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IceColdVeins:
"How could we not talk about family, when family's all that we got?"
Charlie Otto Puth (2015)
CC: KanuSE thanks bro

This write up was inspired by a random thread https://www.nairaland.com/5396187/children-deadbeat-fathers-time-think/4#82028618 that was created about a couple of months ago. Its was based on the effects of parents exhibiting apathetic attitudes towards their wards. Lugubriously, I was a victim of that on the father's part. I had lots of rifts with my dad owing to constant loggerheads and maltreatments that I could percieve my mother received from him(I was only acting on my mother's emotions). I suffered a lot due to paternal negligence........If I start penning down my chronicles, it would be easier stopping a herd of stampeding wildebeestes on the Serengeti than making me stop typing.

Without further Ado, I saw the thread and I decided to make my own opinions known as attached below, then a guy quoted me and that changed everything. I started seeing things in the other perspective and I decided to initiate a communication with my dad that I had gone incommunicado on for over six years (200 level in the unversity). Good heavens, it felt like dreams came through when he replied(photos attached). Now I'd be going home this December for the christmas break, I'm thinking of buying him a very fine wine and an exquisite wristwatch, which his colleagues would ask about it and he would reply ''My son got it''.

Finally, I can say I had gone through thick-thin of life and still moving. I'm an independent 26 years old bloke now and I was able to get here with the help of the very limited finances from my mother, while my father kept buying cars and building houses. I'd implore fellow nairalanders with similar backgrounds with mine to take a clue from this thread and let the old things pass away. Forgive your parents and move on.

"Children begin by loving their parents, as they grow older they judge them, sometimes they forgive them"
Oscar Wilde

Regards.
Mynd44 lalasticlala

Children obey your parents so that your days will be long...

Father do not provoke your children to anger...


Says the Holy Bible.

Government of future tense.

Police sef. As if they care for the masses

Mamman Daura's DSS.


Major-General Buhari acting as usual.

mysteryman2014:
How are the mighty fallen.

Tell it not in Gad Abia State.....

IprintMONEY:
u didnt answer my question sha.

What's the question

ddugeri:
Pls share more pics on WhatsApp ..08168745285

Okay.

Please i don't seem to understand what "Marlians" mean. What does it mean?

Ok

IprintMONEY:
i am interested in this, i need to buy one for one of my gfs . but what is the normal issue with hyundia acents? why is it so cheap?

Got another car for wifey. Want to sell this. Your location? Drop your contact.

tellsblinks:
Hello
Good evenings house.

Am new to this and truth be told I have no idea about car. My mum told me that she wants to buy a car and she doesn't know which to buy.

The car should be tokumbo to avoid problems
The car can as well be Nigeria used bit please with no problem at all.

So I decided to ask the gurus in the house, what car can my mum buy??

We're just 5 in the family

Add 400k to the 1 million, let me give you a good 2016 Hyundai Accent.

Contact for more pictures

Sheuns:
So okada with tanpoli covering it is modern? Na wa to Naija o

No vex oo. Mother tongue dey worry you.

It's Tarpaulin.

fairfora:
Your tithes paid to your pastors could build a city. This must be donations and gifts he received from members only. Mind you, this man is naturally a giver. While others have turned churches into a business centre by investing their money , he gives for a noble course. Let any body in christendom challenge me if they can, I'd not pay tithe. I'd rather give the money out as I've always done to the poor, needy and the less privileged in the church and society.

We claim to follow and practice the doctrine of our Lord Jesus Christ and apply same in our daily lives, including as touching marriages but we fail to do exactly what He asked us in the new testament...loving our neighbours as we love ourselves, being holy and preaching the gospel of eternity. Some selfishly picked a few practices in the old testament to suit themselves but abandoned other things including polygamy which was being practiced in same old testament by those close to God, which forms a part of our bible which our Lord Jesus Christ came to address in the new testament...same bible. I'd change my.mind the day I find where Jesus said we should be paying tithe.

Why don't you pay tithe? Give me one reason.

dandollaz:
Daddy might have big mouth but kudos to him for voicing out anf now the outcome

No. They made them to start showing it on social media.

They have been doing this long time ago

daygee12:
Stop deceiving yourself

Be deceiving yourself

sherbol:
Daddy Freeze made them to do this.
It is better to b late Dan never.

The have been doing it a long time ago. Daddy Freeze made them to start showing it on social media.

Someone please call Daddy Freeze to see where our tithes are going.

