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May his soul rest in peace

Ok. We have heard.

So, what's the next?

Happy birthday to her.

Dear Queen, you have started being too showy on social media. I liked you because you kept your family away from social media.

I come in peace

Where is her mother?

Well, happy birthday to the pretty daughter

viyon02:
There is this question I do ask myself and the answer keep pointing to one direction, why is lslam is associated with violence, brutality, killing, destruction and many inhuman activities? I need genuine answer with conviction and no insult because am not religion fanatic.

Because Ishmael's father (Abraham) chased him out of the house for reasons best known to him (Abraham) for no fault of his. He became rebellious due to frustration.

Imagine Viyon02 being chased out by his father into the streets of Lagos. You may seek shelter under a bridge or nearby market and probably meet bad guys who will teach you some social vices.

Ah! Aisha is still in this country?
Well, I won't lay curse on the new couple, but I won't pray for them either.


Na FFK own surprise me. He does not have any atom of shame.

The worst part of it is those recipients are Igbo IRT officers.

Wait o, so they like Western life too?

Handwork of village people from his father's side. . Why did they allow him struggle for 41 years before deleting him na? Well, at least, he won the fight before dying.

Village people from his father's side at work

Famzed:
There is no Coscharis in Benin City and any Range Rover location recommendation in Benin City will be highly appreciated?

Ah! I don't stay in Benin, bro. But you have to ask around

Famzed:
Pls can you post pic of the best power steering fluid, hydraulic used for Range Rover Sport 2013 Model?

Because there are several products in the market. So i don't want to buy a product that will give my Range Rover problems

It's better you go to Coscharis and find out.

Sirjamo:
So if they don't know the real killers, they can just hit the road and kill any Fulani in sight?

The families of the innocent travelers will mobilize and attack another innocent plateau community, the killing cycle continues.

My answer to the bolded is "Yes o"

$ = Power steering fluid = while I know RR has their own fluid, you can still use any transmission/gear oil for it
∆ = Brake fluid = You can use any brake fluid (hydraulic)
Love = Wiper wash fluid = just use clean water mixed with any liquid soap like "morning fresh". Please avoid detergent.


I can't really figure out the yellow sign but I think it's the VSC (stability control). Go and check it out with a diagnostic tool.
Meet any vulcanizer for your tire pressures na!!

Alejod:


These guys can be turned around to become IT specialist maybe while serving their terms or else they will come out after the terms to continue the same thing, dont just lock them down, they need some sort of reformation.

I hope the youths always remember that short cut always cut short.

So you believe they are yahoo boys because of their IT knowledge? I dey laugh you.

Dannyset:
Positive discipline for better mental and physical health and a happy childhood.

There are no bad children, only bad behaviour.




How to discipline your child the smart and healthy way.

There comes a time when every parent struggles with how best to discipline their child. Whether dealing with a screaming toddler or an angry teen, it can be hard to control your temper. No parent wants to find themselves in such a situation and the bottom line is that shouting and physical violence never help.
Thankfully, there are other, more effective ways and one of them is positive discipline. We consulted Lucie Cluver, Oxford University professor of Child and Family Social Work and mother of two young boys, to explore how the approach can help parents build positive relationships with their children and teach skills like responsibility, cooperation and self-discipline.


Why positive discipline?

“Parents don't want to shout or hit their kids. We do it because we're stressed and don't see another way,” says Professor Cluver.
The evidence is clear: shouting and hitting simply do not work and can do more harm than good in the long run. Repeated shouting and hitting can even adversely impact a child’s entire life. The continued “toxic stress” it creates can lead to a host of negative outcomes like higher chances of school dropout, depression, drug use, suicide and heart disease.
“It’s like saying: here's this medicine, it's not going to help you and it's going to make you sick,” says Professor Cluver. “When we know something doesn't work, that's a pretty good reason to look for a different approach.”

