₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
You speak as one who has not been condemned to such a fate. No married woman turned babymama believes it a thing of joy to be one.
The cultural issues, as far as gender is concerned, are real and women of Ibo heritage are not spared this fate.

I don’t understand you .

One4me:
Dont even think about Baby Mama, she can still use the Child to get a hold on you!
Just pay for surrogacy, have your own children with your own sperm bit no woman attachment and then keep fucking them bitches as just bitches.
Marriage is all about Children and sex, and you can have both without the attachment to any particular woman, Wife or Baby Mama inclusive.
Its a man's world now.

it goes both ways

josh2297:
These talks here in mine opinion does not have a solid legal standing...firat and foremost There are no laws in the USA or in africa(Nigeria) dat sets different standard for men and women anybody can b a victim of any law whether man or woman anywhere let me highlight these few points
1. In d event of a divorce in d USA d spouse who recieves d highest income gets to pay alimony...things tend to get complicated wen children(if still very tender) gets involved then the partner who gets d custody of d children is entitled to a child support which is very fair considering d fact dat a single parent will definitely have to work less hours
2.. Any laws dat are seen to b tilted towards in d USA are in marriage amd unmarried man is free to live his life anyhow he wants and treat women anyhow he wants...u are not being forced to get married to any woman overhere so u can as well get a babymama from diffrent women(dere are free and plenty of sweet punanis here)
3... If u as a man must get married then insist on protecting ur livelihood savings and investment by insisting on aigning a pre-nuptial agreement
4...most of these liberal laws in d states and some other places are just to target the institutuion of marriage and create societal problems...they encourage children to b very stubborn...they tell u dat u dont have to condone anyrin even an agrument in marriage they offer u divorce at ur fingertips and d gullible ones fall into...why not ask y d top people in hierachy most times are always married while those at d lowest cadre of d society are busy divorcing demselves at slight provocation
5....Lastly these shld not b seen as a gender tin...this is clearly agendas...take 4 instance...if u want to b crucified villified and ridiculed as an american(whether man or woman)...then try having a serious legal issue qith a homosexual by dat time u will seriously feel dat u are really a second class citizen.... Real Women in sports today are complaining dat transgender females are beating dem to their games which is unfair they are been told by this same law to go to hell....or d issue of Joe biden which is still an ongoing one....d law, liberals,even so called rights group will work very hard to silence dat lady...so d liberals laws here a actually pointing to sometin that is not very clear yet...but d fact is very soon hetrosexual male and female will b victims of their own circumstance.....I dont blive people change,i blive they get to show their real charcacters wen they get d opportunity

Nice read

Kobojunkie:
Think babymamas. Rather than have them overseas and pay them what is due them, some of these so called men marry and leave their babymama back in Nigeria where they know the woman is less likely to riseup against him or run off with his kids

getting married to Nigerian women or hving nigerian baby mamas still better ,, i am an Igbo girl , all my uncles over seas are married to nigerian women hand picked by the family . They hv kids , some even older than myself and are still married . You just hv to learn how to respect ur woman, nigerian or not , their wives r all nurses , while my uncles r either pharmacist or doctors . Some of the girls were even already nurses in Nigeria

lefulefu:
well those overseas guys who are cunning prefer keeping their home based wives back in nigera cos they scared if they bring her with them back to the western country they reside she might grow wings and start demanding for her rights .so they come during the holidays like easter and christmas to spend time with their home based wives while the wealthier ones amongst them can visit occasionally without waiting for easter and christmas per se.but like u said it benefits the homebased wife more because she can have as many lovers as she likes when the husband is away.

lol no good side of this thing .

I served in a thick village, I hv this nysc friend who slept with an ss2 girl from another school(private school) we were teaching in a government school. Few of us who knew kept it to ourselves,, I so hated the guy ehen . Was seriously praying the village boys caught him, but they didn’t , as soon as he pasted out he ran .

