₦airaland Forum

Ladycewhy:
So who made it a necessity for Nigerian women to only do such demeaning home chores? I have seen men who do chores and even pound yam and heaven did not fall. You cannot expect a woman to go to work all day and come back and still come and cook for you with her own money while all you do is sit and do nothing. I am sure the op cant even bath his children and prepare them for school.

A white man will cordinate his home in the event of loosing his job with no hassle. If chores are too demeaning for the op, let him put his money where is mouth is (pun intended). I am sure if he was married to a white woman he will not have a problem being a house husband ,go and ask our Yankee brothers how the suddenly have a factory reset .

OK o..if u say so,if u say u don't mind ,even if ur elder bro should be in the same shoe...alright

Onyi22:
Dating broke guys

u and this ur dirty ass @dp

Ladycewhy:
honestly its somehow sha make i nor lie. I guess there is this unwritten rule of it being a taboo for men to b domesticated .

but u were saying something else,that's one thing about we humans, we are just too selfish, u advising a man to do demeaning home chores cos he lost his job recently and his wife just started providing,now u are saying u wouldnt want that for ur bro,even if he is in the OP's shoe,how selfish of u.pukes!

mubarakyoung:
my worst mistake is splashing my only 40k on a phone which is infinix hot 8
my one year saving i am with the one and i dont knw wat to wit it to make money
as a environmental health depilomar holder.

what's wrong with the phone,its what I use

Ladycewhy:
why cant he ? That is where i think the issue is coming from.You people talk about how westerners are different but fail to take a que from them. A white man will not have a problem supporting his wife with house chores especially now that he is out of job but you Nigerian men and your egotistic self will not. she will go to work while he stays home all day and still expects her to do the duties of a full time house wife when she returns while he lifts his leg up and watch the news .

have heard u but I want to ask u a question,if ur elder bro was to be in the OP shoe,what would ur take be..what would be ur reaction when u went to visit ur bro,and saw him washing is wife's clothes ,and doing other chores such as ,cooking and sweeping the compound, simply becos he recently lost his job,and his wife is providing for the mean time...I need a honest answer

[quote author=pocohantas post=85402379]My man is not the one opening threads upandan NL. He isn't the one taking red pills. He isn't the one killing and arming himself with new manipulation techniques to keep a woman in check.

I wonder how helping with his own home and kids translates to control and low self esteem. Then use your high self esteems to MAKE MONEY and KEEP MAKING MONEY!!

After that you pray it never finishes. If it does, your high self esteem will come crashing

Ndi ala!!!..smh

pocohantas:
He hasn't recovered, he should be useful for now. Not for his wife, but his kids. I don't care what he does with his wife when he recovers, she probably doesn't care too and if all OP said is the truth, she has waited so long for this moment. Some women just need men for the marriage and (temporary) comfort men can provide. This is a model that is okay for the Nigerian man too, even though they always cry when it backfires.

Nigerian men only win bread, they don't know how to win any other thing- even the hearts and sympathy of their women. Always thinking everything is manee, manee, manee.

very myopic statements,I give up on u gals claiming feminism in here.my prayer is that God should guide my path,lest encounter women with this mentality...I believe we still have good women out there ,meeting such might be difficult,but the effort is worth it..Good luck with ur dream man ,perhaps u want a sissy that u can control and disrespect,men with low self-esteem..

[quote author=pocohantas post=85401220]This is why broke horsebands are useless. A jobless wife would try run the home. Nigerian JOBLESS horseband? No way. He will just sit there and be expecting maximum respect for having a prick. What exactly is OP currently contributing? Nothing. Any small thing, they will say emasculating. Oya, go out and make money na ..such men are irrespnsible,but the OP is apparently different,didnt u hear that he was the bread winner until his business stopped flourishing,can't u see her is making effort to recover ..

Martinez39:
Lol. You are sure your female friends are not like that? Women have a Dr Jekyll-Mrs. Hyde personality. The version you see is the one they present.

like I said,not all,definitely there will be exceptions

pocohantas:
Go and make money again.

A good number of Nigerian men marry their wives with money. A good number of Nigerian women marry their husbands for money.

Never lose the money. It is what keeps Nigerian relationships going and it also determines who has the upperhand. Sadly, it isn't in your favour now.

At least, now you know the kind of wife you have. How you choose to handle her after this is up to you. My major problem is her turning the kids against you, but I have always been of the opinion that kids see, they are not too young to understand what is going on. With time they will make informed decisions. You can take a break from your wife and go clear your head somewhere.

While at it, be useful to the home and your kids in some other way that isn't financial.

u mean he should do domestic chores like washing plates and washing his wife pants ...anyways at least u are more human than ur friend.. ..

912:
You ugly sha o. I think it's because your eyes are too far apart.
Honest advice: please remove the picture from your profile. You look ugly and razz

she looks grotesque

Martinez39:
Guys, note this:
PARAGRAPH 1: This is how women see you as a man. They see you as a utility. Once you can't provide, you are like a phone spoilt beyond repair. This is the cold truth. "You are just like an appendix in your marriage."

PARAGRAPH 2: This is just senseless rambling to insinuate that it isn't really the woman's fault. Note, women will always blame someone else for their bad behaviour. She is giving him false hope that he can still do something to save the situation but, in line with the aim of this rambling, she is covering up the fact that the man can't get the love of his wife without money. No money, no love. Also, notice how she implied that the man is supposed to provide and the wife is "covering up his slack". This is women for you. The financial sacrifices you make for the family is okay but the one a woman makes is "covering up the slack of the man". Your money is our money, my money is mine mindset. Despite having equal rights and opportunities as men, they think it odd that they should take on equal responsibility at any time.

