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genieluv:
Benue/Southern Kaduna.

wowww! how sweet? Let me guess your combo of hybrid;

Jaba/Chamba and Tiv/Idoma

genieluv:
Naah, let's be sincere, muslims are up to 30% in Taraba.

Yaah, they (fulanis/muslims) are very good in politics, buh this is possible with islamic extremism n nothing more.

Attaching muslims/Islam with extremism with regards politics is very very wrong

Besides,Muslims are majority in TARABA STATE but the Jukuns run the show politically in the state.

coptic:
Lol

I am not Jukun. I am from Plateau State.

I didn't want to go into listing all the badass tribes in Taraba like Kuteb and the rest. I for no finish that comment na. Unna tribes many.

what tribe in plateau state?

I'm not a taraban, i just spent some time there!

genieluv:
Don't promote violence buh peace.
***Go n ask what mambilla people did to fulanis in 2002. That was like the worst genocide in Nigeria after the Biafran war. Over 50,000 fulani refugees fled to Cameroon in that crisis. Have the fulanis retaliated since then?
Some middlebelt tribes are madder than others. Fulanis can easily mess with Tivs n beroms n go free, buh tribes like Mambilla, Jukun, Mumuye, Bachama,Tarok, Ngas, Kataf, Sayawa, Eggon are almost mad people. You will regret ever crossing their paths.

perhaps, mumuye should be removed from the list.They are peaceful but can drink to the heavens!
I'm impressed by your perceived knowledge about these tribes.....tell me more sweetheart!

genieluv:
Don't promote violence buh peace.
***Go n ask what mambilla people did to fulanis in 2002. That was like the worst genocide in Nigeria after the Biafran war. Over 50,000 fulani refugees fled to Cameroon in that crisis. Have the fulanis retaliated since then?
Some middlebelt tribes are madder than others. Fulanis can easily mess with Tivs n beroms n go free, buh tribes like Mambilla, Jukun, Mumuye, Bachama,Tarok, Ngas, Kataf, Sayawa, Eggon are almost mad people. You will regret ever crossing their paths.

perhaps, mumuye should be removed from the list.They are peaceful but can drink to the heavens!

I'm impressed by your perceived knowledge about these tribes.....tell me more sweetheart!

coptic:
I was referring to the State House of Assembly comprising 30% Fulani Members, not the general population.

I know very well that the entire Muslims population in the State won't make up to 30% of the entire population.

You gotta be shitting me with this comment bro!

genieluv:
No, you are very very wrong. Fulanis can only claim majority in Jalingo n Gassol LGA.
In Lau, adk and bali, Jukun kona, mumuyes & jibawa outnumber them.

You maybe right about Lau and Bali but I'm not convinced about that of ardo-kola


By the way,what tribe and state are you from?

coptic:
That's the normal Fulani life. They are scattered all over the place.

That doesn't make them the majority.

they are majority in some of those LGAs bro!
Majority in....
JALINGO
ARDO KOLA
GASSOL
LAU
BALI

and quite a number of them in

GASHAKA
YORRO
ZING
SADAUNA.


this is because they co-exist more with MUMUYE as far as TARABA STATE is concerned

coptic:
Oga, you said there are over 31% Fulanis in the Taraba State house of Assembly, alleging that in addition to the five LGAs they control, it'll be impossible to wipe them out. And I asked, so the remaining 69% cannot wipe out the 31?

Your explanation about the other tribes being at each others' throats answers that any way.

However, you must understand that when it comes to facing the Fulanis squarely, there's unity of purpose amongst all tribes.

That said, overall, the Taraba based Fulanis are among the most peaceful, tolerant, and educated. Although there are some troublesome elements among them.

We wouldn't have had as many issues if the other Fulanis were like that.

It's obvious that you are Fulani yourself, considering how much you are standing up for them here. Take the message of peace home, and not encourage war. They'll end up losing in the event of that.

the statement in that 4th paragraph is what I love most about this your comment....they are sweethearts at that!

coptic:
Jukun fear Fulani?

