Their is nothing to it if you truly love the person from the bottom of your heart and it is not attached to any physical thing.

If you are in love let that be your only guide.But if you have some cautions in your heart as regards the future happiness then you will do well to check the contents of your love and conviction for the relationship.

You have your family to protect.You have to do the right thing at least to please her to some extent.

The truth is that most women will do the same thing.

Just apply wisdom in handling the case and be more careful with your good Samaritan attitude .

My dear are that desperate to hang on to a guy at all cost?

That really shows is either you don't know your worth or you still lack great self esteem.

For goodness sake shine your eyes and read the hand-writings on the wall.

If you truly value your heart condition please let him go and pray for a better guy

who will accept you for who you are and not for what you have.

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For the 35 years old lady with two kids I will take caution and try and find out what really happened.She might be responsible for it.

If after my investigation both spiritual and physical and she is innocent I may go for her.

Their is nothing wrong with it.The most important thing is that if their is love and respect and the guy is willing to accept the child as is whether it is a boy or girl.

Marriage was ordained by God.When you talk of legality which angle are you referring to.Or should I rephrased it and say
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From the Biblical view their is nothing like church marriage.We are conversant with the traditional form of marriage.The white men invented the so-called white wedding that many are really crazy about today.

To be candid with all a marriage is said to be contracted when the father of the lady releases her daughter to a man,ceremony or no ceremony.

Those who lack understanding will disagree with my point but that is the solid truth even from the Bible point of view. The case of Laban releasing his daughter Rebbecca to Abraham's servant for Isaac is a typical case.

Some Christians together with their churches make me laugh when they allow the church wedding to be done more than a week or several weeks after the traditional marriage.And COMMAND such people not to have intimacy until after the church wedding.Where they got that from only God knows.

When such people now copulate they are disciplined for committing the sin of fornication.The truth is that after the father has handed the daughter to you guy you are free to have fun before God it is not a sin.

The truth is this heaven recognizes the traditional or what people call engagement than the ritual jamborees people do in the church of today.As per legalizing it you will do well to add court marriage to it.

Youth problem can be overcome if parents are sincere enough to show good examples of what they teach.Parents should be blamed for the problems of youth today.If they have truly trained them with total transparency coupled with the fear of God.

On the part of the youth they should have the fear of God and live a vision oriented life.With that they can become more focused in life and stay away from the NFA's (NO FUTURE AMBITION)

They should cultivate the habit of been a role model to their siblings,other younger ones and the world in general. They should know they have only one life to live and put this mind by asking this question.

AT MY FUNERAL WHAT COMMENTS DO I WANT PEOPLE TO MAKE?

If they can answer that questions sincerely they should begin to live their lives in that consciousness.

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Are you sure it is true love or is just the lust in your heart? If you truly love you will not mind waiting to do the proper thing.

I don't know why you guys think you must have sex with a lady to confirm whether the relationship is real or not.When many of you have the sex the value of the relationship now diminishes.

To you ladies out there please don't cheapen yourself by giving in to the evil sex drive of some guys who are only after satisfying their ugly appetite.

My advise to you is to hold on if you truly love the other person.SEX IS NOT A TRUE TEST OF LOVE,

From the experience of some of my friends it seems that dating older ladies is much better.This is due to their wider concept of life and experience compared to the myopic views of the younger ones.

From their experience such ladies tend to value the dignity of relationship than the young inexperience exuberant young ladies who lack in most cases the true understanding of what a true love relationship should be.

Some of them have even gone ahead to marry such ladies not for financial gains on the part of some of them but for true love.They are living happily together.

Some might go against the idea of of dating and even marrying older ladies but in my own view age should not be a barrier when true love is involved.

I really respect the opinions of my friends in their choice of marriage.And I have greatly observe the attitudes of the nonchalant attitude of the younger girls who take so many things for granted.Especially those that came from the rich family and those who are fortunate.

I am not campaigning for the older ladies .I am only expressing my views base on what I have seen and known about the two categories of people.

I might be talking from my own personal observation.I need the great wise ones on this forum to throw more light on this issue.

The world is filled with people who are hypocritical about real issues. Polygamy is thing that many Christians term a taboo.But what pains my heart is that the many who condemn such are busy flirting around with different ladies and women.

Many wives will breathe thunder and brimstone on their husbands for even discussing about taking the second wife.While at the same time they can't do anything about their husbands infidelity.

