US for instance, if you like have 2 Msc in all those yeye courses they study in Nigeria like Marketing, Accounting, Microbiology, Biochemistry, Geology, Business Administration, Public Administration, etc, people with ordinary certificate in Nursing, and other STEM courses will earn far more than you and even get employed before you will ever get a job, so what's the fuss about


Most IOCS and top FMCGs employ mostly HND graduates; especially the engineering guys and they grow faster than most other graduates and fields.


Dangote Refinery, Fertiliser, P&G, Oil Test, Shell, Mobil, NLNG, NBC, etc employ mostly Engineering graduates with HND and most of them earn far more than Bsc and Msc graduate s, so op don't let the man's action push you to depression, it is not about your HND certificate, it is about what you are currently earning, about your financial status now; probably you went to the man's house on a taxi, and dressed like an Oshogbo man, just upgrade yourself because the whole world is afraid of poverty that is why everybody is running away from poor people, not that poor people are poisonous.


Repackage yourself, there are far better ladies ahead to meet, the girl profile is not even that high to warrant the father talking nonsense, ordinary Babcock and Covenant university, what will he say about those that trained their daughters in ivy League schools in UK, US, etc He couldn't even afford to send her abroad to study where she would have met sons and daughters of Queens and Kings yet he is discriminating, life sha.


Op you are a man, man no get bad market when it comes to marriage, a man is always a good market when it comes to marriage, the only problem a man has in life is to get money. Go and get money, you will meet far better ladies with higher profile than the ordinary Babcock graduate of a girl with valueless Msc from Otta farm school....focus on moving to a better company that pays better using your work experience and once you start earning higher and start packaging yourself better, you will meet even foreign ladies with royal family background, for a man, it's all about money and your packaging. The man is only doing his daughter not you. He should visit big organisations in Nigeria and outside Nigeria and see ladies in executive positions with even PhD being used and dumped by Gigolo boys who didn't even finish secondary school....some are begging guys for marriage with all their PhD and wealth, it will soon clear from his eyes, I hate irrational people


If the yeye school his daughter attended and the yeye Bsc and Masters was that special, why couldn't his daughter use them to secure a wonderful job on her own with her father helping her to get a job Of what use is her schooling to obtain Bsc and Msc if she couldn't secure a good job on her own without her Father's help Yeye people

i agree with a lot u said but that part is a full blown lie . Do not be decieved. As an HNd holder u must further or it will take many years to get a promotion, people who hire HND holders want cheap labour . So u futher to be promoted. Same with bsc but their start up pay is not as low as Hnd holders

humilitypays:
He does not need to register any PGD to satisfy a foolish, insensitive man or people....all the op need now is more work experience in his field and an upgrade to his CV to showcase his experience, roles, on the job achievements, and maybe do some certification in his field to enable him get a better paying job in a more stable organization, and from there he can go for PGD and Msc after he must have stabilised his finances and career path.


Acquiring degrees without relevant work experience is stupidity in our present world. Experience count more than degrees in the world of engineering which the op belongs

So untrue . I hv a friend doing his masters in chemical engineering, in other to get a better job , he’s working in a small engineering company and trust me when he’s done , he’s CV would be bam �

nurusystem:
my guy you have tried, but leave her alone, she is not the only girl.when god will do it she will later marry primary school graduate.... HND is a name M.sc is a name.some M.sc graduate are Olodos at times they consult HND for help.

To me her dad is making mistake. by the time the girl enter 40years his eyes go clear, when guys go just dey collect they clear. ojoro man

leave Olodo out of it ,, u got the degree! And that’s a major achievement

dangoteinlaw:
Chai see comments!!! The thread further reveals how hypocritical humans are and also shows that's how it will always remain. If this thread anout a yahooboy caught now these comments about class now will suddenly change to words like "get any honest job and be earning the little you you are earning " or comments like "as long as he is working honestly it is okay " this guy went to school and got a job no matter how little but see discrimination.


I will continue to say it, get money wether honestly or dishonesty or whatever means even by ritual just get money because humans are cruel and hypocritical by nature. You won't like what you will see if you no get money ooo

is it only yahoo that brings money !!!!
I hv a friend that isn’t married till today cause the guy is a yahoo boy, her father also refused!! They even hv kids but her papa no gree , her father is a judge

Just pick ur class . How can a father spend millions on he’s daughter so she marries just any body, it’s not possible . I ain’t even surprised

I keep saying this , follow ur class . That girl is not in ur level ,, ur degree is one n ur pocket is another ,, with how hard it is to get a job in Nigeria HND is almost a waste , na grace just Dey help some people

If u were the father u think u would hv done different? some fathers won’t allow their kids marry any guy with out hving a masters degree . .. fathers dey o! Fathers who pick their kids spouse.... n if u lay ur hands on their daughter, they can send u to jail o! Leave that girl please .

saladinnoir:
Try to give a solid retort based on a solid argument it gives you more credibility no one believes you're lambasting us rather you're making yourself look ignorant by jumping to conclusion, and making assertions without proof, i can tell that I'm more confident than most extroverts i know so much so they call me brave

see u hv to read my comment again , like who says I am lambasting anyone? Breath in and out n read my comment again ,, fact are facts n it’s very glaring on this thread, and I am definitely not ignorant. If u are a confident person , kudos . Not many are.