Kudos to Pastor David.

agbangam:
Oga boys no send DSS in fact boys go challenge DSS for street but when boys see Army boys go Japa. Only one Army man on Uniform go clear street. Who gives a fvck about intellect or tactics for street

No try challenge DSS ooo

CADA:
Hello, ivwill speak from another angle. We import Argon, so judging from the rate at which we sell out, I suggest you should stick to it. so long you love doing it, keen on developing further and doing it well.

Call me on 07012733347 if you need imported Argon gas.

Why import when we have various companies producing it?

Edet08:
SMAW ( Shielded Metal Arc Welding) aka “stick” welding and GTAW( Gas Tungsten Arc Welding) aka TIG aka argon ,are both lucrative trades. Once you’re good and able to demonstrate your ability to deposit sound welds that meet the requirements of a qualified WPS (Welding Procedure Specification) through a welder performance test, you’re good to go assuming you’re looking at working in the construction industry. Often times, contractors prefer combination welders( SMAW and GTAW for pipe welding.
I encourage you to go for it.

Best advice so far.

Gofwane:
As a machinist i can reliably tell you it is not too lucritive in Nigeria except if you manage to find yourself in a foreign owned oil company.

However, you can still go ahead and learn TIG welding as no experience is a waste. Who knows what the future holds?

You are a machinist? Please contact me, let's talk. I need a Miller and an API machinist in Port Harcourt.

Send your number to emekauzo74@gmail.com. I will call you.

engrzico:
Dear Nairalanders,

I am almost rounding off my stick Welding course, but I want to continue with TIG welding (argon). Kindly advise if this is worth the time and resources...

Thank you.

Contact me privately.

Preciousgirl:
A friend requested my picture on Facebook and I sent him.

My hubby found it out and for three weeks he is not talking to me. I have apologised, tried everything but he is not talking. I am so confused and sad. Please what should I do?


Only sensible comments

First, Do you password your phone?

The time you were chatting with that friend of yours is the time you would have jokingly let your husband know he's asking for your picture.

In marriage, once you allow your spouse find out something, there is a distrust already.

But since you have apologized, and he's still not believing you. If you really know there's nothing attached. Show him your chat with that your friend. That's the only assurance he needs right now. If otherwise, maintain and keep apologizing.


I had an experience too.

Johnpaul01:
So I was chilling in one beer parlour today when two guys came in for drinks, one of them ordered for a bottle of Goldberg while the other ordered for a bottle of Stout. While the girl was about going to bring the drinks, the stout guy asked "Do you have nutri milk?", she replied with a yes and he asked her to bring it, explaining to his friend that it reduce the effect of the alcohol in the stout and the guy just nodded, but I was thinking of how that would be possible when the full bottle of stout will get into your body system with extra sugar from the nutri milk, and I felt it should be more damaging but I decided to mind my business and bring it here. Doctors in the house, is the guy correct with his ideology?.

It didn't change the alcoholic content but it reduced the concentration (made it easier to drink)

The Pointing Governor.

Well, he is free to fellowship with brethren

naijadrivablog:
Cartalk man, Happy Married Life.

Unlike Honda Accord, may the "leg of your home never pull"

Unlike Camry and some cars, may the "oil of the engine of your marriage never burn dry"

Unlike Diportivo, make no oversabi person advise una bad. Na joke o

Unlike Gazzuz, all the cars you go buy for Iyawo go be brand new and not "like new and used by a top female banker"

Be a good husband to her and may your marriage outlast the most durable car in the world.


Finally, hold your V8 Biturbo well jare

Best comment so far.

Maria Ude, the Igboist admin. Was David in any way trying to reach your "Jerusalem?" And you refused?


David Umahi, you fall my hand ooo. Biko pay her.

How can one stream this match?

Until citizens start lynching policemen, they won't change.

Just imagine

ugofulfilled:
what are you saying? You want Andy to win but your mind is telling you Ruiz...

No vex. Don't mind my auto-correct. I meant AJ.

HappyNigerian:
Nigerian Police - A (Brutal) Reality
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Anytime you visit a police station in Nigeria, you're most certainly drawn to an inscription boldly pasted on their walls that "The police is your friend". But the weight of that inscription is mostly thrown in serious doubt by the conduct of personnel of the force.