Even among pastors we know to well that many are involved in immorality to the core.Some have even gone ahead to marry the second wife.While some will allude such to lust,but their are cases where real love is the issue.

Does the bible really condemn polygamy? This is an issue that many are shying away from in the churches.We have known of some pastors who have two wives and are still serving the Lord.

I want the wise ones to clarify this issues for me.Base on my understanding the Bible does not condemn it.In our own part of the world it a normal thing for a man to have many wives.

I think it is due to the ugly experiences many have had with there mother-in-laws.Of a truth some can be very cruel.Many are however intimidated by their sons wives.You know a kind of jealousy.

You wives see your husbands as your man but they see them as the babies they held in hand while growing.To them your husbands are still their babies come rain come sunshine.

Many wives lack understanding of how to treat their mother-in-laws.You need wisdom to deal and cope with their attitudes a times

.My mother never called my wife a wife until after some years into our marriage that did not make my wife to quarrel with her one day when we lived with her for two years.

You don't need to hate them just become their friends by all mean and pray for favour with them.

If you are in love with your best friend's girl then it means he is not your best friend otherwise you will not be planning for his sorrow.

What on earth is wrong with you.Can you accept such.Please love your neighbour as your self.You deserve to be beaten for lusting after your friend's girl.It is nor fair.

Love is a mystery.If you truly love this guy and he truly loves you their is no big deal in getting married.Love has nothing to do with age in the real sense of it.

If the guy truly loves you he will be the one to convince or persuade his family to accept you.If they don't agree with him and he is convinced of his love he can go ahead and tie the nut with you.

My only fear for you is that if you love the guy more than he loves you there might be a problem later on in the marriage.But if his love is real he can shun all forms of ridicule and be there for you.

Are you 100% sure that this guy loves you for who you are and not what you have vice versa

I think the website is cool.One has to be more careful.Mistakes are inevitable.You can always improve on your accuracy in expressing your mind.

I believe in love at first sight.But such love is very scarce.If found it is not dependent on any physical attachment but


directly from the heart.To such love i salute because nothing on earth can kill such.Like i said it is very scarce .

We do think only mad men with dreadlock are insane in those days until many took to the style.Insanity is celebrated highly today.Anything that is abnormal should be seen as insanity.

Am not surprise at what is happening.The devil is turning many into insane people.As the natural insane people has no shame so is all who don't see anything wrong with been homosexual.

Please Africans lets maintain our pride as great cultural people who belief so much in the value of morality and we should not be infected by the so-called free life of the white.

Every one is entitled to his or her opinion about the issue of tithe.Your belief determines where you belong.If you believe tithe is legal according to your understanding of the Bible do by all means pay.

For those who argue that tithe is not right.They should know that we live in a different world today.The best way to pay tithes today is in cash.

Christ never abolished the issue of tithes in the New Testament He only spoke against those who don't follow through with the standard of God and think there tithes will save them.

One thing I will say clearly where many have been led into a great fallacy is that you should not expect God to bless you back with money when you pay your tithe all the time.There are other kinds of blessings like good healthy,victory over foes,protection from evil,fruitfulness,marital peace etc. that He can give to you.

Many have turned this thing into a business venture/investment.God is not a Stock Broker or Forex Trader.Please people should not be deceived by those who over emphasize the 100% money back blessing when they pay tithe.

Let me also sound a clear warning.Paying tithes do not make you rich.If that was so many who pay would have become very rich.But we know better.There are other things involve in making one financially free.Tithe is just a great catalyst.

Gay practice has been in this country for a long time.They are just coming to limelight.All this are signs of the end

time.The truth is that the Bible has said these things so its no news for Bible readers.We just need to pray for

those involved because the demons controlling such people are very strong and has totally beclouded there

sense of reasoning.Together with those involved in Lesbianism and Bestiality.

1 Timothy 1:1-3.2 Timothy 3:1-5,

Gay practice has been in this country for a long time.They are just coming to limelight.All this are signs of the end

time.The truth is that the Bible has said these things so its no news for Bible readers.We just need to pray for

those involved because the demons controlling such people are very strong and has totally beclouded there

sense of reasoning.Together with those involved in Lesbianism and Bestiality.

1 Timothy 1:1-3.2 Timothy 3:1-5,

Ban what! Do they know the problem they have caused Lagosian with their vision of turning Lagos to London.The rate of crime in the city is alarming.We in Ikorodu don't have peace of mind due to frequent armed robbery cases.