People like u cm up saying u don’t need people around u blah blah blah ,, r the most pathetic ones , because u all hv a better life on the outside. While u encourage these people to be the way they are .

saladinnoir:
I agree with your first paragraph(but it doesn't nullify my point, most people lives are underwhelming are routine), depression can't come i have other friends its just that he's special and i honestly don't mind being alone my friends were a conscious choice, again you are overhyping the experience there's no better experience than living life on your terms and enjoying it the way you wish not trying to conform to a societal ideal that doesn't appeal to you( and how many extroverts will you think will even be remembered) like i said you're making generalisation I'd say most introverts have a neutral disposition and react due to experience not everyone is keen on wasting their time and most conversations( and people in general, infact most people you meet won't contribute positively to your existence) are a waste of time
And pls elaborate and what is "with so much happening in this world n u never experienced a few" e no dey pass Bleep, party( and for the more productive ones politics) when you're young, then work and responsibility when you're older

ur last paragraph, no be just Bleep , party , many introverts don’t go out at all n never hv ,, u see it as nothing cause u hv had the experience, I hv gone out for get togethers and all , parties , and all but I don’t enjoy them as much as I enjoy staying in my house , don’t mean I didn’t enjoy them at all . That’s going to be me lying to myself.

There is need for introverts to encourage themselves to get out and be more interactive, some agree they hv a problem, while some use pride to deceive themselves n its baffling .

I read this thread and I am depressed on behalf of many people here , feel like giving them a big hug n being friends with them ,,, but then many think they need friends but won’t know how to behave around people for people to continue beings around them , most r never really happy n that’s a vibe people run away from...

I felt highly emotional in this thread , annoyed and sad at the same time.

Gaggi:
I am an introvert but I'm shocked by the stories I'm reading here. Alot of you actually need some psychological help, you're timid and a social misfit, probably due to abuse during childhood or something.
Introvert isn't timidity, neither is it being afraid of others. It's about enjoying your own time but interacting with others when need be.

Inability to interact with others at all is a psychological problem. One should seek medical help for such a problem. Introverts have friends and partners. I'm married and have couple of friends and loads of acquaintances.

I mostly spend time with myself but I don't also run away from people. I don't think a lot of you guys here are introverts. You are socially awkward. What I may term s social misfit. Please seek help quickly.

I also noticed people talking about being trampled on. I don't talk much, hardly interact deeply with acquaintances, neighbours, colleagues, workers etc but I notice I'm very highly respected. It seems nobody wants to offend me. They talk to me with so much respect, even those older than me that it baffles me. I still don't understand why. This has made me disregard the notion that quiet people are trampled on. The reverse has always been the case for me.

goshhhh , thank you !! same here . People like me and respect me, I hardly speak , so they r curious of what I hv to say .

saladinnoir:
I feel the need to put this here, there's nothing hype about being an extrovert I've pushed myself to act and speak like them alot of the time believe you're not missing anything the same thing you talk is the same things they talk about(basically whats happening around) and believe me when i say most people are the same and unremarkable
Pls don't push yourself to try what they like, I've done it for you (e no dey ever to pass social event, partying, clubbing, smoking, womanizing) infact the only thing in alot of extroverted mens life is womanising(and you know them too, the type that if theres no girl around bam life don end, no interests or hobbies)you'll quickly find yourself irritated and wondering just why you decided to come, for those of you feeling lonely(going out and befriending a hundred people wont help you, you'll still be lonely, loneliness isn't a lack of human interaction its a lack of human connectivity basically being with the right people) get a reliable friend and hold them, honestly if I'm with my best friend i couldn't care about anything else.

LOL there r many introverts who smoke and drink tho , just for ur info , many introvert who don’t go to school or read books ,, drop outs. Introverts who ain’t that smart .

And please can u just please stop deceiving urself , with so much happening in this world n u never experienced a few , if u die tomorrow what will u say u hv experienced in life. U just got to put urself out there sometimes ,, what If u and that ur best friend stop talking tomorrow?? Full blown depression.

U don’t need to mingle to make people wanna be around u , u just hv to got a welcoming attitude. What many introverts lack .

How on earth will they get a realiable friend, if the larger population of the world r extroverted and they feel they r too special to hv a welcoming attitude around people?

U hv done it , can u allow others do it and hv their own experience. Like seriously? Let them hv the liberty to choose which they Like

saladinnoir:
Can you pls explain just how pride relates to an inferiority complex, introverts are for the most part far less proud than extroverts, we simply see no sense in mingling when there's no common ground and it tells heavily on your intelligence when you draw upon a religious demographic as proof for your assertions

see them gradually exposing themselves.. inferiority complex is the reason many feel lambasting I am a introvert every where will give them confidence but it never does. Religious demography in what sense , is it news that most deeper life r introvert? Like u don’t know?

NextD18:
You earn 30k monthly at 37?