Are you well at all?

If there's one tribe that can wipe the entire Fulani from the surface of the earth, then it's Jukun.

why did u single out jukun outta the many tribes in the state?

I guess you're a jukun man!

Alright...thanks fit this,I'll think about it

Abiagirl777:
while it lasted it wasn't funny cos we loved each other much but his was becoming unhealthy. Its creepy.

that kind of his love is on the other side of sanity

Abiagirl777:
he was obsessed with me,sleays monitored my moves.while I was on I.t ,he told my boss that he has paid my bride price cos I noticed how all the guys wouldn't talk to me(Eng. coy), paid the receptionist to monitor me within.when he always saw me with my supervisor ,he reportede to my aunt that I was prostituting..If I call it quits he'd kneel down to beg me in public.It was highly embarrassing
sometime later I had a near rape incident,he called it quits that I have been deflowered.I was so happy
4 years down the lane he still calls even though i'm married to know whether I regret not marrying him.aftr ignoring this calls several times last wk he told me i was very stupid for doing that cos he wanted to update me on his achievements. he has fought my husband threatened threatened threatened threatened us when we got married.so many...chai !
Ladies run away from any guy obsessed with youo

lol...with this your story,which I believe is true,an Indian film comes to mind......



BAAZIGAR!

Benita27:
From their threads and comments you will know them.

Being a good girl doesn't pay, men will abuse you!.

being a bad one doesntnpay either,men will finish and then abandon you

seizethaBae:
Thanks all for your kind and wise advice.I really appreciate. @Chubhie;God bless you for putting up that piece together,indeed such a wise God we serve. But y wld i pray to God for 3solid years to have feelings for someone,did everytin possible for me not to lose this great guy,I TRIED I REALLY TRIED,yet nothing happen?. I really cant go deep discussing that relationship bcus he is a nairalander(he might put one or two tins togeda and figure out its me),but just picture NO SINGLE FEELINGS AT ALL,NONE THAT CAN EVEN MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK FOR 24HRS hence i treat him as i want,even tho im not a bad person dat treat people anyhow.

Dear sister,i really understand your pains and frustration in testing the right person.

In order to avoid crisis of understanding which advice to follow on this thread,you have to look critically and with a very open and calm mind at GIDJAH and CHUBHIE's inputs.


The reason why I said that is most intelligent ladies often end up with men that are also intelligent in their own right but not as intelligent as you are (though I dont have the statistical data).

To further compliment the above statement, look at the very intelligent mummies around you and check their husby out. Let me give some examples everyone will be familiar with;
Late prof. Dora Akunyili-do u personally know her husband? I guess not. her husband might actually be a professor too nd even a successful bizman but not as prosperous as his late wife
Ngozi Okonjo Iweala- her hubby might be stinkingly rich but not well known as the wife
Ezekwesili
Pauline Tauline- this plateau state ex-gubernatorial candidate recently lost her husband and I'm sure you don't know him as much as you do to the wife.

The list is endless my dear.What you rather need is a man who has intelligence(might be on par with yours or just below),maturity,focusand responsible.

I recently found myself in a similar fix.I've always admired intelligent ladies but maybe just less intelligent to my level but realised all my life,I've found myself with more intelligent ladies.So,i decided to change my mindset that,perhaps it's to upgrade myself coz I always do when in company of more serious ladies. I accept it as my destiny and more than willing to manage it rather than avoiding it.

Bottomline is look for a matured man whom u have feelings for and he also likes u,the likeness will grow or try to grow something for whoever has feelings for u coz before you know it or just as you're realizing it,age is not 'just' a number as some folks would say just to console themselves but a number with so much attached to it.

Daboomb:
ASKING QUESTIONS leads to getting FRAMED ANSWERS..... when everyone knows the goal is to make a 'decision" about the relationship!
What you get are outright lies, half-truths and cooked-up stories!

DONT ASK QUESTIONS so you wont be TOLD NO LIES!
I hope we all remember that cliche?