The rate of Okada accident is not the yardstick for banning Okada.Before the advent of okada there had been accident.What I believe should be done is to  educate the Okada riders about riding and road traffic.If their is a school for them it will help them to get enlightened.

They all need to have particulars and riding license.

We all know that Okada is the easiest and fastest means of transportation that even big men atimes go by it due to the unfriendly nature of traffic in Lagos.Business people who deal with time go by it to keep up with appointment.

We know quite well that there are many jobless graduates who don't have the higher coonections to secure a good job.As such some if not many have taken to okada riding as a means of making a livelihood.Are we going to demoralise them by banning their legal jobs.

Beside that, is there any law banning the ride of okada on  the highways or anywhere?If many claim that they use it to rob people,for God's sake what are the duty of the security personels.There have been robberies before okada came.If the government should ban okada are they prepared to protect the innocent citizens from the consequence of such bands.I bet you the rate of armed robberies will increase at a geometric progression.

The government should be realistic in their propose plan and consider the masses.The masses are not against Okada in Lagos.Let them be and look for ways to educate them.I have had Okada accident before that does not stop me from still taking it.

Please let us look for a better way to approach the issue.About the skill acquisition training how many can the government support.Do they know the rate of setting up a business in this country while many are folding up already and relocating to an other country.

The cost of renting a shop is alarming.How much will the micro finance give them to rent a good shop in a good business location,let alone to buy the tools needed or stock up goods in it, Many will have to depend on PHCN.Do they know how much it cost to run a business on generator.Beside that the frequent problems encountered by many with the genuine and fake law enforcement agents or task force.

Please let the government look for alternative ways to help build Lagos not the other way round.

I quite appreciate what the good Governor of Lagos State is doing but the vision should be done with massive enlightment.The average Lagosian don't understand his great vision for the state.Many are still hungry.tired and frustrated.

My final submission is for the government of Lagos state to take a critical and objective look at this issue and apply wisdom.

If you are legally married to him then you should go into serious warfare after been sure you didn't play a major part in turning him into what he is now.Only you and God can save your marriage.

It is simply lack of understanding of what love and marriage is all about that is why many want to marry a finished product.The truth is that many who end up marrying such begin to regret that not all that glitter is gold.

I feel for so many ladies.You don't marry for money or wealth but for love and the future.No condition is permanent.The rich also cry.The poor can also smile.

To fellow guys how do you know that a lady loves you for who you are and not for what you have.

1. She must not make demands on you.

2. She is content with whatsoever you do for her.

3. She is interested in your progress not just in your money

4. She tells you the truth even though it hurts.

5. She respects every member of your family including the ones who don't like her.

6. She encourages you to serve God.

7. She is even prepared to spend for you when you are in a serious financial crisis.

I love a lady who is godly,god-fearing,humble,cooks well,respectful and encourages.She can learn all the other thing gradually

My dear mantain your dignity.Don't listen to evil advise .I met my wife as a virgin.You can do the same.

I am not insinuating anything.I am only been realistic.For the man to go to such an extent that means their is more to the whole story.I am not blaming the woman in question.Am only trying to help her to see the path she might have played in the whole drama.



I am not condemning the man also that is left for his conscience and God.The woman in question should be truthful to herself.You cannot say she has no fault of hers.We might conclude on the man but for heaven's sake we have not heard from the man.He might have a different story to tell.



For the one who called me a fresher.Is it a fresher on Nairaland or in marriage? For your information,I have been married since 1999.I know the many times that my wife did things that would have made me to go outside.But I didn't because of the fear of God.

The woman should please realize where she missed it and go and seek for spiritual help from clergy men.

A PERFECT MARRIAGE IS AN ILLUSION like the dangling carrot before the donkey.I prefer to use the term EQUILIBRIUM MARRIAGE.This means trying to maintain the peace level thermometer at a safer side amidst the marital turbulence and chaos.

The truth is that you can enjoy your marriage when you chose to be humble and admit your faults.The issue of praying and the other techniques of keeping the home will never work if you are not humble.

I hear many women say they cannot become "MUMU" FOR THEIR HUSBANDS and that makes me to laugh.Unknown to such that is the very thing that can saved your marriage.You must learn to treat your spouse as a demigod,If you want to enjoy him.

On the man's part if you really want a happy home you must be blind to many faults of the women.You must take most of their offensive words as a joke.

But let me just summarize the whole secrets of marriage in the following ways.

1.Please God to please your spouse.Don't try to please him/her.Do what God demands from you and will definitely please your spouse.