PARAGRAPH 3: Further nonsensical rambling to hide the fact that it not about the money. This advice is ironic because to do these things to win back the wife, he needs money. So we all come to the same point — no money, no love.

Notice how she never blamed the wife for turning the kids against the man, an act that was unnecessary and cruel. Notice how she never said that marriage is supposed to a union where both individuals support each other through thick and thin and the wife is supposed to be helpful. It's always the man's fault — he is indulging in self pity and laziness. Guys, if you still think there is a NAWALT out there, you will suffer. Truth.

dude just ignore her,not all women are like her ..have got lots of female friends and I know what I'm saying ,just leave that bitter woman..don't generalize her perceptions to all women OK

funmisticqueen:
telling all you testosterone laden apeshits who only think with their joystick what you want to hear or stroking your China doll egos.

why u so fowl mouthed,God knows how much I hate women like u,puke!..its ur type that tempt men to go extra mile in disciplining women..if u want to insult somebody,why not do it specifically,why dragging the males into it

God has been faithful,despite all my sins ;DGod has been faithful,despite all my sins ..lemme drop this one.

Oferah21:
crossover loading ��.......... see you guys in 2020

cute

arinzos:
U de craze oh

..the guy na mutant na

[quote author=safarigirl post=85380859]just the girls? I reckon there would be more agbero boys than girls at such a gathering.

Everyone knows men have higher risk of body odour of both genders[/quot are u for real..an average guy that bath s once a day ,will likely not to smell,but u try it,go out without bathing in the morning

Mckandre:
Pocohontas after spending 5mins in that beach

lol

realitychick:
This will be very Edible,,,just the site of it,,,,,hmnnnnn,,,licks tongue,,,,, I already know how it tastes, 10 inches kwa i die there

smh

NwaAmaikpe:





There is no greater prove of true love.

Her husband died in 2014, she chose to die 5 years after him.
Not only because she truly missed him but that she didn't want to be tempted to cheat on him.

Unlike these endtime wives that want to live for another 26 years after their husband's death so that they can use widowhood as an excuse to be jumping from pendulum to pendulum.

The Oputas were the type of parents every kid wanted to have.
But they are a confirmation that having ideal parents will not stop an offspring from being dysfunctional.

But Charly Boy should have atleast buried her on the 1st of January so that her corpse will also see the new year.

Chou. This guy

faithfull18:
So, you can keep the innocent lady @ home and be browsing different websites outside, shior.

by then I should have grown pass having a thing for big ass and bwest

NwaAmaikpe:




First and foremost I'd love to say a huge thank you to the commenter above me.
With that done, over to you OP.

For you to disregard the basics of personal safety by going on a date with a random stranger you met off Facebook shows how desperate you are to settle down.
I also admire your honesty about it as seen in your closing paragraph.

But I'd advice something

Because a woman's greatest laurel is a husband, do everything and anything in your power to secure one if age is already doing an Usain Bolt on you.

A once-married is even better than a never married so stoop low to conquer.
Forget about ideals because life is not yet ideal to you.

If he wants you to be fair, buy all the bleaching creams in the market and feast on them.
If he wants you all natural, shave off everything, look like a Shaolin Monk for him.

If he wants more flesh on you, go to events and ask for leftovers and feast on them.
When you've gotten into his house as a wife, only then you can turn the tables.

But it isn't fair to judge a man who was honest about his preferences.
He didn't lead you on, you led him on by misrepresenting yourself and that was a subtle way of telling you that you did not make his cut.

Quit looking for love on the internet, spend more time in gatherings like Shiloh.
May the good Lord not make you end next year as a desperate spinster.

Shalom.

lol.. ..guy u mean ,I swear

Take this from me..we guys love big ass and big boobs for banging and not for marriage,cos gals of such nature will look odd after giving birth,no man would want his woman looking older than he his becaause she gave birth to just 3 kids..personally I love as,big one..but when I want to settle down,I'll prefer a lady with Beyonce's stature to that of Nicki minaj's stature

MrDvc:
Hello guys I don't masturbate but porn is my problem.
Whenever I watch porn I start releasing even without touching my private part.
And I want to stop it

Jesu's ,u just cum cos of porn..u are a legend,what u have is a gift...handles soapy ability..

Ireoluwa480:
Message me on whatsapp... Probably I can be of help � (zero eight one 45103946)

scammer

donbachi:
Next time cut vita foam tie round ur prick b4 u wear condom....any other question?

lol

RealMrNigerD:
So maybe you're not that immature, after all. Apology acknowledged, although, would you believe I still haven't found where I put the formula? Searched everywhere. And for the record, mam, I don't sleep at night, those that do lose much in the day, and will serve those that don't. #Secrets of the successful#
Anyways, Bye.

..audio professor

niaralandtopuser:
i started seeing hole since a very early age. I will only pay bride price to avoid loneliness later in life not because of love of any hole

deep

mikaeli01:
After reading all the specification of the kind of guy you put up on public forum, I sincerely recommend a movie 'nobody's fool' for you to watch. It exactly what happened in the movie and I have seen same happen in real life. I won't blame you though.

guy that movie eh...so ironical to whats happening in naija though..

funmisticqueen:
Don't mind them,they want you to settle for broke riff raff.

what did we broke guys do to u,u are always tormenting us

Well if you've got money,and u are interested in a sugar guy to change oil for u ,im available

atarapa:
u don't need to worry for that. Just go and put ur mouth in molue exhaust and u will thank me leta.

lol abi