What "l think" you need to do are:
- Be yourself at all times! Let your very 'baddest' and good part show. Just live normally, dont try ot impress your lover.

- Observe and be super observant, taking note of minuet gestures, body language, reactions to events (good and bad),, choice of words in situations, etc
- Be spiritual (meditation,, prayers, etc). These things focus your power of perception. You need to be "perceptive" of your lover, at all times

- Be "extrapolative", that is, be able to stretch events into the future.
Okay, this might be a little hard to explain but l will try.
When something happens, observe how your lover responds or reacts to it (in action or in words)... then imagine say in a few years down the line and yo are married, how will this his/her "genuine reaction" affect your marriage, if and when you get married to him/her?

Exp: Say your girl friend 'disses' he friend because she could not fulfil a situation that her friend is expected to fulfil.
Say she retorts: can you imagine, she is expecting me to loan her my own money, when she never told me how she spends her own money. Now that she is in need she is running to me, abeg, make she swerve.

Most guys will hear the above and just laugh over it and say: Dont mind her, she think say you be mugun!

Now, inside that seemingly harmless or even justifiable statement, is a lot of information that a would-be partner can process!
*What you have is a lady who is uncaring!
*What you have is a lady who is selfish!
*What you have is someone who is self-centred!

Now, if such behaviour is her "norm" and is repeated often, then you can extrapolate it into your marriage and ask yourself, (if you dont already know), How will she behave/react, if l lose my job and does not earn income for a considerable time, being unable to perform my financial responsibility to our marriage?

The answer is in those statements you heard.
*She will Bleep-you up.
*She will remind you it is her money
*She will take control and become the boss, to your resentment.
*She will starve you of funds
*She will tell her friends, how you have become 'useless' and no longer the 'man of the house'
The list goes on.

The thing is, BEHAVIOUR is not a one-day thing, it is ACQUIRED over many, many years and the good part is you cant also CHANGE IT overnight!
So, observing the little nuances of your lover is a good way of ANSWERING all the UNSPOKEN QUESTIONS that you have.

Observe, observe and observe.
But it takes some level of intelligence to be able to interpret what you are observing.
Most of us even observe these things but we cant make any useful deductions from them.

Sitting your Bae or Guy down and asking a long list of questions, is a COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME.
You will be properly lied to.

If you do due-diligence and you are satisfied, then it is worth taking the risk


NB: A female was used as an example in the above scenario, just for ease of explanation but does not imply that such action is restricted to women alone.
There are guys who will do the same thing.

...and this got me believing You 're really 'da bomb' in relationship matters. I like all your inputs on this thread so far,it shows your level of maturity and intellectual acumen......I wish u indescribable hapiness and understanding in ur home...stay blessed!

Daboomb:
Hehehehe! Two of you abi!
Just know that l am "WATCHING" from one corner like that.....

@Toks: I have taken time to read each of your responses and l can say that they really made sense.
Marriage is the most complicated of human relationships because both are strangers from Adam but when married, they have so much expectations (even ones that were not there during courtship!) of each other so much so that if care is not taken, it may cause pressure.

A Spouse (husband or wife) is expected to stand-by-you, when you are facing challenges, just like you both enjoyed the proceeds of hard-work, when times were good.
What we have now are "fair-weather" spouse! Money-go, Spouse-go ...or start making trouble!
And like l said before, this happens when your spouse has not seen the worst of you.
If say, your wife was with you when you had money/job and she still remains steadfast with you lost your job (all during courtship), it wont be new to her, if the same thing repeats itself during marriage.
She will know it is just a phase and you will get out of it. That is a FRIEND, who becomes a WIFE.

Most spouses are not the "friend" of their spouse (partner).
Most wives will start nagging you, insulting and dis-respecting you, once your income dips or you lose your job and cant provide enough money to meet their expectations. That is when she would start issuing orders to you, shedding responsibilities to you in an autocratic manner and reminding you that she needs more "freedom"! That is a recipe for marital breakup.

