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slendxy:
1. What makes you think I'm angry?
2. Am I stopping you from channeling your anger to the politicians?
3. Are you a Yahoo plus guy?
4. You made no sense quoting me.

goat you made a lot of sense from your post kontinue

slendxy:
Very soon now this will become a culture. Look at the way they are proud of what they are doing, to the extent that a mother is helping her two sons to commit fraud.

Our authorities need to stop extorting money from these people and start making sure they pay for their crimes.

if u can channel this anger to the useless politicians that has stolen the future of Nigerians, this country would have been a better place

izmercy:
Mr man boxer. So if a dog bite you, you have to bite the dog back?
Am sure guys like you don suffer for gals hand so you just dey carry ur frustrated like upandan.
I bet you don't even have a gf that knows your birth date. Talk more of buying gift for you.
Why on earth will someone buy GIFT 4u and you will b asking questions. Okay, if you know the price what will you do With it?
Brilliant fool

goat tell that to the lady

Tallysmallz:
Broke guys should be ashamed of themselve. If you are broke, you shoudnt be thinking of women at that point of your life.

Proudly broke girl..

your father should be ashamed of himself coz his brokkeness is also affecting u

izmercy:
That's bad guy. You shouldn't have asked that question. It would have been better to ask where she get the money if you think the gift is too expensive for her to afford and certainly not that day and that moment.

Forget whatever they are advising you here. It's a gift not an errand. At you should appreciate her. Forget the fact that you do buy her gifts too. She's your gal. What if she didn't buy you nothing or worse she no visit, you die?

Abeg text that babe and tell her how sorry you are before God answer another guy prayer.

woman wrappering did u not see where the girl ask him the same question? Useless man always taking side with ladies

Prevho:
First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

lalasticlala

most of them will be cheating on u and threatening u at the slightest issue and yet claim to be with u when u r broke....useless generation of girls

malificent:
There is no excuse to not call your partner, it leads to communication problems. OP have you tried talking it out with him? If he persists, then you sef lock up, if he really loves you he should learn to call you atleast once in a day. You shouldn't be the one doing all the calling, it's a 2way thing.

the problem is not him calling...the problem is he doesn't call first. Why does it matter who calls first?

Jodha:
Lol...if yhu like yhurself do not call him...put on yhur armour of pride...and ignore him until he's ready to be a man...

No be by force ..
Men boku ..dem no scarce..


So if he doesn't call...then I guess he's not interested.. Do not waste yhur airtime to call him..

did u read her post? Her problem is abt calling first...lol smh

pryme:
Are you sure you are not a Dinosaur?
Since when did a T-Rex learn how to handle an android phone?

Pls run along now....

goat answer the question

If it was to be a man that has the shop and his wife did the same thing...all these useless men typing rubbish will not say the same thing..You will hear common milk, how can the man be so petty. It is foolishness to fight your husband that opened a shop for u all because of. A small item like pen or tin of milk

pryme:
If you know what it takes to run a bizness then you should know the woman is not wrong here. If the lady will not put a stop to what the husband is doing, the husband will run down the shop with the way he is going.

The lady is separating love from bizness, it's needed for any form of bizness to thrive.

The husband should not take it personal that the wife asked him to pay for the milk he bought

woman wrappering...so if it is the man that owns the shop will u come and type the same thing...mumu

Nerdg:
Money shouldn't be part of this, I think? However, I foot her bills and she's very comfortable with it

mugu 1

Nerdg:
I don't think she's trying to test me



My worry is why she had always refused me sex whereas she's this exposed. Could it be because of this she accepted my proposal?

never fall for that scam no sex before marriage.... I am telling u from experience

ChieduJoshua081:
com what is ur problem? Why did u say that? Dont u support it? eh? How many times has Drake come to Nigeria to do his music here? How many times has sam smith, Ed sheran, Adele, Beyonce left their country to come and do their business in Nigeria? Cant u see that some Nigerians are senseless?

cant u see that u are senseless? The names u mentioned can't u see that they have no reason to come to Nigeria? A country of total blackout and no infrastructure but bunch of criminal leaders bent on stealing and keeping money in Graves and safe. If u want to improve production in Nigeria declare state of emergency in the power sector and our general infrastructure then sit back and see how things change for the better.
No country in the world has succeeded in darkness

thesuave10:
Don't be ignorant. How are you going to decipher the agenda of a date before it's done. She can tell you it's a casual meeting or something like that only for it to get sexual. Also you can't know what goes on during the date of she doesn't tell you. Stop whining about like a pussyy because she's out there for a hangout or something. It makes you look weak and insecurity. I use insecurity because your attitude towards this issue shows the kind of person you are. If a woman considers OR shows signs that she wants to cheat on you(obvious or not) , actually insecure will only make her wanna do it the more.

