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Kobojunkie: So, can we conclude that BokoHaram is on the right path then?

Lol, haba, no o! Say no to boko-haramism

tpia1: one of the most accurate statements ever made on nl.

I’m flattered, thanks!

Sisi_Kill: This isn't just a parent/child thingy. . .it cuts across every relationship in Nigeria. If someone isn't cowering in fear at the mere mention of your name, they don't respect you.

Someway, somehow we have convinced ourselves that TERROR = RESPECT.

Sad.

It is what it is, thing is if you do not terrorise them, they take you for granted; at least that is what I observed, even in business dealings. When you are soft spoken and civil, they feel you are foolish, it is when you shout that they fall in line and behave.

^^^I totally agree.

Let us hope the worker's jobs are secure and their ‘forced leave’ is paid, I seriously doubt it though.

Utter chaos everywhere, x says this, y says that, how can one separate fact from fiction? Who is one to believe, anyway?

Nigeria - the more you see, the less you understand. The less you understand, the more the transferred aggression, resulting in the bitter, vicious, never-ending cycle we perpetually find ourselves.

ifyalways: Biko, what do we mean by "serve" ? I be proper Igbotic girl and needs it broken down to avoid asiri .

Is it cooking? Or dishing out food? Abi doing eba and heating up soup? Or na to put food, drinking water, toothpick, serviettes et all on the dining table then walk sheepishly to say " Oga sir, your food is ready"

The husband that's waiting to be "served" (whatever that means) is he physically challenged

I think it involves all of the above.

Something to think about, when you provide children food, do you ‘give’ them or ‘serve’ them?
If I were a child, and you told me to serve myself, mehn, that your pot of soup is in serious trouble, particularly the meat.

Come to think of it, even as an adult (e.g. husband), the above, applies.
Therefore, to prevent aggravation and instant reduction of possibly ‘limited’ resources, is it not better for the cook (wife) in this instance to 'serve'?

About time too, I wonder what took them so long.

torres2: please i have seen people talk about maid serving the husband on this...what your view on this? Right or wrong

Not comfortable with it to be honest, prefer family life without outsiders. I cook well, made a 3-course meal the other day, which was finger licking good, literally.

Heck, I probably do it my grandpa’s style depending on my location, using a cook if need be, which will be strictly professional with defined daily hours, and without accommodation.

So much for the ‘black pride’ phrase “when you go black, you never go back”.

What a tragic waste, so much for hot chicks and bad boys.

Hope she finds solace wherever she is, the kind Mexico could not provide.

In other news, the star of Miss Bala, was err, hot. Gots to get me one of those real soon.

Yep, guilty as charged, still, if there were checks and balances or procedures that prevented individuals/organizations from doing any of the above, it would dissuade others. Punishing the offenders in full public view would definitely serve as a deterrent.

As opposed to a system that promotes such, and makes you seem the fool for following the rule of Law. A system that parades criminals as celebrities, acquitting them of crimes they obviously committed.

Well, cannot say I disagree with the Author.

At least India is classified as an emerging economy because of their development, what can we actually boast of post colonialism? We seem to have kept the language, but resisted the technology. India on the other hand kept and developed the technology.

I dare say we were given our freedom early, if we had to unite to fight for it, it would reduce the divisions that plague us today and make us better as a people. Particularly with a shared heritage showing how the various tribes contributed to independence.

I am not married yet, but is the OP too? My answers would be:

1, Yes, and the full time captain of her ship 24-7-365.

2, Yes.

3, Yes.

4, What can I say? Life is hard, besides, it is not a democracy, and if it is, Jonathan has not kept up to his promises, talk less of ‘poor’ me.
On a more serious note, this is when I need her support/understanding more than ever, so it does not affect my male ego resulting in that ‘I’m useless’ feeling.

5, Yes. In this context, apologising would be doing something she really likes, then giving her mind-blowing, make-up ... (use your imagination).

Okay, Boss.

Is it the Jaji military cantonment?

Damn, just when I thought things had improved in the Country.

Damn, still on this stuff?

It is her life, whatever she decides to do, good luck to her.

Asif Avidan & The Mojos – One Day Reckoning Song (Wankelmut Rmx)

Seriously loving this techno ish, bye bye rap music, feeling like a white boy right about now.

They are, for lack of a better word, indestructible, anything goes with that car. I remember back in the days, overheating was the only major problem it had, so people used to open the engine compartment when going on long trips. Damn, those good old days.

Still, for a learner driver, using that manual gearbox mehn, must be some form of exercise.

Into electronic beats now, listening to Dada Life – Feed the dada. It made me run two red lights last night, lol.

My white colleague at work just had the ‘snip’ performed because of having too many kids. It’s a male sterilization procedure where the s.perm is prevented from entering the se.men. (Think the supply pipe is cut and tied or some evil ish like that )

To answer your question, it happens to the rich and poor alike. The person in question has about 5 kids, and he confessed to always ‘getting busy’ with the wife…don’t think he plans to stop anytime soon.

