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dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

The earlier you leave that relationship, the better for you. Any man who lays hand on a woman no matter what, is not fit to be called a man.

1Sharon:
Zombie

Mu.mu

1Sharon:
Lol sheep

Lol Akuya

ehijoshua1960:
https://m.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amp/entry/spac-nation-sell-blood-for-money_uk_5def9bb8e4b07f6835b958f5/

If Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo of KICC survived it, this pastor will survive too.

God's words MUST be preached.

Human01:
Rivers state is infamous with militancy & kidnapping. Edo is number 1 in 9ja in cultism. Even Jss1 boy is a cult leader. 14yr old boy is already an experienced armed robber or yahoo expert. 80% of their women 13-50 home or abroad are codedly into runs. Fridays they go to club, saturdays to shrine, sundays to church. They're all around. Ogboni proudly display their banners without fear of stigma. I won't be surprised if I hear pst Chris Oyaklilome or Chris Okotie were cultists. That's how subtle the posh ones can be

Truth

meetmeonline:
Have you heard of Binni? (ie Benin)

Benin has ogboni and not all these small boys cult

DrJossy:
Alright, so myself and two other persons are slated to represent Nigeria in Israel at the world Bible Competition this year. This is after a rigorous process of biblical knowledge display. This post isn’t for this sha. I’ll share about it on a later day.
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My joy of traveling and representing the country, networking and doing every other thing I’ve had in my mind to bettering my life all along is about to go down the drain, as the Nigeria immigration, Kaduna Head quarters has been unable to give me my passport nearly four weeks after application.
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The reason is one of the stupidest I’ve heard in a long time: they do not have booklet to print my passport.

While I’ve been quiet about this all along, today I am out of patience. I’ve used all the strings of relationship I have to sort this out all to no avail, the story still remained the same, the entire Kaduna command ran out of booklet for printing passports and have been expecting resupply for over four weeks now. Four terrible weeks.
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This morning one of the personnel there still made an attempt to make it all my fault saying, since I knew I needed my passport someone in my capacity should have had one before now and not come to be pressuring them now.
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This is for something that is supposed to just take three working days. Something I've tried getting last year and had to abandon it since I couldn't keep up with their lackluster attitude and was in Kano already.
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Surprisingly, the booklets seemed to have been exhausted even before I went for my documentation. Why they still went ahead to run my documentation knowing that they don't have booklets for printing is something I'm still unable to decipher, shey I would have gone to Kano àbí Abuja for the documentation.
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This morning they were still running documentation for some other persons and one of the personnel was promising and telling them to come pick an ‘audio’ passport on Tuesday next week.
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My team and I are slated to leave Nigeria on Tuesday, 17th, chances are that I may not make that trip if I’m unable to get my passport via a miracle.
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I need help from anyone with capacity to help me. It wouldn’t make sense that I’m about to become a victim of this failed system.
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Moderators please help me share this, .someone might be of assistance when it's on front page.

I need redress.

I jejely went to Uyo and did mine.

Major General Buhari in action.

Major General Buhari in action

When it comes to cultism, after Rivers state i give it to Cross-River state.

There is no family you won't see a cultist. In fact, it's now a norm.

I still don't understand why only sons always join cults?


But....
Proverbs 14:12, "There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death."

ojotobiloba1:
Pls how much is the s5

55k and 45k (for S5 lite)

pocohantas:
SUFFERHEAD marketer. Get very comfortable shoes and socks, you will need it.

You are a variant of contract staff. Salary range between N(20,000-50,000). Maybe some banks pay more. Hardly ever seen one/any.

-Your job function is retail marketing, drive savings deposits and e-banking channels. I doubt DSAs do risk assets, though they can ask you to bring any you see, for the sake of the branch paying you salary.

-You will have number of accounts target. Daily/weekly/monthly. You will also have deposit targets. Something like, 3accts a day, 15/week, 60/month. 5-10m deposit a month. You mustn't do all, 50% and above can keep you afloat.

- You might be lucky to get someone that will give you huge deposits which would make you earn big in commissions. If not, you have to start from the scratch to mobilize deposits. You go waka ehn, all the market people go know you.

- You get your pay (and commissions), leave allowance, pension, christmas rice/groundnut oil. Not so sure of their package, but nothing special.

- You'll be restricted on types of accts to open. Leave some for the bigger people (core staff).

- You will grow to be a very angry somebody when you see the bank employing core staff that are your mates and some your junior. You can't escape this feeling of anger o.

- You will start showing your anger, nagging over the poor treatment and sometimes acts of rebellion/insubordination.

- Maybe you will be an extraordinary DSA and your bank will try to convert you. It is not because they like you too much, paying you as a core staff is cheaper than your commission at that point.


I understand the country is hard, but if I have to be a banker- core staff or nothing. Know what you are getting into. E hard o.

Have a nice day.

Lol @

You go waka ehn, all the market people go know you.

contigiency:
You are a problem to the society. The court said that they found a former governor guilty of looting above 7 billion out of the state fund. Instead of you to condemn it, you are there calling the Fulani's. What have they got to do with this? Why will you seek for the Fulani's to forgive him? Is it the Fulani's money or that of the Abians that is involved here? Let's always make use of the education we have received whenever we want to deal with issues in the public.

Don't misunderstand me. I am very happy Orji Uzo was jailed. He thought by joining APC his sins will be forgiven. Isn't it better he stayed with PPA and still get jailed, instead of betraying his people.

m140:
S4 no rubbish phone, hanging not ringing out, can never buy that product again

Well, I and my other friends do not have those issues. Visit their technical office

It's everywhere in the world now oo

We warned them that a Fulani never forgives and will always use and dump people.

He said No, he prefers Northerners

Major General Buhari's CJN

Infinix S4 is better than S5. S4 camera is clearer than S5.

I use both phones, and i prefer S4 to S5. If I had known I wouldn't have spent my cash on S5.

GregJames:
To be honest, is there any meaningful work in this country? How much is house rent? Graduate dey collect 30k as salary

Exactly. That's why more people are moving to Canada.

I really don't understand what Owerri has turned into?

Boys are into yahoo yahoo. Girls are into runs. An average SS2 girl in Owerri has slept with at least 4 men (To be fair ooo).

No young person wants to work. All they want is quick money. A time will come when artisans won't see who to teach work again because nobody wants to learn work.

May God save that city.

And again i say, the sins in the world now is far more than the sins of Sodom and Gomorrah, and yet God destroyed them.

What's killing OAPs? This is the 3rd I'm hearing this week.

RIP

Auxtin85:
They should be killed before Buhari order their release

Major General Buhari

Cladez:
I do pity people living in Lagos.Very stressful and disorganised city.



someone tell me,what's the average lifespan of a Lagosian again?

All of them deserve a national award. They are rare breeds.

Samuels90:
what is "odeshi?"

E no dey enter.

He should be raped morning, afternoon, and evening. Yeye man.

Major General Muhammadu Buhari and his foo.lish boys.

Government of trial and error.

This is bastardization of "Father Christmas" dress.

I saw this on facebook yesterday.

He might have been dealing ruthlessly with cult boys, and they saw him as obstacle. Or there are some of his members in some cult group.

Might be a retaliation too.


Why didn't he have some kind of "odeshi?"


Rest In Peace.

The stvpid members of the red chamber only fight for their benefits. They don't speak for the masses.


And again i say, scrap senate and see how fast Nigeria will develop.

ghettokid1:
Na wa o!. mother fucker

Real Mother fucker ooo

We just celebrated him nah.


Even though today is Friday 13th assumed to be unlucky for some people. I declare that our joy will be full in all that we do in Jesus Name!!!