Secure men are the real men.
Read up on insecurity and you'll wanna be a secure man

just a big fool...who is depending on what she tells u. Go and get the meaning of a date since with all the education your dumb brain cannot comprehend. What concerned me with insecurity, if I say I don't what this in my relationship it is either u accept or u bounce...Afterall relationship is not by force

sinaj:
hangout nd date can be used interchangeably. I was also transparent about the other one tho.

Btw what do u think date mean? maybe we should start from there

. go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested) Dictionary definition

thesuave10:
You may not be an insecure person in general but these are what we call insecurities. Everyone has them. Yours just happens to be with women and stuff. I can trust a woman but the key thing now is I don't get all emotional over it. Why I trust is so that the relationship can be stronger.

the fact that you trust someone does not mean they cannot do otherwise. Trust is inconsequential with regard to a partner decision to cheat or not

thesuave10:
You don't get. What happens during the date is none of my fcking business. Tantalisers? Ph yh? . Going on a date is chill. What you do on that date is another topic all together. Just get this tho, a date is simply an outing. What you do on the date defines what kinda date it is

Date is simply outing? Like seriously!!!!! You mean u don have a dictionary...lol. "Go out with (someone in whom one is romantically or sexually interested)." please that is the definition, so before u talk abt a subject try and get the definition or meaning

thesuave10:
Dude calm the fck down. I smell huge insecurities

insecurity or security will not stop your lady from falling for another guy if she wants to, so please keep your security to yourself. Generally the more a lady spends time with guy the higher the chances of her developing feelings...so prevention is better than cure.
If my lady goes on a date with other guys no problem. The status of our relationship goes to open relationship

Davidgrey:
[color=#000050] Feminism in actual sense is giving women the right to be opinionated and respected, The basic conceptualization of feminism isn't a difficult ideology to accept..... But ignorant understanding by most small-minded women has led to it's abuse and constant public rejection.

Empowering women isn't promoting feminism like you were trying to push, feminism is a personal choice, Naturally if you empower an opinionated person his/her opinions gain traction based on social conditioning, that shouldn't be miss-interpreted as feminism.

In every relationship women invest more emotionally than the man(from child bearing to family bonding) it's their nature, in few rare cases(courtship) it's the other way around but let's be objective

The only kind of analogy that you should draw your conclusions from are standard relationships...that is a relationship wanted by both parties not one wherein the woman was coaxed(money and lies) into the relationship, in such cases(standard relationship) the woman commits so much emotional investment into the relationship as is her nature

The social logic is simple as a man no matter how hurt you feel even outside courtship you bottle your emotions, hide any visible sign of weakness, emotional fragility and vulnerability, It's the ultimate insult for a man to appear emotionally weak no matter how hurt you are, You are "Expected" to look for healthy ways to channel out your anger that's why you are a "Man"

Having said that .... Your claims Aren't without merit

From my 4th paragraph if a woman loves a man and he equally loves her "a standard relationship" the odds of her breaking his heart are very slim, like i said in my previous post it's usually the man that instigates the death of a relationship directly or indirectly

The cases you are referring to are situations wherein the woman was never in love or wanted the man in the first place and he made more that the usually reasonable amount of emotional investments into the said relationship to win and keep her, and even relationships like that are rare. [/color]

Your definition of standard relationship is only correct if we were still in 1960 but on present day I beg to differ

toyetade:
It is you that is completely ignorant. Why can't we for once forget about this foreign exchange and concentrate on developing our country by providing things that will benefit the common man. 1 dollar is more than 30000 iranian currency yet the country is not poor. Check out Indonesian currency.
Use our reserve to boost local production and encourage buy in Nigeria

without electricity there is no boosting in local production

Jidhey1:
Hello nairalanders... I want to share this issue that has been bothering me for almost a month now. I won't bore you with much talk and please ignore my grammatical blunders.

I have this young pretty and luscious damsel whom I love so much. We have been dating for a year and some months now. She just clocked 19years. Tho the journey has been kinda sweet and rough, we are still going strong. By God's grace she's the one I want to marry.