Most husbands also would not stick around, if the wife faces challenges common with women: Child bearing!
Especially if the man has 'no-fault' (as in he is fertile and ready!).
That is when he would start singing 'polygamy' in your ears, reminding you that his friends son is entering secondary school next year.

But what a man should be doing to his wife at that point, is helping her to overcome the trauma she is going through (l dont want to discuss if the effect of such difficulties has to do with a previous "wayward way of life" during spinsterhood... reason why all these so-called "slay ladies" need to think twice and not waste their "Years of Youth".
The husband should be sticking to his wife, encouraging her, giving her confidence, re-assuring her of his love (she is doubting herself already!) and reminding her that he would do any and everything to ensure her dreams are met, including private and personal prayers with her.

So, its is a human thing, though very bad, for a spouse not to persevere and remain steadfast with their husband/wife, in challenging times.

"FRIENDS are KNOWN in PROSPERITY...but they are PROVEN in ADVERSITY".
Are you your spouse's FRIEND...?

You know you would really make a good relationship counsellor right. this is evident in what you've dished out up there.....You are blessed sister!

I would have loved to but then,i have little or no knowledge about it aside some internet pics of some beehives,which is why I've created this thread.

Hello famz!
Honey,as we all know has immense benefits and I find it unbelievable that a thread on how its been extensively produced is scarce.

I will be glad if bee farmers in the house can assist with necessary inputs on the steps to take,implements/equipment needed to start the production of honey through bee farming. Thank you!

lordwar:
I've watched the above listed but really don't like India movies wish I could get more

heyyy!
In just remembered some mind-blowing movies rytnow!

WILDERNESS (although an old film,the razzmatazz of the sweetness of this movie is for the ages)
SPECIES
HELLBOY
LAKE PLACID
TOOTHFAIRY
DAREDEVIL
HOLLOWMAN.....ETC. will try to mention u if i remember more












meanwhile,#lordvar is re-igniting my love for the 'huaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaauaaauauann' movies with this thread.

debque:
I thought i was the only one who noticed it...in quins voice "sunny can't kill me, hmm, not even with the widow on his side"

#thumbs up#

lordwar:
please kindly list more for me

most of the ones i've watched have also been listed. unfortunately, I've forgotten the few ones that are yet to be mentioned.

maybe.......



KARZ (INDIAN)
WRONG TURN 1-4
VAN HELSING
ONE MISSED CALL (ASIAN BUT NOT INTERESTING TO ME THOUGH)
........etc

Talius:
You've numerated wonderful characteristics that make many of the characters likeable. Welcome. Cheers to ITB!

cheers bro!

debque:
Quinn accent na die..

yes òooo! with that him 'baggy' voice. wetin sweet me pass for the guy talk na d 'ehn' wey him dey add most tyms if he dey talk





like......#vale...You knw you're my wife now. 'ehn'!#

why has no one mentioned....

BAGHBAN CHINA GATE BICHHOO JAAN WAR KOYLA .....
to mention but few and other ones already mentioned.



Watch the above mentioned and tell me how you feel about them all

sketcherman3298:
Try these super scary Movies;
Hills have eyes,
World War Z
The Conjuring
Final Destination 123
Day of the Dead
Land of the Dead
Hostel
Love Horror Movies Die.. ......Even watching it Late in the night gives me more fun.. ......

with 'the hills have eyes' in that list,i validate others

just when I thought I'm one the few NLanders enjoying the series.The series keeps me craving for the next episode even before it's been aired.?it's full of twists and suspense.it's actually one of my favourite series presently.


The way Quinn talks
Sunny's martial artistry
The widow's wits
Bajjee's pretense
Emkay's inexperience et al


are few pointers of why the series is so on point

Toks2008:
You ask an obviously unmarried lady out and she says "sorry I'm in a relationship" and many ladies will quickly change their status on their social media handle to...."in a relationship or Engaged" ...worse still some will go as far as putting up the pics of a man who is not yet officially theirs and I keep wondering what goes on in the minds of some ladies ..