Lunch

RamessesIV:
Wow this!!!!! seems as if you are talking to me,i have seriously issues of loneliness and making friends too much years of rejection.

Thanks for the advice

RamessesIV:
This is very true,I was heavily bullied for being skinny in school,even till today I don't like taking pictures I can't even remember the last time I took a photo aside my phone,many people don't really understand how low self esteem works,I knew a girl who was always angry and frowning later got to realized that she was just lonely told me she had no friends growing up,all her friends have bfs and no one has ever asked her out

that’s why I try to encourage people to be more welcoming to others, it’s very important, don’t always wait for people to cm around , they might not be 100% trust worthy but atleast u hv someone to call a friend . Anyone who has no friend and says I am happy without friends is actually lying ... ur self esteem will be bellow 0.

If u hv someone u like , stop being afraid of rejection and make a move to hv that person around ,, people always cm around me , Thank Godness but I make serious effort to keep them around cause some can be annoying, especially the ones that u know likes you but ur personality might not accommodate them. siting and lamenting that no one likes u won’t change nada ,, no 1 reject you,learn , and go to number 2 3 4 .meeting more people make u specific about the kind of people u want in ur life . If u hv friends u meet more people n more people will met you , then bom u hv one or two guys on ur neck .

RamessesIV:
This is very true,I was heavily bullied for being skinny in school,even till today I don't like taking pictures I can't even remember the last time I took a photo aside my phone,many people don't really understand how low self esteem works,I knew a girl who was always angry and frowning later got to realized that she was just lonely told me she had no friends growing up,all her friends have bfs and no one has ever asked her out

that’s why I try to encourage people to be more welcoming to others, it’s very important, don’t always wait for people to cm around , they might not be 100% trust worthy but atleast u hv someone to call a friend . Anyone who has no friend and says I am happy without friends is actually lying ... ur self esteem will be bellow 0.

If u hv someone u like , stop being afraid of rejection and make a move to hv that person around ,, people always cm around me , Thank Godness but I make serious effort to keep them around cause some can be annoying, especially the ones that u know likes you but ur personality might not accommodate them. siting and lamenting that no one likes u won’t change nada ,, no 1 reject you,learn , and got to number 2 3 4 and meeting people make u specific about the kind of people u want in ur life . If u hv friends u meet more people n more people will met you , then bom u hv one or two guys on ur neck .

pheforusty:
Please Instagram likes should not be a self-esteem booster, it's a virtual space nothing is real.
What happens when the likes go away, how connected are you to the real world.

What if instagram, fb , twitter cease to exist?

what happens to your self-esteem?

Wrong move friend.

Will you love me when my phone turns off?
I don't want to be some digital Jesus,
No more followers, we'll both get lost,
When it's me and you inside real life
I just want me and you inside real life

this line from the song "conversation with my wife" by jon bellion, gets me

sadly that’s one of a majors factors that builds a woman’s self esteem, acceptance. No matter how annoying u look, or bad ur character is , there are always men that r going to be attracted to you , as a woman ,,, if u hvnt been toasted by any guy , ur self esteem wont really be good enough . The instagram part worked for me , doesn’t need to work for everybody . Everything I wrote is my own experience, might not be the same with you or everyone else .... but for us who hv been body shamed when we were little. Those helped me a lot . Being striked in secondary school, and all , helped . Loving ur self also does , but loving urself is easier when people love you .

Let me add that a typical Igbo man hates he’s wife doing boy boy for anybody

Even if he’s wife is doing it , he aspires for her to stop such and works towards getting her out of it , if their wives r adamant they open business for them rather

At part from well educated career Igbo women !! The normal life of an Igbo woman is to support her husbands business, which is technically also hers .

Definitely as time goes on when the business is well stabilized, she has little or nothing to do than hv her money coming to her account monthly. With home maintenance funds from her husband. Some start another business eg provision , while some just sit at home.