Rather than punishment and what not to do, the positive discipline approach puts an emphasis on developing a healthy relationship with your child and setting expectations around behaviour. The good news for every parent is it works and here’s how you can start putting it into practice:

1. Plan 1-on-1 time

One-on-one time is important for building any good relationship and even more so with your children. “It can be 20 minutes a day. Or even 5 minutes. You can combine it with something like washing dishes together while you sing a song or chatting while you're hanging out the washing,” says Professor Cluver. “What's really important is that you focus on your child. So, you turn your TV off, you turn your phone off, you get to their level and it's you and them.”


2. Praise the positives

As parents we often focus on our children’s bad behaviour and call it out. Children may read this as a way to get your attention, perpetuating poor conduct rather than putting a stop to it.
Children thrive on praise. It makes them feel loved and special. “Watch out for when they're doing something good and praise them, even if that thing is just playing for five minutes with their sibling,” recommends Professor Cluver. “This can encourage good behaviour and reduce the need for discipline.”


3. Set clear expectations

“Telling your child exactly what you want them to do is much more effective than telling them what not to do,” says Professor Cluver. “When you ask a child to not make a mess, or to be good, they don't necessarily understand what they're required to do.” Clear instructions like “Please pick up all of your toys and put them in the box” set a clear expectation and increase the likelihood that they'll do what you’re asking.
“But it's important to set realistic expectations. Asking them to stay quiet for a whole day may not be as manageable as asking for 10 minutes of quiet time while you have a phone call,” says Professor Cluver. “You know what your child is capable of. But if you ask for the impossible, they are going to fail.”

4. Distract creatively

When your child is being difficult, distracting them with a more positive activity can be a useful strategy says Professor Cluver. “When you distract them towards something else – by changing the topic, introducing a game, leading them into another room, or going for a walk, you can successfully divert their energy towards positive behaviour.”

Timing is also crucial. Distraction is also about spotting when things are about to go wrong and taking action. Being mindful of when your child is starting to become fidgety, irritable or annoyed, or when two siblings are eyeing the same toy, can help diffuse a potential situation before it becomes one.


5. Use calm consequences

Part of growing up is learning that if you do something, something can happen as a result. Defining this for your child is a simple process that encourages better behaviour while teaching them about responsibility.

Give your child a chance to do the right thing by explaining the consequences of their bad behaviour. As an example, if you want your child to stop scribbling on the walls, you can tell them to stop or else you will end their play time. This provides them with a warning and an opportunity to change their behaviour.

If they don’t stop, follow through with the consequences calmly and without showing anger, “and give yourself credit for that – it’s not easy!” adds Professor Cluver.
If they do stop, give them lots of praise for it, recommends Professor Cluver. “What you are doing is creating a positive feedback loop for your child. Calm consequences have been shown to be effective for kids to learn about what happens when they behave badly.”

Being consistent is a key factor in positive parenting, which is why following through with the consequences is important. And so is making them realistic. “You can take a teenager's phone away for an hour but taking it away for a week might be difficult to follow through on.”


Engaging with younger children

One-on-one time can be fun – and it’s completely free! “You can copy their expressions, bang spoons against pots, or sing together,” adds Professor Cluver. “There’s amazing research showing that playing with your children boosts their brain development.”


Engaging with older children

Like younger children, teenagers seek praise and want to be thought of as good. One-on-one time is still important to them. “They love it if you dance around the room with them or engage in a conversation about their favourite singer,” says Professor Cluver. “They may not always show it, but they do. And, it's an effective way of building a relationship on their terms.”

While setting expectations, “ask them to help make some of the rules,” suggests Professor Cluver. “Sit them down and try to agree on the household dos and don'ts. They can also help decide what the consequences for unacceptable behaviour will be. Being involved in the process helps them know that you understand they're becoming their own independent beings.”


Advice for parents during the COVID-19 pandemic

The pandemic has brought about sudden and drastic changes in the lives of families with parents directly in the middle of it. Here are some tips that can help parents get through these and any other stressful times:


1. Pause

We all know the stress when we feel our child is being difficult. At moments like these, being present and stepping back is a simple and useful tactic. Hit the “pause button”, as Professor Cluver calls it. “Take five deep breaths, slowly and carefully and you'll notice you are able to respond in a calmer, more considered way. Parents across the world say that just taking that pause is enormously helpful.”