2. Always remain humble in your marriage.Learn to say sorry many times as a woman but for the man do things that will make your wife say am sorry.Let me at this point tell many African women that most African men find it hard to say am sorry but they will do things to tell you they are sorry.If you are waiting to hear it from them you may wait till eternity.

3. Never discuss your marital issues with anybody.Try to always resolve your wahala between yourselves.

4. Find time to talk a lot together about relevant and a times irrelevant things.But women make sure you get him into a good mood atimes.

5. Have lots of intimacy together.It can be ten times a day it doesn't.Men needs lots of it.If you don't know how to rock a man and take him to cloud infinity go and learn it.It is not only the man that should do that to you.You can make him scream while doing it.If you master the art,it will be difficult for the professional outside to steal him because he has a pro at home.

6. Be close to the mother-inlaws.Many women hate them to their own doom .You will do well to be
-closed to them even though they are evil.Don't forget you married their babies.

7.Give the man real peperenpe meneme african food that will make him to eat like an elephant.if you don't know how to cook them go and learn.

8. Hand over your marriage to God for more grace to keep on doing the above.

9. Never allow money to cause SERIOUS QUARREL in your home.

The above we have used have helped I and my spouse to have equilibrium marriage for the past ten years.And am glad to tell you nobody has come to interfere in our marriage one day.I squatted with my mum together with my wife and baby in a room and parlor apartment and she never saw us quarrel for a day.

PRACTICE THE ABOVE YOU WILL NEVER REGRET YOUR MARRIAGE.

My dear,it surely hurt when you think how long you have been with him.It is quite unfortunate it turned out to be like that.I will like you to do some deep thinking and answer the following questions candidly.


1. Why did you marry him in the first instance when you knew a little bit about his weakness?

2. What conviction did you had when you decided to marry him? or better still what are those qualities you saw in him that convinced you to marry him?

3.How well do you pray for him on a regular basis?

4. Is your intimacy life in great order or not?

5. How close are you to his mother?

6. How close are you to his heart and life?

7. How do you correct him when he is wrong or doing the wrong thing? Is it with meekness and humility or the shouting and bullying type most women adopt today?

8.At what point in time did you notice his behavioral change and what did you do then?

9. How spiritual is he?

10. Have you heard a heart to heart deep discussion with him before?

11. How well do you know his friend?

12. How well do you blow his ego and make him feel he is the emperor of his family and home?

Why all this questions? Most women who loose their husbands to other women are guilty of some of these things.
The issue is not the woman outside but the one inside.Most women drove their husbands outside only to begin to regret their actions when the man has gone a bonga.

Divorcing him is not the issue.What makes you think if you remarry a similar thin will not take place.If you fail to see the part you played in the whole process but decide to put the whole blame on him you are not justified an inch.Let me tell you boldly the issue of many wives saying they suffered with their husbands but later were cheated or the man went to marry someone else.

This words make me to laugh.The question I want to ask is what about the other women that suffered with their men and their men didn't change.Have many of you who are having this problems ever gone to ask such women what they did to hold their husbands?

The many things you women said when the men were poor.The many bad comments,ridicules,comparison and disgrace you levied on them made a lot them to become subconsciously bitter against you.Let alone the many quarrel you had with them when they could not meet up with the financial demands of the family.The many times you denied them intimacy when they could not give you what you demand.

It is very easy for many to condemn such men but what made them to do it people are not bothered about such.I am not in support of such.I am totally against it.But the truth is that some men were forced into it by the attitude of their spouses.

Let me also tell many women out there that marriage will never make anyone truly happy.Your man can never make you truly happy.It is only your Creator.you personal values and the way you see you marriage that will make you happy.The internal meanings you attach to the external things will determine your happiness.That make sound hard but that's the truth from my experience.

Finally my advise to you is not to listen to all those cosmetic advise but look deeply inward and realized where you made a mistake.Then go to your man and have a humble heart to heart discussion with him with prayer and faith to tell you what offends him in your attitudes.He will tell you.

You can save your marriage and cast out every stranger from his life. If you women know the great power and influence you have over men and learn to use such wisely and humbly your husbands will become a baby toy in your hand.
Let me ask all women this question if you can answer then you will know for sure that you can change your man with God's help and your effort.

THE FORBIDDEN FRUIT THAT EVE GAVE ADAM TO IT,WAS ADAM NOT AWARE OF IT HOW THEN DID SHE MADE ADAM TO EAT AGAINST GOD'S COMMAND.

I leave you with that food for thought.