There is this revered father who is her friend and I am not too comfortable with it. He was the assistant priest in her church before he was transferred recently. This her revered father still chat with her everyday on whatsapp. They are so close that she shares everything about herself to him. Recently she told him that she's in a relationship but the revered father asked him why. The man is trying to virus my girl friend telling her to abstain from our relationship that she's too young. Sometimes he ask her if we have kissed, romance or if she have visit my house. He tells her all sort of rubbish I dunno. It's not as if I am suspecting the revered father but I don't just feel comfortable with the way he chat with my girlfriend.. I dunno if I should stop her from chatting with him...The whole thing is tiring. I need advise pls.. No insults pls...

lol...stop a girl like seriously...sorry o my brother be like say u be learner cos there is really nothing much u can do

toyetade:
Is this sustainable. What percentage of the country is benefitting from this.

this question u ask just display high level of ignorance

greyboy5000:
yes I can read thank you

So you said a lady should leave the guy right if he is not making it , now here is my question what if something bad were to happen to this very" sucessful lady" and she seems not to be making progress too
What do you suggest for the very successful guy to do?


Or really, I guess you didn't read in your post where you said uneducated, unintelligent is a trait of broke guys right
So you mean been a tout like maleye or rouge like evans is now new the intelligent and educated for you very "successful ladies"

Really, now you tell me you don't go Into relationship because of money because all I saw in your earlier post was money, money, money and money
However, since you claim you have other things you go into relationship for, why don't you enlighten us

don't mind all this Mumu girls.... A ritualist is intelligent, a kidnapper is intelligent, so long u have money in their dictionary you are intelligent...dumb girls everywhere

So if a woman has financial standards, she should now lower it for some guy because of what? What does the guy have to offer that more financially bouyant and ambitious men don't have? Is it by force to date somebori? It's not like she sees men as lower status, it's just that she can't date them. Shikena. Is it your life? Is it not her life?
Most wealthy men are ambitious, intelligent, well informed and successful, and when they marry, they marry equally intelligent, ambitious, well informed and successful women. Stop watching Nollywood movies and engage with reality.

Oh please. It's not only the women who marry rich men that suffer domestic abuse. Women who are married to broke men also suffer domestic abuse. Domestic violence occurs across all boards.

Lolzzz. Sorry to say this but you are so ignorant about reality. Who told you white women aren't concerned about financial status? How many white women do you know? There are women of different races who have financial standards, and so can't settle for less. And they have the right to. Instead of complaining and abusing them, why don't you strive to be financially successful so you can meet the standards of most women?

so ur reason of getting wealth is to meet the standard of women....smh you are just a big fool

froz:
Lalasticlala, Mynd44 .

Can we push this to FP and educate ppl on investment instead of PONZII

Leave ponzi alone...what is your headache

khiaa:
America isn't like Nigeria where everything belongs to the husband.
In America a marriage is a union/contract between two people, the husband and the wife, and because of that everything accumulated during the marriage belongs to the both of them not just the husband as it does in Nigerian culture, so how is that fair to the wife?

what do u mean during the marriage? What about before the marriage? I work with chevron u work as sales girl, you fell for another Dude you initiate divorce and you want half of my wealth...Please how is this fair to the man?

Tearless:
Lolzzz. What do you think? Men suffer more? Have you ever been heart-broken? If yes, how do you compare your composure after the incident to that of a heart-broken lady you know, if any? Do you think your suffering was more intense than hers or was it the other way round?

it all boils down to what u invest in the relationship time money emotional attachment etc. The truth is if u love more u invest more in the relationship and the other party invest less, it is that simple. Relate it to business if u invest more and invest less if anything goes wrong, who will be the most affected? If u can answer that then u have your answer. It simply has nothing to do with gender

subtlemee:
Men rarely get heartbroken and if they do its usually fatal and may last a lifetime but women can suffer three heartbreaks in one week and the next week they are in love again with a fresh new dude

women do not love they only summit to whoever is paying the bills

Tearless:
Lolzzz. Certainly not me. Making gender-specific statements on emotion-related issues is not in my nature. Although, I used to have the orientation that ladies are the weaker vessels [I grew up in a patriarchal society, afterall], I've grown out of that imbecility since the age of 14, about six years ago. So, it wasn't me making that argument.

Now, back to the topic. You said the one who cares more suffers more from heart break. Of course, yes. But you haven't answered the question yet o, 'cos the thrust of the guy's argument was that ladies, on the average, or should I say in general, are THE ONES who care more, hence the reason why they wallow more in the grief of heart break. How do you see that?

lol.....ladies care more in Nigeria?!!!! Like seriously. Tell your friend to come back from Mars

BabaCommander:
It's possible you were the wrong person... If you can't meet up with your responsibilies, your partner may seek solace in another arm.

what is wrong with your brain? How do u define meet up with ur responsibilities? Please can u state the responsibilities? Kontinue to reason like 1 year old baby...ode