The sight of security agents, anywhere, should bring comfort and a high sense of safety for citizens but in Nigeria, the scenario is different. The impunity of men in uniform has stirred so much distrust in the minds of citizens, that the average citizen has serious doubt if the police exist for their safety. Whether on the road or elsewhere, the police are becoming dreaded by citizens, who have seen those who should protect them turnaround to be their tormentor.

That is something that has been going on for some time now and public outcry has received little or no attention from the authority. Last year, the brazen abuse of privilege and unethical conduct of some Policemen ignited calls from Nigerians that the Nigerian force should be reformed to restore the lost confidence of the public.

It got more intense early this year when men of Special Anti-Robbery Squad, infamously known as SARS, riddled the body of an armless citizen, Johnson Kolade, with bullets and ended the life of the promising young man. That incident worried almost every Nigerian and I recalled penning an article where I joined calls to #EndSARS 'for all of us to be safe'.

But here we're today and nothing seems to have changed. Wednesday, December 4th, 2019 was yet another show of impunity by men in uniform, who not only failed in their duties to keep citizens safe but abducted me and several other Nigerians without any justification.

With the abduction and infringement of our fundamental human rights, policemen who unjustifiably harassed us and hounded us in detentions without probable cause demonstrated a new low in the depravity of the attacks on citizens. That was one of the most terrifying moments of my life as I was left stupefied that people who are paid to keep us safe turned themselves into vicious elements.

Before my unpalatable experience, I've heard stories of Nigerians unlawfully picked on the streets, beaten and extorted or maimed by the Nigerian police. On the spurious excuses of fighting crimes, police officers swoop on citizens and subject them to unwarranted assaults just in their usual practice of extorting them. That was exactly what transpired last Wednesday when police officer abducted me and colleagues without probable cause.

As usual, they refused any sensible explanation and even turndown several attempts to present our identity cards. They moved from street to street and round up anyone in their sight when there was no reason to suggest any wrongdoing. It was the most despicable thing I've ever experienced and it became so apparent that the impunity and uncanny attitude of the police have reached its peak.

Right in a Black Maria, I could count not less than 25 people who were in the same ordeal as me and my colleagues. It was a rough experience and one that I would never have thought would come from the police. This shocked me very much as I was vibrating right in the vehicle and when we finally got to the Lagos Task Force, it dawned on me that this was recklessness taken too far.

From the ludicrous claim that we were "miscreants" as justification for abduction to the terrible condition of the cell we were forced to pass the night, it was clear that Police isn't our friend. The maltreatment we suffered for doing nothing has once again brought to the burner the disturbing trend of impunity by police officers.

That police officers 'raid' streets for law-abiding citizens and hauled them in detentions when no crime was committed is something that should worry Nigerians. Quite disturbing that rather than securing Nigerians, the impunity usually displayed by policemen has posed them as the dangerous evil they are initially meant to curb.

It also makes clear that the authorities have failed to end impunity in the police force despite public outcry. This year alone, incidents of police harassment and brutality of citizens are too numerous to mention and more of such may still be happening as you read this. Yet, there has been little or no reprimand to serve as deterrence.

While it is an accepted fact that the police can make arrests, the habit of using their force strength to oppress citizens without justification is an overreach that needs to be curbed. Brutality is a barbaric tactic that has no role in any civilized society and the Nigerian police should ease itself of people who went overboard in their unreasonable quest to extort Nigerians. The Constitution, which is the grundnorm of our society, very much confers on citizens, the freedom of movement and exercising such should not be a crime that put one in detention.

Understandably, my plight and those my colleagues suffered in the hand of policemen, had intensified calls to end impunity. That is the necessary thing considering that Nigerians could no longer rely on their tormentor for their safety. Security should be done with responsibility, not becoming the same threat the people are running away from. Even as I write, the fate of many Nigerians who are hounded in detention is still unknown. We must end the impunity with the Police before it is too late.


Oke Umurhohwo is a Political Analyst and Strategist. He tweets via @OkeStalyf and can be reached via oke.umu@gmail.com

We citizens start lynching any police officer at sight, I'm sure they will conduct themselves professionally.

seniormallam:
I don't like one sided commitment, for any traffic light that isn't working what is the punishment for FRSC?

In my baby's creche they told me that we would pay #500 once its past 6pm b4 coming to pick our baby........ I agreed, but told them I will also deduct #500 from their money once I get there 7am and they are not there either, they agreed.

That month, they got a balance of #4500 out of 10k..... They lost #5500 out of their smartness.

Sense will not kill you