Brosky! This should call for more concern, not this GF rubbish you are yapping about.

everybody won’t be rich

emotionada:
I am a man of 37 years old currently earning #30 000 monthly. I am too conservative and much of an introvert. I stay indoors too much which started during childhood as my siblings usually leave me at home and go out and it soon became part of me.

I have an issue. I know the clock is ticking but I can't help it. I often come across ladies I feel something for and wish to approach but I am a private person and care too much what people will say about me coupled with my low finances, I let them go despite some of them looking prospective.

What should I do?

stop caring what people say about u , ur finances r okay , there is room for improvement, just look for a girl that u can maintain n understands you . Atleast be ready to sacrifice 5k for ur salary monthly.

HammedOlanaija:
Ogbeni transgenders created gayness and lesbianism on the planet goann check your book of record properly Old man

what r u even saying dude? Transgenders r all gay and lesbians na , is it news ?

HammedOlanaija:
There is nothing like arguing blindly here
Some men are born with pussy
Ask around and prove me wrong
Go to xvideos.com
See things for your self
Am not asking you to watch porn
I am telling you they exist and are even in porn line

lol many u see in there r transgenders ,, some humans r born with two sexual organs, not a man with a pussy or a woman with dick. Lol , how old r u Biko , stop watching gay porn o

[quote author=butterfly777 post=89114979][/quote]it’s simply mind corruption. They r brainwashed to believing all sort of nonsense that don’t make sense

Vornic:
Nay to normalizing it and nay to criminalizing it. While I don't think it's normal, at the same time I don't see why it should be made a criminal act

I totally agree.

HammedOlanaija:
You got it all wrong bro
Some people are born to be homosexual
You

this is the issue I hv with u guys,,, arguing blindly , no man is born as an homosexual

illicit:
am indifferent

legalized or not it will go on

that’s a sad fact

Reality11:
Can an introvert be someone who wants to be with people, make friends or yarn for social engagement?

Or an extrovert wanting to be alone, reserved, having few friends or avoiding social engagement?

Why am I seeing most people who profess to be introverts here wanting to engage in what's is opposite to what introvert would happily engage in?

Some even cursing and regretting the fact that they are introvert, wishing they were extrovert and envying how extrovert go about and enjoy life... and so on.

Isn't what define you as an introvert would also be the source of your happiness and what you would naturally love to do?

How can you be an introvert but yarn for extrovert traits?

Or am I missing something?

However being an introvert doesn't makes you not able to to engage in what extroverts do, but its just that introverts don't have interest in them. Likewise it doesn't mean an extrovert can't exhibit the introvert traits its just that it doesn't interest them.

So what interest you is also what would show if you are an extrovert or introvert.

In my opinion if you are an introvert but the extrovert traits interest you, it show you aren't an introvert but an extrovert who is shy, socially awkward... just hiding under the shadows of introvert.

While you if you are really an introvert but can't make 1 or 2 friends, speak in public, start a conversation... When the need arises or when you actually want to, then their is a problem that needs to be adjusted.

reading this thread is very obvious people see introverts as unassociable human beings, that’s not true , u spoke base on ur understanding not based on reality , introverts r simply reserved people. Is not like they don’t know that going out is fun , just that they don’t feel moved to make that a daily routine. is there any sane human being that will say chilling with friends is not fun , like come on , that’s like self denial. Because u are the way u are don’t mean u can’t say truth. Being an introvert don’t make u dumb.

That’s why I said I feel highly irritated by people who try to create a gap between the two personalities, many extrovert like introvert people. Is just that there r many introverts who feel I am introvert so I am better and smarter. Oh my personality is better cause I am an introvert, in other to feel they don’t need to mingle with people , like comon it’s okay to be who u are n love the other side. Reason a lot of them r depressed at the long run. Oh nobody likes me but when u were acting strange to everyother person around u , u 4got?

To the extent people think introvertion is a mental disorder . I talk more online than person a million times , don’t mean I am awkward, that’s my personality. Many think introvertion is a trophy, I hate it seriously... like I grew up around extroverts there is nothing awesome about being indoors most of ur life . Nothing . It’s just how we r! We r used to it. Who made u the judge of who is extrovert or not because u feel introverts r special some worth . Lol

I am a realist I don’t deceive myself . Everyone need to swallow the hard pill of truth sometimes.

U r the set of introverts I am refering to.

hekkyboi:
i am asking bc i want us to fvck . i want too eat ur pussy real bad. im in this boredom all by myself in my flat. i want to fvck a good pussy real bad and i wanna feel hw fvcking nice pussy such as yours gonna worth it. mind u im self made that is we gonna hv a real good time together baby.

YIMU

Frankicent:
All this greedy girls. The guy is a f**l He should have told you this is what and what I need. If you put way above my pocket. You'll pay...

he’s not a fool, he’s not just stingy nor broke .

hekkyboi:
first of, are u a male or a female ?

female why u asking

hekkyboi:
can u Bleep very well?

why u asking ?

Op is it ur money ,, Guys will keep paying their gf school fees , nothing will change that

All these story don tire me