I knew the cases there will raise

Ghozky:
Last week this was trending on twitter #AniomasareIgbos.
My own observation is Onitsha and it environs speak similar dialects with Asaba.

nope they do not in any way . Thank you

Lordave:
I have received over 90 painful bites from my girlfriend of recent.

She loves playing tough before sex, so she always bite me when I have subdued her.

And she done collect some dirty slaps too just to stop her from bitting harder.

all these biters self

DGoldenJenny:
May God have mercy on you all.
of all these experiences, What have you got.
i mean, of what use are they?

they sound disgusting and horrible.
WHAT A STENCH.

mtcheww but u saw the name of the thread and decided to click on it !! There r Christian threads , go there.

Bjteensdes24:
Lol..honestly if you had watched that movie too you will understand though its crazy but to me more like slavery which might be exciting to him

not exciting to me at all , I can’t trust no nigga like that , blindfolded!! Nope , that woman was paid , I ain’t . I ain’t interested in such not one bit

angelfallz:
Lol, many of you don't have any weird sexual fantasy. Go to foreign forums and see what it means to have weird sexual fantasies. You would see things you never thought possible.
1. rape fantasies
2. dog sex fantasies
3. torture sex fantasies(not restricted to whips, knives are included)
4. fisting sex fantasies etc...

RUBBISH, we r not psychos

Bjteensdes24:
Lol..very sure the guy watched an American movie titled 'Fifty Shades Of Grey' so, he wanted to practice that with you. That movie is damn hot mehn!

no be me and am

I rem a cousin who became a lesbian in her teenage days , we talk tire even beat her ,, she refused n continued with one teen like her ,,, she’s passed that stage n hates even hearing about lesbianism !! That girl will grow out of that stage . But that u will change her , u will never !! She will grow out of it .

SocialJustice:
That's your view and I respect it too but for me, privacy must not be invaded.

u case is extreme tho, cause I could never trust you !! If it’s a commited relationship, why not ? But in this case it’s very wrong

Davash222:
Why then is she calling, begging and sending series of text messages?? Is she that cheap or handicapped?

ofcourse she might like you but that doesn’t mean u are at liberty to check her phone , n she’s bound to feel bad ? Plus She’s only a teen n hvnt develop enough resistance to know she should be the one mad at you !!!

TonyeBarcanista:
My brother, I respect your view but any relationship that has 'privacy' is not a relationship.

1 week of meeting and u call that a relationship? U r talking of a commited relationship, not this!

She will change because u will start funding her or what ? Change my foot,, less than a week and u are checking her phone ? Like seriously? That’s her privacy

sexylassie2:
You look like someone that does not understand boundaries, she is not your gf and you are already on her whatsapp and phone.

What sort of man is this?

If I know her, I will advice her to run from you.

checking her phone less than 1 week , can u imagine

We are one but concerning Biafra , I no Dey o.

Smkinhawt:
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?

I can relate , hope u get a good distraction

traihit:
Letting go is a skill anyone going into relationship must imbibe. We deal with humans and we don't have any control over their minds, even if we do, we won't really enjoy that. What they saw in you that made you desirable to them may be seen in another with a better version, only marriage used to be an insurance against that and even marriage itself is plagued with challenges.
Dear op, you'll overcome this. Just try and be strong and hold on to your lesson. Love and commitment must always go hand-in-hand with the ability to let go. Don't turn against men because you don't know the one that'll be ready to give you his head if you asked for it. But understand that you can't control people's minds but you can control yours.

As for your lover, don't be the one to call it quit because of the reason he gave. You can try by giving him space but the steps to be taken will reveal themselves to you in time.

really helpful ❤️

A nigga told me he was going to tie my hands and blindfold me during sex that he loved it better that way.. I told him no n never picked he’s calls

Me and my man masturbating together while watching porn, After getting really . Still a Fantasy I hvnt experienced yet . I like to watch him do it n go wide with he’s crazy expressions and all . B4 we ending it off with good rough sex. I will sha do it one day