2. Step back

Parents often forget to care for themselves, says Professor Cluver. “Take some time for yourself, such as when the kids are asleep, to do something that makes you feel happy and calm. It's really hard to do all the things right as a parent, when you haven't given yourself a break.”


3. Praise yourself
It’s easy to forget the as tonishing job you do as a parent every day and you should give yourself the credit, advises Professor Cluver. “Each day, maybe while brushing your teeth, take a moment to ask: ‘What was one thing I did really well with my kids today?’ And, just know that you did something great.”

“We might be in and out of isolation, but you are absolutely not alone,” she says. “Millions of parents across the world are all trying and we're all failing sometimes. And then we're trying again. We’ll survive this together.”

https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/how-discipline-your-child-smart-and-healthy-way

Nonsense post! In Africa we use koboko to correct our kids.

Foolishness is bound in the heart of child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far away from him.

Onye Egwu

Kai! Fire is no respecter of anybody. Let's all try and be safety conscious always.

Meanwhile, she should call her "big god" to do the needful asap. Abi she is not among the "small girl, big god" crew.

14 years ke? Let me even wait and see if any Northerner will commend this child marriage

I still can't figure out what is wrong with Africans. Why did they church shrine instead of a hospital?

That was how a vehicle knocked down a pregnant woman in PH, and we all rushed to help her get to the hospital. She said we should take her to her pastor in the church if we want to help her, or leave her alone.

Omo, that was the day I knew religion in those part of the world has eaten deep into people.

Ruggedniggaone:
Nice one way to go they should try to kill like 10 people to serve as an example(collateral damages)that next time you hear ipob declare sit at home in honor of their supleme leader not that you can sit at home but you must sit your ass down at home

You don cra.ze finish o

IPOB guys are illiterates, I swear. Why force people to stay at home when they have a lot of businesses to attend to? If Buhari locks up the whole markets and station soldiers there for 1 month, they will be the one to start crying.

If these set of IPOB members are to be the securiry personnel in Biafra, I rather remain in Nigeria.

If agberos have ever held your truck in Aba, Onitsha or 9th Mile, you will understand we will suffer more in Biafra than in Nigeria.

phrancys001:
Educated illiterate

You go fit make heaven so?

prealjewel1993:
Good evening everyone
Please is it advisable to stay in the same company with your mother and wife
Here is the situation
I have a house , three flat , my mother stays in one of the flat
Me, i will getting married soon , some of my friends said i should go rent an apartment that i should not stay in the same company with my mother and my wife
Please i need your advice

For your peace and sanity sake, go and rent another house, don't stay in that compound

What do you guys really want from us? The vaccine won't prevent you from getting it, is that one a vaccine?

WHO is confused
America is confused
Nigeria is confused
China is still not saying anything


Please you guys should allow people live their lives. Like they say, one thing must kill a man.

spiralwedge:
The number of death is high though

Used to be either one or nil

You even have time to check daily.

Are we still on this NCDC stats?

The world should stop deceiving theirselves.

This is a very good move. I have told some of my friends, to fix Nigeria's basic amenities, allow private sectors to come in and give them some tax exemptions.

Taking Rivers state as an example, Indorama can comfortably supply power to the whole of Eleme with their standby Gas Turbines.

In Onne, all those companies can supply power to Onne and some part of Ogoni. Same goes for companies at Trans-Amadi.

Shell at I.A and R.A can take care of Rumuomasi too same way Agip is doing in Omoku and NLNG/Shell in Bonny and Finima.

You can also tell them to take care of roads and public hospitals and schools. This way, we won't lack anything.

But our politicians being who they are won't allow it because they want to keep the masses at their mercy. We honestly need a revolution in this country, but the younger generation are not serious.

Do people still shoot gun at public gatherings?

In my community, they have banned shooting of any type of gun in any gathering. Go to your compound and shoot as many bullets as you like in celebration.

Nigerians do not learn from past mistakes at all.

First, If you are loading a gun, keep in mind the number of bullets you loaded.

Secondly, If your gun misfires, do not bring it down pointing the nozzle directly at someone.

For me, it's kill and be killed.