Been playing this track on repeat:

John Legend/Travis Scott/ Teyana Taylor/Malik Yusef - Sin City Album Version (Cruel Summer)

@ topic, don’t discriminate, but it’s fish all the way for me.

Why? I discovered oily fish contains essential omega 3 acids (DHA), a lack of which could lead to Alzheimer’s or memory loss. Wild salmon in particular helps balance the s.ex hormones for better libido.

It’s a no brainer for me as it helps maintain mental clarity and it balances those ‘necessary’ hormones.

slimyem: Safe to say you haven't been doing it?
....how cute!!

Oh no, you didn’t, lol…that right there is straight embarrassing.

#Nowlookingforthenearestrocktocrawlunder.

I used to believe in it, but not sure I can hold myself until then. Except, it is her wish and she is able to withstand my charms and strategies.

@ Topic, the girlfriend believes in this and based on it, I am one of the ones she should avoid. Her argument was if I remember correctly; the wise men in the Bible used it to predict the saviour’s birth and locate him.

I think I’ll go with the personality tests, as these are used in interviews, so there has to be some truth in it. I also believe it’s worthwhile to study your partner’s temperament i.e. choleric, sanguine, melancholy, can’t remember the other (s).

maclatunji: 1. People whose marriage has turned "sour". Why do you think this happened? Did you love your spouse at the beginning? What could have happened to kill that love if you answered yes to the last question.

Not applicable, but an attempt would be, as with everything in life, maintenance is essential and change is constant. Couples occasionally let little things like kids, e.t.c. come in between them without having ‘alone time’ like holidays together and so on.
Marriage should be a relationship where everything is naked and open, selfless, you become an inseparable team. A little bit of neglect and unresolved issues leads to ‘irreconcilable differences’. It is a never-ending battle played out 24-7-365 till game over.

maclatunji: 2. People who have gone through a lot of turbulence in their marriage but have managed to "survive the storm", how did you do it? What is your advice for other couples.

This is rocket science to me; do not understand the “survive the storm” dynamics.

maclatunji: 3. Single people: what do you think marriage should do for you? What are your expectations of your future spouse? For example, do you accept that marriage confines you to be only intimate with your wife or wives if you plan to be polygamous as a man? Or do you think you owe your future spouse(s) no such obligation? Do you let the person you intend to marry know this?

Marriage should provide an extension/reflection of me, strengths for my weaknesses, and vice versa. A companion for life’s rocky patches, through thick and thin together, not one whose love is conditional.
Someone who understands that important things in life are often hidden (i.e. oil, gold) and not always apparent on the surface. However, willing to gradually discover these while we court, not confusing lust with love.
Never been the polygamous type, never will be. Expect the same of the other person, for this, I will give my undivided loyalty and my life if need be, so help me God.

maclatunji: 4. Would you rather stay single if you don't find someone that meets your exact specifications for marriage or would you reduce your expectations and marry someone who reasonably meets your expectations going by the popular notion that "no one is perfect". If you agree to "settle for less", are you sure you won't bear grudges when the other party begins to show traits that are not so endearing to you? In other words, do you think you can you handle such a situation without straining the marriage?

I’ll go for the ‘reasonably meets’ bit, as even if she is my ‘one’, I will probably be ‘reasonably meets’ to her. As long as she understand humans are inherently flawed and is willing to develop her mind, body and spirit with me, all will be well. I will strive to maintain my headship in these 3 areas, as long as she plays her part, no shaking/wahala.

Can definitely handle ‘settle for less’ situations, will adapt to suit these ‘not so endearing’ traits. You have to take in the bad with the good; this is what being human is.

maclatunji: 5. Marriage is a part of our social make-up as human beings. Are there things that we do as a society that contribute to the increasing rate of dysfunctional marriages? How can we stop such negative societal habits to reduce the rates of divorce and unhappy marriages?

Don’t give a hoot about society, never been the crowd following type, if society decides to ban marriages, I will still do what suits us – obviously one of my weaknesses.
How to stop negative societal influences? Avoid influences from society and the media. Raise your own little society to God’s standards (if you believe), as these never change.

Tgirl4real: gjcole's point can pass as a subjective reasoning.

^^^lol, I guessed as much. Let him come and speak now or forever hold his peace.

TV01: God gave marriage to mankind. Marriage is for all - not to say that everyone will. However, in a "Christian context" there are some faith-specific peculiarities about it. You don't have to be a Christian to marry or to marry successfully.

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Fair enough. However, it means it takes a whole lot more than spirituality to hold it together.

bjcole: The foundatn is d root cause of most crises in marriages, d bible says if d foundatn b destroyed what can a righteous do. Marriage cnt be on a deceit, cheating, lies & so on & u expect 2 excel. A marriage without christ is in crises. It is only d fear of God that can make marriage. Wife submit ur self unto ur husband, husband love ur wife. It is only when dis is inplace, that marriage can be succesful. so my advice marry in d Lord, it pays

Question for you; how do you explain these ‘unbelievers’ that get married and are still able to sustain their marriage till death do them part?

Not that I am trying to dispute your statement, rather, I agree, but it’s one of those few things that puzzles me.

In the shadows…reading, probably learning too.