Shall we call that being faithful or being naive?

Every lady reading this should wake up and understand that until a man is officially married to you,he can not be trusted in anyway and that a man is even engaged to you does not guaranty marriage

Each time you tell a guy who asks you out that you are taken while still unmarried,you are simply shutting the door on yourself too soon and many ladies have shut out their husbands simply because they got carried away by an unserious man who is only good at mouthing their love and giving them forlorn hope.

Don't get it twisted, this is not about being unfaithful to that particular guy you truly desire but it is about tactfully leaving your options open by not flaunting him on or offline thereby driving away possibly more willing suitors.

Many ladies remain taken for years without wedding bells and I have seen several ladies who have been engaged for years.

The bottom line is that you should stop flaunting any guy you are courting and only flaunt your husband

Ladies should stop blocking their chance cos In the real world...there is no in between and there is no such word like "I'm taken" while you are still unmarried.

You are either single or married

Don't know if this makes sense.

You made sense bro but my observation isnt abt words but rather the attached pic


e be like say the lady for that pic get pot-belly

fejeerow:
See what I was telling a friend the other day... people don't value virgins and decent girls anymore... they want the badgirl that will give then bj, doggie style and their ass.... isn't obvious this man is seeing someonelse that is turning his head... you don't believe in divorce then what do u want us to advice you on? Do u want to murder her so you can escape her? U better bring back the love and make your wife the bad girl u want her to be but foe u alone.. don't go and make decisions that u ll regret.

ohhhhhh milady! I'm an exception coz I still value virgins like anything. Don't generalize, i could however be skilled in turning a decent girl into a 'baddo sneh'

whitepump:
Please MOD help me forward to front page.
Hello people. I put up something sometime ago about a guy I met who limps while he walks because of an accident he had when he was a child. And how my mum said i counldnt marry the guy because of that. well things started going well and i thought my mum approved of it but when marriage plans got close, she went and discussed with one or two friends who told her that if it were their daughter, they will never allow her marry a man that limps. Just because of that, she changed, cancelled my introduction date that she can't stand me marrying a man that limps. About 60 percent of my colleague and friends knew that our marriage was close. This man loves me so much and i love him too. He has been so good to me, I don't care that he limps, I love him just the way he is because he has proven to me that he is different from other men and i will be happy if I marry him. He is very hard-working and God fearing. Treats me with so much respect. With all the divorce here and there, one should be more concern about someone's character that the physical appearance. I want to go ahead and do a court wedding with him because a limps is not an enough reason for me to leave a good man. I put myself in his shoes, if I was to be limping, I will never want to be treated that way. I am 30 and he is 37
Please matured people here help me, what should I do Because my mum is adamant and my dad has no say since it was my mum that brought me up.

in a simple sentence......your mum doesn't like you




if not,why would she base her judgement merely on what her feel about her own dAughter marriage especially one at 30yrs of age

dingbang:
So I just met this pretty girl, she is a graduate... I was surprised.. She works as a cleaner... Short, cute and light skin...

Immediately I got attracted to her..

And I'm like... Can I date her? She is just tooo pretty to be a cleaner.

guy! you wan ma get my whistle blow for your matter say this babe na home material; D

LEBEfirstson:
Hello NLanders. I met this girl sometime in November last year. At first she seems to be the kinda girl I have always wanted to get. I'm a kinda person that likes balance in everything That I do especially when relationship is involved. I'm beginning to believe that it is always ABOUT HER.. since I met her, she has not contributed anything even thou I haven't asked her to get anything for me. She will always tell me about call cards, my phone is not good again, get me some handbags, shoes and stuffs like that. All those things to be honest I always get for her just to make her happy and understand that I'm so much into her. What I have actually bought for her, I swear I have never done it to any girl in my life. Just few days ago I decided to tempt her about taking me out, she started " oh baby, I don't have no money on me " not only that, she never done anything for me since the start of the relationship. What should I do please

simply put! she is just into your wallet/pocket






datsall!