Malami is not sound to lead the justice ministry of Nigeria.

Malami is part of the current cabal, but karma will soon catch up with him.

We dey watch.

Since Harry Song left, Kcee has never released any good jam again.

His achievement these days is just "I am E-money's brother" same way Laura Ikeji's achievement is "Linda's sister"

Well, they are still beautiful as couple. I wish them well.

Mihaug:
We r going to the station today, an arrest warrant is needed to bring that guy in

As long as the DPO is a Northerner, I bet you, nothing will happen. I have seen it happen many times. But just give it a try.

Mihaug:
ABUJA!
JUNGLE JUSTICE AND YOUNG MAN IN SEARCH FOR JOB
A CALL FOR JUSTICE FOR Emmanuel Christopher.

A graduate of Pure and Applied Chemistry from the Niger Delta University now residing in Abuja Nigeria, was almost beaten to death by the actions of a young Hausa man.

HOW IT STARTED

It was a sunny morning, on Tuesday 27th July 2021, Emmanuel Christopher took a cab from his residence and went straight to PEAK INTEGRATED WELLNESS CENTRE, MABUCHI DISTRICT, along GITTO, after ZEUS PARADISE HOTEL, where he was scheduled for a job interview.

After the job interview and being new in that particular area, he asked a lanky looking black guy, whose accent gave him away as Hausa, for directions. The guy pointed him towards where he'll board a vehicle. Emma crossed over to where he'll get a vehicle and was on call waiting for a cab to come along and the fraction of a millisecond too small. The lanky guy who had given him directions rushed towards him and started landing him blow after blow while screaming to the general public that the young man had taken his penis! Instantly the mob assembled, those with planks and those with stones, those with what ever type of weapon they could carry, they started hitting him, no one wanted to hear but he managed to scream as loud as his vocal cords could carry, "i did not do it, i only came for a job interview at that organization over there".

How it happened was a mystery and the next things he was the gate of the firm he had just left to seek for a job, even at that point he was still brutalized by aggrieved individuals. The management of the firm was called and asked to confirm if he had indeed been there for an interview. They confirmed, but even their confirmation was not enough, those who threw stones will still occasionally throw while the management queried them to stop, pleading with them to take him to a police station instead of the jungle justice they were meeting on him, but no one wanted to hear. They were already assembling their usual way of burning people by bringing put tire and everything they needed for the wickedness which they were already perpetrating. The boys father appeared from nowhere and asked them to set Emma free that he was innocent, even till that moment the people refused. At this point attention was then given to the boy, after Emma had been beaten and sustained serious and life threatening injuries.

He was asked how he knew he had lost his manhood, he was asked if Emma touched him. He said he felt something go inside of him and that Emma had not touched him, so they took him to a brothel to probably test run his manhood while those with planks, stones, tire and petrol guarded Emma waiting to put him to death. Few moments later, the boy appeared with the people that went with him, smiling as though nothing had happened.

Meanwhile the management of the organization had already informed the Police and just moments after the boy appeared, they were both handed to the Police. This incident occurred on Tuesday the 27th of July 2021 and the boy was released 28 July 2021.
We call on all relevant authorities to investigate this issue and allow the law to take its course. The life of every Nigerian is precious and no one has the right to pull such an expensive joke on another. If he had died, we would have lost a young graduate who did nothing wrong but waking up in the morning, taking his bath and went for a job interview.

This brings back memory of the Aluu four that were brutally murdered by villagers. Jungle justice is not just a crime, it is the hallmark of a society that has lost its moral compass. We call on all relevant authorities to investigate the issue at hand, bring the culprits to justice and compensate the young man for the ordeal he was meant to face that horrible Tuesday morning. He was not a thief, he was not a murderer, he was just a young man who had served his father's land and was looking for a job to survive. He did not deserve any of this.

The accuser goes by the name ismaila, and there are unconfirmed reports of him being released already from mabuchi police station.

We need justice for EMMANUEL CHRISTOPHER

The truth is these Hausa guys intentionally do this up north. Most do it for fun while others do it for ritual. They just like to see people being killed.

I know what I'm saying.